The classmates have been putting off the promised things again and again, what is the good solution?

The solution is to call for help with someone else.

There was a time when I was basically asking for help, and when someone needed my help, I would put down what I was doing and act immediately, but the consequence of this was that people would come to you again and again for help.

This is actually the so-called bad good person, anyway, although I helped others a lot during that time, but I never felt happy, and the more I helped, the more tired I became, and the feeling that others gave you was getting more and more inches, every time I showed in front of others "Okay, I will help you solve it as soon as possible", and after helping, there will be a kind of anger in my heart, I think how can others, so without scruples to find you, delay your time, and occupy your spare time.

At that time, I was in a very bad state, on the one hand, I also showed that I was sunny, willing to be kind and helpful, and on the other hand, there was more and more darkness in my heart, and the whole person was getting more and more tired, and I couldn't even do my own things well.

Later, in order to avoid this, I slowly learned to put things off again and again. That is to say, things should be prioritized, I think there are important things to do, then I must first put my energy on important things, and when others ask me for help, I am generally embarrassed to refuse directly, I will first agree to come down, put it off, if others urge me, I will try to do it again, if others do not urge, I will put this matter down.

To be honest, it is not easy for a vulnerable person like me to say no when someone asks for help or help. So don't think I'm hypocritical either, because most of the time we're trying to avoid head-on conflict.

Sometimes if I really don't want to do this thing, then I will tell him that I may not be able to do this thing well after agreeing, so let him find another job, this time will not be very long, unless I really feel that this thing is unnecessary, and if it is delayed to a certain extent, he will naturally find someone else.

Everyone should have had such an experience, asking a classmate to do something, and he agreed, but he delayed it again and again, just not for you, you are very distressed, but you can't find any way, what should you do? I have also thought about such a problem before, and summarized the following solutions, I hope it will help you.

The first is to remind, many times the classmate does not do the things you give him because he forgot, because there are too many things in the school, sometimes he is too busy, he is busy with his own things, and then forget the things you have to do, in this case you can do is to remind in time, timely reminder of your classmates has two benefits, on the one hand, if he forgets, he will remember this matter if you remind him, so maybe he will do what you give him. Another aspect is that if he didn't do what you did because he didn't want to do it or wanted to do it last, you reminded him at this time, and he promised you, then he often feels embarrassed, after all, he has promised you before, so he will feel more guilty in his heart, and he will do what you told him to do under this psychological drive. <>

There is also to follow him, stalking, this is another way to have no way, it is really not easy, there is really no way, then you can follow him when he goes to the library, or when he is going to do something, and then let him do the things you gave him by the way, so that you follow him all the time, he will definitely feel embarrassed, and then he will be embarrassed not to do it again. This method is best used when what he is going to do is similar to what you have told him or if he is on the way. It's going to work wonders.

Now there are indeed some people who are more excessive, for the situation you have experienced, first of all, you have to be clear that the thing that the classmate promised you is not something that he owes you, if not, then he procrastinate means that he does not want to do it, but he is embarrassed to refuse directly, so he has been delaying. Although the things promised to you are related to the issue of integrity, if the people themselves do not owe you anything, then it is the freedom of the people to do it or what to do, what you can do now is to communicate, and understand why he is delaying through communication. Since we're friends, it's good to just talk about it.

Otherwise, you will inevitably have an embarrassing situation if you are in such a stalemate, and even affect the direct relationship between your classmates, so you must carefully consider your own behavior. In addition, it is related to integrity, some people really don't attach much importance to integrity, and many times they try to do what they can accomplish. It is better to seek others than yourself, and you are the most reliable person.

In addition, you are still in school, many things you have experienced less has not grown up, if you slowly step into the society, you will understand that you can not do things you can do as a last resort, do not easily let others help, others help you owe a favor, if people look for you in the future, you must definitely have to help, so a moment of success sooner or later has to be repaid.

Now since you are still in school, you can't solve the things yourself, or the things that your classmates are not willing to help, communicate with your parents and parents, and then study, although learning is not the only way out, but it is the best way out, this life is really short, when you look up, you will find that many classmates have broken contact, they are just passers-by in your life, so look at the point, people don't owe you anything.

If that thing has nothing to do with you, drag it out ......If the matter is related to you, then you should be reminded, applied or even urged from time to time to let him fulfill his promise as soon as possible.

You have to see why the other party is dragging it, if you can't do it, you better find someone else.

Don't rely on others, figure it out on your own.

There are two possibilities, one is that he is really busy and doesn't have time to help you. One is that he may regret it, but it is not good to tell you directly that he will not help, so he keeps delaying. See for yourself what it is.

If that thing has nothing to do with you, drag it out ......The boss can solve it when he wants to.

If that matter is related to you, then it is necessary to remind, apply or even urge him from time to time to make sure that he fulfills his promise as soon as possible.

Make it clear that you don't want to pay back the money, is this person worth paying again, don't be afraid of offending, try to find it, record the borrowed money in advance, and after there is evidence, if you don't pay it back, you can find the teacher and find the parents.

A man wants to break up his friendship with another person, so he borrows money from him. Since this is already the case, the relationship can't be repaired, so it's better to urge more, saying that you have something urgent. You're coming back or you're not coming back, the relationship is broken.

You can go to the other party's house, and if you can't find it, tell your good friend about it, just say help collect debts, don't slander.

This is basically no fun, let's see other ways, don't hurt the harmony between friends.

I want to say two things to you, one, the money belongs to you, don't you want to get back what belongs to you? Second, if she really has you as a friend in her heart, she should help you as you did when you helped her...

Friends and money have been distressing since ancient times, you should think about your friend's character, and the subject 300 is actually not much, but it is more or less useful at critical moments. 300 yuan, do you want to buy her from now on?

These 300 yuan really hurt feelings.

As for 300, if you don't lend it to her in the future.

Find his parents and ask for it, this kind of uncle still doesn't want to make friends, anyway, don't interact, just tear your face, it's better than him not dealing with you and not paying back.

Ask her directly, if you delay it any longer, don't ask for it, it means that she doesn't want to pay it back at all. Don't lend her money in the future, and draw a question mark on her person, and be more attentive when you get along with her in the future. It's better not to show your dissatisfaction with her, this kind of person who borrows money and doesn't pay it back has no shame, and if you are dissatisfied with her, she will say bad things about you everywhere.

What the landlord does is to be generous, and generally those who become big things will not care. Pure handmade, seek to adopt. Thank you.

Don't want it, just buy a lesson, I also borrowed 500 yuan from my classmate, and she disappeared.

The money is definitely wanted, but if you can't find her, you can't do it, so think of some other way to deal with the emergency first.

Yes, you have to pay back the money you owe sooner or later, and you can't be the target of damage just because you are a friend, not to mention that you really need money.

There are two possibilities for her not to repay the money, one is that she has a very poor character, deliberately does not repay the debt, and does not pay back the money, she doesn't care about you at all, you want to urge her, she doesn't take care of you, why do you save face for her? If you want the money back, don't deal with her. Another possibility is that she really doesn't have the money to pay you back, and there should always be something to say if you don't have money, right?

You can't dodge, can you? I believe that she has a lot of foreign debts, and she can't pay them back, so she simply doesn't pay them back, this kind of person has a problem with her character.

Although there are only three hundred, it is enough to see the character, and it should be wanted.

Forget it, 300, just buy a friend you shouldn't have.

I don't think you should have any hope.,Generally borrow money.,If someone else doesn't pay it back, I won't look for him.,Just buy a lesson.。。 You'd better hurry up and find a way to use it, don't count on him.

I borrowed 500 from someone else, just like you, don't be discouraged, go to his parents, she owed us more than 2,000 at that time, and couldn't find anyone else, so she asked her father for it.

This kind of person can't give him face, and if he finds someone, he asks for it in front of other classmates. I couldn't find anyone to ask for it at home. None of their money comes in vain.

Have you found her, if you do, you will ask for it, but she may not give it to you.

It's not easy to make money, and if it were me, I would have to come back no matter what.

Specific problems are analyzed in detail. You have to think about whether your requirements are a bit out of his reach, or if he has more important things for him to handle right now. Don't push a person too hard, give him some time, don't be impulsive, and cherish what you have in front of you.

I want to ask, what right do you have to order or think he has to do it for you, even though he promised you, but he can't necessarily do it, and he's going to have his own business.

When you give someone someone something to do! You should also imagine for somebody else, maybe he has a hard time, and you should ask, and you shouldn't be selfish, because if that's the case, you're going to lose a lot of friends.

...Yes, yesDon't just think about your own thoughts, have you thought about others? And what you said was something and didn't say anything ...

[lazy bai follow]: laziness: slackness, laziness. Follow: procrastination. Described as lazy and procrastinating. dao

Sticky belts. Bone]: The metaphor is a procrastinating version, not free and easy.

Sticky skin and bones]: The metaphor is procrastinating, not free. Same as "sticky belt bone".

Leaking and venting]: This refers to many words, wordy. Post-escaping refers to dragging and dragging mud and water.

Follow suit. The snail is reborn.

Commonly used: "Hear only thunder, not rain".

Voices are heard, but actions are not seen. Very apt and vivid.

Stubbornness: stubbornly insisting on one's own opinions and refusing to change.

I can tell you for sure: you have a very poor sense of time ...

Please change this bad habit in time.

1。This is a bad habit, the world is lazy, only to make good plans. Plan it out. What to do today.

2。Good habits are also formed. If one deliberately changes this habit. It only takes about 17 times. You can form good habits!

Case in point: if you can't get out of bed on time. As long as you get out of bed within the required time, no matter how long it is uncomfortable. As long as you hold on for about two weeks or more. In the future, the matter of Nai bed will basically be seen.

3。The easiest way!

People who don't have a sense of time, this proves it. The sense of responsibility is also limited. And the action is not strong.

Method: Write four words, in the palm of your hand. "Execute now".

The age is different, the idea is definitely different, communicate with your parents, maybe your parents don't agree with your things, they don't want to agree, but it's not easy to refuse, so use a drag.

Find an opportunity to talk to your parents, otherwise the gap will grow.

Under the fence, people have to rely on themselves.

Why did the landlord say that he tried to communicate but his parents didn't care at all, and there were still so many people who said that they should communicate well??? Didn't read the question???