Why do some people think that women are the losers in a marriage?

Because everyone's values are different.

First of all, in a marriage relationship, the pressure on women is far greater than that of men. Women's pressures are on the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law after marriage, pregnancy, and taking care of the family. Most men have the idea that they just earn money to support their families.

Women are different, after marriage, women are here, only you, and their parents are not around, if the family relationship is not very good after marriage. Then women will be wronged in this family, and women are a vulnerable group, with less strength than men and weaker than men.

Secondly, the role of a woman is also a mother. As a job seeker, Bao Ma will also be restricted in job hunting. And after the end of the marriage relationship between the two parties, due to the current conservative thinking, other people's gossip will be a mental blow to Bao's mother.

According to the data, more than 50 per cent of men do not have the responsibility of fatherhood after the end of their marriage.

Finally, after marriage, women have no home, and being alone with children will increase the burden of women's lives. As a result, the woman's life is a mess, and the chance of remarrying with children is small, and it will not be very fair to the children after remarriage, and it is very unfair to women.

Therefore, in the marriage relationship, the woman is the one who suffers.

Why do some people always think that women are the losers in marriage?

Many times our own decisions come not just from us, but from a group. The idea of interaction between men and women comes from a collective subconscious in our culture. Maybe you can't tell the exact reason, and you don't know where these ideas come from or why they exist, but everyone thinks it's correct anyway.

In fact, I think this point of view comes from a patriarchal society. Under a patriarchal socio-cultural system. Even a child born to a woman is considered to be born to a man. There are even some women who will use this as capital to some extent in order to obtain her status and security for the rest of their lives.

Then there's the influence of men's desire for control. In societies that are completely autonomous to some extent, men will treat women as an appendage. Then the woman he wants to possess must be complete.

If the woman has had a relationship with someone else before, or has some other marriage history, the man will think that he is at a loss, and such a culture has been formed for a long time.

It is a typical situation that when the man is married for the second time, the man has children and the woman does not feel that there is any big problem. On the contrary, if a second-married woman comes to the door with a child, the man will feel that he can't hold his head up, or he has no face, and he will feel that he has suffered a loss anyway.

After women get married, they have to take care of the family, handle housework, and manage things in the family, so everyone feels that women suffer very much in the marriage relationship. Except for being lucky enough to meet a man whose three views are very compatible, it is difficult to achieve happiness in marriage. And once a woman is caught in a marriage, it is difficult to run away, because they are not only facing a family, but also the task of taking care of children, some families themselves are very difficult, and the husband is particularly unsuccessful, in the face of the family, they have no choice but to use their own hands to support the family.

However, sometimes men also suffer very much, but it mainly depends on how the family is organized. Women are more dedicated than men in a relationship for the purpose of marriage and results, and they treat the family from the beginning to the end after marriage. There are a lot of widowed marriages nowadays, and that's actually for women.

After they got married, their husbands were away all the year round, and they had to take care of the children at home. And they also have to take into account all aspects of the home, which can also be seen that they are really not easy.

In the past, many views restricted women's development, and women could not get out of this relationship, and it was difficult to get out. But the main point is that many women themselves are reluctant to come out, and they want to make the family more harmonious even if they are wronged. Even if the family relationship is particularly bad, they want to maintain it.

What we should do is to improve this phenomenon, so that everyone can re-understand a family relationship, so that everyone can have a new understanding in this relationship.

I believe that this kind of emotion will give people a new change, and it will also allow everyone to see the truest side of everyone while setting sail again. Learn to know the bits and pieces of marital feelings, and then make yourself greater. I believe that such feelings can also bring a positive impact to everyone.

This is a one-sided cognition, in the marriage relationship of men and women are equal, there is no one party suffers, some people think that only the perspective of the position is different, different thinking will come to different conclusions, in the marriage relationship, boys and girls are devotees, but also beneficiaries.

The love and accommodation of boys for girls, and the care and gentleness of girls for boys, are all based on mutual appreciation and willingness.

Boys wander around, go through vicissitudes of life, earn money to support their families, and girls teach their husbands and children at home, and are diligent and thrifty, which is just a difference in the division of labor in marriage and family.

Therefore, in the marriage relationship, women are neither the losing party nor the taking advantage party, but mutually beneficial, each taking what they need. From the point of view of boys, it will be said that boys are at a loss, and from the perspective of girls, it will be said that girls are at a loss. Therefore, in marriage, there is no right or wrong, there is no loss and advantage.

First of all, women suffer a great loss in terms of childbirth, and after giving birth, there will be various problems in the body, and the age will be about 10 years old.

All kinds of examples can fully show that women suffer a lot in marriage!

In middle age, most of them are families with one side outside the home and one inside the family, and most of these families are dominated by women, in this kind of family, if divorced, then women who have not been in contact with the workplace for a long time are of course the most at a loss.

The reason is very simple, leaving the workplace for too long is equivalent to being out of touch with society for too long

Houses and cars: because they don't have a deep understanding of various laws, and they don't know what to fight for;

Community property.

A lot of women don't know that there is such a thing.

Therefore, at this time, couples with good family backgrounds divorced, and nine out of ten people who suffered losses were women.

Second, if it is a poor family, the man is at a loss.

Let's talk about poorer families. As the saying goes, "poor couples mourn everything, if the poorer families can't survive the divorce, most of the men will not be able to find a wife in the second half of their lives, and women because of the advantage of gender, as long as they are willing to find, most of them can still be found." Therefore, as far as a simple restructured family is concerned, the woman will be the one who has a better life.

**。In comparison, because the divorce is because of poverty, which is basically known to the surrounding neighbors, there is an old saying in our hometown "forty is not rich, beggars have to do", to middle-aged men who are still poor, there is something wrong with their own designation, so even if such a man remarries, no one may be able to look at it, so even if such a man has children, it is likely that he will grow up alone and be lonely until he is old, so such a family, men will lose more.

3. In any case, divorce in middle age is not necessarily a good thing for the whole family.

It's not that you shouldn't get divorced, and sometimes you can't make do with it, but I have to say that divorce in middle age affects not only the husband and wife, at this time, the children don't say that they are sensible, at least they have remembered, they clearly know that their parents have quarreled to fights and then divorced, or experienced the third party of both their parents, which has an impact on the children.

**。Some people say that when the children are all grown up, what impact can it have? The most difficult part has come.

I want to tell you that if the child is still young and does not remember, the divorce of the parents will be over, but if the child has already been chronicled, the impact of the divorce of the parents on them can directly affect their view of mate selection and marriage, and there are many men and women who are afraid of marriage are the psychological shadow of childhood.

In most people's existing understanding, women are a vulnerable group, both in society and in marriage. In the earliest patriarchal society, women could not defeat strong men because of their weak conditions, so they were subordinate to men.

In feudal society, also known as patriarchal society, although women have been emancipated to a certain extent, they are still generally dependent on men, and marrying high-ranking officials and nobles is a good way to realize value.

If there are still people who stubbornly believe that women should have husbands and children, and are attached to marriage, it is that the pattern is too small. Nowadays, in marriage, who is in a weak position is never distinguished by gender, but depends on comprehensive strength.

And those who are in a weak position in marriage are nothing more than these two types of people, and the sooner they understand, the better. But behind happiness there is also hidden distress, Xiaoxiao can't find her place in the family, compared with her husband, she is the weak party in the family. Once one day her husband gets tired of it, the person who is abandoned to nothing must be herself.

Everyone has their own life, and only they can understand the taste. In the family, if you can't be financially independent, and others won't respect your efforts, how can you talk about advantages?

This statement is incorrect, just from the woman herself, I feel that I have paid, I think I have suffered a loss, but men will also pay, marriage is two people, you can't be constant with losses, you love each other to pay, you always feel that you are at a loss, such a marriage will not last long.

First, don't pity anyone, for there will be something hateful about the poor.

Second, no matter how hard it is, it will rot in the stomach, don't talk about it when you meet people. their own grievances and sadness. If you say it, others will not sympathize;

Third, we must endure small things and be ruthless in big things. Don't trust others easily, and don't take it too seriously. the perception of others;

Fourth, we must learn to be independent, and it is better to rely on ourselves than to rely on anyone.

Because women are generally weak in marriage, leaving their parents and coming to a new family, taking care of their husbands and children, especially if they are wronged, I think women are not easy to be polite, and they are always the ones who suffer.

Because women are soft-hearted and think more, they may sacrifice their own happiness for the sake of their children; Maybe it's for the sake of the family, but for the sake of yourself. This leads to the fact that it is always the woman who suffers in marriage.

The strength of the man is greater, and the woman suffers when he fights. Women rely too much on their appearance, but when women are older, their appearance plummets, so the further the marriage, the less power a woman has to speak.

Because women are more emotional, if they give their feelings, they will unreservedly give all their feelings to men, while men, on the contrary, are enthusiastic at the beginning, but after a long time, they will slowly fade, of course, they can't say that they don't love anymore.

Hello! It is always the woman who suffers in marriage, and I think the reason is that the woman pays the most for the family, for the husband, and for the children in the whole marital relationship, and after marriage, she has to bear the pain of ten degrees for the man to have children, and she also has to take on all the housework, raise the children, and take care of the in-laws. Women give too much, always put their husbands and children first, and often neglect to love themselves.

So I think women should be good to themselves. Be willing to invest in yourself, thank you!

Not necessarily. Sometimes there are men who suffer in marriage. In marriage, whether it is a man or a woman, if you meet a kind and virtuous person, then you will be very happy, if you meet a person who is arrogant and unreasonable, and can not be empathetic, and can not consider the problem from the other party's point of view, then you may suffer.

So it's not a man or a woman, if you meet the right person, you will be happy for a lifetime.

This statement is not entirely correct, in marriage, especially in unhappy marriages, there is no real winner, they are all hurt, what is the loss, stained, it looks like a woman is more at a loss, this society is a male society, it is easier to come out of it, and the injury and loss should be the same at that time.

It's easy to fall in love and hard to get along with. The difficulty is that when you get married, you have to face the sense of loss that your husband is so good to you when you are not in love, and the grievance that you are always bullied and have nowhere to escape in the face of your mother-in-law's bad relationship, when you really can't stand it and want to give up everything, there is a cute little life that makes you feel distressed and reluctant! So, it's really not easy to be a woman!!

Because after getting married, a woman will put her energy into marriage and family, whether it is time or energy, always put married life first, and pay a lot for the family. Do housework, honor your in-laws, take care of your children.

Not necessarily. Women have always been in a disadvantaged position in Chinese culture, and in a patriarchal society, men always have various reasons to be tolerated, while women have various reasons to be blamed, and these traditional beliefs are deeply rooted.