The child is 4 and a half years old, how to set rules for the child?

First of all, you must set some rules for your child to eat, such as waiting for the elders when eating. Then we went to eat together. At the same time, you can't just mess around with the dishes on the plate when eating.

Parents should set an example for them, guide them more often, instill correct their thinking, and correct them in time when they make mistakes, and restrain their behavior.

The baby is four and a half years old, and at this time he can already be sensible, and at this time he must correctly guide the baby to do what he can't do, and he can't agree to it.

Isn't it time for a four-year-old to make rules? Do you want them to be freer or do you want to restrain them?

There is never a contradiction between setting rules and letting children free their nature.

Many parents are often prone to extremes, thinking that setting rules for their children will bind their children, which can only show that you are a diligent and studious mother, who has read a lot of books and learned a lot of parenting knowledge, but it is not systematic.

Four-year-old children are an important period to establish a sense of rules, children need to have boundaries and bottom lines of life, just like you need to provide a room for children to play, but don't leave him alone in the endless grassland, so that he will be lost and dare not do anything, let alone freedom.

Freedom and boundaries are relative, only with boundaries children will feel freedom, only freedom has no boundaries, for the child her world is chaotic, so mothers don't worry, you can start to set rules for children.

You need to tell your child that today we are going out to the supermarket, let's make a list together, buy only the things on the list when you buy things, and you have to see a green light when you cross the street to pass, so that it is the safest, where to put the toys when they are not finished, what is your agreement?

In short, it is as positive and direct as possible to tell the child that you want the child to understand the rules, of course, many times it is not possible to achieve it overnight, be more patient, try a few more times, don't forget that the child is also observing your language and behavior in this process.

Now many families are one or two children, the old people's doting on children will inevitably make children pampered and arrogant, some children will be rude to the elderly, pointing at the stool, such behavior parents can not condone.

When a child is too young, he does not understand what rules are, but if he waits for him to become older, it may be difficult for him to change his bad habits. When is the best time to set rules?

I suggest that your child is about two years old, at this time the child basically has his own ideas, understanding and behavior control ability, at this time to set rules and praise the omen, as long as the method is correct, the child is easy to accept. Some parents believe that their children should be free-range when they are young, and too many constraints will limit his development.

In fact, the practice of free-range breeding is only limited to 2 years old, if the child has formed his own consciousness but does not set rules for him, then it is difficult to cultivate good behavior habits for the child. After the age of four or five, it may be too late to correct some of his bad habits.

So how do you set rules for your child? This requires parents to do the following:

It is easy to agree on the views between husband and wife, but some of the next generation leads to the elderly extremely doting on the children, and the children are wronged, if the grandparents come out to block, then it will convey inconsistent information to the children, which is not only not conducive to family harmony, but also not conducive to the development of good habits by children.

No matter what kind of rules are formulated, parents must lead by example, if parents educate their children to do something, but they can't do it, then the child will also be unconvinced.

Parents are the best teachers for their children, you want your children to be polite, first of all, you can't be reckless and swearing; If you want your child to be honest and trustworthy, then you can't lie and go back on your word.

Some parents always like to criticize education, this is not good, that is not good. Although there are rules for the child, it is difficult for the child to accept. If the child does a good job, you should praise him moderately and give him enough confidence that he can do better.

Children often make mistakes when they are young, and even if you set the rules yesterday, they may forget them today. Don't beat and scold him in this way, give him plenty of time, enough patience, don't reprimand him, shout at him, I believe that if you treat him gently, he will get better and better.

Because when you yell at your child, he doesn't really listen to it at all, but is more afraid, timid, and even disgusted, which is not conducive to the child's physical and mental development. Adults are different from children, you can't use adult guidelines to regulate and restrain children, let alone blindly belittle him and ridicule him, children need the patience and tolerance of parents.

A restful sleep requires a comfortable sleeping environment as support, and if the sound of TV and conversation comes and goes, it is difficult for your baby to sleep on time. Therefore, before the baby goes to bed, parents should ensure that the indoor temperature is suitable and there is no noise around them.

It is necessary for them to develop good habits of being polite, to let them develop a sense of time, to learn self-management, to learn to take care of themselves in basic life, and before the age of 4 is the best time for education.

Restful sleep quality; Don't let your child sleep too long during the day; Don't let your child lie; Good rules need to be set for your child.

1. You should love your children reasonably. Don't be too strict, and don't be arrogant. When educating children, parents should educate their children with correct and reasonable love, not too harsh, or beating and scolding children; You can't be too arrogant to your child, these two extreme ways are not conducive to your child's growth.

When educating children, in the face of children's mistakes, it is necessary to point out them in time and let them correct them. For example, if a child hits someone, parents can't say that my child is really energetic! This is a sign of misleading and pampering children.

Many grandparents have this situation. A child's mistake is a mistake.

2. Parents should have a good attitude when educating their children. When educating children, parents should maintain a good attitude, mainly to be content, and to have high standards and low requirements for their children. "After all, it is a child, if the child has even a little progress, it is good, such as letting the child tidy up the room, it is difficult, if the child can fold a few clothes, parents should encourage the child, but be specific, for example, your folding clothes are really good, keep working hard", don't say that you are really good.

3. Guide children to perform good behavior by playing games. Children like to play roles, and if the child is not eating well, parents can guide the child to use the game method to eat. For example, take the children's dishes and chopsticks, let the children put them neatly, and then the parents will place the tableware in turn, so that the children will laugh and arrange the performance, and the children will generally be very cooperative.

But it's time to eat, and you can't let your child play endlessly. Parents can tell their children that they are ready, finish their meals, and then play games.

4. The time to punish the child should be short. When the child makes a mistake, the punishment time for the child at this stage can not be too long, otherwise it will lead to some negative effects, such as the child always throws confetti to the ground, parents in order to punish the child, let him sweep the floor, mop the floor, pay attention to cleaning for a few minutes, not too long, otherwise it will make the child feel unconfident and lack of understanding of parents.

5. Treat children's lies and deception calmly It is relatively normal for children to lie at the age of children, and parents should respond calmly, do not lose their temper, or feel incredible. When children lie, parents may wish to tell their children some stories, such as the classic story of the wolf, so that children know the disadvantages of lying, and through story education, the children's impact is greater. When telling a story, it should be more emotional and easy for children to understand.

6. Parents should pay attention to the crying problem of children at this age. The crying of a baby-old baby is often purposeful, such as missing his mother, wanting to eat a certain snack, wanting to go somewhere to play, etc. Parents should be careful not to pay too much attention to their child's crying and not to react significantly from the usual one.

Otherwise, the child will cry even harder, and he will not stop until he reaches his goal. On the contrary, if parents pretend to be okay and are busy with themselves, the child will feel bored after crying for a while, and will slowly stop crying, and will rarely use pretending to cry to meet his own needs in the future.