How much does parental partiality affect young children?

Introduction: With the development of the times, there has been a two-child policy in society, so many families will have 1 or 2 children. As we all know, parents are very important to the education of their children, especially in the face of the education of two young children, parents must be sure to do the same, otherwise there will be one who does not receive the corresponding attention and care, resulting in mental health development, and there will be defects in the character of problems.

Because when the child is young, the psychology is more fragile and sensitive, once the parents are partial to which child, the other child will feel very lost, and in the long run, it will cause damage and blow to the child's psychology. From this, we can find that if parents are eccentric, it will have a lot of effects on their children, so let's take a look at what the effects are.

Because the psychology of comparison between children has always existed, if in family education, parents are very partial to one party, then the other child will hate the other child from the bottom of his heart. In the long run, it will cause the children who have lost too much attention to have an extreme imbalance in their hearts, resulting in uncontrollable emotions, which will trigger conflicts between the two children. Therefore, we can conclude that if parents are too partial to another child, it will cause great hidden dangers to family harmony.

In a family, if the parents are very partial, then the treatment of the children of the partial side will be accompanied by too domineering, and there will be certain obstacles to future interpersonal communication. Children who do not receive attention will gradually have unconfidence and low self-esteem in their hearts, which will not only make the child's personality become more and more introverted, but also cause problems in the child's mental health, and bring certain obstacles to the child's language ability and communication ability.

To sum up, we can find that if in a family, parents cannot be treated equally and are too partial, it will bring hidden dangers to family harmony and will also affect the mental health of two children.

Parents are biased, children will have resentment and rebellion against their parents, and some will rather get lost than return to their parents, because they only feel that they are a superfluous, and it is enough for their parents to have a younger brother or sister.

Parental eccentricity has a very great impact on young children, which may affect the child's personality, affect the child's mental health, affect the child's growth and development, affect the child's brain thinking, and limit the child's growth.

It has a great impact on children, which will make children's personalities become particularly introverted, and they will also become particularly inferior, unwilling to communicate with others in life, and unwilling to make friends.

If parents are eccentric, it will cause great psychological trauma to their children. The unfavored party may often feel frustrated, and over time will become autistic and withdrawn.

Parental partiality can create unbalanced jealousy among the neglected parent. This will not be conducive to the establishment of family ties between siblings. After all, the relationship between brothers and sisters must be cultivated from an early age, and only when they grow up can they become a bond between each other.

It will make children estranged from their parents, so that the psychological distance from their parents will gradually drift away. Such parents are failures, because you can no longer get into the hearts of your children.

If there are two children in the family, and the parents favor one of them, then the other one may feel that he has been left out, and he may feel that his parents are unfair, and he may accumulate over time, and he will be jealous. It can also breed certain feelings of hatred.

When children are young, it is difficult to feel whether their parents are biased, and it is only when the children are growing up that they may notice the ways in which parents treat different children.

The occurrence of eccentricity can also lead to children who are not favored, and become sensitive and inferior. Over time, they will become more self-closed, and may also suffer from psychological diseases.

The impact is too great. If the parents are biased towards the child, the child will be pampered and proud, and it is easy for him to develop a strong, unreasonable vice.

Children whose parents do not love them will feel physically and mentally depressed, lose their self-confidence, and at the same time be unwilling to trust others.

Hello, if parents are eccentric, the impact on the child is very great, the child will think that he is very unvalued from an early age, and he has no status at home, so he becomes self-defeating.

If the parents are partial, the child will have little confidence in doing things, and will be jealous of the other child, which is very detrimental to the development of the relationship between brothers, and will resent the parents.

Parental eccentricity has a great impact on young children, which will lead to children's mental extremism, and over time, children will become more and more complaining. There is no such thing as a sound personality.

How much does parental partiality affect young children? If the child has been treated differently, then the child's heart will definitely be unhealthy.

First of all, this concept is a subtle inner hurt for children who are elders. Maybe your parents are casually saying that you have to let your younger siblings because they are younger than you. But this sends a negative message to the elder child – that the parents favor younger siblings, and I am not watching.

The psychological damage this causes to children is enormous. Children who grow up in this environment will invisibly increase the estrangement from their parents, and children will think that their parents do not care about them. This can create more insecurities for the child.

Especially those children who are not good at communication are not concerned at school and do not feel the attention of their parents at home, which is a huge psychological trauma for children. Over time, the child's personality is different, but the parents are not aware of it at all, so that in the end, tragedy occurs, and it is already too late. Some people may question that it is impossible for an elderly child to have such a scary outcome for his younger siblings.

Indeed, because of this concept, there are indeed few tragedies, but that does not mean that there are none. In reality, there have indeed been tragic incidents of hurting younger siblings in order to compete for the attention of parents, and it is necessary to prevent it. In addition, there is no doubt that this concept will slowly become a psychological trauma for the child and will slowly accumulate into the child's negative emotions.

Second, this kind of thinking can create a false perception for favored younger siblings that it is only natural for older siblings to let me help me. This also has the realistic "Fan Shengmei" incident. The girl died unexpectedly, and her parents claimed 410,000 yuan from her company to buy a house for her younger brother.

The younger brother also gladly accepted it, and never understood his sister, who had never taken care of him, as if his sister was obliged to help him even if he died, because he was the youngest in the family. Think about how terrible this perception is.

In the end, in the face of this perception, how to correct it is the key. This belief has a long history in China, and among most Chinese parents, it is so ingrained that it is difficult to change. However, that doesn't mean it can't be changed.

Parents, schools, and society can work together to change this. Parents are the most critical link, because parents are the first teachers of children, and they are also the most important companions of children during their growth. If parents do not instill in their children who are elders from an early age the concept that "big must let the young", and do not instill in their younger siblings the concept that "older brothers and sisters will let you".

It is to educate children, whether they are older brothers and sisters, or younger brothers and sisters, to help each other and be humble to each other, rather than blindly humble, and endless humility is called "doting". In this way, the child can grow up healthily in a harmonious family.

If the parents have a preference for this child, the child will be proud of himself, so he can easily form a bad habit of being strong and unreasonable. And the child who feels that his parents do not love him will feel frustrated, have low self-esteem, lose self-confidence, and do not want to trust others.

2. Eccentric parents can easily make some children disrespect their elders, they don't take their elders seriously, and another child resents their parents because they don't love them.

3. Parental partiality will lead to a bad relationship between siblings, one party is very domineering, one party hates each other, they are incompatible, not to mention brotherhood.

4. Parents are partial, children do not know filial piety when they grow up, lack of love, and favored children always rely on their parents, which is not conducive to self-reliance, on the contrary, they will be selfish.

Parents should avoid it.

1.Don't discuss them in person.

Being discussed by someone else is hurtful, even if the person is a child. As a parent, you should never discuss them in front of your children, and even if you do, you should choose to discuss them in your child's absence. Therefore, parents must pay attention to the choice of occasions and topics in their usual conversations, so as not to hurt their children's "hearts".

2.Do not compare the strengths and weaknesses of the child.

"Every child has advantages and disadvantages, and as parents, we must not compare the advantages of one child with the disadvantages of another. Even if it is to spur and motivate "backward" children to improve, it is not advisable. In your usual words and deeds, you should also pay attention to proportion, and you must not put words such as "If only you had a brother who is half well-behaved" and "Look at how smart your sister is, why are you so stupid".

3.Meet your child's demands fairly.

For the reasonable requirements of children, as parents, we must uphold the principle of treating things not others, treat them fairly, and must not be biased because of their own temporary "selfishness", let alone ignore or even refuse the same requirements, because a child is not good enough or makes mistakes.

4.Reward or punish equally.

If the above three points are difficult for parents to grasp the scale, then this point is very clear. For example, when parents express their love, they must bring all their children with them, and when they buy clothes for their children, they must take one set per person, buy a gift, one for each person, and when they go out to play, either bring them all or none of them. When a child makes a mistake, it should be punished as a whole, and there should be no distinction between big and small mistakes, master and accessory, and indulge and shield one of the children to avoid punishment, but the intensity of punishment can be reduced according to the size of the child's mistake.

5.Individualized care is given.

For different children, parents should have an equal attitude, but at the same time, they should also give full play to their respective advantages and treat them differently according to different rankings. For example, encourage the elderly to take responsibility and be more humble. Encourage younger children to learn more and respect more.

In this way, children will respect and love each other in different ways. When a child makes a mistake, the two children are punished together, and when one child improves, the two children praise and encourage, and in the "joint" and "favor", let the child feel the preciousness of brotherhood and be grateful to each other in the growth and progress.

Sometimes, the most hurtful people are often the closest people, and it is not terrible for strangers to hurt you, but it is the people closest to you who are most scary. For example, children who are treated favoritly by their parents will have a lifelong trauma in their hearts.

In families with many children, some parents always have a bias towards their children, and this behavior is actually a kind of harm. The child who is not treated by his parents is always pleasing and longing for a little response. Such children are easy to have low self-esteem, and will always become timid and cowardly when they grow up, and always suffer from gains and losses when they grow up, lack a sense of security, lack of confidence in themselves, often ignore their own feelings, like to observe words and looks, and please others.

Some parents can't treat their children fairly, they always have to treat the other poorly, and they are treated poorly by this child, no matter how much they pay, in his eyes you are doing what you should do.

When a child is young, it is important for parents to care and love him.

This kind of psychological wound cannot be healed for a lifetime. When parents favor one child, it is bound to cause harm to the other child.

But all eccentric parents love to say: the palms of the hands and the backs of the hands are all meat! In fact, the palm of the hand is always in the palm of the hand, and the back of the hand will always resist everything! There are good things that are held in the palm of the hand, but there is nothing in the back of the hand.

The most unreasonable thing is the partiality of parents, but it is also the most harmful. Parental partiality really hurts the hearts of children, maybe they don't care very much when they get older, and they will be filial to their parents, but the grievances when they were young will always be there.

I feel that I am very lacking in love, I am very eager to be loved by my parents, and I am cared for by my parents, of course, this is what I looked forward to when I was a child, when my parents are old, we need us to love, but we can't love it, we force ourselves to love, buy them this and buy that, give them some pocket flowers, but the feeling is always faint.

We must share as much love as possible to each child, so that children can feel that their parents love them the most, they can feel the love and warmth of their parents, and the children will unite and help each other when they grow up.

Many of the older siblings are excluded from each other, which is caused by the partiality and unfair treatment of the parents, the disunity of the siblings, the real parents have to pay greater responsibility, and the children are not filial if they want to be filial. We can't choose to be born, we are arranged to accept whatever parents we are, and no matter what, thank them for bringing us into the world and thank them. Tell yourself that you don't have to complain so much, that life is inherently imperfect, and that imperfection is the norm in life, and encourage yourself to accept it.

It is often said that "the back of the hand and the palm of the hand are all meat", and a bowl of water should be flat.

This is so, but it is impossible to do so because of the weakness of human nature. Although parents have love for their children, parents will also involuntarily have partiality, and it is impossible to treat them equally. And our common situation is that the more doting children are by parents, the more unproductive and unfilial they are, and the neglected children are often more responsible and loving.

Children whose parents are partial will be very squeamish. You don't put in too much effort. The ability to succeed is relatively weak.

On the contrary, parents are not partial to children. Try it yourself, very hard. On the contrary, it will be very successful.

That's his insecurity. After success, if parents want to favor squeamish children in the future, this will have a great impact on the children who have already succeeded. For example, ask for money from a child who is not partial, and spend it with a child who is partial.

Eccentric children go, oh, for nothing! Children who are not favored are unbalanced in their hearts. It will cause a lot of family conflicts.