In today s Chinese style family, why is it so tiring to take care of children?

Because there are too many people taking care of children, everyone's opinions are different, and in the process of taking care of children, there are more rules, so the process of taking care of children is very tedious and tiring.

Because today's parents can be said to take care of their children, they do everything by themselves, which is something that children can complete independently, and parents also have to do it themselves, so they feel very tired.

Because parents are prone to tie their children's futures to themselves. In this way, you have to worry about buying a house and marrying a wife for your children. That's why it's going to be very tiring.

Because some of the educational requirements for children are very high, so it is very tiring, such as children's learning, children's life, all kinds of food and daily life, so it is very tired.

Yesterday, my husband watched a variety show, which was about the daily life of a family in other countries, this family has 4 children, but the parents are still living a relatively relaxed life, which is much easier than being parents like us. After seeing my husband, I told me, why do so many children live very leisurely in other people's foreign life paths, we have only one child in our family, everyone feels very tired, if we take a second child, it is really difficult to imagine their future life. Why do Chinese always feel so hard to raise children?

This is usually the case.

1. Expecting too much from your child.

Children are the expectations of each of our parents, every parent hopes that their children can live stronger than us in the future, this is beyond reproach, but everything must have a degree, the expectations of children are too high, and they will involuntarily promote the seedlings of children, so that it will fall short, and the development of children is not very good, and not only make children's childhood unhappy, I also think that it is not easy to take children.

Second, the whole family is sent to take care of the children.

Our own children are like the "Tai Sui Xingjun" in the family, everything about the child is sent by the whole family, parents, grandparents, grandparents and grandparents everyone expects the child to develop according to their own preferences, from school to university, all the whole family and every member of the team to determine, the child has no decision-making power from beginning to end, so that the child has no self, and the adults also feel that they have paid a lot for the child, and they are very tired.

3. "Widowed" with children.

"Widowed" raising children is a new word that just came out not long ago, "widowed" is not a real child of a divorced family, that is just a description, which means that although the child has parents, but the actual situation is just like a single-parent family, usually only the mother alone with the child, as if raising a child has nothing to do with the father, this kind of family raising children, the mother will feel very tired.

The main reason for the first point is that the child is too strict, the second point is that the child is afraid to do everything by himself, and the third point is that everything is taken care of, so it is very tiring to take care of the child by himself.

Chinese parents are more tired with their children, generally because they have higher expectations for their children, so sometimes there will be educational anxiety. And they manage a lot, and they refuse to give full play to their own abilities.

I dote on my children too much, I don't dare to let go, I don't want to exercise my children, and adults with independent ability are doing it for my children, and I feel that my children are still young.

First of all, because Chinese parents' education methods belong to the kind of all-encompassing, that is to say, he is very worried about what his child does, no matter how old the child is, he will worry about him.

The main reason is that Chinese parents spoil their children too much, and they discipline their children too much, and they don't know how to let go, so they feel particularly tired, and I don't.

Maybe it's because it costs a lot of money to raise a child, and you have to take care of his daily life and his learning status.

Because Chinese are particularly concerned about their children and want the best for their children, they are very tired, resulting in children who are also tired and will become rebellious.

Because I think the cost of raising children in China will be relatively high, and Chinese pay special attention to education, and will send children to various tutoring classes. Children's food, clothing, housing and transportation also need to be carefully considered by parents.

Chinese raise children are really worried about everything from childhood to adulthood, will not implement free-range discipline like foreign parents, parents manage the study and life of their children when they are young, and after the children get married and have children, they still worry about their children, so can this not be tiring?

Because in the current society, the economic pressure of every Chinese is very great, and raising children is a big economic expense.

Because the Chinese have too high requirements for their children, every parent is looking forward to their sons.

It is because adults are reluctant to cultivate children's independence, and do everything by themselves, which breeds children's dependence and simplicity.