What is the Marriage Burnout Period? How do you spend it?

In marriage, many couples experience marital fatigue, when both partners become bored with each other. But it takes mutual tolerance and understanding to get through.

In the end, a collapsed relationship is nothing more than two results, one is marriage, the other is to break up, but marriage and love are different, after marriage, you have to face all aspects of pressure and trivial things about the surplus of both families. In short, there is a curse of marriage, that is, the itch of 7 years, many people in the group say that the itch of 7 years is stable and happy when it crosses, and if it can't be crossed, it is a parting of ways. Therefore, many people ask, when life enters the seven-year itch, how to resolve the problem of marital sleepiness?

So let's take a look at the next thought. The first piece of advice is to cultivate a common hobby and add some freshness to your life. In fact, the so-called seven-year itch is just because husband and wife have been together for a long time to the point where they know each other very well.

Because I know each other too well, I can't find something that surprises me in the other person, the love I used to have is in the past, and the rest is exhaustion and the tediousness of life. At this time, you can dig out the common hobbies of two people, because when two people are doing the same thing they like, the relationship between two people will be greatly enhanced, so I believe that during the sleepy period of marriage, you can find more freshness according to common interests and hobbies. The second suggestion is to give each other more trust and love, and one of the most important reasons why marriage has a seven-year itch is that the husband and wife no longer have the trust they had at the beginning.

There is suspicion, suspicion, and temptation between two people, and anyone who lives in this environment will slowly become irritable. Human nature cannot withstand temptation, and we must not easily challenge the weakness of human nature, even if there is no problem in the marriage of two people, but it cannot withstand any random suspicion. It is undoubtedly a great happiness to give each other a little more trust and love, so that both parties can live in an environment of love and trust.

In short, there are many ways to resolve the sleepiness period of marriage, but there are always two points, that is, love and freshness.

Keep the ritual up

I'm sure you have a lot of couples around you, life is a mess, and the room is full of littering obligations; Flipping out some food in the fridge at random is a meal; I'm so busy with work that I've long forgotten about my birthday. While complaining about the more feelings, the more insipid they become, and on the other hand, they are unwilling to make any changes, which is a terrible silver legacy. In fact, a well-dressed date, a bouquet of flowers on the dining table, a kiss before work, and the sense of ritual in marriage are actually very simple, but they can be done in a gesture.

In mundane and trivial days, a sense of ritual can create the flow of the mind. It's not pretentious, it's not about how much money you spend, it's about your attitude towards marriage and your heart for your partner. It's a detail and an attitude towards marriage.

You cook a bowl of noodles for your lover and lie on a loving egg.

Before he goes to work, you tie him a bow tie. After work, cleaning the table, laying out a clean tablecloth, and eating together are all etiquette. Most people's marriages are actually "seven things to do to open the door", however, how to create surprises in life is the power of one person to manage marriage.

Especially in ordinary and trivial marriages, a person's emotional quotient directly determines the happiness index of the marriage.

Enhance self-worth

Many people stay healthy when they are single, read books, spend more time with friends who have a big picture of the situation, work hard to improve, and hope to become a better version of themselves. However, all this came to an abrupt halt after having a partner. Women, in particular, improve themselves as if they were just looking for a partner.

Actually, this is a very short-sighted behavior. I often say that a person's emotional worth depends on dynamic equilibrium, which means constant evaluation and adjustment. In marriage, if one person goes too fast or too slowly, the other will suffer.

A good marriage can make each other better, and only two better people can make a marriage better. Therefore, high emotional intelligence in marriage is inseparable from self-improvement.

Diverse communication styles

"Cold treatment" is not to put aside the dispute, but to wait until the anti-mentality of the two people has calmed down and can look at the problem rationally. Otherwise, everyone will be angry, they can say anything, they can do anything, which is not conducive to solving the problem. We should listen to each other and consider things from each other's point of view.

We can't just care about the demands we don't meet. Both sides should be calm and sincere, and not be arrogant or even do nothing. This creates irreparable cracks, and there is no reason to be loud.

So,It is also necessary to diversify the way of communication.

It is necessary to find novelty, at this time in marriage, also pay attention to the sense of ceremony, and also celebrate the birthday with the other party.

In life, you can travel with each other, do something meaningful with each other, and also surprise each other with healthy preparations.

I would create some romance or go on a family trip to strengthen our relationship.

Welcome to the tired period, I need to put more energy into my marriage to regain vitality, I can make some changes in my family and life, I can live in it more relaxed, and make my family feel happy.

After entering the tired period of Silly Sakura, I may take my wife out on a trip, and then create some good memories with my wife, so that the words will continue to be fresh.

Marriage Zhishan has entered a period of fatigue, what should you do if you laugh at the draft? I think marriage has entered a period of fatigue, that is, to give him a sense of filial piety, give her some small surprises from time to time, and don't make him feel tired.

1. Timely and effective communication Communication is the best channel between people. The premise of making a change is that both parties have the will to change, and the first step is to communicate and express their expectations of each other. Try to communicate with the other party and express the responsibilities you want them to be able to take, or what they can change, so that the other party can know what to do, and you can reduce a lot of conflicts and contradictions due to lack of understanding.

2. Expect from each other within the right range. You must know that in all stages of life, the focus of life is different, when you are a student and when you are young, there is no pressure in life, you can put more energy on love, but when there is pressure in life, you will definitely take away some of your energy. At this time, both people in the relationship should be aware of the change in the identity of both parties and adjust their expectations of each other.

What is common in marriage relationships is that I want you to love me and spoil me, but you want me to be sensible. If you can't manage your expectations, your relationship will only drift between unrealistic fantasies and disappointments.

3. Determine the scope of your compromise. Both people have to make sure that they are willing to make those changes, compromises, and whether they can find a balance that makes both people comfortable.

For example, if a girl wants a boy to spend more time with her, and a boy wants her to understand that her job requires overtime, if both people are willing to make a compromise, the boy will spend one day a week with the girl, and the other time the girl can accept the boy working overtime without bothering him.

4. Find a preservation method that suits your feelings.

For the burnout period that lacks novelty, you can try to find some ways to keep your feelings fresh, such as increasing the sense of ritual, doing something new together, and so on. Creating shared experiences can increase the common topic of conversation between each other, and it can also help two people to discover the novelty of each other's shortcomings and increase their curiosity about each other.

The burnout period in the relationship is actually not terrible, what is terrible is the attitude of wanting to break up when there is a problem, only if both people have the determination to go to the future with each other, can they overcome the burnout period and establish a truly deep intimate relationship.

Of course, the relationship is a matter of two people, and it is far from enough for only one person to work hard, or two people have made all the efforts they can, but the relationship still makes both parties feel tired and painful, then choosing to separate is also a choice, at least once had a good love.