What causes parental favoritism? How can parents be unbiased?

Children have been hurt since childhood, and the idea of preference for sons over daughters will lead to the partiality of parents; Parents should have a bowl of water, do not blame their children when there is a problem, and let the child solve the problem by himself when he encounters a problem, so that he can be not partial.

If the parents are patriarchal or one of the children is very good-looking, especially smart and will come to things, these will lead to parental partiality, parents must treat every child fairly, tell themselves that their children are their own, be fair and just, and the children will be more filial in the future.

Parents do not invest enough energy in their children, and some parents have the concept of preference for sons, which will lead to partiality of parents; Parents have to put in the same amount of energy for a bowl of water, whether it is a son or a daughter.

No matter how good parents are, their love for their children cannot be very balanced. Children who receive a lot of money do not feel that their parents are favoring them, but take it for granted. Neglected children feel that they have suffered a loss, and their parents have hatred for them and have no kindness. Children who truly repay grievances with virtue are commendable.

What should I do if I encounter a parent who is seriously eccentric? From Xiaomei's body, I saw three points. First, have a long talk with your father and mother, and strive to change it in the future.

Many people believe that if parents are at fault, they must be tolerated, not refuted. If you make your parents unhappy, you are not filial. In fact, as an adult, we have our own understanding of society and family, and we should help our parents correct their mistakes.

Through communication, parents can be alerted to what is not being done right. When we were young, our parents were our teachers. When we grew up, our parents were "teachers and friends".

In particular, some elderly parents urgently need to strengthen their studies, otherwise they will be eliminated from society. Instead of blaming their parents, this is not going to work, that is not going to work, it is better to help them increase their knowledge and let go of some outdated traditional ideas. Xiaomei said something to her parents, and it went into her heart and lungs.

You can't do it again, but you can't get along like an enemy in the future. Looking backwards and thinking on the bright side, there is nothing wrong with that. Second, don't compare yourself with your siblings and be yourself.

Xiaomei is the worst of the three siblings, but she does not rely on others, but insists on self-reliance. As the saying goes, "People are more angry than people."

In a big family, it is impossible for everyone to be a "dragon and phoenix", there are always people who are poorly mixed. Moreover, brothers and sisters who mix well are not obliged to help you. It's just out of flesh and blood, to help you.

Some people think that one of their siblings is particularly well mixed and relies on the "preference" of their parents. Therefore, the heart is very uncomfortable. In fact, as parents, their judgment is to push which child is more productive.

Their preference is also human nature. Ordinary people have the psychology of "disliking the poor and loving the rich, and tending to be inflammatory", and parents are no exception. People who really mix well have learned to rely on themselves, even if they mix badly, don't complain about anyone and add blockages to their hearts.

Third, try to convince yourself to do your duty. Everyone is unique. If you want to change others, it is difficult to go to the sky.

How to understand others is not to ask others to do anything, but to take the initiative to change oneself and make one's heart tolerant of others. If you look for the reason from yourself, you will find that "parental partiality" is also very related to what you do. It cannot be denied that children who have been mistreated by their parents have also grown up eating food from their parents' homes.

The kindness of a meal should also be reciprocated by a spring. It's a pity that many people have eaten countless times, but they don't even have the idea of filial piety. If you take it as your responsibility to give back to your parents, your heart will be able to accept the past.

It is said that the palms and backs of the hands are all meat, but some parents can't really make a bowl of water even. And it is not limited to a family with two brothers will have a bowl of uneven water, as long as it is a family with more than one child, the parents will be more or less eccentric.

First, why do parents be biased?

Children have different personality traits that lead to different emotional bonds with their parents. Children who are intimate and express affection tend to receive more love from their parents. A parent's love is unconditional, but reality cannot be completely unconditional.

Whether the grades are good or not, whether to give parents a long face, whether to treat parents patiently and other external conditions will affect the degree of focus of parents on their children. Because some special experiences have caused parents to be biased, such as the eldest is healthy and the second is frail and sickly, so the parents are more partial to the second finch oak.

Second, how to deal with parental partiality?

We often assume that "all parents are children" as a prerequisite, but we ignore some of the more important factors. Just like in the interaction between people, there is no side, and the relationship between two people with similar personalities will be closer? So, when calculating your emotional gains, please calculate your emotional input first.

However, some parents are biased but unreasonable, such as patriarchy, so children who grow up in such a family, I hope you will gradually understand that you are not wrong. Parental partiality cannot be changed, and we must correctly recognize our own value.

Every child who is not favored by their parents can now be at ease.