What does it feel like to be vulnerable on the inside and strong on the outside?

It's probably like a glass heart, or a knife-mouthed tofu heart. In fact, everyone will have times of vulnerability, and if you want to face it, you must first be honest with yourself, accept such a fragile self, and embrace such an imperfect self. Then find out what your problems are, why you are fragile in your heart, is this thing worth being so uncomfortable, or the next time you encounter this kind of thing, improve your inner fragility little by little.

Slowly, you will become stronger and stronger, and when you can bring yourself a sense of security, you may not be so vulnerable.

People who are fragile in their hearts are often shown in a strong appearance and a feeling of thorns all over their bodies, and once they are hurt at all, they are like hedgehogs, and their desire to protect themselves is very strong.

In essence, inner fragility is a manifestation of insecurity, and the strength of the appearance is a hard barrier, in order to let others see that you are not vulnerable, but strong support is only strong support, and the strength of the heart is the strength that gradually accumulates after accepting all kinds of difficulties in life, and the strength of the heart is really strong, may we all be treated gently by the world!

People who are fragile at heart tend to be perfectionists, strict with themselves, extremely sensitive, serious and even a little wooden on the outside, but rich in emotions on the inside.

People who are fragile in their hearts have a strong appearance, and this kind of person is difficult to communicate with and is in a closed state, and once they communicate with others, it is a sign of trusting the other person.

The strength shown on the outside just wants to protect yourself. When I was in middle school, I had a female classmate who suddenly came in halfway through. She left a deep impression on us when she first came, she was never afraid of a new environment and new people, and even took the initiative to apply for the cadres in the class, and after a little contact, she knew that she was still the president of a club.

At that time, I thought this girl was really powerful. It turned out that I just found out that she was acting so aggressively just to hide herself and protect herself from being hurt.

A person is too strong because he has not yet found a friend who can communicate with his heart, or he has not found a lover who loves each other deeply.

People with fragile hearts, when they encounter things, are very anxious, not so calm, eager for quick success, and have no responsibility, and it is easy to give up a thing.

People who are fragile in their hearts are afraid that they will be hurt and pretend that they are strong, but in fact their hearts are very empty, and they should change themselves and rise from the bottom of their hearts. How much we have felt hurt in our hearts from the outside world or our original family, just like the wound needs to be **, if we forcibly ignore it, it will become more and more uncomfortable, it is recommended that we learn spiritual healing, heal our own inside, full of energy, just like the heart has power, it will be happier and happier! Come on! ❤️

In fact, it's very uncomfortable, many people are like this, they pretend to be very capable on the surface, but they are hurt in their hearts.

Such a person, usually others will not show mercy to his subordinates. In fact, it is the most vulnerable.

If that's the case, I think it looks a bit fake.

Maybe this is something that everyone has to go through, people always have to learn to grow, and then be lonely.

It should be that when you hang yourself and die, others still think you are playing.

Vulnerability is a lovable temperament.

The sense of vulnerability is not a character or a persona, but a visual impact that the viewer feels. For example, when you see a flower swaying in the wind and rain, some people will feel filial piety, scatter pain, give birth to a desire to protect, and feel the fragility of the flower. The term "vulnerability" is that the audience loves the beauty, and has nothing to do with the performance of the beauty itself.

A person with a fragile face gives people a sense that no matter how the world changes, she will not be aggressive, and this alienated, light temperament is like saying, I'm afraid of being hurt. The specific manifestations are facial features: white skin, flat mid-face, and soft tissues on the face.

Thin, small skeleton, slender bones. Temperament traits: fragile with a little nervousness.

and perseverance, this contrast makes that sense of vulnerability even more attractive.

Atmospheric beauty:

The sense of atmosphere is, to put it bluntly, a feeling. The sense of story that wants others to be the best is one of the elements of a beautiful atmosphere.

When you see a **, the reason why you will be attracted to the person in ** is because a certain emotion conveyed in her eyes makes you feel a sense of substitution, and then combine this emotion with the surrounding scenes, you have a sense of story.

The character that is strong on the surface but fragile on the inside is formed by family reasons.

The character that is so strong on the surface but fragile in the heart is because of family reasons, I always feel that there is a lack of love, I can't get care, I have low self-esteem and cowardice, and I look strong and independent on the outside. Actually, no, timid, depressed and negative energy. Because my parents don't have much communication, I don't care about his affairs, I don't know anything about him, I don't want to ask for what I like and want since I was a child, I'm always angry, I hope someone can understand my mind, but the result can only be a worse personality.

The insecure environment in which some people come from a family full of violence, traumatized physically and mentally, and hide anger in their hearts, has taught them to deal with problems with strength and violence, and feels that strength is the way to earn dignity.

A person with a strong heart, a person with a rich mind, he doesn't care how many people misunderstand him, and he doesn't care how many worldly prejudices there are, because his heart is a perfect world. The abundance of a person's heart is enough to compensate for some material scarcity. The external strength stems from one's inner inferiority complex and lack and forms a supporting value, and relies on this value of one's own personal existence.

For example, he will take money as his main value all his life, then his value ** usually depends on the amount of money he earns to satisfy his inner scarcity. Behind the oppression of others is indifference to oneself. Behind the strong people on the outside, there is their own powerless struggle, and they are vulnerable.

"I'm just a child lost in the middle of nowhere; A big tree without branches is only an appearance, but weakness is the truth. Thanks to God for playing such a profound joke on me, I saw clearly that I was not so strong, not so good. Some are a lonely blood and a seemingly powerful appearance.

This is my self-evaluation.

Strong on the outside and dry in the middle, strong on the inside, bullying the soft and afraid of the hard.

1) Sensitive heart.

The first manifestation of people with poor psychological quality is that they are sensitive. On a day-to-day basis, they are no different from ordinary people, and they can even do better in interpersonal communication.

But once you encounter a little pressure from others, such as a hostile look from the other party. Their psyche is devastated, emotionally unstable, and they feel very painful, which often lasts for a long time.

2) Overthinking.

To put it simply, it's thinking too much, and every person with a fragile heart has a drama spirit living in his brain. The self-talking director directs the plot after scene. For example, sometimes when someone doesn't reply to a message, they will make up all kinds of plots in their brains:

Did I offend him? After a long time, the relationship has faded? Or am I overestimating the feelings between us?

In fact, it's just that the other party doesn't see it) Excessive thinking will consume our mental energy for no reason. Sometimes we are resting, but we become more tired because we think too much.

3) Not recognizing one's own worth.

I don't recognize my own value, I think I can't do anything, I can't do anything, I don't dare to try, I don't think I deserve it. People with severe cases can even develop imposter syndrome.

In psychology, imposter syndrome refers to the fact that although a person is very good, his achievements do not give him self-confidence, but make him feel that his success is due to luck and the help of others. They will feel very uneasy and feel that they have "cheated" everyone.

4) Pretend to be powerful.

People who are fragile on the inside like to use the technique of "pretending to be strong", they will always use the depth of their appearance to hide their inner vulnerability, and they will not smile and pretend to be mature.

It is precisely because the psychology is not strong enough to resist external risks, so it can only strengthen the surface defenses. But as the saying goes, even if they try to be calm and mature, they will still give others a sad face.

5) Negative rubbing.

Psychological research has found that people who are fragile tend to be more likely to think about others with a negative attitude. Maybe it's just normal communication and joking, but they tend to use malice to interpret it. As a result, they are more psychologically stressed and vulnerable.

Inner insecurities produce this negative attitude, which in turn deepens this insecurity, creating a vicious circle.

Pessimistic, unclear goals, easily influenced by others, doing things from beginning to end, avoiding difficulties when encountered, and low ability to resist pressure.

That kind of person, in front of everyone, is always full of smiles and talks, no matter what happens, he is a peacemaker, but if he is alone, he will go to the extreme, so quiet that he can't even make a sound, like suffocation, the things in his head will keep rolling, but the only way to make himself strong is to be cold-blooded. In front of friends, it is an extreme, he is willing to participate in any activity, and is willing to be an organizer, because she is afraid of loneliness. But the other extreme is cold-blooded, no matter what happens, he doesn't pay attention to it, and it doesn't matter what he hangs high.

It's a disguise.

People who are fragile are characterized by sensitivity, anxiety, and lack of self-confidence, which leads to inner fragility.