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1.Think twice before you shop and don't buy items that are just on sale or in a book.
2.Get rid of the habit of leaving things on the ground.
3.Try not to place items where you can see them on the countertop.
4.Understand your lifestyle and spending habits.
5.Always put things in their place before going to bed.
6.Keep a record, on social networks, in real life, and share your changes with everyone.
7.Leave only those clothes that are durable, versatile and practical.
8.Don't take free things, giveaways, pamphlets, etc. that are distributed on the street.
9.Bring shopping bags with you when you go out and reduce the use of single-use plastic bags.
10.Throw away all the items you don't need at home (sell them, give them away).
11.Refuse to stock up, small items at home, such as paper towels and towels, must not be hoarded because the supermarket is on sale. 12.
Organize your books at home, keep only the ones you love the most, and get rid of the books you have never read and will not read a second time as soon as possible.
13.Make it a good habit to wake up early and stick to breakfast.
14.Refuse the three-minute heat, refuse to procrastinate.
15.Reduce unnecessary social activities and make quality friends.
16.Organizing things in your home, but it doesn't mean simply moving things from one place to another.
17.Love life more and live a simple life.
18.Organize your kitchen so that you only have the right amount of utensils for the rest of your family.
20.Don't rush, give yourself a little time to change.
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The so-called "renunciation" is a kind of Buddhist cultivation thought, that is, to leave the red dust and go to a secluded place where there are no past troubles, and to a place where there are no past grievances to cultivate oneself, so as to achieve the realm of forgetting things and self. Breaking off the past marriage, breaking off all the past relationships, leaving the troubled world, and giving up all the things that have emotional connection with us, this is called "breaking away".
But it is very difficult for us to do it in the red dust, and our psychology does not allow everyone to cultivate into immortals, so that we forget about everything in our hearts, and we don't care about anything, not even ourselves. It's like Buddhists often say "a stinky skin", but we don't think it's "stinky skin". We have to take good care of our body, because in our psychology, the body and mind are one, and when you love yourself in your heart, of course our body must be protected.
That's why we advocate physical and mental health, which is completely different from Buddhism.
People are divided into good and evil, but we don't see it that way in psychology, psychology believes that people are multifaceted, not only good and evil, but also not good and not evil, not good and not evil. A good person is not a good person 24 hours a day, a wicked person is always unable to do evil when he is asleep. Good can sometimes arise from an evil environment, just as our generosity, our kindness, our selflessness, and of course our selfishness.
Because we are genetically selfish, then when we can deal with this part of selfishness, we can blossom selflessly in the soil of selfishness. So they are not absolutely incompatible, just like some people say that it would be good if all the wicked people in this world died, but what I want to ask is that if all the wicked are dead, and the rest are all good people, then are good people still called good people? There will be no good people when everyone is good, and some people will inevitably be divided into evil people and bad people in the development of human beings, otherwise how can good people have a sense of psychological superiority, so the value of bad people is to make us feel such a joy as a good person.
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The first time I drank brown rice tea while traveling, I liked it very much. Using brown rice as a raw material, it is soaked, steamed, and stir-fried, and served with Japanese sencha, and the aroma is like freshly brewed rice when poured into hot water. I bought 3 large boxes of 100 packs each.
And guess what - a year has passed, and there are still two and a half packs of ...... left
The "taste appreciation period" of brown rice tea is only 1 year. The expired tea bags are brewed, the color is still verdant, the aroma is gone, and the drink is dull and abnormal.
In our lives, is there only tea after the best tasting period?
Open your closet and see half of your clothes sleeping?
Open your shoe closet, do you always feel like you have one less pair?
Open your fridge and is it a seasoning that was only used once?
Open your bookcase, are there a lot of books that haven't been opened?
Open your ** bill, can't you believe how much money you spent?
The secret to having a life of renunciation and happiness is incredibly simple and incrediblely effective.
First, discard items that you don't like.
Second, live in the objects you love.
Why throw away items that you don't like? Because you're going to get too much.
We have a closet that is about to burst out, and a curse of "no clothes to wear" every morning. School uniforms when I was a girl, skirts that I plan to wear after losing 10 pounds, clothes that are no longer suitable after wearing them once given by my family, and pullovers that I bought at a discount but haven't worn for a year. Research shows that if you haven't worn a piece of clothing for a year, the clothes you haven't worn in the past year will sleep in your closet forever.
Why live in the objects you love? Because your heart is too little.
Marie Kondo advocates that all the clothes should be gathered in one place, touched one by one, and talked to the clothes with your fingertips, leaving what makes your heart pound and discarding what you can't feel. If you think about it, isn't it true that clothes and objects that you thought would be "used one day" are actually "never used" because you have even forgotten that they exist. In the third-tier city where I live, the housing price has exceeded 20,000 yuan per square meter.
Why use 20,000 yuan a square meter of space to pile up so many clothes and items that you have forgotten and will never be woken up? Some of them have no fate with us, and some of them have already fulfilled their historical mission, so we should collect them, thank them earnestly, and then send them away. When I got rid of the clothes that I "haven't worn in a year" and the clothes that "didn't feel like my heart", I suddenly realized that I knew what to wear tomorrow, and I had a wonderful wardrobe, and every piece of clothing was carefully selected to cover up the shortcomings of my figure and bring out my strengths.
Look at yourself in the mirror more confidently and happily.
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<> materialistic era, house, car, partner, jewelry, clothing, have you found the happiness you want when chasing these configurations, or have you neglected the feeling of life? To have a life of renunciation, you have to cut off what you don't need, and you have to know if you need it.
What you have is actually a reflection of a person's values in some way. If you can't see clearly what you need, you will be hesitating, unconsciously leaving things around you just in case, so unconsciously, let yourself be buried by debris both materially and spiritually.
Eiko Yamashita said in "Breaking Away" that the most important basis for choosing an item is need, suitability and pleasure; Kondo, on the other hand, describes the sensation of a pounding sensation when touching it, and looks at whether there is stupidity, confusion, or shortcomings hidden in it by being honest about the reasons why he owns something.
For example, the clothes that are not suitable for the sake of face, and the bags that are bought for the sake of vanity are now items that are not suitable for unpleasantness. Only by being aware of the hidden emotions behind these objects can we have the opportunity to establish the right way to make trade-offs, and after understanding, it is equivalent to cutting off a certain attachment or uneasiness, and then allowing the ideal self to gradually emerge.
Busy urbanites are caught in the gears of satisfying material desires and can't stop, and they can't get rid of the obsession with things, and their intentions and love are probably far away beyond touch. Being moved by the heat of a night of stewed soup is not hypocrisy, but a renunciation.
24 hours a day, we are always making decisions about what to put our time and energy on, and there will be corresponding experiences and gains. We can't completely escape the hustle and bustle of life, but we can choose to accompany our mood and choose our own trade-offs.
The secret to letting yourself have to break away from life and get happiness is to always let your soul get rid of the old and make it new, let your negative and bad leave, and let yourself have more space in your heart to put better and more beneficial things in. Throw away the self you don't like and welcome a better and lovelier self.
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Maybe your friends are more of a side you don't like when they get along with you, and it's the part you don't like. Is it possible that when he presents this part, you were receptive or unaware of it when he first established a relationship with you? At least you are tolerated, allowed.
And he may mistakenly think that your attitude is a kind of welcome, maybe we have to ask ourselves when the initial relationship was established, did you and him have a feeling of sympathy, sympathy, and meeting a confidant? It's just that the circumstances of your life are different from those of him, and some changes have taken place.
So when your friends deal with you in that inappropriate way again, do you do it in time to remind you? When you present this part to him again, you can choose not to respond or change the subject, so as to tell the other person that I don't like to deal with this part of yours, and then the other person will naturally receive your message. If you are always looking forward to, or even pretending to be happy, with that part of him, then the other person will never have this intuition.
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1. It is important to shift from an additive life to a subtractive life, it is not the mind that changes the action, but the action that brings about the change of the mind. It can be said that it is a renunciation.
It's a kind of dynamic meditation.
2. Being able to pack up a thing is equivalent to abiding by the agreement with yourself, and this matter becomes an exchange for trustworthy credit funds.
3. Cut off = cut off the unwanted things that you want to enter your own home. Giving up = abandoning the rags that are everywhere in the house. Detachment = detachment from the obsession with objects, in a comfortable space.
4. If you can use a thing casually, then others will treat you with a casual attitude.
5. In the process of disconnection, the accumulation of items focusing on the past and the future is the problem rather than messiness.
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How much in our lives we can't give up.
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1. In the initial stage of renunciation, if you can't help but have feelings such as "what a pity" and "uneasy conscience", think about the losses caused by not throwing things away, and it will feel much better.
2. What you get is not necessarily all what you need, and if you do more, you may not do all of it well. Instead of fighting for everything, it is better to "break away" rationally. In this way, anxiety can be avoided and a**.
3. If you are too congested, you will often lose your original intention and forget what you are living for, and the purpose of subtraction is to make life better. Just like the blank space in Chinese painting, with "blank" as the carrier, it renders the artistic conception of beauty, making the chapter and picture of the work more coordinated and exquisite. If the whole painting is filled with a variety of brushstrokes, it will lack beauty and interest.
5. The process of breaking away is also the process of sorting out the heart. Only in this way can we reduce the burden on the brain, achieve self-renewal, and constantly upgrade. "Breaking away" allows people to live a refreshing and refreshing life, and the premise is to give up excessive desires.
6. For a person, being too greedy, asking excessively, and letting his desires swell is a disaster, and he will often backfire. Only by giving up greed can we not be coerced by desire, and only then can we see the brilliance of human nature, be carefree, feel at ease, and live comfortably.
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How much in our lives we can't give up.
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1. Don't be greedy. It's not greed in buying things, it's greed in setting goals. In the beginning, it is easy for people to make this kind of mistake, think that a concept is good, and want to achieve the ultimate goal immediately - it is true that many detached authors seem to be easy to talk about it in the book, but that's them.
2. The smaller the target, the better. You can write on a notepad that you dispose of one useless item every day – to put it bluntly, a useless item thrown away. Regardless of the size or number of pieces, everyone has at least 100 useless items in their room.
Don't worry about running out of items to lose one day, in the beginner stage, practice for three months.
3. If you haven't used it for a long time but are reluctant to throw it away, take it out and put it at the door. Leave it alone, leave it there, and if you don't need it for a long time and it keeps dusting and getting in the way, one day you'll finally explode and abandon it.
4. When you are reluctant, think about the current housing prices. Your house is tens of thousands of square meters, and at this cost, you don't let yourself live in a spacious and comfortable place, but let those things that you don't need occupy a place worth tens of thousands, isn't it stupid?
6. Remember a sentence, what you really need is what suits you. It is important to remember this sentence when a girl is browsing for clothes or shoes and is about to buy it.
7. Don't follow the popular colors in fashion magazines to buy clothes, the popular colors mean that these clothes will be eliminated next year - the same is true for popular models, at that time, do you lose or not? Only buy what you really like, and don't let fashion magazines shape you.
8. My plan for today's departure is to clean up a drawer that has been closed and untidied since I moved last year, and one drawer is fine, but I haven't implemented it yet.
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