Why middle aged couples are becoming more and more indifferent

For middle-aged couples, if they want to threaten the feelings between two people, they need mutual respect, mutual understanding and mutual tolerance to be able to achieve it.

After being married for a long time, the novelty is lost. From romantic love to real marriage, in the dull day and night together, they are too familiar with each other, and the shortcomings that they hide when they are in love or the differences in concepts between the two parties have been fully exposed at this time.

As a result, emotional "exhaustion" or boredom makes the marriage enter a "bottleneck", and if it is not possible to choose an effective way to pass this "bottleneck", the marriage will end.

Dedication concept - don't find fault with each other, don't hope to reinvent each other. Instead, you should always ask yourself, "What can I bring to the other person—a worry-free material life?"

Abundant food for thought? A sense of security, a sense of well-being? "Do something for each other from the bottom of your heart in your daily life, even if it's the smallest thing, a hug, a smile, a kiss, so that the other person can experience warmth.

Leave space – Many marriages perish in bondage and counter-bondage, and many offer to give each other space. In fact, you should first leave space for yourself, maintain a normal circle of friends outside of marriage, and don't take marriage as your only spiritual sustenance.

In the relationship, you will continue to improve your life wisdom, constantly adjust yourself, and adapt to marriage.

Adjust expectations – Expectations that are too high can be a contrast to reality, causing pressure on both sides. The spouse is not necessarily the best and the best of the opposite sex you meet, but it may be the best for you, and that's enough.

Choosing a divorce – Divorce is not as scary as it might seem. If both parties decide that the marriage is wrong, divorce may be the wisest option. And if you still can't reflect on yourself properly after the divorce, and you still don't know what you need, that's really scary.

We often see that after the first divorce, people who don't pay much attention to marriage and divorce enter a state of instability, and the whole life is greatly distorted.

1. There are more and more contradictions between two people in life, eating, doing housework, and trivial things are piled up together and becoming more and more cold 2. Personality incompatibility, after getting along for a long time, I begin to feel that the two people have incompatible personalities, do or often quarrel, and the quarrel feelings have become weaker 3. I have no emotional foundation, and I am also married for the sake of getting married, and after a long time, I become more and more indifferent 4. Without a common language, I will become indifferent after a long time, and the gap between husband and wife is getting bigger and bigger, and it is difficult to balance.

Lao Liang once said that there are many couples who seem to be incompatible, but in fact, they must have their own reasons, and the balance between the two people has reached a certain degree of neutrality. Get along too much and get tired of each other.

Emotional preservation is an important issue, if you get along with each other too familiarly, unchanged, in fact, it is like a stone sinking into the sea, splashing a trace of Zen water, and falling into a dead end. I don't know how to communicate, and there are too many barriers between each other.

Freezing three feet is not a day's cold, and it is not a big thing that breaks the relationship, but a small problem that accumulates over time.

The days are dull, life is boring, you should be fine, or it will be more and more dull.

1. Economic differences

Who holds the economic power after marriage is also a big problem between husband and wife, if you let the man manage the money, and are afraid that he will go out to spend all day drinking, let the woman manage the money, the man will be restricted in freedom, and if he wants to go out and party with friends without money, he will feel very faceless.

Therefore, between husband and wife, the contradiction arises in this way, if you don't know who is in charge of the economic power, it is better to take care of each other, so as not to quarrel and hurt the anger because of this matter. As long as he doesn't go out to eat, drink, prostitute and gamble, it's okay, just know the Gu family.

2. Sleep in separate beds

The bed is a hotbed of feelings, once there is no emotion, it becomes a cold hard board, and there is no temperature when sleeping together, such a marriage is indeed a kind of torture for both parties.

Many middle-aged couples, initially for their own children, for fear of affecting the other party's rest, slowly began to split the bed, and some chose to sleep in separate beds because the relationship has become family affection, no matter what the reason for sleeping in separate beds, it will affect your feelings.

3. Emotional loss and reluctance to communicate

The most important thing between husband and wife is communication, but when people reach middle age, few couples can sit down calmly and have a good talk. Even sometimes before the other party has spoken, he has already given birth to a resistance mentality, and the pressure in the marriage makes both people feel aggrieved and angry.

In fact, all the contradictions in marriage are piled up from small things, like a snowball, which grows bigger and bigger until it is completely destroyed. When the husband and wife came to the same place, it was not that there was a sudden monstrous resentment, but that the accumulated dissatisfaction slowly became the straw that crushed the marriage.

4. After seeing through the marriage, I was very disappointed in my heart

When two people fall in love, it's always for each other's good. It is said that companionship is the most affectionate confession, and marriage provides a sufficient stage for companionship, so that two people can enjoy marriage for life. During this period, they will be like onions little by little, looking directly into each other's hearts.

It can test whether each other can not forget their original intentions and love each other all the time.

Everyone has a negative side, a lazy side. But after a woman gets married, she will change all the negatives, and for the sake of the family, she will change these shortcomings and face life positively. If, after getting married, you find that every moment is moving towards a positive change, then your wife is the best woman you will ever meet in this world.