When divorcing, how to minimize the damage to children?

Confess, if it happens that you have to get a divorce, please confess to your child, because he has the right to know the truth, and not all white lies are good for the other party, because a lie is a lie after all, and he will definitely cause harm to people. It's just that it hurts more than knowing the truth.

According to my understanding, today's children are getting smarter and smarter, and more detailed, he will make changes in the family from the details of life, rather than let him try his best to guess, it is better to tell them the results directly and simply and clearly, today's children's education is accepted earlier, they have their own thoughts, they have their own understanding. Although their three views and knowledge level are not perfect, they know how to think, constantly explain to them, and give them time to reflect, so that they can slowly understand. This also avoids the possibility of giving them a second damage.

As for divorce, how to reduce the damage to children, I think it is necessary to restore the complete family structure of the children as soon as possible. Not just by stuffing a little one to a stranger as soon as possible. If the parties to the marriage are divorced peacefully, they can adjust the treatment of the children in terms of life time, try to give the children a complete understanding of their parents, and will not expose the children to a single-parent family, and at the same time should not always tell the children about the disadvantages of their mother or father, because this will affect the psychology of the children, destroy the image of the parents in the children's psychology, and is not conducive to the children to form a healthy family in the future.

There is the same care and love for children and normal sound families, don't let them feel that they are different, children's psychology is still relatively simple, immature thinking, resulting in them are likely to be affected by the outside world, the most important thing for parents to divorce is to avoid reducing the psychological damage to children when they are young.

Divorce is not only a matter between two people, but also the families of two parties, relatives and friends of both parties, and their own children. As we all know, the divorce of parents has a great impact on children, so many parents often choose to tolerate and maintain the relationship between husband and wife for the sake of their children. However, not everyone can endure this kind of life, and there will always be people who can't hold on and choose to break up, so how to reduce the damage of divorce with children?

First of all, if you want to choose a divorce, then leave as soon as possible, don't procrastinate. There are couples who want to divorce but never divorce. In ordinary life, two people often quarrel and even fight.

This kind of life has a great impact on children, even more so than divorce. Staying in this environment all day will have a great impact on the child's body and mind, and it will be very detrimental to the child's future. So, if you want a divorce, then leave as soon as possible, and if you don't get divorced, then don't always quarrel.

Then, although divorce affects many people, in fact, there are only two people who make the choice, and the children must not be dragged into the "war" of their parents. Although many parents choose to divorce, they are still worried about their children and want to keep their children by their side. As a result, some parents ask their children to "stand in line" in advance and choose their own camp, which will also cause great harm to their children.

If you still love your children, don't pull them into your own "war".

Secondly, after the divorce, you need to give more love to your children. Because children have lost one person who loves them, we need to be more caring. And the side that doesn't get the child doesn't mean that it can ignore the child.

Even if you are not with your child, there are many ways to show your concern and make up for your child's wounded heart.

Both parties love their children very much, in order for their children to have a stable living environment, don't be too persistent in many small things, if both parties refuse to back down and insist on going their own way, even if they leave this marriage, they will become happier. Communication starts from the heart, quarrels and cold wars will only push the contradictions to the margin, marriage is oneself, and the children are also one's own, since he was chosen at the beginning, why is he unwilling to open his heart now? Such a marriage can cause a lot of harm to the children.

If you want to get a divorce, you have to take advantage of the fact that the children are still young and not sensible. At this time, he may not really understand anything, but when he is a little older, when he starts kindergarten, when he sees other children with his parents, what kind of mentality should he have? And from the time he started to be sensible, he knew that he didn't have a father or a mother, do you think what kind of harm would this have done to him?

Let's see if your marriage can be saved and work hard for the sake of the children? Is it really unbearable? If you can really persevere for the sake of your children, then I think you can continue to walk, because after all, children are the most important, and you have both entered the palace of marriage after all.

You can't ruin a child's life because of your own selfish desires. But if you really can't live this day anymore, first of all, don't let the child think that you are divorced, and don't let the child feel that the parents who love me the most are enemies, which is another harm to the child.

This incident also warns us that we must be cautious when we get married, and divorce is acceptable when we have no children, because the divorce rate is relatively high now, like my parents, people of their generation lived a very good life, and the divorce rate is relatively low, but now people don't know why the divorce rate is relatively low. Listen to my advice, since you have chosen the result, you will work hard to overcome all difficulties, not only for yourself, but also for the sake of your children.