Is there no future if you don t get paid? Are there any jobs that don t require socialization?

First of all, let me explain my basic situation, the central region.

Small county town, within the system.

Male, age 32, clerk, monthly salary of more than 3,000, don't like to socialize, don't drink, go home after work, watch TV series in his free time, and run.

Recently, the unit has changed leaders, and everyone is staring at it, thinking about how to get close to the new leader, and I got an unprecedented opportunity to serve the new leader of the unit (equivalent to the secretary), and what is even more incomprehensible is that I refused!

When I refused, the leaders couldn't figure it out, and my colleagues couldn't figure it out, so why not seize a great opportunity? A small staff like me, who has no money and nothing to do, wants to climb up, only this way, no matter how good the work is, it is useless! (It may be too blunt, but it's basically true).

My idea is very simple, go to work, take the children to play after work, rest normally on weekends, go out for a run, ride a bicycle (I like to ride) and so on, for drinking, socializing, arranging a day of work and life of the leader, I really don't like it and am not good at it, if I give the leader a secretary, all the rest and leisure time is basically gone, but I may get a chance to be promoted.

Now it's okay, the leader thought that such a good opportunity was given to me and I actually refused, what do you mean? I definitely have an opinion.

What will you do in the future? Don't you drink or smoke, don't like to be with the leader, and are almost unsociable, so you really have no friends and no future?

I'm very confused now, everyone thinks I'm a fool, why don't I take such a good opportunity.

Just want to live a simple life, is it really not self-motivated in the eyes of others? Is it really a fool.

Since ancient times, China's "wine table culture.

It's very popular. On the wine table, three glasses and two glasses were served, and the whole atmosphere of the meal became lively, and everyone was talking and laughing. As the saying goes, there are fewer than a thousand glasses of wine for a confidant. Of course, this is for people who like to drink, if anyone doesn't like to drink, will they still "drink a thousand glasses"?

So is it possible for civil servants who don't want to drink alcohol to be promoted?

Yes, of course. In fact, if you really don't drink, no one will pinch your nose and pour alcohol. If you drink or block the wine for the leader, the leader will probably remember you, and you will have more opportunities to contact the leader in the future.

But no one realizes the dream of promotion only by drinking, and leaders cannot become leaders by drinking too much. The most basic thing is your work ability, if you make a mess at work, you will only accompany the leader to drink, but it is just a wine bag and rice bag.

If a person can only drink without learning and skill, even if he becomes a leader by chance, and does not have the ability to take the current leadership position, then he has no possibility to go further. And without a leader with a future for development, no matter how big the official is, no one will be truly convinced.

Therefore, drinking alcohol is only a way, not a necessity to achieve the goal.

There is such a saying: what can be said is not as good as what can be said, what can be said is not as good as what can be drunk, and what can be drunk is not as good as what can be said and drunk! Do you agree?

Not necessarily. There is a future for not being paid. But without socializing, interpersonal relationships will not be too good, which is not good for personal development. Socializing is an indispensable lesson for a person and should be faced correctly.

I think that's the case, even if you are very capable and work hard at work, if you don't pay for it, you have no future, so you must know how to deal with people.

To be precise, because people who don't pay don't know how to communicate with each other, and they won't have a good future without good connections.

I don't think so, and there is a future for not being paid. Rely on your own ability and technology to have your own future. Such a company is suitable for the sales industry.

Category 1: Work that requires concentration and specialization.

Most of this type of work requires concentration, such as some workers who do scientific research and innovation, or computer and IT practitioners who face computers all day long, as well as some people engaged in biological and medical research.

For this group of workers, there is generally not much social interaction at work, which is very suitable for people who can calm down and be alone. Moreover, this type of work is not limited by age, and the older you are, the more experience you have, the more "popular" you are, and the general rewards will be very rich;

This type of work generally includes creators, painters, traditional art craftsmen, and so on. These people generally need a quiet environment when they work, so that they can easily be inspired, and they need to dig deep into themselves in solitude in order to create amazing work.

Some people who are engaged in art work are very bad at interpersonal communication, but as long as they are talented, once they become famous, they will also earn a lot of money;

Category 3: Service departments in the company.

The reason why there is intrigue and clique in the workplace is because of conflicts of interest. But in some companies, the service department and most people departments do not have a stake in each other.

Because they will only show up when there is some activity that requires them, just do their job quietly. It is very suitable for people with a peaceful personality and a good job, but the salary is generally fixed and not challenging.

Category 4: Copywriting.

In recent years, in addition to all kinds of small ** hot up, since ** has also sprung up, all kinds of ***, big V numbers, etc., "producing" tens of thousands of articles and information every day, which makes copywriters a very popular profession.

Copywriting work, whether it is a traditional form or a new copywriter now, is mainly "dealing" with words, and does not require a lot of interpersonal relationships to deal with. Many successful self-leaders have carved out their own new career paths, which are very promising.

Category 5: Individually-owned businesses.

This can be said to be a quiet and autonomous profession, such as many self-employed businesses that do business. To do your own business, you only need to pay for the goods, and it is just a simple transaction with customers. As long as they are good at business, the market conditions are good, and there is no need for social entertainment, many people can live comfortably and make money to support their families.

Category 6: Freelancers.

Freelancing encompasses a wide range of professions, and here is a special section on freelancers who have their own patented technology. For example, some people who have mastered high-end technology; some people who are able to handle the toughest cases; Some masters of capital operation, and so on.

They don't need to work for a company, and they will naturally come to him when someone has a problem. Because I have mastered the "skill" that few people know, this kind of work is not affected by age and is not limited by many factors, which is really popular and profitable.

No matter what kind of work, hard work is the foundation of success.

Don't be completely limited by personality when choosing a career. In fact, everyone will have a timid and introverted side inside, but some jobs can change an introvert into a "cheerful person".

In the workplace, socializing is seen as an important job skill. Whether it is with leaders, colleagues or customers, it is necessary to build relationships and enhance mutual understanding through social occasions, so as to obtain more cooperation opportunities and business opportunities. However, if you're not good at socializing, you'll be awkward and isolated in the workplace.

First of all, you are prone to being overlooked and eliminated. In the workplace, socializing is seen as a communicative skill, and if you are not good at socializing, then you will be seen as a "wooden" person, and there is no way to build good interpersonal relationships with others. In a team, you can be forgotten and ignored due to a lack of communication skills, which can lead to missed out on important job opportunities and promotions.

With its wheel belt, you'll miss out on a lot of opportunities. In the workplace, through socializing, you can build a broader and deeper network, so as to get more cooperation opportunities and business opportunities. If you're not good at socializing, you may not be able to connect with your leaders, colleagues, and clients, and you may miss out on many possible opportunities.

Opportunities such as finding a good job, working with great people, and starting a more promising business are rare and valuable opportunities in the workplace, and if you miss them, you may never return.

Again, your career prospects will suffer. In the workplace, people who are good at socializing are often better able to take advantage of career development opportunities and earn higher jobs and incomes. People who are not good at socializing may limit their career prospects to a small range due to insufficient communication skills, and they may not be able to thrive in the workplace.

Therefore, unless you are able to make up for your shortcomings and gradually adapt to the social demands of the workplace through other efforts, your career prospects may be affected.

In short, it is indeed a miserable thing not to be able to socialize in the workplace. If you feel lonely, helpless, neglected, or eliminated in the workplace, you may want to think about whether you lack the skills and experience to deal with workplace socializing. Learning and improving your social skills and building good interpersonal relationships with others will help you gain more opportunities and success in the workplace.

Most of them are not welcomed in terms of entertainment, and they are not necessarily unpopular in all directions.

Leaders generally know how to distinguish the strengths and weaknesses of each person. Maybe if you perform well in other ways, you will also be reused by the leader. Generally, leaders will not dismiss you because you are not good at something.

Leaders generally don't like to see the kind of people who push and pull, and those who don't understand but are very active, leaders will be very welcome. You have to learn to take the initiative to do it, and then tell the leader that you don't know much about it, so you didn't do it well, and I hope the leader can give more guidance in the future.

In the workplace, which do you think is more popular? For example, for accountants and business department managers, the salary on the recruitment** is about 4000 and 8000. Some people are very puzzled why it is better to be able to drink a few meals of wine after taking the certificate for a few years.

To be honest, people who drink are fighting for their bodies, and professionals are fighting for time. Most people who don't socialize think it's easy, but take a good look at the people around you. The higher the level, the more likely they are to socialize, but they are very resistant to socializing in their hearts.

In particular, many bosses often feel that after paying so many salaries, none of them can take it.

Speaking from the heart, I have seen a lot of problems on Zhihu that evaluate this kind of people who can socialize as sycophants, and my heart hurts for them. If you are fortunate enough to see it, I hope your world will be more understanding from now on. It's all about mixing a food stamp, and it's not easy.

1. Entertainment needs to cater to others, which is a very headache, and sometimes people who are not very sociable may offend people with a word, but they don't know anything. Some people think that why should I entertain you and cater to you, which will cause a kind of imbalance psychology, which will lead to many people not liking socializing, because socializing is also a nerve-wracking problem. 2. Socializing is not only brain-blowing, but also hurts the body.

When it comes to entertainment, the first thing that comes to mind must be drinking, and it is said that it is a meeting on the table of wine attack Bizen, but in fact, it is not false at all, how can it be said that Huichang is a party without wine? In the past, I knew a friend who had just started his business and needed to accumulate a lot of contacts, so he would often go out to socialize and drink with those who could help him. As soon as you drink it, you will get drunk, and at that time, it is not a matter of whether you drink or not, whether you want to drink or not, but if you don't want to drink, you have to drink.

Several times he drank and had stomach bleeding, but he still had to grit his teeth and hold on, because no one will sympathize with you in business. There are some socializations that cannot be avoided. Over time, the damage to the body is self-evident.

That's why I hate going out to socialize.

People are emotional creatures, and it is impossible not to have that, unless there is something wrong with your way of expressing it.

First of all, we need to clarify the concept of socializing: first, it refers to social interaction; The second refers to treating people with courtesy; Three-finger private banquet.

Teacher Ye Qianhua said: Some people socialize for work, and some people socialize for favors; Someone works to socialize. Socializing is work, and work is socializing.

The revolution of the past was not a dinner party, but today's dinner is a revolution and work. Everyone knows that things have to be done by people, and personnel relations and social relations cannot be done without people. Even if it is reluctant, the person is familiar with each other, the needs of work or things, there are interests and opportunities to have relationships, how can you refuse.

Even if they grovel, there are always people who are willing or forced to do it, they are all worldly people, and they have to do worldly things.

So socializing is probably equivalent to your emotional intelligence. If it is a question of whether people need to know how to socialize in society, then this question can be equally translated into whether a person needs emotional intelligence to live in society?

The answer is yes, people must need emotional intelligence to live in society, that is, they need to know how to socialize. People are social creatures, and you can't do something out of society, so if you want to live in this society, unless you are really the kind of person who is particularly capable or has a particularly strong ability to speak, you don't need to rely on these entertainments to get a promotion and a salary increase.

In the same way, you also need certain etiquette for socializing, that is to say, we need to have social skills and rules for socializing, and you need to use these skills to abide by these rules, so socializing can be equated with emotional intelligence and can also be equated with this etiquette. Then do you want to say that people can live without etiquette all their lives? If you don't have etiquette, you're definitely not welcomed, let alone your superiors.

There are also some words like the Internet, such as the leader picks up the food and you turn the table, the leader chain is hungry and you drink it first, etc. It sounds funny, but will anyone really do it? The answer is obvious, unless you are the kind of person who is not afraid of heaven and earth or simply breaks the jar or you are the kind of person who comes out to experience life of the rich second generation, then you must understand socializing.

Even if you are really the kind of person who has no talent, you need to have basic emotional intelligence etiquette, which is not only socializing, but also life, dinner table etiquette, wine table etiquette, and socializing is also a science.

Song Luyou's poem "Late Autumn Farmhouse": "When you are old, you are lazy, and you don't waste entertainment." "When I got old, I felt bored and lazy about doing something, but I didn't give up socializing.

The seventh chapter of "The Travels of the Old Disabled": If you are a big boss, you must do your best to socialize.

These truths that the ancients understood, we also need to understand.

So I don't think it's really good to be treated by the leaders if they don't know how to socialize.