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Many people say that people are good and are bullied, but those who are bullied are not simply kind people, but people who are too soft-hearted.
For the evaluation of soft-hearted people, some people think that they are kind, they are generous and simple, but there are still some people who feel that soft-hearted people are too simple and easy to be deceived by others, so there is a saying that they would rather be villains than soft-hearted people.
People who are too soft-hearted are often susceptible to these three kinds of "harm", which is very clear!
1. It is easy to be bullied by others.
So much kindness has been misinterpreted, how do you know, your kindness will definitely be understood by others.
A lot of people like to confuse the public, and even if they do, they will pretend not to understand, because they know what can benefit them. Most of the time, kindness will be understood by others as weakness.
No one will sympathize with a person of weak character, or give in, an inch, a foot, there are not many examples. Because I just tasted a little sweetness, it's hard to turn around.
Interests can sometimes be consumed, and it makes it difficult for the truth to be truly exposed, not that you really don't understand, but that you don't want to understand.
Relying on your good temper and not taking care of it, he bullies you without a bottom line, because he thinks that you don't care, so he won't feel that he has done something sorry for you, but will bully you even more.
Don't think that your kindness can influence everyone, soft-heartedness is likely to get you into trouble again and again.
2. It's easy to do bad things with good intentions.
Helping is to help others as much as possible under the premise of one's own ability, rather than even if you can't do it, as long as others ask for it, you have to take care of it, no diamond diamonds, no porcelain work.
Originally, you really wanted to help him, but because you didn't help him, you were blamed by others, which not only couldn't solve the problem, but also hurt the feelings of the two people.
Some people are narrow-minded, and if you promise to help them do something but don't do it, they will think that you are doing it on purpose, trying to delay their time, make him miss the opportunity or bear the consequences.
Obviously, he has been working hard to help him, but because the result is not good, the other party keeps blaming. Therefore, it is not that you can't help, but you have to help within your ability, so as not to cause unnecessary trouble to yourself.
3. It is easy to be calculated by others.
We are all ordinary people, and it is difficult to be invisible, but as an adult, we must learn to control our emotions, not to reveal them easily, and not to show all our psychology in our own behavior, otherwise it is easy to be calculated by others.
When we express our emotions, it is easy for them to spill over to others. Sometimes expressing bad emotions can indeed help us get rid of depression in our hearts, but these bad emotions may be transmitted to others, so that others will hold grudges and then calculate themselves.
So, don't always let your emotions out. Learning to cover one's mood modestly is a sign of respect for others and a kind of protection for oneself. Only by not easily revealing your emotions can you not suffer a big loss when getting along with others.
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I think that what soft-hearted people get in the end is comfort in their conscience, because good-hearted people can't do things that violate their conscience, and this should be the biggest gain.
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In life, you will be constantly faced with various requests, demands, and commands. It is far easier to accept than to reject, but if you respond to your request just for the sake of temporary soft-heartedness, timidity, or face problems, it may lead to endless troubles. Because you may not be able to afford it, and you may not be able to afford it.
The consequence is that it is harmful to others.
You have the right to say "No!" You don't have to be embarrassed to say no to someone. We have to learn the art of rejection.
For example, don't refuse immediately, don't refuse easily, don't refuse when you're angry, don't refuse casually, don't refuse in the dock, don't refuse arrogantly. It is necessary to preserve the affection of the other party and pay attention to maintaining the dignity of the other party. The language should be tactful, the attitude should be kind, and it is best to smile on your face, so that the other party understands your sincerity and your kindness.
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In these years, people with good hearts and eyes are always regarded as lacking hearts.
In this world, soft-hearted people are always pinched into soft persimmons.
People who are too soft-hearted can't see others pitiful, and you always give them away;
People who are too soft-hearted can't listen to other people's repeated requests, and you always respond to your requests.
It is said that soft-heartedness is not a disease, but soft-heartedness kills people!
Because, people who are too soft-hearted often end up too miserable.
There is nothing wrong with being soft-hearted, but there are some people you can't pity, and they will kick their noses and face unscrupulously;
There is nothing wrong with being kind, but there are some things that you can't be cowardly about, and they will bully you too much and pinch them if you want to.
To be inclusive, but to have a scale;
Be patient, but don't touch the bottom line.
Treat friends with tolerance but not connivance;
Treat feelings, cherish but don't spoil them.
Kindness is a strength, but it cannot be your weakness;
Soft-heartedness is compassion, but one cannot humble oneself.
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There are two outcomes, one is to be deceived, and the other is to be favored by God and get good luck.
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And the person who lays eggs will get everyone's attention in the end, after all, such a person must be very kind-hearted, and everyone will like him.
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There is no causal relationship between soft-heartedness and the final outcome, and some people have very good results.
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What do soft-hearted people get in the end? Soft-hearted people, in the end, get the things that disappoint you, the result.
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What did soft-hearted people get in the end? I don't think I can get anything, because ordinary accidental people should be wrong.
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Soft-hearted people really let people bully and bully us in the end, so we must not be too soft-hearted and not good for ourselves.
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Soft-hearted people will hardly end well in the end.
At least that's the kind of people I've met around me.
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A soft-hearted person often gets hurt in the end by herself.
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People who feel soft-hearted will get a good reward in the end.
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