How to blend in with the crowd ... How to integrate into the group quickly

Anxiety and fear are common to everyone. It's mainly about how you perceive these anxieties and fears.

Especially in today's society, these are common. It's normal for you to be aware of your emotions in this area.

How to blend in with the crowd. You also need to explore on your own, and others can't help you.

Remember that you are unique, unique, born with a unique.

You are who you are, and you don't have to change yourself to fit others.

Being your true self is the most beautiful, the most authentic, and the most worthy of others' reliance and trust.

If you don't know how to do it, I suggest you read some books. But the domestic one is not very recommended.

It is recommended to try it out with Carnegie.

The virtues of human nature.

The weakness of human nature.

Human Relations.

These should give you a new and clearer understanding of yourself and others.

It's up to you to decide what to do after that.

What kind of person are you going to become".

Forehead... You are really similar to the original me. I want to fit in every day but I'm scared, and I feel like I don't have anything to say to them.

But this state has to be changed slowly, and it is useless to be anxious.

First, don't be afraid to talk to them about topics that interest you (don't think they're so good or insightful that you might surprise them with what you say).

Secondly, when choosing who to socialize with, it is not necessarily the kind of twitter that will bring you into the crowd, and the best thing is to find a gentler one that is easier to approach! You don't have to be close to everyone, just be sincere with a few people you like. In short, it is good to have a level of sincerity and sincerity.

Sharing with others is also a good way to get along with others.

You should let go of your baggage and contact others, without contact, there will be no communication, let alone understanding, let alone integration.

Slowly you will find that the world in the crowd is also very beautiful.

A few suggestions:

1. Consider the problem from everyone's point of view, not just from your own point of view.

2. Be approachable and don't look at no one.

3. Respect the old and love the young, and care for the weak. Wait.

4. Don't isolate yourself too much and participate in more activities.

Don't get lost (o)! ）

Q: How do you quickly integrate yourself into the community in a new environment? Do you have any tips for fitting in quickly?

Mine: At each stage, the way to quickly adapt to the environment and quickly integrate into the group is different, and it is appropriate for the time and the local conditions.

College freshmen enrolled, a large dormitory is divided into two bedrooms and one living room, 4 people in each room, 8 strangers Lu Xian live together, often people who live in the same room will be familiar with it first, and then in the same room of 4 people, the bunk will be familiar first. People start to connect with each other, and one sentence is enough. A topic is raised in one sentence, and those who can talk can be slowly approached, and those who can't talk and end the exchange in a hurry will keep a distance from each other.

Therefore, when you are a student, it is easy to integrate into the group when you release kindness, which shows that you are a good person to get along with, and you are the kind of person who can go to the toilet hand in hand.

Entering the society, it is just the opposite of the student days, you can't expose your heart too quickly, learn more with your eyes, open your mouth less, and keep introverted and smile. A genuine smile is the best tool for blending in with the group. Don't worry about being isolated, no one will take the initiative to show favor when you first arrive, this is work, not a group of friends, just give yourself enough time to understand the new environment.

In dealing with people, just be suitable, polite but not pandering, cordial but not intimate, blindly pandering will only make others misunderstand, think you are too weak, too stupid, will drag your feet. To survive in society, you must use your ability as your business card.

Friend, you don't need to be so demanding. Sometimes, you have to be considerate of yourself.

After all, you have experienced so many things in the past six months, and it is normal for your mentality to change. Now that you're aware of your problem, just change it, and don't blame yourself too much about it. You can see that you have worked hard and sincerely want to change back to your old self.

But emotional things are sometimes out of our control, so we can reflect on our mistakes, but if we blame ourselves infinitely because of our own shortcomings, we will be too ourselves.

I'll tell you some ways to adjust your mentality, you refer to it.

1. Be aware of your bad emotions.

You should pay more attention to your bad emotions and be sensitive to your bad emotions. When you are irritable and pessimistic, you should realize that a thought flashes through your mind: Oh, I'm in a bad mood.

And then on the one hand, I mentally suggest to myself that I need to calm down. On the other hand, when you are out of the current environment, such as when a friend's unintentional remark touches your shortcomings and makes you feel angry, take the opportunity to walk away and ease your emotions.

2. When you are with friends, feel embarrassed, feel uncomfortable, and recall that when you succeeded in the past, you emphasize in your heart that you are a very capable person and will definitely be able to overcome this emotional state now.

3. Another point is to keep in mind that everyone is very selfish, and others pay very little attention to you. Psychology has done experiments in this area, asking a student to wear very strange clothes, wandering around the classroom, and after the student leaves, investigate whether his classmates have noticed anything different about the student, and most of the students do not notice that the student is dressed strangely, and some students do not notice that the student walks into the classroom.

So it feels like someone else is looking at you, it's just a psychological effect on you.

4. When you are at home, plan more about what to do when you come into contact with people. Being proficient in dealing with people will help you solve a lot of problems.

First of all, I would like to say that introversion is just a personality, don't think of it as a flaw for you. Because we all live in an extroverted world, it's natural"Extroverted"It is admired by everyone. But that doesn't mean there's anything wrong with being introverted.

I'm a typical introvert.

Introverts have one thing in common, that is, they have a strong ability to introspect, and they will have more mental activities than ordinary people. You can build on your strengths, reflect on the past six months, make a summary, and consider what you want to do.

It's normal to lose control of your emotions, and anyone who encounters that kind of thing will. I sometimes like to think like the sky is about to fall, in fact. The past is always in the past, isn't it?

What other people look at you is someone else's business, and what you do is your business. Don't live in someone else's world.

You're only 22 years old now, and the last thing you should do is give up on yourself, don't carry on the past, it will make it harder and harder for you to move forward. Hold on to your own dreams, maybe you didn't have time to think about them before, now you have, and you have plenty of time to think about them. You don't have to go too far into the crowd or something, if that upsets you, don't do it, just have a few good friends who can help you in times of difficulty.

Be brave and be yourself!

What is needed is a few words, calm and indifferent, not too careful. There are many good things in the world and few bad ones. Try to do something that will achieve your goals.

Because in the past six months, you have not lived a particularly fulfilling life, and you have thought of problems much worse. The world is beautiful, the past has passed, and tomorrow will be even better. Change your mindset and the deformed standard of judging things, and you will be happy.

What you unravel is your own mind and face everything calmly.

Hope it helps you a little.

The reason why people suffer is that they pursue the wrong things!

1. The new environment is inseparable from the participation of people, so deal with interpersonal relationships, and the strangeness of the new environment will disappear when others get along.

2. In the new environment, don't be too restrained. Newcomers also have three fires, handle their own affairs well, and in the praise of others, your heels will also be stable.

3. In the new environment, you are a newcomer. Basically everyone is paying attention to you. Then your words and deeds will become the voice of others. So be mindful of your words and actions.

4. Accept the praise of others modestly, accept the criticism of others optimistically, and refuse to ask for ...... in good faith

In short, give a good impression to others, leave yourself a pure world, and maintain your own principles. I wish you the best of luck in your new environment

Every circle has a barrier, and strangers are not so easy to break into. Today, I will share with you ten effective techniques for operating in circles, which are definitely enough for you to deal with all kinds of problems.

If you work hard to find a friend, you must be a close friend. Then get along with them and get along with them, buddy, and your popularity is booming. Slowly you will find that in fact, everyone wants to call you a friend! ^0^

It's most practical to make new friends.

Others will help you, and you have to communicate with others enthusiastically.

Don't be arrogant and arrogant.

Everyone wants to know you, but you don't hit them.

Be cheerful and keep smiling to make people think you're approachable. ^

Praise, give, thanksgiving. Say what others like to hear in a way that others like.

Communication, taking the initiative to help others, enthusiasm, responsibility, etc. are all requirements for you to integrate into the group.

The first thing is to make yourself more extroverted and take the initiative to do everything. And keep smiling.

The first is to participate in more group activities, and then to do your own work well and try your best to help others! ......

The question is more complex. To put it simply, you should have high ability and quality, strong personal affinity, strong ability to accept and absorb the advantages of others, and high humility. Hope it helps.

Don't be angry when you're idle, and don't be angry about something, it's good upstairs.

1. See more and talk less, observe more and act less. Everyone who is new to a new work environment should be observed. Whether the working atmosphere of the company is open or conservative, whether the communication between colleagues is direct or subtle, whether the dress is formal or casual, and whether the cooperation between departments is smooth or tortuous, each company is different.

In this case, if you act rashly or behave in the way you have done in the past, you will most likely hit a wall, which will make it more difficult to get along with each other in the future. After understanding the general situation of the new environment, adjust yourself and let yourself integrate into the collective step by step according to the situation of the new company.

2. Conduct low-key and modest behavior. In the company, seniority is generally ranked in order of arrival, and if you act too flamboyantly and dress too prominently, it will definitely cause everyone's disgust or resistance, and this impression will go down immediately.

3. Be calm and don't rush to mingle with your colleagues right away. In fact, for newcomers, colleagues around you will also be curious, and will secretly observe you, but they will not be in a hurry to contact you immediately. Some people who are very warm with you as soon as they come may not be sincere to you in the future.

So at this time, if you are eager to show favor to the people around you, you will only be quick and will not be able to achieve it.

Fourth, it is best to adjust expectations, and it is best to recognize that you are here mainly for work, and that the relationship with colleagues is a working relationship rather than exchanging personal feelings. After the expectations are adjusted, your words and deeds will be decent and tepid, so as to arouse the favor of others. In addition, the workplace is mainly a working relationship, and actively cooperating with others at work, so that everyone can work happily is actually a more ideal way, if you have the mentality of making friends and making friends in the workplace, the possibility of frustration is greater.

If you are lucky to have friends in the workplace, it is normal if you do not have friends.

5. Be sensitive to the environment and master some handling skills, especially some newcomers in the workplace, sometimes they will be confused and involve themselves in some unnecessary office politics, and eventually become victims. It's best not to get too close to a certain department or a few people, try to stay out of the way when you feel a factional or personal fight, and keep an appropriate distance from your colleagues.

Communicate with them! Don't do things alone.