What does it feel like to feel safe for you?

This is the best of times, because it brings us infinite possibilities that are almost beyond imagination; At the same time, it is also the worst of times, because its drastic rhythm is violently engulfing people's desires to grow, while the sense of security in their hearts is constantly declining and collapsing. There is a saying, "True security does not come from external material gifts, but from inner peace and fullness, from believing in oneself and being sure in life." No matter how the external environment changes, we must be soberly aware that true security can only come from within.

Bring your focus back to your body and heart, find your own pace of life, and establish your own sense of security in this uneasy world. ‍‍

If you ask a woman what she wants most in love. The most likely answer you get is not love, but security. Those who claim to really want love are most likely to pursue love because their sense of security is satisfied.

I'm insecure" is a phrase that comes out of a woman's mouth everywhere. But what security is is really worth chewing on.

In fact, no one can escape the fate of seeking security, especially women. Ever since human beings were born, they have been cursed with a lack of security.

Yes, human beings are born. By the time the baby croaks to the ground, he has already begun to learn to survive in this world as best he can. The world is not a womb and needs to breathe on its own, chew on itself, and even forage for food on its own.

There is too much uncertainty in the big world, and his abilities are too limited. At the beginning of his birth, he needed a strong force that understood him and could satisfy him to protect him - his mother. This feeling of protection is a sense of security. ‍‍

Security! Thought I lacked security! It doesn't make sense! If it weren't for me, my mind would have collapsed! I'll just say one thing, and now it's the big power with the attitude. I'm not depressed, mentally ill, and use it as an excuse not to ink these means.

The country is prosperous and strong, and the people are happyI think the 24 characters of the core values of socialism can be reflected.

Prosperity, democracy, civilization and harmony, freedom and equality, justice and rule of law, patriotism, dedication, honesty and friendlinessSociety can develop steadily and harmoniouslyDachun and Xun's family can be safe and sound, there are no bad people, just like sleeping in the countryside, and the door is also very reassuring, that sense of securityIndividuals with children and grandchildren are in good healthWatching your children and grandchildren be happy in old age makes you feel at ease. Take a walk when you have free time and do something you want to do, and you're already satisfied. In fact, in this era of the rapid spread of the epidemic, it is already very satisfying and happy to be able to live a healthy life.

Nowadays, there is a popular word for security, so what is security?

Someone stuffed and said:

So what do you think is a sense of security in the wheel cover? I feel like I'm not feeling safe at all.

As long as you don't see the money in the account for a day, no matter how much it is, it will be a little troublesome in your heart.

I remember someone said:

The rich are in the clouds and fog, and the rich are in the wind and rain. The biggest difference between life and survival is that life is that people control money, and survival is money that controls people. ”

I don't think anyone wants to be a slave to money, but if there is still no improvement after many attempts, many people will really become numb. Once numb, then it doesn't matter what it is.

In a peaceful and stable day, anyone can tell a big truth.

But when the disaster really falls on him, as a bystander, can he tell the truth and implement it with quality and quantity?

Otherwise, it's just empty mouth, ladies and gentlemen, what do you say?

I think that everyone's understanding and degree of security will be different, and I personally believe that if you can have enough money to live your own life, you are the most secure.

At the same time, we can also be more free to exert our own ability to realize our ideals, help more people in need, so that everyone will feel the warmth of life, and we can also communicate and get along harmoniously, so that life can truly be harmonious.

1. Respond in a timely manner when talking.

First of all, we must know how to respond, if others are very interested in saying a lot of things, and you don't have any expression, it will make people feel very embarrassed or uninteresting, so that the light words can only end hastily, and it will not help your language communication, so you should respond to others in a timely manner when talking to others.

2. Keep a normal mind when communicating.

It is important not to be emotional, because being emotional may make communication stuck halfway and unable to communicate, and even lead to abandonment and failure of communication. If you feel particularly irritable and uneasy in the process of ditch bumping and shouting, so you can't concentrate, then you have to stop communicating and wait for a period of time to calm down before you can continue to communicate, which will actually make all parties in the communication unhappy.

3. Know how to listen when talking.

Listening is also a point to pay attention to in communication, when talking to others, we should take into account the feelings of others, but also listen to what the other party expresses, so that we can better communicate in language, otherwise the communication will not achieve the effect at all, and it is easy to misunderstand.

4. Don't always be self-centered.

When talking, you should also pay attention to an important point, don't always think that what you say and do is important, always focus on yourself, and other people's is not important, this situation is to be eliminated, which can easily cause disgust to others, and will also leave a bad impression on others.

A sense of security is the umbrella of love, and it is two people in love who know each other and know each other, understand each other, tolerate each other, trust each other, and then love each other. This sense of security is like warmth in interdependence, giving people a lot of happiness.

Many people fall in love, and many men and women do not come together in the end due to a lack of security. The insecure party is generally like this: always suffering from gains and losses, because you are afraid of losing the other party if you are not careful, and you are worried that the other party does not love you enough, so you keep testing the other party;

There is also a situation where two people fall in love, obviously they love each other deeply, but they have no sense of security in love, which is caused by the interference of external factors, such as material foundation, economic conditions, and obstruction of both parents.

Friend Chunmei fell in love, because she has no advantage in height, coupled with her ordinary appearance and average family situation, she always lacks a sense of security in this relationship. And her boyfriend Xiaogang is 5 years older than him, his family is financially wealthy, and his parents both work in state-owned enterprises.

There is a huge difference in the situation between the two, some of them are not in the right household, but they love each other. However, when they proposed to get married, the parents of both parties firmly disagreed with the marriage.

During the love period, Chunmei's boyfriend took him to meet his parents, and her boyfriend Xiaogang's parents did not approve of the marriage between the two, the reason was that they disliked Chunmei's height of 165, if the woman's height is too short, it may affect the next generation, after all, the offspring are inherited from their parents' genes.

Since then, Chunmei's self-esteem has been deeply hit, and she can't see the hope of love, and she begins to be disheartened. Boyfriend Xiaogang said that he fancied his lover and didn't want to compromise and let go, even if his parents objected. Chunmei, she was afraid of ......I was afraid that I would lose Xiaogang and lose this feeling, but fortunately, under the comfort and consideration of my boyfriend Xiaogang, I had the courage to continue to persevere.

Later, the relationship between the two reached a mature stage, Chunmei took her boyfriend Xiaogang to meet her parents, Chunmei thought that her parents would be satisfied with their relationship and marriage, but her mother felt that the other party was too old and the relationship was not suitable, after all, the age difference was too big, and there would be a generation gap in communication, which would affect the married life.

Although her parents objected, Chunmei still insisted on her love, she thought that feelings could be cultivated and run-in, and the same was true for common topics, like in reality, aren't there many older age differences, and their married life is as sweet as ever, and they are happy? Chunmei thinks that she and her boyfriend Xiaogang are the ones who have the same heart, and they can understand each other.

Chunmei realized that in love, her so-called insecurity was basically from external factors, and she and her boyfriend Xiaogang both recognized each other and treated each other sincerely.

Chunmei told Xiaogang that her sense of security in love has always been there, that is, mutual tolerance and understanding, trust and love. The two believe that as long as they don't give up on each other, they rely on each other, love is there, and the sense of security is there. So later, the two had lovers and eventually became married and lived a happy life.

Generally speaking, the need for security includes two aspects, one is spiritual and the other is material.

When a person is not mentally secure, then the person will be more materially focused, which is a compensatory psychology. On the other hand, when people are unable to attain spiritual security, material security becomes the most basic security. A sense of security on a material level is also very necessary, and a person is the most insecure when he cannot guarantee it materially.

The sense of security mentioned below refers only to the spiritual aspect.

The definition given by the encyclopedia is: a sense of security is the psychological need for stability and security. It belongs to the inner spiritual needs of the individual.

A sense of security is a premonition of possible physical or psychological danger or risk, as well as an individual's sense of powerlessness in coping with things, which is mainly manifested as a sense of certainty and control.

The emergence of a sense of security is a product of evolution, when we are just born, we are all vulnerable, so when we feel scared, we cry. This can attract the attention of caregivers who will come to protect us and solve the crisis we are facing.

When we cry, we are insecure, and we cry and seek caregivers to protect us and make us feel at ease. When we feel at ease, we can get the feeling of being protected, cared for, and threatened, and this feeling is called a sense of security.

However, not every parent is able to make their babies feel safe. In order for babies to feel safe, they must meet the following three conditions when they are in crisis: they are present, sensitive, and supportive.

In other words, when a baby cries, parents should rush to the baby immediately. Find out exactly why you're crying and give immediate relief. In this way, the child will feel safe.

We are born with the need to be appeased, and only by getting the support of others can we grow inner strength, which is an important connotation of the formation of a sense of security. Therefore, some people always say, "The sense of security is given to oneself".

This is actually a wrong statement, and this part is called the dependency paradox in dependency theory, which will be explained later.

A sense of security is not something that can be really touched, but a feeling of reassurance, comfort, trust, and belief.

There are 2 dimensions of security, namely a sense of certainty and a sense of control.