There are always conflicts between concubines, how should they be dealt with correctly?

Hello, I'm Bingwei talking about entertainment, and some people say that there is a relationship between concubines.

The most difficult part is that a small thing can lead to a big accident. However, some people say that becoming a concubine in this life is the fate of the previous life, and it needs to be maintained. Nowadays, people generally have access to higher education.

also knows that everything must be put in the shoes of others, so the relationship between concubines is not far away, but also like sisters.

Concubine generally refers to the brother's daughter-in-law, that is, the relationship between "sister-in-law and sister-in-law". 妯娌 is a unique Chinese term for this relationship, and it also reflects the breadth and profundity of the combination of Chinese characters. The characters on the right are also very similar, but one is facing up, and the other is facing down, which is clearly distinct and opposite to each other, so some people compare this relationship to the "mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship", which is collectively called "the most difficult relationship to deal with in the 21st century".

In fact, today's concubine relationship is more of a symbol of family affection, and even the daughter-in-law of the elder brother or younger brother is matched by the younger sister or sister-in-law, such a relationship can only make the brothers closer and closer, and each other's wives will naturally be as close as a family. Concubine is just a title, but also a trace of the times, today's relationship between concubine is more in line with civilization, order, and is a healthy relationship.

There are many ways for concubines to get along, if they are of the same age, they can be treated as little sisters, and maybe they will also inspire their husbands' work and careers; If there is a big age difference, they can also be regarded as bosom sisters, helping each other, and maybe it will become a beautiful conversation for the ages.

Speaking of the relationship between concubines, there were also many good stories in ancient times, such as concubine villages. Legend has it that in the Ming Dynasty, a family with a high surname.

There are two brothers, both of whom have married wives, and they often go to the river to wash clothes together. One day, as soon as the two of them arrived at the river, they met a rich man on a boat, and the rich man wanted to take it for himself when he saw that the concubine was good-looking, and he bought off the fast government and put the two brothers on death row. That night, the rich man died violently in the bedroom, and the rich man's land and property were burned, some people said that it was the retribution of heaven, and some people said that the brothers had a spirit ...... heavenIn the end, the two of them left for another country, and this place was changed to Feijiao Village.

But if the relationship between concubines and concubines is not good, it is also a family relationship.

One of the more troublesome ones, especially the concubines who live together, look down and don't look up, once there is a contradiction, it is likely to cause a big conflict. Therefore, when you get along with each other, you need to put yourself in the shoes of others, and you also need to care about each other on weekdays, pay more, take more responsibility, take a step back, and open the sky.

When there is a conflict between the two people, only by communicating and exchanging calmly will the problem be solved, and at the same time, they can prepare each other's favorite food, and they can also resolve the conflict between each other in the delicious.

First of all, you must learn to control your emotions, then reduce the chance of contact with the other party, and at the same time solve problems calmly and avoid comparing and arguing with each other.

If you want to deal with a conflict correctly, you must first find the source of the conflict and solve it according to the cause. Don't say bad things about the other person in private. You can try to be friends with him, you can talk together.

1. A tooth for a tooth:

If your concubine pretends to be a good person in front of everyone, then you should try to learn to be like her, pretend to be on good terms with her in front of everyone, and don't call her sister-in-law behind your back. When there are people, you can say out loud, sister-in-law, I have been calling you several times, why are you so close to me? If you don't know, you'll think you don't like me.

Second, to retreat as advance:

If you don't know how to deal with the concubine, then it's better to retreat. If she is deliberately targeting you, then you must not take it too seriously, and if you take it too seriously, then you may be hurt by her. When she is very enthusiastic with you in front of everyone, as if she is very familiar with you, you can say:

Sister-in-law, why do you ignore me when I talk to you, I thought we didn't know each other.

Three, too lazy to pay attention to her:

If you don't want to be hurt by a concubine, the best way is to be lazy to pay attention to her, this method is simple and rude. If your concubine finds out that she provokes you, you are very indifferent, and after a long time, she will back down.

Concubine: refers to the relationship between brother and sister-in-law and brother-in-law. Born out of brotherhood.

Both parties come from different families and living environments, and each thinks about himself, his husband, children, and family, so there have been many contradictions and disputes since ancient times. The way to avoid contradictions and disputes is to give in and understand each other, and to separate families and live apart.

If the family has two or more sons, the daughters-in-law are concubines of each other. In the traditional concept of Chinese, the relationship between concubines and daughters-in-law is as difficult as the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and the quality of the relationship between concubines and concubines directly affects the family atmosphere of the whole family.

Up-facing"Whew", the figure is steady, the demeanor is like the nostrils are soaring to the sky, and he is unforgiving; Downward-facing"Whew"It looks small and squeamish, pampered and delicate, with the charm of a little fox.

The contradiction between people is a complex process, and we should all be aware of it. Find each other's shortcomings and deficiencies, give corrections, and consult with a psychologist. I hope you can have a good friendship with him.

If you want to deal with the contradictions between each other, you must do it, treat others with respect and be straightforward, not careful, and walk around more between concubines to get along with each other.

There are many things in the world that can be solved with money, bring more gifts to visit each other, and reach out not to hit the smiling person, so that the conflict between the concubines will slowly get better.

You can try to avoid contact, and then if you want to solve it, you have to be generous, and don't worry about many things, so that he may not have conflicts with you slowly.

Calm down and talk, express all the grievances in your heart, don't be too selfish, and think about the other person.

Carefully understand and deal with the contradictions between the people! Deal with contradictions calmly!

Taking a step back is tolerance, patience and principled compromise. For example, two people have a conflict over a trivial matter. If one person can take the initiative to take a step back, it will not allow the conflict to escalate.

After both of them calmed down. will feel that this matter is not a quarrel at all. Zheng Banqiao's "rare confusion" and Han Xin's "humiliation of stepping down" are all classics of tolerance and forbearance.

What the eldest husband can bend and stretch tells us is also the truth.

It is my resolute refusal not to let go, not mine's indisputable!