If one day your parents are gone and your siblings are gone, what are the things you have to take th

To take the initiative to keep in touch with brothers and sisters, and to often get together with brothers and sisters, to do their duty, should have the number of courtesies, to take the initiative to strengthen contact, but also to maintain the most basic distance, in the face of things between relatives can help, do not shirk.

Take the initiative to deepen communication and exchanges with them, enhance the feelings between each other, take the initiative to ask them to eat together during the New Year's holiday, send some gifts, and try to help each other when the other party encounters difficulties.

All I have to do is take care of myself, don't let myself get hurt or get sick, let myself earn a lot of money, and leave a guarantee for myself.

This should be pretty good. Even if the departure of parents does not affect the relationship between siblings, it is a good thing.

Strive to improve your abilities, and you should save more money to make yourself an excellent person, who can rely on your other half, or your children.

Then make some good friends, meet some like-minded people, and be with friends, so that life is not particularly lonely, and there will still be warmth.

In many families, siblings are very harmonious when their parents are alive, and they go back and forth during the holidays, and they often keep in touch. But when the parents leave, this may be a different story.

Some siblings become less intimate and more distant.

Why is this happening? The reason behind it is too realistic and a little sad.

1. Parents are cohesive in their feelings, and when they are with their parents, their brothers and sisters have to come back to visit their parents, so they will always get together, and there will be exchanges when they meet.

If the parents leave, the connection can be alienated as a result. Parents are here, home is there, parents are not there, and the family is scattered, which is very realistic.

2. It is not excluded that some families hide some contradictions, and the parents can help mediate when they are alive, but one day when the parents die, conflicts will break out, such as when it comes to the distribution of family property, and children are prone to disagreements.

And some parents are eccentric when they are young, although they are not put out on the surface, but the unfavored children will always have pimples in their hearts, and when their parents die, the relationship between relatives is also cold, and some even die of old age and do not get along.

3. The parents are no longer alive, the children are also married, and some have grandchildren, because they have to take care of their own small families, many of them will live with their children, so it is not easy for everyone to get together.

4. Due to geographical reasons, brothers and sisters are distributed in different places, although the traffic has become convenient now, but the age has also become older, many people have inconvenient legs and feet, it is not easy to go out of a long way, it is often a red and white happy event in the family, and everyone can get together to see each other.

Like these reasons are very realistic, people pay the most attention to family affection, but the parents are no longer alive, and family affection often can't withstand reality.

Over the years, when I visited relatives during the Chinese New Year, I discovered a phenomenon: that is, many siblings of the same mother, as long as one of the parents is alive, regardless of the private relationship, everyone still maintains superficial contacts. But as long as the parents are gone, the brothers and sisters will slowly cut off contact, which is embarrassing.

Why do many families stop siblings after their parents pass away? The reality is brutal.

Parents are here, and the hearts of brothers and sisters have a belonging, even if they live in all corners of the world, they have a destination for the New Year's holidays.

Parents are here, there is still a place to come in life, parents go, and there is only a way back in life. "For all people, as long as our parents are still there, our hearts still have a direction and belonging. It doesn't matter what new identities and roles siblings have as they develop in their respective circumstances and developments.

But unity has an identity, that is, the children of parents. The love and bond between parents and children is eternal and deep, as long as there are no unsolvable knots and grudges between children and parents. So no matter what entanglements and grievances there are with other brothers and sisters, then the kindness to parents in my heart cannot be let go.

So I should go to my parents' house every New Year's holiday, just to chat and chat with my parents. And parents are the root of their children's hearts and spiritual pillars. As long as the parents are still there, the brothers and sisters have a hope in their hearts and have motivation, so in the days of reunion, in the days important to the parents, even if the children settle in all corners of the world, they will return to their hometowns to return to their parents despite all difficulties, and the parents are also happy.

But once the parents are gone, the backbone of the entire Shenchang branch court has disappeared, the children have lost the hope in their hearts, and there is no place worth nostalgia for their hometown and hometown. The focus of Xunsong's children's lives is on their own small family and their own life circle, and the common contact between brothers and sisters is becoming less and less, coupled with their older and older age, the juniors begin to string relatives, and the connection between brothers and sisters is getting weaker and weaker.

When the parents are there, some conflicts between siblings can also be hidden and adjusted, and once the parents are no longer there, the contradictions between siblings will erupt.

For families with many children, there is no barrier between siblings, and all love each other, which is a blessing for parents and a success for parents. But such families are in the minority after all.

Most families with many children have disagreements between their children and their parents because of their parents' education, partiality, etc. But when the parents are still there, the parents will mediate and maintain the feelings of their children, and the children will not care too much about the face of their parents, and at the same time, in order not to make each other too ugly, they will also endure it, and the scene should be handled how to do it, and everyone can maintain the peace on the surface.

But once the parents are gone, the person who speaks in the middle is gone. There is a lack of a bridge of communication between brothers and sisters, and there is no need for everyone to compromise, and there is no need to look at You Min's face, many contradictions will explode directly, once brothers and sisters start to quarrel, the consequences will be more ruthless than strangers.

1) Parents are the root of their children, and parents have to come back to see their parents when they are siblings, so they will always get together, and if they can meet, they will communicate.

And if one day the parents are gone, this connection may be alienated. Parents are there, home is there, parents are not there, home is scattered, this is a very true portrayal.

2) It is not excluded that some families once had some hidden contradictions, and their parents could help mediate when they were alive, but one day this bond is broken, and conflicts will break out, such as when it comes to the distribution of property, which is prone to disagreements.

There are also some parents who were partial when they were young, although they will not be on the bright side, but the unfavored children may have a pimple in their hearts, and the relationship with their relatives has become more and more cold after the death of their parents, and some even do not get along with each other in old age.

3) On the day when the parents were gone, the children also got married, and some of them also hugged their grandchildren, because they had to take care of their children's small families, many of them lived with their children, so it was not easy for their own generation to get together.

4) Due to geographical reasons, the brothers and sisters are distributed in different regions, although the traffic is very convenient, but as the age is getting older, many legs and feet are not very convenient, and it is not easy to sail out of a long way. Usually there are red and white ceremonies in the family to meet.

The above reasons are actually very realistic, Chinese are the most particular about family affection, but when their parents are gone, many of them can't resist reality, and the warmth and coldness of people are undoubtedly revealed at this time.

Candy Mom's Message].

Parents are here, and there is still a way to go in life; When your parents go, there is only one way back in life. Parents are a lifelong favor, and brothers and sisters are in love for a lifetime.

In fact, this problem still varies from person to person, and some families are more united after their parents leave, but such families usually have a "backbone", or a big brother, or an eldest sister, who can unite the strength of the family.

Some respect their elder sisters, and they will go to their elder sisters' houses together to reunite in the reunion year, just like when their parents were there; Some are brothers and sisters, who usually get along well, and when they get together, they get together.