How should I adjust after a divorce? What to do after a divorce

Our society may not be enlightened to that extent, so there are still a lot of bad opinions about divorced people, and there will be many people who will point fingers behind the back of a divorced person, and many people will point fingers behind the back of a divorced person. Especially for a divorced woman.

I think there are three ways to adjust yourself after a divorce.

The first way is to confide, find relatives or friends who you can really trust and can speak your heart, and vent all your emotions such as sadness in your heart, attitude towards marriage, and then reluctance to the family. When you hold all your emotions and all the things you want to say in your heart. It will feel very uncomfortable, and it will be very bad for your body in the long run, isn't there a word called depression and illness, so there is something to hold in your heart, to express it, in fact, some things you find that you find someone to talk to, you will feel that it is good to say it, and it is good to have someone around to comfort you, so that you will not be so sad.

The second method is also very cliché is travel, when you divorce you must be very sad in your heart, there is a special depression and bad mood in your heart, at this time you should go on a trip, let go of all the people and things around you that make you worry. Go alone to visit the famous mountains and rivers of the motherland, or go abroad to feel the beauty of nature, in fact, nature is a particularly magical existence, it can make you forget what you think in your heart during the tour, especially those negative emotions. It will only make you feel like your whole heart and soul have been baptized in the beauty of nature.

Feel the prosperity of the world, you will feel that you are actually very small, what you have experienced, in fact, there is nothing, as long as you adjust yourself, you will slowly find the state, and you can come out of the shadow of divorce.

The third way is to return to normal work and life. When your work and life are busy, you don't have the heart to feel those negative emotions, slowly you will come out, time is the best medicine for pain.

I'm suggesting that you get a makeover, I mean this makeover literally, you go to make a new hairstyle, change the makeup you often wear, change your dressing style, maybe the last one is a little difficult, then change to try a new dressing style, so that your body does not have the marks of the past, your life will definitely not be able to completely get rid of the traces left by the past, but your person can, a makeover is to change a mood, make yourself a new self.

People often say that you can't give up the city just because you're divorced, that's certainly not realistic, since you decide to adjust yourself back to a positive mindset, then become another self and start life with another new face.

The second point is to lose things, such as those things that your predecessor bought for you before, lose what you can lose, donate what you can, sell the valuable, use the money you get from selling to buy new ones, and kick out these memories little by little, whether they are good or bad, they are no longer worth recalling, anyway, whether these memories are sweet or painful, they are a burden. So, try to make the environment in which you live is that of a single woman.

The third point is to actively socialize, not only with your original old friends, but more importantly, to expand your circle of friends, especially do not exclude the opposite sex, you can't live a lifetime alone, don't start to believe in marriage because of a failed marriage, believe that you must have a good marriage, so take the initiative to meet new friends, active socialization can make your free time more fulfilling, you will not have so much time like those who did not have before.

The post-divorce process is as follows:

1. In the case of divorce by agreement, both parties shall go to the marriage registration authority for divorce registration after signing a written divorce agreement;

2. If it is a divorce by litigation, a lawsuit shall be filed directly with the people's court, and if the divorce is granted by a judgment, the judgment shall take effect and the marriage relationship shall be dissolved.

According to the provisions, if the husband and wife divorce voluntarily, they shall sign a written divorce agreement and apply for divorce registration in person at the marriage registration authority. The divorce agreement shall clearly state the parties' expression of intent to divorce voluntarily and the consensus on matters such as child support, property, and debt handling. Within 30 days from the date on which the marriage registration authority receives the application for divorce registration, if either party is unwilling to divorce, he or she may withdraw the application for divorce registration from the marriage registration authority.

Within 30 days after the expiration of the period provided for in the preceding paragraph, both parties shall apply in person to the marriage registration authority for the issuance of a divorce certificate; If the application is not made, it shall be deemed that the application for divorce registration has been withdrawn.

Legal basis] Civil Code of the People's Republic of China

Article 1079:Where one of the husband and wife requests a divorce, the relevant organization may conduct mediation or directly initiate divorce proceedings in the people's court. People's courts hearing divorce cases shall conduct mediation; If the relationship has indeed broken down and mediation fails, the divorce shall be granted. In any of the following circumstances, if mediation fails, a divorce shall be granted:

1) bigamy or cohabitation with another person;

2) Committing domestic violence or abusing or abandoning family members;

3) Having bad habits such as gambling and drug addiction that they have repeatedly taught and not changing;

4) Separated for two years due to emotional discord;

5) Other circumstances that lead to the breakdown of the relationship between husband and wife. Where one party is declared missing and the other party initiates divorce proceedings, the divorce shall be granted. Where, after a people's court has ruled that divorce is not permitted, the parties have been separated for one year, and one party initiates divorce proceedings again, the divorce shall be granted.

<> "How to Adjust Yourself Quickly After Divorce."

1.Look: Change your appearance, cut your hair or buy new clothes.

The University of England once published a psychological research theory that changes in appearance can affect 80% of emotions. Go to the barber shop and change your hairstyle, if you had long hair before, then cut it short and try a neat style. If you had straight hair before, try curly hair to change your temperament.

2.Fine: Get busy and let the work fill your life busy, it is the best medicine for all cranky and negative emotions, the love field is frustrated, the shopping mall is proud, and the lack of feelings is made up for by the spirit of Qi.

3.Feelings: Correct Xuanchen guesses emotions.

Do something safe and vent your emotions, such as going to a movie where you can cry and crying heartily: singing and shouting out the pressure of dissatisfaction;

Go to the venting house to enjoy the old trouble, smash and go crazy: go to the water bath to relax, feel the pampering feeling of returning to the mother in the warm water, etc.

4. Help: Do emotional and psychological counseling.

The psychological trauma caused by divorce, some people are difficult to heal themselves, so they need the help of a professional psychological counselor to help them do psychological reconstruction, and professional external help can help you get out of the emotional trauma faster.

The failure of a marriage is a heavy and unbridled blow to people, but they cannot give up on themselves. They think that their future life will always be a dark day, and they cannot use alcohol to dispel their worries, hurt their body and mind, and fall. They should learn the spirit of Ah Q, comfort themselves, lose one, and give Huai Fan more choices for himself.

The painful marriage finally ended, and I was free.

2. Think about the reasons for your failure and let go of the hatred and resentment in your heart.

Give yourself space and think about it. Find out why your marriage failed and find out your own shortcomings instead of complaining and hating each other. Hatred will only make you more miserable.

Give each other a smile generously and wish each other happiness. You can't lock yourself in a room and go all day without eating and communicating with others.

3. Release the depressed emotions in your heart in time.

Failed marriages are painful. If you can't get rid of the shadow of failure, it's even more painful. You should let go of your dignity, don't care about other people's eyes, don't suppress yourself, cry out loud, or sing out loud to release the pain in your heart.

4. Find a close friend or family member to talk to.

The failure of the marriage has become a fact, and there is no need to hide it. The other person should take responsibility and find someone closest to him or family member to confide in his own stress and pain, and learn to dredge his bad emotions.

5. Love your parents and children more.

When it comes to how to get out of a wrong marriage, know that a failed marriage isn't scary. The scary thing is that it can't be recovered after a failure. It means living in pain and not extricating yourself.

You are willing to fall. There are many things to do after failure, and that is to try to make yourself sunny, happy, and love yourself more, your parents and children, let them know that you have gotten rid of the pain of your marriage, and not let them be sad and depressed.

After the divorce, you must first put your mind at ease, and if you have the conditions, you can go out to travel and take a look, and it is good to volatilize the haze in your heart.