Do you complain a lot in life?

In the past, I did love to complain, complaining about this is not good, that is not good, anyway, I just don't find fault with myself, slowly through reading, I found that complaining is the most meaningless thing, it will only make me more and more sad, I can't see the hope of life, and I know to face life with sadness all day long. Now I am no longer the complaining self I used to be, complaining can't bring positive energy to myself, and I won't pass on positive energy to the people around me.

No matter what kind of life we face, I know that this kind of life is our own choice, there is no need to complain about anything, complaining will only make you more and more afraid to face yourself, more and more sad and inferior, what we need to do is to complain about the psychology can be overcome, into the motivation for life, in the free time to read more, to enrich yourself, this is the most correct way to treat life. <>

In the past, I would always complain that my school was not good, that there was no learning atmosphere, that the teachers were not excellent teachers, and that the students were not excellent, so it was normal for me to not be excellent. Later, I realized how stupid I was, even if the school was not good, there were students in our school who were admitted to Tsinghua University and Peking University. Now, I never complain about the school, my lack of excellence is my own problem, and it has nothing to do with the outside world.

In the past, I would complain that the people around me were not good, I always felt that they were always hypocritical, but I forgot what I looked like, and I was reflecting on myself, it turned out that sometimes I also had a lot of flaws, so I stopped complaining about others, and other people's shortcomings could not be changed for him, but I could change myself, and I could change myself to meet better people, and I could stay away from those people I hated.

If we don't complain about life, we will see the bigger world, feel a better life, and make our mood better and better.

1. People who like to complain usually lack self-confidence and self-knowledge, because they don't know themselves and lack confidence in themselves, so they are easy to blame the outside world for their own unhappiness and setbacks.

2. People who complain are addicted. Once he complains about one thing, he will complain about ten things, and if he complains about ten things, he will complain about a hundred things, anyway, he always feels that this society is unfair to him, and he feels that this society will harm him, and he has no problems at all, and the person who complains never finds his own problems.

3. The main thing for complaining is to pay more and pay less. The so-called "more", one is that he has material needs, and the other is that he wants a lot of dignity, face, and spirit. Not only does he want to be paid, he wants to be honored, he wants to be rewarded, but he also wants to be paid for all sorts of preferential conditions like everyone else.

4. The core idea of complaining is the victim's thinking. For example, if you close yourself off, as soon as others talk about you, you will fight back, thinking that you are okay with other people's problems. Sometimes it may be like that, if you complain once that it's someone else's problem, then complaining ten times may be your own problem.

5. Most of the people who complain are incompetent. The more incompetent people are, the more they like to complain, and if you ask them about their ability, they will be speechless, and if you ask them about their fairness, they will feel that everyone is unfair to them.

What are the characteristics of people who like to complain in their words, deeds, and psychology?

People who complain are not confident and not open-minded enough.

Those who like to complain that they are not lucky enough can only say that they still owe a life effort.

If you complain all the time, then what you attract is also destined to be suffering, which will entangle you and make you sad.

Many people hope to attract the attention of others through their complaints, and at the same time be able to win the sympathy of others, but they do not know that they are like an emotional trash can, they do not get better, and they will pollute the air around them while emitting a stench.

Most people's complaints are because they are not good enough, what they do or what they get, and they do not meet their psychological expectations, so they complain.

Those who are having a bad time are often the ones who like to complain. The weak like to feel sorry for themselves, but the strong never say they are sad.

A person always complains about life, I will not evaluate him individually whether he is good or not, after all, everyone's living environment is different, and the personality habits formed are also different.

I used to have a colleague who always liked to complain, and after getting in touch with her, I learned that she was not valued since she was a child, and she didn't like to communicate with people, and she had a lot of resistance and fear of people. Although she is an adult, she is still a child in her heart, and she will be happy when others encourage her, and if she ignores her, she will think too much, and she will complain if she thinks too much. Her complaint is an expression of her ego, and she wants someone to pay attention to her and care about her.

I hope someone can understand her.

I often accompany her, I like to read, she slowly follows me when I read, and she will find some colleagues to eat with her and hang out with them on weekends.

There is also a colleague who is also very negative, whether it is to hit ** or visit her in the city, she can complain for a long time, I will listen first, listen to her, and help her sort out her thoughts after talking, I found that all her complaints are from anxiety, she always feels that others think she is not good, and others think she is like this and that. Then I slowly chatted with her, she was really good in other aspects, I chatted with her from her excellence, and when she began to recognize herself, she didn't complain.

In fact, when you meet people who like to complain, there is no need to rush to open them more. They don't want to complain, they just can't deal with it clearly. Give them a little more patience and it might make a difference.

First, when some people complain, they are not targeted for help, but more like they are recklessly sending helpless signals, hoping that everyone who hears it will take responsibility to help them solve the problem.

Second, there are some complaints that are really just a packaged show-off.

Third, there are "venting" complainers, who complain only to vent their frustrations, to vent their anger, frustration, or disappointment and gain recognition.

It's not so much that people who complain talk a lot of nonsense, but that they want to be valued and understood in relationships. Complaining is not a psychological problem, it is just a behavior, so we should be more tolerant and understanding of people who love to complain.

People who often complain about life are often not going well, and such people are dissatisfied with the status quo and take care of everything, but they do not have the ability and determination to change. They want to get better, they want everything to go their way, but the reality is cruel. They always put shackles on themselves with what others have, and they can't treat them with a normal heart.

In fact, when we meet such people, we have to understand them and empathize, so that you will not find them boring, and you will be relieved.

We often say that people who complain often speak for the sake of talking, that is, the response to complaints about the topic has been detached from subjective dissatisfaction, just to continue the communication. To put it deeper, it is a lack of his own subjective judgment and likes and dislikes about things, a lack of his own thinking, and he always gives a negative response to the progress of things or other people's suggestions. This also leads to the feeling that it is difficult to get good opinions and suggestions from complaining people, making you feel that most of what they say is nonsense.

Instead of saying that they always talk nonsense, it is better to analyze it at a deeper level, that is, they are brushing their sense of existence, and people who love to complain often make subconscious responses to anything in the way of complaining, and they want their responses to win everyone's attention, as if they are the focus of the crowd.

The psychological ability to withstand pressure is relatively weak, and they feel that they are particularly "delicate", often suffering a little setback or difficulty or unfair treatment, losing confidence instantly, completely collapsing psychological construction, losing patience, and exhausting their ability to endure, and complaining has become the easiest way for them to obtain, because complaining can alleviate their inner anxiety, or in other words, by complaining, they feel that those "hurts" are not so painful.

They are not confident. I am not confident because I am not confident, I love to compare because I am not confident, I am unbalanced because I love to compare, and I complain because I am unbalanced. Complaining gives them an outlet.

They are self-centered. Such people are often selfish, and the starting point of seeing things is always themselves, and they will not empathize. Many times, empathy can understand others and explain themselves, but they will not, and will only add to their troubles.

They don't have problem-solving skills. When they encounter problems, they choose not to move forward, but to retreat. Make all kinds of excuses for yourself to back down and shirk responsibility.

Complain about everything that can be complained, in short, it is not their fault that things cannot be solved, it is the fault of others. When things happen, it's all about others being wrong, and I'm innocent. So it's hard for them to succeed, so keep complaining.

Occasionally, he will still complain, because some people will always feel unhappy when they want to close up when they are smiling, and even if they are in a good mood at the time, they will be ruined by these things.

I'm not going to complain, everyone has their own life, they have their own choices, and these hurts only make us stronger.

I won't, because these injuries are a grind for me and only make me stronger.

Emotional love is reluctant to hurt, because I have feelings for you, so I don't want you to be sad, so I am reluctant to hurt your ......

Feelings are to leave silently when it is time to leave, no one is deliberately trying to change his mind, he really loves you when he loves you, but he really doesn't love you when he doesn't love you, there is no way to pretend not to love you when he loves you;

In the same way, there is no way for him to pretend to love you when he doesn't love you.

When a person doesn't love you and wants to leave you, you have to ask yourself if you still love him, and if you don't love him anymore, don't refuse to leave for the sake of poor self-esteem;

If you still love him, you should want him to live happily, hope that he is with the person he really loves, and will never stop him, if you prevent him from getting real happiness, it means that you don't love him anymore, and if you don't love him, what right do you have to accuse him of changing his mind?

Feelings are waiting, when I have feelings for you, I would rather wait like this stupidly all the time, I can wait desperately for ......

Feelings are giving up, and if you have feelings for you, I hope you can be happy, so I learn to give up ......

Feelings are love and hate.

As deep as love is, as deep as hatred ......

Feelings, she is the most complex and simplest thing in the world;

She is the easiest thing in the world to have, and the easiest to lose;

He is the most lovable and the most hated thing in ...... world

Feelings: The greatest weakness of humanity!

Feelings are the bane of contradictions!

Feelings are the wealth given by God, and what is the point of living without feelings. What people pour into them is emotionally invested.

What is depressed, there is no point in being depressed when this kind of thing happens, it makes more sense to be careful at all times and know how to protect your children.

It is that people complain, and we should control our emotions and avoid bad emotions.

1. Lack of sense of achievement; Because there is an aspect of life that is not satisfied, there will be repeated frustration in this regard, and after the frustration is generated, there are generally 3 ways to vent:

One is to attribute the cause to oneself, which is what we call inferiority.

The second is to attribute the cause to the outside world, that is, to complain about the heavens and others.

The third is that he does not have a correct cognition, he is too demanding of himself, and he feels that the reality is too far away from his expectations, so he is not satisfied, so he complains.

2. The characteristic of "small self" is that it wants to strengthen itself. Complaining is the means used by the "ego" to strengthen itself. Complaining and blaming can make us feel superior, so whenever the ego has the opportunity, it will complain.

People who love to complain are dominated by the "ego", and those who don't like to complain are controlled very well.

3. When any complaint arises, there will be a premise: I am right and others are wrong. When people want to complain, they want someone to know, either to say it for others to hear, or to write it for others to see, so that they can feel comfortable.

4. Once a person starts complaining, he will find many reasons to prove that he is right and others are wrong. At this time, people will no longer think about the good of each other, and even if someone reminds them, they will be ignored.

Ways to debug complaints:

1. Left brain exercise, when you want to accuse people, start counting: gold, pink, green, white, brown, black, six. On the one hand, counting colors can ease emotions, and on the other hand, because to distinguish colors, you also have to count the quantity, and when the left brain starts to work, it will suppress the mechanism of the right brain.

2. Strengthen self-confidence and enhance enthusiasm for work and life. With self-confidence, you can face all kinds of situations in life, whether it is good things or setbacks, with a cheerful mood.

3. Live with a positive and positive outlook.

4. Correct view of success and failure: Correct your attitude towards success and failure, no one can always be undefeated. If you succeed, you will prove that your efforts are enough, and if you fail, you will not be able to cultivate enough.

Failure is nothing more than a temporary insuccess, nothing more than starting all over again. Find out why, recharge your batteries, and get ready to go.

5. Learn to regulate emotions: Everyone has times when they are in a bad mood, and this is normal. Let the past pass, don't think about it anymore, go out with your friends for a walk first, and let go of the depression in your heart.