Not being able to maintain long term friendships with others, what is the problem?

Because after people get acquainted with each other, it is easy to expose their "bad habits", and the reason why this is the case is nothing more than that the relationship is close and there is no need to be so restrictive, what you said is very annoying or something, I think that's it. Maybe they were originally more active people, but they just came up and detained some, or some people originally had few friends, so after calling a friend, there was some dependence, and my friend had this situation, and someone flew to buy something and go to the toilet (I dizzy). Hehe, but since it's a friend, shouldn't we tolerate them, I guess you're not the type that is particularly active, hehe, you can persuade them in a friendly tone, so that they realize that even friends have to have a scale, the limit of these words depends on your personality, I am sometimes helpless, because I am a very easy-going person, so it is difficult to say over time, hehe.

Friendship is like a flower, to be watered, pruned. to be long-lasting!

Misunderstandings or conflicts are not a problem, the key is to keep in touch often and maintain them from time to time!

What did you do to your friendship after the argument? To take the initiative to admit mistakes--- the responsibility and reason for the quarrel are on both sides! 1

Personally, I think that you don't seem to have particularly strong communication skills, and you seem to be able to talk to anyone better than others.

It's not a problem, it's that you two have different personalities, and you're not the same kind of person. It's not hard to get along with him. Just learn to be humble.

I'm the same way. I think it's a personality issue.

Because you are not their friend, but their enemy!

You are always dissatisfied with their behavior and attitude, so you are always picking on their thorns, and you are always saying bad things about them, these actions of yours make them feel that you are an untrustworthy person, they will think that you are unreliable, so they will not be friends with you, and you will not be enemies with them!

Solution: If you don't want to be an enemy with your friends, then you better not always speak ill of them, you have to learn to listen to their ideas, and try to understand them, when they are in trouble, you can help them solve the difficulties, so that they will accept you slowly! If they really aren't trustworthy to you, then there's no need for you to associate with them anymore, you can stay away from them altogether, and that's not a bad thing for you!

In your life, some girlfriends become strangers after a year or two, some colleagues never see each other again after they leave the tea, some lovers fail to become married after running a marathon for ten years, some relatives drift apart after experiencing a certain situation, and some friends have nothing to ......say even if they meetWhy is that?

Why can't you build long-lasting friendships with others?

The reasons could be:

1. Your original family is not very satisfactory to you, and the family relationship is not very harmonious, resulting in a certain complex of yours that will always be defective.

2. You are more selfish and not good at managing long-term friendly relationships.

3. The gap between you and others is too big, and there is not much resonance in your ideology.

4. People become fast, the goals pursued by everyone are inconsistent, and the "three views" are contradictory.

5. You terminated your dedication to friendship for fear of losing.

For friends who haven't seen each other for many years, how should the relationship be maintained?

The main thing is to keep in touch more, meet and gather often, don't contact again when you have something, be sincere to your friends, take your friends' affairs as your own business, don't be superficial, think about your friends from the bottom of your heart, and stand in the position of your friends in everythingIf you are far away, you should also contact often, now that communication is so developed, WeChat QQ **A simple greeting, always pay attention to the dynamics of friends, and help friends in time if they are in difficulty.

Actually, I don't think it's necessary to do anything deliberately. It turned out that there was a friend who hadn't seen him for many years, and once the two of them made an appointment to travel, and after going out, they didn't feel strange, and it was still so good. Generally, those who can be friends for a long time are basically similar or complementary personalities.

Slowly, over time, someone got married, had children, was busy, and there was less contact, but this friend was always there. When you are free, send a WeChat, it is best to type**, because of the text, you can't see the other party's expression, but in addition to language communication, there is also the perception of sound.

True friends, never forget because you are rich, poor, or have few contacts. No matter how many years, when you meet again, you still feel very cordial, only fake friends will slowly walk out of your life, you are rich, you will come back, poor, hide far away. In fact, time has also helped us identify some people.

Although we are all far away and only see each other once in a long time, we are not embarrassed every time, and there is always a lot to talk about, and we are not strangers at all! True friends, time will not affect the relationship between them, but will make them miss each other even more!

There are a lot of such situations in this day and age for the sake of each person's life! I think friends don't have to be in touch often, nor do they have to meet often, feelings are in the bottom of my heart, it's a little embarrassing to meet at first, and it won't be okay to get along, after all, it's friends, and they all have that irreplaceable feeling in their hearts

The above are some of my personal suggestions and ideas, if you have better ideas, you can comment at the bottom of the article, if I can satisfy you, I hope you can like the collection and comment.

You can often play games on the Internet,**, communicate together** some small things, decide some work things, so that this friendship can last longer, although not through meeting, but also always contact each other.

You should communicate more in normal times, and then you can also choose to play**, or choose to open**, and then you can also share some interesting things in your life with your friends, cherish this friendship, and contact more when you have time, so as to maintain the relationship with each other, and you can go out to party or travel when both parties are more leisurely.

The relationship with each other should be maintained indirectly, you should often chat with each other, you should also talk to each other about some topics of interest, and you should often express your thoughts and blessings to each other.

Your relationships are not good for the reasons being:

1. Being immature and not knowing how to be tactful.

2. If you are not confident, others will not love yourself and be good to yourself unconditionally.

3. I am afraid of losing, so I always give my feelings appropriately and take it back immediately after a certain time.

4. Insecure, unable to fully trust others for a long time, and having sequelae left after being hurt.

5. Selfish, not knowing how to cherish and be grateful.

7. You are not good enough, and the pattern is too small.

8. Not good at management.

I always can't take a step forward because of face, and I always choose to retreat after hesitating. That's why it's hard to build long-lasting relationships with others. I have a deep understanding of this matter, and I also have a lot of insights.

Because I'm a bit of a reserved person, I'm shy to ask people about what's going on, even if I'm thinking about my friends and how they're doing. When typing into the input box, think about it or don't ask, no one asks you, you are still wishful thinking. Actually, no, maybe your friends are the same as you.

All the obstacles are of our own imagination, and we are afraid that friends will have new friends of their own and forget about you, an old friend. I'm afraid that my friends will misunderstand me because of something, and I will do something wrong with Dan and Buxin. Actually, no, but I didn't dare to take that step.

I don't always maintain relationships, and I feel like I'm definitely being abandoned because of watching my elementary school friends leave me while they're still connecting with each other, and watching my junior high school classmates each have new good friends. Seeing that after graduating from high school, my classmates had their own arrangements, and rarely came out with me, so I felt that I was too boring to attract their topics. I always think about this and that, and my head is big, so then I think about why I can't let myself go, and there's nothing wrong with taking the initiative!

Why can someone else stay in a long-lasting relationship and remain so close? Because they usually have a few words to chat, they won't let each other be strangers, and then they all learn to take the initiative, don't be afraid of any problems, you don't know that the front may not be an obstacle to imagination but a glorious rainbow. So, take the initiative and no one will turn you down.

Everyone hopes that they can have a long-lasting friendship, and they all hope that they can know each other for a lifetime with good friends, why are you drifting away from your friends?

In the long life, our lives have crossed and even overlapped, although we have gradually drifted apart, but in those days that have passed, in those moments that have long since been goodbye.

The most difficult thing to let go of should be the ending that once had a close and beautiful but finally lost. Those who give warmth and kindness but are not cherished will make people's hearts ache and hurt.

How to look at the reasons behind these is the power that really defuses the damage and makes us continue to mature, that is, the ability to discern and understand the nature of relationships.

Everyone comes with a need, and the breakdown of a relationship is often related to the needs of human nature.

People who did not form good attachment relationships in childhood tend to blame themselves for the wrong reasons and repeatedly become concerned about unstable relationships.

And people who have had a good foundation of interpersonal relationships since childhood are good at making friends and building, and are not afraid of loss.

If a person is rich in himself, he will not have high expectations of ordinary exchange friendships, but will seize the time to concentrate on improving his abilities.

And those who can talk deeply for a long time must also have a wealth of internal compatibility.

Most people go through such a process, from youth to growth, the distribution of energy, the difference in environment, the difference in values....

The most important thing is that after entering the society, the personality is becoming more mature and the needs are more clear. Mere utilitarian socialization is also destined to be difficult to last.

The so-called fellowship with profit, and the benefit is dispersed.

There are few bosom friends and confidants, and it is precisely the most expensive for the fine.

What can go to the end is the sincere devotion to each other, accompanied by each other all the way. And those times that have accompanied the youth have also warmed and nourished the innocent heart.

Whether it is a phased friendship or a long-term friendship, as long as it is out of true affection, it is worthy of our gratitude. Friends need to get along, share common topics, and string together a trajectory that can move forward together on the road of life.

It's very interesting, now my friend is two months. In other words, you can associate that you can meet in two months, get along, have a common topic, and be friends who continue.

There was no contact or communication for two months, and then it gradually became distant. The word "peng" in the oracle bone inscription is like the current word worship.

Xu Shen of the Eastern Han Dynasty clearly stated in "Shuo Wen Jie Zi" that friends, pretending to be also, indicate the situation where a group of birds gather together. Any reunion means separation, and the ...... of leaving the home of the youth to establish his or her own family life in adulthood is the of leaving the worldCorrect.

It's because of reluctance that I want my friends to go together for the rest of my life.

1. Everyone has their own way to go, and it is normal to stop walking together. Hayao Miyazaki said that life is a train to the grave. There will be many stations on the way.

Some will come, some will leave. Even if you don't give up, you have to learn to wave goodbye. It is true that we have many friends in our lives who can only be with us for a short period of time, and when the time is up, they leave.

It's hard to be alone with us from start to finish, so we're lucky with everything we have. 2、

Separation is normal life, and different life experiences will produce different three perspectives and pursuits, and with the passage of time, the distance will be far away. In "The First Half of My Life", Tang Jing and Zijun are two completely different life trajectories. Tang Jing worked hard in the work environment in the first half of his life, and met his lover in the second half of his life, so he returned to his family and became a full-time wife.

Zijun's love is the top priority in the first half of his life. When he meets a man who is willing to raise her, he naively marries. It wasn't until he was betrayed by another party in his thirties that he woke up completely.

As a result, he returned to the workplace and completed the transition from a full-time wife to a women's workplace. 3、

Different life experiences produce different life trajectories. When the gap grows and there are fewer and fewer common languages, the relationship is basically over. Therefore, the last Tang Jing and his lover immigrated to Australia, and Zijun felt that Tang Jing had completely disappeared.

The better the relationship, the greater the hope, which is much more fragile than the usual feeling. The better the relationship, the easier it is to drift apart, because the initial hope is too great, but the greater the hope, the easier it is to let it down, so the damage is doubled compared to the average friend. If you are just ordinary friends and encounter a little disagreement and contradiction, they may choose to be tolerant for the sake of common interests and the big picture.

4. If they are friends with good relationships, they may care too much about each other and cannot tolerate each other, which will lead to an irreversible situation. It's not that I feel vulnerable, it's that I care too much and I have too much hope, which leads to a bigger psychological chasm. Once you see the real face and person of the other person, you can no longer hide your ears and continue to get along.

The better the relationship between the two, the less sand will be rubbed in the eyes, but if there is a little bit of deterioration, it will finally end. When we are young, we feel that friends are too important to us, and it seems that we can't move on with our lives without them.

But when you live to a certain age, you will find that what you gain is luck and what you lose is normal. 5. In the final analysis, life depends on you, no one will be with you, just like Zhang Yunxin, a friend of Zijun in the original work of the first half of my life, said: Population flow is very disturbing, and no one can accompany you for a lifetime.

If you are interested in training as soon as possible, you can also arrange flowers and fish in old age. I hope that in the future, we can all learn to be friends with ourselves, smile at sudden changes in life, separate from joy and sorrow, and be as clear and transparent as possible.