If you can t get along with your mother in law, will you ask her to help you take care of the childr

Updated on parenting 2024-08-12
11 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-16

    Of course yes, if you can't take care of your children because of your own working hours, you will definitely let your mother-in-law take care of the children, because only your own mother-in-law can be reassured. In the dead of night, I always want to find a tranquility, find a space to be alone, and then let my thoughts drift with the wind, and escape for a while in the tranquility of cranky thoughts. When the soul can't bear the load of life, it can only send a signal to the sky that it is tired, too tired, and this feeling of tiredness is not something that ordinary people can imagine.

    Every day I want to find peace in my soul, however, it is really difficult.

    From the day people are born, they are destined to accompany a lifetime of emotions and unsatisfactory life, fate is doomed, if you want to change your fate, you have to contend with all the misfortunes and ups and downs, choose the appropriate escape, that is just useless futility. Escape may sometimes be just a minute, or you can only get a minute of silence, or maybe you suddenly realize in the tranquility that people can't live too tired. I often comfort myself in this way.

    There is nothing in the world, and mediocrity disturbs itself. Maybe I'm just a philistine. Why look for tranquility in anything?

    In fact, I want to hope for peace, in this extraordinary and bad day this year. I reflected and reflected. Most of the time I don't understand what I'm doing.

    Kind of life. Kind of always tugging at people's minds on certain days. When it comes to the tranquility of seeking, everyone expects to have this moment.

    For me, it may feel a little heavier in moments of solitude, but it's not absolute. Sometimes, although people are in a noisy and noisy environment, but the heart has already flown to the realm of not knowing what kind of, I often smile on my face, and I have seen through all the complicated things in my inner constancy.

    People sometimes pretend to be a master of the world, but in fact, it is not the case, and the appearance of all this is also due to countless times of crawling, and then the end of reflection. There is no real excitement of benefits, no real heartfelt reverence for life and nature, no gratitude and appreciation for life and the world, no kind and transparent understanding, no kind and susceptible heart, no final awakening, and no natural tranquility and detachment.

    In many cases, the motivation to seek tranquility is far greater than the force caused by all external things, and it may also be a process of excellence in the pursuit of tranquility for each individual. Why is that? I asked myself with a smile.

    For a person who is truly integrated into life, will sigh at the wonder of the creation of the world. The heartfelt reverence and concern for life and nature is a kind of sincere gratitude and admiration.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-15

    If I can't get along with my mother-in-law, then I will never let him help me with the children. When there are no children, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is difficult to get along with, and after having children, the conflict will only escalate, and even whether their marriage can be maintained is one thing.

    We all say that the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is innate, the most difficult contradiction to reconcile, if you get married, you will not be in harmony with your mother-in-law's temper, but the two families live not very close and do not often stay together, so that they can get along harmoniously, although the contradiction will not intensify, at least it can ensure that the face passes, and it will not be too ugly, after all, the distance produces beauty.

    But if there is a child, some pregnant women to the third trimester of various discomfort do need someone to take care of, if the family conditions are better, you can ask the confinement nanny and the like, confinement can also go directly to the confinement center, so as to avoid the problem of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law contradictions, as well as the problem of conflict of parenting concepts, especially some mothers need to go to work, maternity leave is generally half a year, their own cultivation is good confinement with a few months of children should also go to work, at this time who will help take care of the child is a problem, If you can't get along with your mother-in-law, it is recommended that you spend money to buy peace of mind, let your own mother take care of the child, or directly ask the nanny to take care of the child, so as to at least avoid intensifying the conflict with your mother-in-law.

    Don't say that you can't get along with your mother-in-law, even if there are some who have a good relationship with your mother-in-law before, but there will be some contradictions during the mother-in-law with children, after all, the two generations will have some conflicts in terms of living habits and parenting concepts, each thinks that they are doing right, and the mother-in-law is generally based on her own experience He feels that his son has grown up like this since he was a child, and now it is right to bring grandchildren, but the mother thinks that the new parenting concept is more scientific, The old ways were outdated or the wrong way.

    If the husband can't make his position clear at this time, then the conflict between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law may escalate into the contradiction of the whole family, and even more so, some of the mother-in-law and the child have divorced because of the conflict of ideas between the mother-in-law and the child.

    At this time, the male owner of the family must do a good job of this regulating role, can not blindly protect the mother-in-law, or completely stand with the wife, must have a clear view of right and wrong, otherwise the contradiction between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law will only continue to intensify.

    In fact, the best way is to find someone else to see the child, which can be the woman's own mother, or the nanny, although it will spend some money, but it saves a lot of things. If the mother-in-law wants to help with the children, she can also assist the nanny with the children, so that he can also be more relaxed.

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-14

    I think I'll still have to take the child, after all, you are our personal grudge, but I can't even stuff that grudge on me with the child, I don't know that the child is innocent. These children are the kind of innocent and kind, and many lonely old people like to be accompanied by a person, so he is not like anything to children. I am generally willing to let the children meet the elderly with you, and they take care of them very well, after all, they are all paying attention to a person, the home is comfortable, and if there are children with them, it will not seem so bleak.

    Personally, I think that even if I can't get along with my mother-in-law, but don't affect the relationship between the child and them, isn't it not good, because although everyone says that your relationship is not good, but you don't ask another person and play with him, we all have the right to make friends and language mood on our own, so I want to believe in the baby, then the following freedom I should not be interfered with by your right to prepare that mother-in-law is really bad, so we have to interfere, but in our lives, In fact, that kind of situation is rare.

    Therefore, the elderly are like our mother-in-law, their families are all friends, and many of them have great happiness with children. Well, children will also give some people the companionship they want.

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-13

    It's a matter of mine for my friend.

    My friend Sister Li got married early and soon had children. The in-laws have a pension, the father-in-law is still working, and the mother-in-law plays cards every day.

    After Sister Li had a child, her mother-in-law had to help take care of the child and let Sister Li go to work.

    Sister Li began to take the child to her mother-in-law, and gradually found that her mother-in-law's house was very dirty, and every time she went to the house, things were messy, and there was a layer of dust. In the winter, the children are not given shoes, and until now the children are still barefoot as soon as they enter the house. Have your child defecate in the open at home.

    Mother-in-law likes to play cards, as long as the child is placed next to it, as long as nothing happens, the child is dirty every day. Another time when the child was hospitalized with a high fever, the mother-in-law ignored it and went to play cards the next day.

    Sister Li began to worry that her mother-in-law would not be able to take the child well, so she simply took the child at home. No matter how persuasive others try to persuade them, they always insist. Since there is no income, you can save on ordinary expenses.

    Originally, I didn't understand it at first, but now I understand Sister Li's mood very well, because I have also encountered similar things, if I can, who doesn't want to take care of their own children.

    Whoever takes the child, since it has been decided, stick to it. I don't care what others think of many things, just discuss it according to the actual situation, after all, it is difficult to have the best of both worlds.

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-12

    Introduction: I have considered such a question before, will I help my children take care of the children after becoming a mother-in-law? The first feeling that comes to mind is no, because it is really too troublesome to take care of a child now, as a mother-in-law, if the education is not good, it is very likely that there will be an estrangement between the daughter-in-law, and it may also cause the son to feel uncomfortable, it is better to give financial support directly and let them take care of the children themselves.

    I used to think that my mother-in-law was not so easy to be, but now I really feel more and more that my mother-in-law is really very important in a family, a good mother-in-law can make the family happy, and a bad mother-in-law will lead to worse and worse feelings between the husband and wife, and even more and more estrangement. If you become a mother-in-law in the future, you should keep a distance from your daughter-in-law and son as much as possible, the distance produces beauty, and you will definitely feel uncomfortable staying together, it is better not to stay together, and it feels good to see each other occasionally.

    However, when the daughter-in-law is confined, she can help it, after all, girls know how uncomfortable it is during confinement, and at this time, the daughter-in-law also needs to be taken care of, whether it is a son or a son, they are the first time to be parents, without the help of the older generation, they are likely to be in a hurry, and they will help during confinement, but they should not help take care of the children at other times, you can give money to ask the confinement lady to do something, In daily life, you can also hire a nanny to take care of the family, but you will not keep too close distance from your son and daughter-in-law, and private space is still very necessary, and you don't want to be estranged from them because of this.

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-11

    Yes. This will help my son share some of the burdens, and he is very busy with work, so I will help him take care of the children.

  7. Anonymous users2024-02-10

    I will, because this is also my grandchild, and I will like it very much, and at the same time, I can accompany myself in my old age.

  8. Anonymous users2024-02-09

    I will definitely help my son to take care of the children, because after I became a mother-in-law, I am also old and have nothing to do, so I will help my children to take care of the children.

  9. Anonymous users2024-02-08

    Yes, today's children are under a lot of pressure to survive, and it is a good thing to be able to help.

  10. Anonymous users2024-02-07

    Yes. It will reduce the pressure of the child in life, will not make the child feel particularly difficult in life, and will not make the child feel particularly financially stressed.

  11. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    I don't accept it. In family life, if you have the ability and conditions, try to provide convenience and help to your elders, which is a sign of respect and gratitude. At the same time, we should also care about the growth of children, give them enough care and education, and create a healthy and harmonious family environment for them.

    With the support of this family culture, family members are closer to each other, respecting and supporting each other.

    Of course, respecting the old and loving the young does not mean living with your parents-in-law. In today's society, there are many different family forms and ways of living, and each family should choose and arrange according to their own situation. No matter what lifestyle you choose, you need to focus on communication and understanding, respect each other's rights and needs, and create a good environment for family harmony.

    There is a big difference in the lifestyle habits of older and younger people. This difference is not only due to the different life stages of the two age groups, but also involves social, cultural, educational and other differences.

    The living habits of the elderly pay more attention to regularity and stability. They generally wake up early and go to bed early, eat regularly and quantitatively every day, and do a variety of activities regularly. They also pay attention to maintaining good health, and may do more health and wellness activities, such as morning exercises, tai chi, square dancing, etc.

    Older people may also have some special lifestyle habits, such as eating certain tonics and keeping their home environment clean and tidy.

    In contrast, young people's lifestyle habits are more diverse and flexible. They may often stay up late, eat irregularly, and engage in various activities irregularly. The lifestyle of young people may also be influenced by the current pop culture, such as liking to play games, watch TV series, listen to **, and so on.

    Young people are also more focused on self-expression and innovation, and may try new practices and styles in terms of eating, dressing, entertainment, etc.

    The differences in living habits between the elderly and the young are not only differences in personal behavior, but also reflect the life values and cultural characteristics of people of different ages. When it comes to family life, if the living habits of the elderly and the young are too different, there may be some friction and conflict. In this case, family members need to understand, respect and tolerate each other, and work together to find a lifestyle that is suitable for all members of the family and create a harmonious and warm family environment.

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