Please tell me if I should contact after the breakup?

If she has a boyfriend, if you find it painful to contact her, then don't contact her, forget about it and start a new life of your own. I understand you, it's hard to become such a stranger to people who have lived together for four years, but there is no way, the reality is like this, you can't choose whether you want to or not, you can only walk with your eyes closed.

If you can't get in touch, find someone to heal your wounds.

Even so, forget it completely, don't contact, you can't be an ordinary friend if you really love, and if she makes you suffer over and over again, she won't be worthy of your love.

Although you are reluctant, but people have already kicked you in their hearts, what else is there to contact It is not good for everyone to contact again, make up your mind, don't break the thread!!

Coming back to you, you're all entangled. Do you think you can still be such a friend? After becoming a friend, do you plan to continue to entangle yourself, or continue to laugh at yourselfIf you think you are strong enough, then you become a friend, first hurt yourself hard, and finally become extremely strong.

It's okay to get in touch, but you have to know in your heart that it's just an ordinary friend.

This is only to understand and feel by yourself, can you really let go of your previous emotions and simply be an ordinary friend? She then found another boyfriend, why did she come to you? Did it hurt everyone?

Of course, you can get in touch, but only if you let her go completely and don't give him a chance to hurt you. Personally, I don't like the feeling of being divided and ambiguous.

Of course, it is necessary, the relationship is most afraid of confusion, and the breakup must be understood.

This brings us to the necessity of communication.

Fan Xiangyan said:

I don't like the unfairness, you and I had the last meal, the last time we met, you made all the preparations, and I didn't. If you really don't love, then make it clear to your face, after all, the love at the beginning is true, and the current love is also true, give this relationship a minimum of respect, give the other party a complete death, and then get together and disperse. They turned around and drifted away."

The beginning of a relationship comes from acquaintance, and a good ending ends with acquaintance, which is also the greatest respect for this relationship.

In real relationships, many lovers may not have time to say goodbye or even have the opportunity to say goodbye and talk about their hearts because of the final emotional escalation and emotional conflict, which is unfair and irresponsible for the other party.

In fact, the promise of love to the end is marriage, and we will all be co-responsible in the marriage relationship, so we are all a whole of each other, have the right to know and the right to decide, the best feeling is understanding, but also tolerance, it is not easy to meet a person, to be able to have someone by your side is even more unavoidable fate, even if it may not come together in the end.

We also have to face it calmly and open-mindedly, thank the past, thank him, and let the other party understand you, him, and you. This kind of relationship is worthy of respect, those who run away from their lovers and don't say a word are cowards, they don't even have the courage to break up in person, they can't even say goodbye to each other, how can they give a lifetime of life.

In love, communication is really an art, learning, disagreements, quarrels, coincidences, etc., these are what love should be.

If a person does not have the ability to communicate, it will be difficult for him to achieve great success, no matter how strong his personal ability is.

Psychologists propose that everyone has four levels of needs. Before focusing on the needs of the top, it is necessary to meet the needs of the grassroots first.

There is a lyric that sings: "Lovers are always divided and combined", and now everyone's self-consciousness is awakened, and when falling in love, they will think more about whether two people are suitable or not, and whether they are happy with him. As for whether or not to contact after a breakup, I think the best solution is not to contact again after a breakup.

First of all, if the couple has come to the step of breaking up, it means that the problem between the two people has reached the point where they can't be together, if this means that the two people have different opinions on the principles of certain things, and the two people with different basic views have different views, so there is no need to contact again.

Secondly, breaking up itself is a relatively embarrassing thing, two people used to love each other so much, so familiar, the other party was their closest person during that time, but once they broke up, if they contacted again, they would inevitably think of all kinds of changes before they knew before, so it would be uncomfortable to get along. Because these two people can't get along calmly like ordinary friends, it's better to be strangers than to make friends in such a relationship, and it's better to break up.

In the end, after the breakup, both of them will return to their own life circle and find a boyfriend and girlfriend again. Not to mention boys, girls' minds are very delicate, and it is said that every girl has a boyfriend's ex-girlfriend in her heart, and girls are very sensitive to their boyfriend's "ex-girlfriend". Therefore, in order to reassure the new boyfriend and girlfriend, and to give the other party enough security, he should not contact the other party again after the breakup.

In short, after a breakup, it is better to cherish each other, go their separate ways, and live their own lives.