After middle age, women or men, who is more afraid of divorce? Why?

I think it may be that men are more afraid of divorce, for ordinary people, it may be that men are more afraid of divorce, at least the middle-aged couples around me, men are more lazy with women, so I feel that men are more afraid of divorce, and even if women file for divorce, they are not very willing. Of course, if it is a middle-aged man who looks like a mixture, then it may be that women are more afraid of divorce, because men have some capital, so he still has choices, but ordinary men, he understands too well that if his wife is there, the family is there, and if the wife is gone, this home will be gone.

You have to understand that for an ordinary middle-aged man, he actually has no competitive value, first he has reached the greasy age, you said that even if you keep it well, you can't be handsome, although the little girl now likes to find an uncle, but the uncle that people are looking for is rich, you say that you are a middle-aged uncle, you have no money, your career is average, your family is average, and people don't look down on you.

And at his age, in addition to the original match, there is indeed no woman who can take a fancy to him anymore, middle-aged may have three highs, children need to be raised, parents are old, and they will need to be taken care of in the near future, the family food must be cooked, the land must be mopped, and the house must be cleaned up, do you think that the first to find a woman who is willing to cook for him, wash clothes for him, and clean for him, who else is willing to do it except the original partner, so he is not willing to divorce at all, isn't it?

But many people may say, the same is true for women, she has no choice after divorce, yes she doesn't have a choice, but she can take care of herself very well, she doesn't have to serve them a large family, she is happy to be idle, isn't it, so women are not afraid of divorce, it is men who are afraid of divorce, the middle-aged man who is used to being served, he has no wife, he has to cook his own meals, he has to wash his own clothes, he has to mop the floor by himself, and the toilet has to be brushed by himself, do you think he did it.

In fact, for everyone, we are at different ages, our thoughts and behaviors will undergo great changes, especially after we enter middle age, then some people will have such doubts, that is, after middle age, men and women who are more afraid of divorce? Why? On this issue, in my personal opinion, in fact, I think boys will be more afraid of divorce, mainly because after middle age, it is difficult for boys to find a girlfriend, let's learn more about it.

1 Boys are more afraid of divorce

We all know that in fact, at the beginning, when boys and girls fall in love, there are certain differences between them, for example. Some girls are indeed more difficult to chase, but after chasing, boys don't know how to cherish, they will often do some more hearty things, in this way, it will make girls feel more sad and sad, so at this time, most girls are more afraid of breaking up, but generally after middle age, boys are more afraid of divorce. This is a result that has been summarized through a large amount of data.

2 It's harder for guys to find a girlfriend

Now we can understand that in fact, it is difficult for middle-aged men to find a girlfriend or remarry, and generally they can find a girlfriend who is also a second-married girl, so for this phenomenon, it is just that it is difficult for ordinary boys to continue to find the next marriage partner, so they generally do not choose to divorce.

So now we can understand that in fact, generally those men after middle age, in ordinary life, if their marriage is divorced, or they die because of illness, they will choose to die alone, because it is too difficult to find a girlfriend. In fact, such a phenomenon cannot be earned, it is indeed more common in real life, and now a significant change in our country is the serious imbalance between men and women. So after we get married, we must treat our wives well.

Men are more afraid of divorce. This is because after men reach middle age, they want to live a stable life, and at the same time, they are more dependent on their own women.

Women are more afraid of divorce, because in a marriage women are weak, some women don't even have jobs, no economy, and women are reluctant to have their children, so women are more afraid of divorce.

Women are more afraid of divorce. Because women have a poor sense of security in marriage and have adapted to married life, they are more afraid of divorce.

There are exceptions to everything, and there are many middle-aged men who are not afraid of divorce, most of these men are rich and material men, they are not afraid of being alone after divorce, but after divorce, they can get more freedom and exchange their material for the life they want more.

And those middle-aged men who are afraid of divorce, one is not very rich in material conditions, and the other is that they still have deep feelings for their wives, and they are just confused for a while to make mistakes.

And what are middle-aged men who are afraid of divorce afraid of? I think it should be roughly these three things.

Middle-aged couple. First, it is difficult to marry another woman in the current marriage market, and the issue of bride price has always been a big problem.

Many men who have never been married are still unable to find a suitable partner because of the bride price, and the man who has divorced should be asked for more in the bride price, for such a family, more bride price means that it is more difficult to marry a woman.

And for many women, they don't want to marry a divorced man, let alone if they have children.

Middle-aged couple. Second, it is too difficult to raise a child, but if there is a child, I think every parent should want this child.

But after having a child, how to raise it is a big problem. A child can not live without a mother, especially in life can not live without a mother, the mother's care for the child is visible to the naked eye, a man with a child and a woman with a child, the two are definitely women with children in life happier.

And most men have a lot of entertainment at work, on the one hand, they have to go to work, and on the other hand, they feel sorry for their children, so they will be in a dilemma.

Middle-aged couple. 3. If there is no woman in the family, it will not become like a family, if there is no woman in the family, it will not be like a family, this should be a fact that every man understands in his heart.

After the divorce, there is no woman in the family, the mother is old and needs to be taken care of, the children are still young and still need someone to take care of them, and the trivial things in the family need someone to take care of them.

In fact, the work of housewives is not easier than that of men, don't look at the work at home is very little, but it is very trivial, sometimes women are busy all morning, they don't know what they are busy with, but the morning passes.

And these trivial housework can involve people's minds even more and make people feel haggard.

For these trivial things, it is difficult for men to complete them with their hearts, and over time the home becomes a "kennel".

As the saying goes, a hundred years of repair can be crossed in the same boat, and a thousand years of repair can be slept together. There are many things that a man and a woman need to go through before becoming a husband and wife, and there are many things that need to be undertaken, and the relationship between the two needs to be cultivated for a long time.

If there is a crystallization of love, then this family will pull people's hearts even more.

Therefore, you should still be cautious about the topic of divorce, even if it is not for yourself, but also for the health and happiness of your children.

How to manage a marriage is a big problem, and it takes two people to work together, but I believe that as long as two people have the same goal, the effort will definitely be effective.

I went to school before I went to work, and I worked after graduation, and before I knew it, I was in my thirties. In the process, I didn't pay attention to feelings, and I didn't think about getting married. The point is that I don't have that good conditions.

Although I don't want to start a business before I start a family, at least I have some capital in my hands. Otherwise, I don't have anything, how can I get married, how can I live after marriage? It's because I put aside my emotional things for a while that I have more energy to work and earn money.

For several years in a row, my job was just a little better, and before it was completely stable, my mother began to frantically urge me to get married. Although she had pushed before, she didn't push that hard at this time.

Originally, I was very determined in my heart. My mother urged me to get married, and I gradually wavered. After the tremors, I couldn't wait to find someone to marry.

I didn't want to find a complete stranger to run in with each other, and I felt too unstable, so I screened it and found that my former colleague was still single. Before that, I had never thought about the emotional intersection with that colleague. But when I couldn't wait to get married, I felt like if I married that colleague, I should do the same.

Although everything went well and my proposal was accepted, there was a big difference in mentality between us. Her mentality is obviously much better than mine. To put it simply, it doesn't matter if she gets married or not, but I can't wait to get married.

In this regard, I am inferior to her. We don't buy a house for a while, we rent a house for a while. My sense of responsibility tells me that renting a house all the time is not a very long way.

We must have our own home.

With such a plan, I have been working hard to buy a house, make money, save money, and not give up, without stopping. My mom gave me a bad idea. She said

Anyway, she didn't dare to divorce and let her parents buy you a house! I told her the truth, "Mom, I'm more afraid of divorce than she is!" Now on the boat of marriage, I feel that I can't go on.

I didn't dare to turn back, so I could only move forward. Do you know the consequences of divorce? Once divorced, everything will be disrupted.

I finally have a goal now. If you disrupt the plan, you don't know what will happen in the future. What should you do when the time comes.

I can't stand it! ”

Although I am not very clear, although my mom may not understand what I am saying, I know it very well. I'm afraid of divorce, I'm afraid of divorce. I can only persevere. At the age of 38, I had to start all over again. I really don't have the courage.

Those who are afraid of divorce can only cherish marriage!

In reality, many couples are in a state of affairs in the above situations. If you don't get married, you want to get married, and after you get married, you're afraid of divorce. They have been living in extreme anxiety and fear.

People with this mentality, regardless of whether your spouse is afraid of divorce or not, you have to start with yourself and protect your marriage. I was afraid of divorce because I was not solid enough because I was not strong enough. While protecting my marriage, I want to try to make myself stronger slowly.

Taking a step back, many people are afraid of divorce, many because they got married too hastily and were not prepared and psychologically prepared. It is precisely because of such a lack of self-confidence that it is not practical to get married.

Because after middle age, I found that my wife is the best person in the world for me and the most loyal person to the family.

Because people don't realize the importance of home until middle age, they are more willing to settle down after middle age, and only this woman who has been by their side for many years can give men this sense of security.

Because the more people reach middle age, the more they will find that home is a haven from the wind, and home can give him a sense of security, when he is tired and sleepy, and when he is in a bad mood, the first thing that comes to mind is home, so he is more afraid of divorce.

When a person reaches middle age, for men, it is already the year of establishment, and everything will not change much, including money and social status, which can almost be decided.

I think it's because most men know that it's hard to find a wife after divorce, so they will be more afraid of divorce.

Who will be more "bleak" among middle-aged divorced men and women? How can we live well? Daily life will tend to a steady development direction, due to emotional stability, children grow up, there is a certain amount of savings.

Such a happy family, I believe that this is what everyone looks forward to, and only in this way can we see the dawn of life in the future. The ideal is very beautiful, but the reality has always been cruel, although everyone thinks that two people have a future to talk about together, but the reality does not necessarily walk according to the laws you imagined.

If a woman does not have a little income in daily life, it is very difficult, because only the husband in a family is diligent, only one person is making money, the family will be easy to be short of funds, resulting in the situation of debt, and this situation is difficult to improve, because a family life is not satisfactory, daily life is really not easy, in case something goes wrong with the boy, women do not know what to do. Women have no life, and they don't know how, because they don't have the level of independence and self-improvement, which will also lead to their own inability to take care of themselves. Although it seems that when you have a good husband, others are particularly envious, and it is also a sign that you will go into the tomb, because this will make you lose a lot of level, you don't know how to make money, you have no ideals, and you don't have the pursuit of perfection.

After the divorce of middle-aged couples, boys are likely to find new lovers quickly, because men are too realistic in daily life, they like it is love, and if they don't like it, they don't love, it's too realistic. Because a man can do whether he loves or doesn't love at the time, and how much he hates in the end. Women are generally different, women are rational creatures in emotion, and it is difficult to distinguish the relationship between the two.

After a boy enters middle age, he must know how to run his marriage and family, know how to cherish his lover, and invest more love in his family's funds, so that the relationship can be long-term and make you happier in this life. After all, for a woman, women care about their children very much, and expect that the divorce of two people will not affect people, so they have a certain contact with their ex-husbands, and they are very aesthetic in front of their children, but in fact they are the ones who are hurt more.