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This is a common psychological problem in teenagers. This mentality often occurs in children with excellent academic performance. They are often praised and loved by adults, and are less likely to be negatively affected.

At this time, if the child is self-centered and self-conscious, it is easy to develop this kind of mentality. If you don't adjust in time, if you encounter setbacks and injuries in the future, you will go to the other extreme, feel sorry for yourself, give up on yourself, and be depressed. I have been in counselling for seven years.

This is a little bit of my experience. It is recommended that you seek out a counselor as soon as possible to adjust. so as not to be delayed.

You can find a counselor to help you.

Lack of understanding of oneself and one's environment, or having a labeled cognition, may not be a true perception of oneself. The ancients have long said that if you don't suffer from others, you don't know yourself, and you don't know people when you suffer. Therefore, changing the lack of communication with the environment may improve one's own situation.

The upstairs one is well said. I hope you try to do something that you haven't done before, starting with something a little more difficult than you can do, and if necessary, it is better to suffer a little bit of frustration, which may make you improve.

When dating girls, you can try to start with something that has nothing to do with the relationship, such as studying. And the human side can start with the best girls, who may give you a stronger sense of superiority.

Also, be reminded that your ego is most likely due to low self-esteem and not self-confidence.

The friend on the first floor said something a little that.

First, learning psychology is actually the same as any other subject, and it is easier to start with the history of psychology, and you can choose to read "A Brief History of the Mind" or other books.

Second, to understand psychology, you can start with philosophy, literature, sociology, psychiatry, etc., depending on your personal preferences (I started with philosophy).

Thirdly, my friend on the first floor is right, and it is necessary to start understanding or analyzing it from yourself.

For example, as a quasi-scientific physics, from Aristotle to Galileo to Newton in the later period, all of them are important figures in physics, but many of their theories are wrong, so do you think that the physics community has authority?

Fifth, if psychology can be understood from your advantage, and the field of psychology is also distributed in a large number of disciplines, then as the basis for learning psychology, psychology must be understood, because the category of psychology can be divided into many subjects, so you can choose to understand the line.

Sixth, in my case, the philosophy I knew in advance was in the psychology I knew, so the influence of philosophy on psychology is also very great, in fact, philosophy is a broad discipline, and when we understand psychology, we must also be exposed to philosophical knowledge, so for psychology, understanding philosophy can be of great help to understand psychology in the later stage.

Seventh, as the friend on the first floor said, when your psychological knowledge is mature, you can establish a system for your own knowledge category (in fact, this is only the first step), of course, I don't want the book to be a reference as my friend on the first floor said, although human attention to psychology is as far away as theology, philosophy, and religion, but it is only a new type of discipline, so many psychological knowledge or attempts are still very important for learners to help and "conclusive" (if you have to feel everything yourself, then in fact, there is a lack of system).

Eighth, it is necessary to respect the existence of a discipline.

Ninth "just the generation of rational thinking mode of human psychology" This sentence actually shows the lack of rationality of the friend on the first floor, I think I can also assert that he does not know how reason is constructed, (for example, rationally you can know that a person is so painful, but your rational knowledge comes from perceptual knowledge or turned into common sense), then if you do not aim at psychological counseling or **, in fact, the knowledge of psychology can be very free.

10. Psychology really cannot solve anything, but only explain something, just as science cannot prove only falsification.

If you want to psychoanalyze your obsessive-compulsive disorder for everyone, you can analyze relatively abnormal behaviors, such as "Psychoanalysis" for a little analysis of behaviors such as slips of the tongue and forgetting, and you can also analyze social behaviors.

It is recommended that you read some psychological or philosophical works in Germany, Austria, and the United States.

Psychology needs to change the way you think, for example, you have to subconsciously analyze the behavior and psychology of everyone in daily life, so that you will slowly turn the world into a mental ability, and you can further study a wider range of psychology, psychology has no authority, and this is very important. You must learn your own analysis, the books of psychology can only be used as a reference, and constantly try to build your own psychological system. I don't think there's anything special about psychology, it's just a rational thinking mode of human psychology...

Psychology cannot solve the problem of human beings themselves, and can only do the details, and I hope that psychology in the future will be able to create (all psychology).

The 2nd floor is well analyzed, the 1st floor is a bit chaotic. But all psychology is what it means. Is it the truth of everything, or what? Anyway, it has little to do with psychology. Studying psychology is for psychology, just read books and practice.

Observe carefully, consider and compare multiple items.

Don't try to understand the knots in her heart. Protect her secrets. You tell her that I don't want or interested in hearing her knots.

You should be a bit introverted and communicate with people a lot.

It's time to read books on the mental side of things, and it's time to completely change it.

I'm not a counselor, but I've been in some of your cases before. I'm just a psychology student now, and I'll tell you how I adjusted it at that time, and you can try it.

You have to find your purpose in life, because once a person has a goal, he can go towards it regardless of the words and actions of others. Since you can't study well now, or you can't get into it, you can spend 2 or 3 days thinking about these questions: What do you really want?

What do you want to do in the future? What exactly are your interests?

After thinking clearly, it takes 1 or 2 days to look for relevant majors and schools, and then look at the annual score of these schools.

Once you've figured it out, go out for two more days, such as hiking a mountain or visiting a park. Get close to nature, listen to ** (I recommend listening to Bandari's tunes, listen to it in nature) take a break and do what you want.

In this way, you will probably spend about a week, and when you adjust your mentality, you will study again, at this time, you have a goal, and you have relaxed, and the efficiency will be much better than before. You'll feel less miserable about learning.

When you can feel that you don't need to think too much about these things and don't remember that this kind of career is not serious, you'll be fine.

How to adjust the mentality? Actually, I really want to say positive things, such as don't compare yourself with others, compare with yourself. You don't have to run fast to outrun others for your life to be meaningful.

It's that you are very comfortable in the process of running, your own improvement and exercise, you love to run, and you can run with your most comfortable posture is the most important thing. I really want to make these big points.

However, the real situation of me is that I have gone through a similar stage as you. I have taken a two-year break from school, and my posture of being far ahead has been brushed twice. But in the end, when I realized that everything was immutable, that I had to accept my own fate, and that fate had given me a specific meaning in this arrangement, I naturally accepted it.

I don't have much contact with my friends right now, although I have a lot of friends. I don't care about my former classmates all going to **, how about it. That's how I get my mentality up.

It is true that it is an ability not to compare, but it is a choice to stay away from the environment and crowd that allows you to compare.

Comparison is nature, and it can be a motivator or a hindrance. However, in any case, if you look at the gains and losses, reality will smooth it out.

Remember, the past is gone, and even though it is still affecting you, you must try to make it pass with you. The future is more important, right?

Psychological (spiritual) problems do not arise out of thin air, as long as the conditions are natural will occur, is the result of the synthesis of internal and external factors, for each person this is the inevitable result of the interaction of various situations at that time, human beings must have an instinctive consciousness of distress in order to survive and evolve, this instinctive consciousness makes people's brains worry and fear of emotional feelings, all kinds of neuroses are different aspects of this strong emotional feeling, the essence is the same, it is caused by temporary brain activity tension, My experience is that mental illness may be better without taking medicine, people's brains must be able to slowly repair their own injuries, persistence is victory, sometimes pain is caused by their ignorance, few people know that depression has special significance for people, and any quantitative change will cause qualitative change, the end of depression is a higher level of happiness, is to see everything generously, after the baptism of depression makes us have stronger immunity, resist any psychological problems.

It's simple, it's pretty much the same as I used to be! Now try to talk out loud and laugh out loud in your circle of friends! Someone offends you you should think so:

A fool, I don't care about you, I'm a gentleman. Then try to speak out loud in a crowded area. Self-motivated!

It will get better in a week.

Hello, your childhood experiences have a certain impact on your current situation when you grow up, there is a little psychological problem in childhood, but it is by no means a disease, in your description, you have an inferiority complex about your appearance, want to compare with others, jealousy, and are very sensitive to other people's every move, as long as most people have a little bit, you think you have a problem precisely because.

You don't socialize much with other people and don't understand these things, so find more joy in life!

As for your sluggish state and emotional instability, this is also human nature, and I have had it, precisely because of excessive pressure.

And as a result, you know that the positioning requirements are too high, and this is yourself harming yourself.

Be content!

You spent your childhood with your grandparents, right? That's right! There are a lot of kids like you, but there's a difference, they like to be in contact with people!

And there is the same situation as you, what you have to do is not to look at what others do and say about you, and do everything boldly! Don't be envious and jealous of those boys and girls who are better looking than you! As the saying goes, I was born to be useful!

Although they are good-looking and pretty, they may be a villain on the inside, and I personally think that beauty on the outside is nothing! Inner beauty is true beauty! According to you, you have a God-given merit This is very similar to mine, that is, to perceive the other person's demeanor and expression, so as to guess the inner movement of the person you are talking to!

All you have to do is use your kind words and actions to communicate and communicate with the other person! The more you communicate, the more you communicate, the more your heart will naturally let go!

First of all, I admire you for revealing yourself so completely. In fact, the most critical thing about you so much, that is, the root of your illness is your last few words, "position yourself too high". You know you set yourself a goal that you can't achieve, but you don't realize it, and it makes sense.

I'll give you a random analysis of a few:

1.Dense hair. You use your dark hair as a reason why others may not like you. This is your subjective and unsubstantiated inference. You don't have any proof that people think of you like that. (This is called subjective inference).

2.You want to be loved by everyone. It's impossible, 1,000 people say hello, 1 person says you're bad, you can't accept it, and you have to worry about why that person doesn't like me.

This is called the absolutization requirement) clothes hanging in the mall is for people to choose, the taste is enough, is there anything in this world that can be said to be good? have said: "People evaluate me for being able to open three or seven, and I am very satisfied when I say three points, are you greater than ***?"

I won't say much else, perfectionism is the root of all your problems.

Get out and socialize more. You will discover another world.

In fact, you said so much, I summarize the following for you to see:

1: You were a child because others said you were sensible. You're afraid of being criticized again. It may be vanity. It's like a person who makes others praise her genius all the time, and suddenly someone says that he has shortcomings, and he must not be able to accept it.

2: You said you didn't dare to look at others. Overcautious. That's how you're not confident. It can also state what you want to escape.

3: You say you are jealous that they are tall. This also illustrates vanity. Jealousy is caused by vanity.

4: You feel colored in school. If you try to read a good book, you just can't read it. Actually, it's still that you're not confident.

5: You are often filled with fantasies. This shows what you can't get in real life. Don't dare to do a way to vent out.

The methods are simple and many. But see if you can stick to it. Enough guts.

1: Lower your own requirements.

2: If you are afraid of contact with people. First of all, I went to KTV to sing by myself. Then I made an appointment with a few friends.

3: Make a few more netizens and chat more. They don't know you, don't worry about talking nonsense about you.

4: You can try yelling.

6: Watch some stress-free cartoons.

7: Give yourself some confidence. Don't take the high school entrance examination as a big deal. Learn with appropriate ease.

8: Don't try to run forward now. Try to move forward.