My fianc e s family, borrowing money from my family!!

If you want to lose a friend, just borrow money from him, but now it's a relative, and I have to consider it from another angle, I think it's better to do what I can, it's better to borrow something, and I can't even do it when I can't even do it.

Obviously, if you borrow or not, you think about it, if your fiancée loves you, she won't care if you borrow money or not, the key is that you two will live in the future. Give a small part (two or three thousand) bluntly say don't pay it back, borrow money and don't have it. That's how I solved this problem, and it worked well.

1. Do not offend your fiancée; the second also reconciled her relationship with her mother's family; Third, it will not embarrass yourself and your family.

You're doing the right thing, but there's no need to lend them too much, but they won't be able to pay you back when you need money, and it will be even more unpleasant. You can explain your difficulties to them and borrow a little appropriately.

Your wife's family only has money in their eyes! Don't lend him all of it, just lend him a small amount! You say you don't have that much money, and you have to raise children!

Look at your wife's family and no one will pay you back! If you lend it all to him! You're gone with all that money!

If you don't borrow it, it hurts your feelings!

Don't borrow

It's not right to borrow what we did before.

But what if you want to borrow it, what if you have any trouble?

Be cautious.

Congratulations on buying a wife for 30,000 yuan. In fact, people around me generally reflect that raising a daughter is selling a daughter. When getting married, the dowry is knocked on a sum every New Year's holiday.

Although it is a joke, the Chinese customs are so that you can only endure it like your parents. But remind you that the IOU is written well, in case the relationship is not good for 2 months, you can come back. You tell the woman's parents that your brother should keep the IOU for the account.

Of course, "buy a wife", the wife is obedient, then there is no need to borrow it.

If you want to open a man, after all, you have to be the pillar of the family, and you must be calm. Today's powerlessness and remorse must have their own efforts to change this situation. I think we're all adults, you know what I mean.

You have to be cautious. Examine her true purpose. After all, it's your life's work. Don't sink too deep. Maybe 30,000 is still a small amount compared to the future. It's not that I think people are too bad, but in reality there are bad people.

First: What do you want to borrow? Does it make sense?

Second: whether there is the ability to taste it. Or the repayment plan is unstable.

Third: determine whether you can get married.

Fourth: All of the above have passed, let your wife and his father say that it is okay to borrow money, and you must make an IOU.

Maybe he has something unspeakable, maybe he's tempting, in short, long live understanding.

Then you say you don't have any money, try them.

My situation is almost the same as the landlord, some time ago my brother also asked me if my credit card was free, and then directly asked me to cash out 10,000 to him, saying that he wanted to repay his cousin's money, he was in a bad mood, his wife and my sister-in-law were still telling me that she was speculating in foreign exchange, invested more than 10,000, and listened to it and was angry, obviously his wife has money, why should he come to ask me to borrow money from my sister, and more than once, I didn't help me when I divorced, in order to ask them to repay the money, I also quarreled with my sister-in-law, my mother too, my brother supports everything he does, what about me, buy a house and ask her to borrow 20,000 yuan and say no! Although I borrowed it later, I still feel very cold in my heart, and my brother's son, every time I go home, I have to buy a large bag of snacks, no less than two hundred yuan, and I have to send a red envelope of 100 alone, I used to send it on my own initiative, and now, I feel quite active, I want to buy everything to ask me for money, I really feel a little upset, my money is also hard work and frugality, now I don't dare to go back, as an elder, I can't say anything, as a daughter, I used to be partial to my brother and I never complained, but now I will, after all, I pay more than my brother, I feel that the family is an individual, they are all groups, always tell me to go back and not buy things, but once I didn't buy it and said that I was asked to come back to buy some snacks for my nephew, I was embarrassed not to buy it, if it wasn't for my daughter in the same county with them, I think I wouldn't want to go back to that place!! Rootless duckweed is the same everywhere!!

The subject can consider recommending to relatives to use regular online loan products to borrow money, which is safe and reliable. For example, use money to spend.

Let's just say that there is no money, the money has been lent to them, and I haven't paid it back once, settle accounts with your mother, and tell them the pain in your heart, just because you have always said yes, they will borrow from you all the time. Go listen to it"Thirteen is not close"This song.

It's very simple, you can find a reason, for example, if you want to buy a house, or if you have a loss in business, and you have to pay back the money every month, you can borrow money from them in turn, and say that you are in trouble now, and ask them to help, so that they will not be able to borrow money from you in the future.

These things really need to be communicated well with your family.

How to say a family, there is something to say slowly. Your difficulties too.

It is to make it clear to them and to be understood by them. You should also understand the patriarchal thinking of most Chinese families, so don't pay too much attention to these issues. Find a good opportunity to invite the family out for dinner and have a good talk about communication, it is best to only invite the main people of the parties to go, and then explain your difficulties and your thoughts in person, now you are the biggest creditor and have the right to speak loudly.

Then ask your brother what difficulties he has, let's figure out a way together, borrowing money is not the solution to the problem. The relationship between the family must not be bad, visit your mother more often, buy some clothes, these cannot be saved. I wish you success (adopt me, thank you).

You say, "I'm very tight on money now, and I have to use my own money, and I don't have any extra money to lend them."

You came to complain to him first, and said that you bought ** or **bai behind your family's back, and you caught it, and now you want money to turnover, let him help you borrow some, zhi your own family, he still borrows dao from you, and it is normal for you to borrow his money.

In addition, he shirked and said no, you rely on him and let him find a way, such a person, you say a thousand ways and ten thousand, it is better to let him borrow money to help him use, or you will offend him. Even if he lets him see through acting, he can't say anything.

The previous friends have said it very well.

I'll add one more source.

Dot!! People have to learn to say no!! A person who will not reject others will suffer in society in the future. It will be calculated by others.

You have so many reasons, why don't you take out one and tell your brother, you think he is your relative and wants to give him face, but has he given you face, it is not easy to work outside, he should know, but because he knows that you will not "wipe off" his face and give him a can't get off the stage, so he will ask you to borrow money one after another.

Next time I borrow money from you, just make an excuse, and tell your brother about the situation that he borrowed money from you before, which caused you to live in difficulty, and know it with affection.

ps: Did he borrow money before with an IOU?。。

I met Bai the same, although I was single

People are fed and the whole family is not hungry, since I have to borrow it, I have to give it to dao but I don't have a typical moonlight clan version How can I say that there is no deposit.

Right, say too much People will only blame me for not having savings, and it doesn't look like a worried baby with no money, I was sick and lay down for three months, and I didn't think that they would borrow money from them After all, we haven't been in touch for more than ten years, I know that they are all good people, but I really don't, I hope you understand me. Don't say why I don't have savings, my own life is full of ups and downs, it's okay to say that I don't think I have a heart, who do I find when I'm suffering outside, I want to ask why you think of me.

I'm in the same situation.

Bai you are the same, my parents are like this, patriarchal, I gave me away when I was born, I was 8 years old and I wanted to come back, to.

I came out to work at the age of 15, borrowing money endlessly, I'm really fed up, my brother and sister-in-law's words are so ugly, hurry up God is so unfair, why was I born in this kind of family. Recently, my relatives said that they were going to borrow 100,000 yuan from me, but it was not funny, 100,000 yuan, and I couldn't save it for 1 year's hard work. I really want to get rid of this kind of family.

It's just borrowing money, of course, I don't want his family to know, first, because I don't want to be blamed, and secondly, because he wants to do something to hide from the world.

It should be something to do, and not let the family know.

First of all, it's not right for you to go to your wife to borrow money, just let you refuse your parents directly. The money of your wife's parents is also hard-earned, and your wife's analysis is also correct, and you can't get married and become a reason why you should lend money to your family.

In this case, now you are the only one to do the work of your parents, you can do as much as you can, and the daughter should not rely on the dowry to live on the man's side, and preparing more dowry for her is nothing more than wanting to save face, the key is that you have the ability and level to be the daughter-in-law of others. Only you can mediate such a thing.

I am the heart bai

Counselor, I hope to help you.

1) Feeling that your parents' ideas are unreasonable, your parents think that your wife's version of the property of your mother's right is your property, and they nominally say that they borrow money from your wife, but in fact they think that your wife should take the money;

2) Your parents say that you don't look like a man and can't control your wife, which is their traditional thinking. I wonder what you think about this? Do you also think that you don't look like a man and can't control your wife's thoughts?

3) You can tell your parents how much money you can come up with, and you can buy as much dowry as you can.

Your sister is married, and how much money your wife is willing to give to your sister is her affection. I hope you don't morally kidnap her. If you divide your parents and make such a fuss, the counselor is very worried about the impact on your relationship as a couple.

If you have any questions, you can continue to discuss, I wish you a happy and happy life!

This question is a bit of a problem.

Now that the problem is out.

You need to face it and solve it.

The emotions of your fiancée's parents should be calmed down as soon as possible, and the resentment will grow over time.

Each generation has its own concept, and I personally feel that your future parents-in-law are still not enlightened, since they are going to become a family, then they will respect your intentions, you must first prepare rings, necklaces, earrings and other engagement tokens, and the gift money is also to be prepared, and the specific amount can be discussed with the matchmaker.

There are places where these things are a must.

After you have prepared these things, go to your parents-in-law's house to apologize, explain what you have done badly, and be cheeky and have more smiles.

This kind of thing can't be done by others to help you much, the key is that you have to communicate with them more and communicate more, and the son-in-law and parents-in-law will inevitably not understand each other at first.

The problem is not very serious, and you will definitely find the happiness you want by working hard.

I see.

It's a simple question.

It's money!!

Either ask your girlfriend to borrow some first, or you go out and borrow some.

Get through the difficulties in front of you first.

All they care about is the weight of gifts and money.

Then you hurry up and make up to the level in their hearts, and it's best to add more.

To show sincerity! Otherwise, do you think that if you tell them about your family's difficult situation and future plans, they will be moved and then refuse to accept your gift money?

Impossible, right?

So the key is the problem of more money and less money...

It's hard to die a penny for a hero.

That's it.

Money is not a problem, anything that money can solve is a problem.

Two approaches. 1: Borrow money, save face for your parents-in-law, and then tell them that your money is borrowed, and it will be up to you to pay it back in the future.

2: Hurry up and communicate, you can't put it off. It is best for your parents to deal with her parents. If you talk too much about this matter, it will not be good for you to get along in the future.

Let's see if your family has not done it, can you remedy it, it is better for the parents of both sides to get engaged.

In the end, it's a ruthless move, and you can use it when it doesn't work.

That's dragging, still in touch with your girlfriend, after all, it's the two of you who are going to get married. When the parents-in-law are helpless, they can get married. But it's best not to use this trick.,Your pressure will be great.,It's estimated that I will go to my parents-in-law's house in the future.。。。

In fact, his parents don't want your money, the purpose of asking for money is to look better among relatives.

You did a mistake by not inviting a matchmaker to attend. Haha, as for the engagement gift, even if her parents don't talk about it, your wife will miss you for a long time in the future. When I got married, I wasn't engaged.

My wife talks about me every day. Later, I was too busy to get married and forgot to buy a ring, and I was read by my wife for a lifetime. Later, I made up five, and she finally stopped talking about me.

Her parents' emotions can only start from the face. I don't understand your customs. This may not help you much.

However, you can try to talk to her parents. Do the above remedy from the future action. Take a look at the size and grade of the banquet, for example.

The specifications of the wedding car, the new house or the future life, see if it can be recognized by her parents. And the action is going to be fast. Otherwise, your girlfriend is getting older day by day, and it's hard to know what the situation will be in the future.