I m working hard, but why didn t I get what I wanted

Hello, this is a very difficult question, because everyone has experienced this problem. Obviously, I feel that I have worked very hard, and in the end I have achieved nothing, this feeling is really very painful, so I will touch you first

I think there are two ways to deal with this problem.

First of all, what do you think is "obviously working hard", is it really hard work? (Don't worry, this question is not a picker, nor is it a negation of your efforts) I think it's entirely possible to look at this from someone else's point of view. Sometimes what we think is our own effort is actually not our effort, such as direction, way, method, and effort is in all aspects, so it may be better to invite a reliable elder to Ban Bang Mang

Second, in fact, don't really have the mentality that I don't get this kind of. Think back to what you have (it's a cliché and doesn't work for some people) and what you want, is what you need? Is what you want?

Does what you want involves the interests of others? There are too many distractions to disrupt the judgment of this. You might as well try to improve your approach and see if you can achieve your goals?

Above, I wish you a happy day.

That's right. Hand fighting, it is forbidden to cut two cuts and two passes.

Luck or hard work is not enough.

Hard work is not enough.

At one time, for the understanding of this sentence, I habitually used the sentence "pay is not necessarily rewarded, and if you don't pay, there must be no return" to explain or understand.

Today, I read an article in "You Could Have Lived a Better Life" written by Jian Bai: You can't get what you want if you work hard, which expounds a point of view that I have been ignoring.

People always complain that they don't get what they give, but sometimes there is no connection between what they give and what they want, it's like planting a field of corn and envying someone else's field for growing apples."

One of the most common phenomena in this society, such as: "Two girls, one girl works actively and seriously, works hard, and eventually becomes a leftover girl, and she can't buy a house after hard work; Another girl, who went to work just to not be idle, had something to do, dressed up in a showy manner, moonlight, and finally found a rich husband, and lived in the villa with a shout." You may say, the world is really unfair, why is there no corresponding reward for hard work?

All results have a corresponding reason. Different choices, different roads, and naturally different results.

We all think that if we work hard, the world will owe us, and everything for us should be better because of this. Work hard at work, so love should also become ideal; Study hard, life must compensate us. How can trying to harvest apples in a cornfield not be asking for trouble?

The longer you live, the more you understand that you have to work hard where you want to do what you want, in the work, we often face such a situation, maybe you work very hard, and your performance is good, but in the end it is not you who is promoted, but it is another stupid person with mediocre performance, but good at doing things in front of the leader. Maybe many people will say that this is unfair, in fact, if you think about it carefully, there is nothing unfair, you will have results in ** pay in. What you pay is your own conscientiousness and responsibility for the work, so what you gain is the first place in performance; Another person pays for his own care and concern for the leader, so what he gains is the trust of the leader, which can add points in appreciation.

This ultimately comes to the sense of purpose, many people don't know what their goals are, just like me at the moment, just go to read, study, keep yourself busy, and feel fulfilled every day, but when you are idle, there will be bursts of anxiety and tension, and when it is serious, there is even a feeling of suffocation, and you will feel that your current busy work has no meaning, even if it is studying. Because there is no goal, there is no direction, and my learning and efforts have not been reflected in the corresponding value. At this moment, I don't understand what kind of reward can be obtained for such efforts.

I just feel that not studying is a step back, just to relieve the anxiety in my heart on the surface.

Knowing what you want and having no distractions is the most important thing, and steadfast efforts will inevitably lead to a steadfast future. Therefore, if you work hard, you will get what you want, and an important premise is: have a goal and find the direction. The harvest will always come in the direction of your efforts.