Why do children who hate corporal punishment still punish children when they grow up to be parents?

Corporal punishment of children will mislead children to learn to hit others. The child is innocent like a blank piece of paper, why will he slowly fight and scold later, it is because of the situation of the child's parents or friends around the child, so they will learn and imitate unconsciously, and they have no ability to distinguish between right and wrong. If children make mistakes, as we often do, children will think that corporal punishment will solve the problem, and they will also use beating to deal with the problem when they encounter a complaint or problem.

I think corporal punishment is a manifestation of educational incompetence, the vast majority of parents themselves are not willing to corporal punishment of their children, they also know that this is irrational approach, and do not want to see this extreme education method make children's hearts farther and farther away from themselves, but the education they have received since childhood is corporal punishment, so they will not have other gentler and more effective education methods, this is a vicious circle and a tragedy of helplessness.

This is influenced by parents. There are some parents who are unhappy, and their children do something wrong, and they begin to release their anger and resentment on their children, can you expect these children who have lived in shadowy unhappy families since childhood to have a sunny and cheerful and kind heart, it is not their fault, but there is some pain that is passed down from generation to generation, and everyone in the family suffers.

Some families adopt such an educational approach that directly and destructively hurts the child's self-esteem. If the child is beaten more often, the child will become tired, and it doesn't matter, reducing the child's shame. At the beginning, the child will be scared and aggrieved, and later he will be resentful, resistant, rebellious, and will make mistakes repeatedly.

When you grow up as a parent, you will also be affected and treat your children like this.

Corporal punishment of children will create a sense of rebellion in the children's hearts, they mistakenly think that their mothers no longer love them, and they will inexplicably not want to contact us. If we often do this when children make mistakes, children will think that corporal punishment will solve the problem, and they will grow up to educate their children in this way.

The child will imitate the behavior of his parents, and will attack his classmates and friends in behavior, and after having conflicts with peers, he will use his fists to solve the problem, and then he will have fewer friends and will not be popular with everyone, which will affect the child's social skills and development. And after becoming a parent, I will take the same way to educate my children.

How the parents treated the child at that time, the child grew up to be like his parents. If the child stays in such a family, the greater the impact, that is, you are the same as them. So, the question arises, "Why do children who hate corporal punishment still punish children when they grow up to be parents?"

Although they hated corporal punishment when they were young, they will still be like this when they grow up!

To bully the small, evil animal psychology to blame.

The thousand-year-old daughter-in-law finally became a mother-in-law, of course it will be like this.

Education has always been a concern for everyone, but not all parents will educate their children. In the past, parents may choose to beat and scold their children, because everyone thinks that such children will be more obedient, why do many parents not advocate corporal punishment of their children now?

I feel that parents should not physically punish their children at any time, because the children's psychology is actually very fragile. If parents want to educate their children correctly, they must adopt appropriate methods to let their children understand some truths, if everyone will just use corporal punishment to educate their children, in the long run their children will become very violent, and such children are not sound, parents will find that their children become more and more rebellious in the process, and become difficult to discipline, so parents now do not advocate corporal punishment of children.

Character determines a person's life, in fact, I don't think this sentence is wrong at all, if a person's character has a problem, the person will grow up in the future, and there will be many problems in society. For example, this person does not know how to get along with others, and this person is very cold and selfish, so now parents should not physically punish children when educating their children, because corporal punishment of children may affect the child's personality, make the child particularly anxious, and the child may have violent tendencies.

There will always be fights with children at school.

I think education is a particularly wise activity, in this process, parents must learn to grasp some methods, and each child is different, parents should also choose according to their actual needs, suitable for others may not be suitable for their children, parents must learn to communicate with their children in this process.

Because corporal punishment of children will cause rebellion and will not solve any problems, many parents do not advocate it.

The main reason is that parents nowadays believe that corporal punishment of children will make children have psychological shadows, so they do not advocate it.

Although you are only punishing your child for a while, it may cause a psychological shadow on their childhood, and they may remember it for a lifetime, so try not to use your hands.

In modern education, corporal punishment as a means of education has been gradually denied. I believe that corporal punishment education is not suitable for the modern educational environment, and it can have many negative effects.

First, corporal punishment can lead to damage to a child's self-esteem. In corporal punishment education, children may be punished for doing something wrong, which can make them feel like a failure. Over time, children may become inferior, introverted, and even have psychological problems.

Second, corporal punishment can lead to exacerbated behavioural problems in children. While corporal punishment may stop a child's bad behavior in the short term, it may trigger a child's rebellious mentality in the long run, making them more stubborn and difficult to discipline.

In addition, corporal punishment may set a false example for children. When children see adults using violence to solve problems, they may mistakenly believe that this is a reasonable way to resolve conflicts. This misconception may affect a child's future relationships and social behavior.

In general, appropriate corporal punishment education is not in favour. Modern education focuses more on developing children's self-esteem, self-confidence, and self-discipline, and corporal punishment education may have a negative impact on these aspects. As educators and parents, we should look for more reasonable and effective education methods to create good conditions for the healthy growth of children.

My life is a person who thinks that the trajectory of life is very smooth. Until one day of arguing, I was faced with a very difficult decision. My child was physically punished by the teacher at school.

I am a very gentle mother and my children are also very well-behaved. I have always been negative about corporal punishment of children, because I think it will have a negative impact on the child's mental health and growing up to be a normal person. No form of violence of any kind is tolerated, let alone in a public place such as a school.

When I learned that my child was being physically punished, I was very angry and angry, and at the same time I was very worried about my child because in our family we have never used corporal punishment to educate our children. When I saw my child crying, my heart ached, and I had to take action. I said that I wanted to go to the "problem solving" that the teacher at the school would give to the child.

At this time, my husband and other relatives advised me not to be emotional and suggested that I could solve the problem by communicating with the teacher first. They also reminded me to pay attention to my child's mental health and give him the utmost support and care.

I calmed down a bit and realized that this advice was humane and that I couldn't hurt my child more because of my anger impulses. So I gave myself time to think calmly and decided to go to school the next day to talk to my child's teacher. After meeting the child's teacher, I expressed my concern and anger to the teacher, told the teacher that I had doubts about the professional attitude and method of educating the child, asked her to deal with the problem properly, and apologized to the child.

After my conversation with the teacher and the results of the processing, the child began to regain his performance and mentality, and my family returned to calm and unity again. Here, I would like to take this opportunity to tell more parents that no matter when and where, the values formed by children will be inherited in the family, society, and economic experience.

Every parent should be aware that conflict is not only a moral conflict between corporal and non-corporal punishment, but also a reflection of differences in family, social system and cultural background. As parents, we must strengthen our mission to protect our children, respect their rights and dignity, and teach them to resolve conflicts in the right way, so as to cultivate their healthy psychological growth.

Parents believe that corporal punishment can make children obedient, so they will educate their children in a harsh way. The most profound education of Chinese parents is filial piety under the stick, and they believe that children cannot be defeated if they do not fight. While this concept of education is very common, they believe that only by educating children in this way can they make children better.

However, harsh corporal punishment education will make the child's psychology resentful, and more importantly, the child's negative thoughts will become more and more serious. While they suppress their emotions, they also hate their parents, and in severe cases, children will treat their parents in the same way.

The education we should receive is warm and harmonious, so that we can enter the world of children, which is a kind of benign education. But if the child is always behaved wrongly, then the child will not be able to go into the real society. Corporal punishment of age is not only mentally harmful to children, but also physically suffering.

While they are afraid of their families, they are also unable to come together with their families.

There will always be a few years in this life to get together with children, and everyone should see the strengths and weaknesses of children while living. While getting along with children, we must treat children with love and kindness, and children will slowly open up after understanding their parents' care for them. I hope that we can be the companions of our children, not the ones who hurt them.

Every parent must understand that although it is difficult to accompany their children to grow up, as long as they use the right way, then their children will use the same way to give back to their parents. We can give the child more psychological hints, and let the child learn to restrain himself, so that the child can become better and better. Therefore, I also believe that throwing away severe corporal punishment can make children live every day of their lives, and can also make children better face their own lives.

Because parents want to establish their prestige in this way, but in this way, Xunqi is likely to cause the child's self-esteem to be damaged, which may have a serious impact on the child's psychology.

This is because many parents feel that this practice is for the sake of sending Ling to know the good of their children, and at the same time to let the children correct their mistakes, so they will use this kind of corporal punishment to educate their children, but this kind of education is very incorrect.

Because parents don't know how to raise their children, educating them with corporal punishment will make them remember it for a long time and not dare to make mistakes again in the future.

Because many parents feel that educating their children through this kind of education will let their children learn lessons and make them more obedient.

The child doesn't do homework, doesn't sleep, just wants to watch TV, in the face of such a situation, parents do have a headache, the child is disobedient, and can't beat him, this post-90s couple came up with such a way to "corporal punishment" the child, don't you like to watch TV? Then let you watch enough at one time, completely satisfy you, you don't want to sleep tonight, just watch here for one night.

In fact, the purpose of this is to let the child really remember this lesson, does this really work? The short term must be effective, and it is very effective, and many netizens agree with this.

Of course, the teacher is mentioned here, but no matter what role is in the education process, the child's education can not take corporal punishment or disguised corporal punishment, so according to the definition of corporal punishment is not only physical punishment, but also psychological punishment, then this kind of "once you see enough" way actually caused a great blow to the child's psychology, if many things are in this way, then I dare not imagine what kind of character the child will develop when he grows up.

There are many positive ways to educate children:

Clause. 1. Parents should not set a negative example for their children.

Parents are the first teachers in a child's life, and children in childhood have a particularly strong ability to imitate, and are easily influenced by the family environment and the parent's education style. In order to reduce children's aggressive behavior, parents must change their own education methods and resolutely put an end to corporal punishment of children.

Clause. 2. Communicate more with your child.

While busy with work, parents must also take as much time as possible to get to know their children, communicate with them, and try to have a comprehensive grasp of their children's performance at school and at home. In this way, once the child is really disobedient, parents can also understand how to guide the child, instead of relying on beating and scolding the child to solve the problem. No matter how young a child is, parents should treat them equally.

Some rude parents are always accustomed to beating and scolding their children indiscriminately, and in doing so, it is easy for children to have resentment towards their parents. In this way, the child will not be understood by his parents, and the gap between him and his parents will become deeper and deeper. Therefore, parents should communicate more with their children, so that their children know that their parents understand him, so that children can also feel the love and care of their parents, so as to actively correct their mistakes.

Clause. 3. Reason with your children in everything.

When children are disobedient or willful, parents should not only communicate more with their children in their daily life, but also pay attention to their own education methods. Parents should reason with their children more, and they can educate sensible and good children without beating or scolding. Parents should be more reasonable to their children in practical life, so that children can have empathy, so that they can learn to empathize, so that they will recognize their own shortcomings.

It has been proven that this also makes it easier for children to spontaneously accept the opinions of their parents, and the educational effect is more ideal.

Clause. 4. Replace corporal punishment with appreciation education.

Appreciation education for children, so that children can experience the unconditional love of their parents. Even if children find it difficult to change their bad habits, in order to love their parents, they will slowly restrain their bad behaviors.