We don t like each other every day, what s going on???? Please, 3Q

The most important thing between husband and wife is to communicate effectively, and learn to think from each other's point of view. Don't think that a happy marriage doesn't have quarrels, that's unrealistic. Just like cooking can't be done without salt, it can be said that there is no husband and wife in the world who don't quarrel, if it really develops to the point that they don't even have the strength and mood to quarrel, it means that the marriage has come to an end.

In fact, the process of husband and wife quarreling is a process of continuous running-in, continuous adaptation, and continuous sublimation of feelings. Some people grow in quarrels, some get injured in quarrels, some people are harmonious in quarrels, and some people separate in quarrels. The key is to get the hang of "fighting":

1.Be kind and noisy. Grasp the direction well, really figure out the goal of the quarrel, and "study" the solution to the problem.

The difference between a "bona fide" quarrel and a "malicious" quarrel is that the latter tends to put aside the cause of the quarrel and only quarrel for the sake of anger. "Good-willed" quarrels, on the other hand, revolve around issues and follow certain rules. 2.

Quarrel on an equal footing. Mutual respect between husband and wife is very important in a quarrel. Quarrels between husband and wife cannot have different weight classes like boxing matches, and if the strong person scares the weak person in a simple and brutal way, smashes something or uses force, such a quarrel will not end well.

3.Be noisy in moderation. Husband and wife quarrels, as either party, you don't have to win every quarrel, it's enough to express your meaning, don't always be the last "summary speaker", you know, the last "speak" may not be able to get a "high score".

4.Quarrel behind closed doors. It is necessary to try to avoid outsiders intervening in the quarrels between husband and wife, do not try to seek sympathy and help from the outside world, and still less can bring "reinforcements" to "pressure" the other party, which will eventually be useless, on the contrary, it will make things more and more deadlocked.

5.Pay attention to the art of language. "A sentence on the fire is difficult to repair in three years", sometimes when you are angry, because you want to be happy for a while, saying a sentence is enough to make the other party hate you and go against you.

Home is a haven that we have, and we all want to be protected there, and we often have to calm down and think about whether things are worth it to be like this, and think about all the hardships and desires that came together in the first place. Another sentence needs to be given to you: home and everything is prosperous!

I hope your family can be happy

That's when you're tired of each other together, you don't want to be together anymore, and you vaguely feel that the other party is not suitable for you.

When you always look at others unpleasantly, you should use more tolerant hearts, peaceful hearts, and people and things, I believe that the situation that is not pleasing to the eyes will be reduced a lot, and your own qi will be much smoother.

First, most of the unpleasant things about others are also in themselves. The psychological motivation behind seeing others unpleasantly is self-loathing and disliking certain tendencies within oneself.

For example, if you don't like your own selfishness, you will pay attention to the selfish behavior of others. I am very snobbish and like to take advantage of others, so I am often very sensitive and hate being taken advantage of. People reinvent their self-image by denying these "own shortcomings" in others.

Second, the unpleasant aspects of others may be lacking in oneself. Seeing the smiling face of the new colleague and saying "Look at this sycophant", deep down he was criticizing himself for not coming. If you are inferior to others in some aspects, you will become jealous, subconsciously avoid the advantages of others, and focus on the "shortcomings", and the more you look at them, the more unpleasant they become.

In addition, people who have had the experience of being disliked, beaten and scolded by their loved ones in their childhood, excessively belittled, etc., have low self-esteem in their hearts, and are prone to form an inexplicable resentment in their subconscious, which is projected onto most of the people around them, as if everyone is their enemy. People who have been pampered since childhood or who have always had excellent grades, if they lose their favor and compliment, the huge psychological gap will cause jealousy and a sense of loss, and gradually look at no one pleasing to the eye.

At the moment of anger, the IQ of a person is basically zero, hurting others and hurting himself. Thinking about it from another angle, if you don't like others, you actually don't have enough self-cultivation. Changing this situation is very simple, it is to recognize the shadow of your own personality.

The more we don't like each other, the more we hate our own inner "flaws". As long as you can recognize it, you're already on the path to growth.

The vision is high, and I think they are vulgar.

It may be that I have been a little irritable lately, try to vent some of my emotions, and it will be fine in a short time.

If you have psychological problems, it is recommended that you see a doctor.

Maybe it's the environment.

Beat. You can treat him as air, if it's okay, don't go near him, and pay attention to your words when you talk, after all, people haven't done anything to be sorry for you, right? If it's just unpleasant, try to control yourself.

People are imperfect, everyone has advantages and disadvantages, as long as someone appreciates you, you are the most beautiful.

When he is air, don't look at him on the line. If you can't be the air of him, prove that you care too much about him, whether you like it or hate it.

It's good to know this kind of thing, and there is no need to say it.

If you are disgusted with him, try not to touch him.

There's no need to make yourself uncomfortable for the sake of a boring guy!

Summary. There must be something upset.

Look at what's going on with no one.

There must be something upset.

The mirror image of our heart is the truest reflection of our heart. Because of self-loathing, because of extreme dissatisfaction with oneself, it is easy to have disgust when looking at the people around him, and when he sees some vices of others, he will subconsciously treat him with the harsh attitude of criticizing himself. And the idea that it is easy to prick hair and be turbid with the world is also based on not loving myself enough.

is extremely intolerant of oneself, how can one have the spare energy to love others and tolerate others. I hate others, I disdain to be in the company of others, but I also dislike them because they have the same or similar shortcomings as ourselves, and we hate such ourselves, but because of low self-esteem or other reasons, we blindly avoid it and it is difficult to change, so that we are so hysterical that every time we see someone with similar shortcomings, we want to desperately stay away, because when we get close to him, we will see that part of ourselves that we are extremely disgusted with. So in the end, the reason for this situation is that you don't love yourself enough and don't accept your true self.

In the face of the pain caused by the huge gap between our imaginary self and ourselves, the response we take is not to change and look directly at ourselves, but to avoid the accumulation of self-loathing. "Why can't you do even such a small thing, I hate you, you are my shame, and when I encounter a waste similar to yours, I also send disgust to it"The key lies in our attitude towards ourselves, try to accept ourselves, accept our shortcomings, try to learn to love ourselves. I believe that by then, everyone you see will be extremely lovely.

It's not pleasing to see anything.

Catch fire. Everyone has a time when they look at others annoying.

Every day, a 58-year-old man.

It's a good idea to talk to someone.

In fact, it is a person's psychological problem to look at people unpleasantly.

1. Jealousy, jealousy is a derogatory term. So this is also a bad state of mind, jealousy is that the other person is superior in some aspect of himself, or much better. This will make you jealous, and over time you will look at him unpleasantly.

2. Arrogance, arrogance is also a derogatory term. Arrogant people only have themselves in their eyes, and everything around them is not pleasing to the eye. Always self-centered and doesn't think about other people's feelings. It can be said that it is not pleasing to anyone.

3. The practices of others affect some aspects of themselves, such as: performance, status, and power. And these are also their own mentality problems, which will produce the above two psychological problems.

Life is like a scale, and the trade-offs between gains and losses will make this balance tend to a stable state.

What's the deal with always looking at others unpleasantly? In life, we inevitably encounter the kind of love to provoke, always look at others unpleasantly, and keep talking about other people's small shortcomings everywhere, which is very annoying. Psychologists say that people who like to find fault with others may have the following kinds of psychology.

The first is inferiority complex, this kind of people are often very inferior, can not pick out their own advantages, self-evaluation is very low, feel that they are not very good, when they pick other people's things, they will feel that the people around them are not perfect, there are many shortcomings, even inferior to themselves, they belittle others to achieve the effect of improving themselves, in order to improve their own self-esteem.

The second is that this person may have perfectionism, which is a little better than the above. Because perfectionist people not only have high requirements for others but also high requirements for themselves, but this kind of person is prone to psychological problems, because they always demand perfection, demand for themselves and others, and it is easy to have psychological problems.

The third is jealousy, which is actually very common to be honest, and many people may have this kind of thought, but some are slight and some are serious. This kind of love to pick on others is extreme jealousy, thinking that others may be much better than themselves in many places, and when they find this person's shortcomings, there will be a kind of person who is actually not as good as themselves.

So how to deal with such people? First, we can admit our mistakes when they pick on the thorns, so that they may have the feeling of punching the cotton, and naturally they won't say anything more. If it would be very embarrassing to admit his mistakes, we can ignore him when they provoke him, let him sing a one-man show by himself, and people like them will feel embarrassed if they ignore him, and then they will stop talking.

Generally speaking, there will always be a reason why you don't like people, maybe it's because you're more similar - people will always reject people who are particularly similar to you, maybe it's because you're jealous of her - don't admit it, this is very common, maybe it's because she has offended your ...... beforeAll kinds of situations are possible, you have to analyze yourself deeply, find out the most necessary reason why you can't get along with her, and solve the problem according to the reason is the best solution.

That means that your pattern is not broad enough, and you are always willing to look down on things, and you are willing to take care of things, so don't think too much, and don't ask me to do everything carefully.

There is always a reason why you don't like people, maybe it's because you're more similar - people will always reject people who are particularly similar to you, or maybe it's because you're jealous of her.

It's normal, sometimes you don't feel comfortable at the first glance of people, and if you do this to everyone, it means that you are not good enough, you are not working hard enough.

Be cynical, see more of the great rivers and mountains of the motherland, live happily, and be kind to everyone you meet.

Then change yourself, when it is impossible to change others, then you can only change yourself.