Why is it that the more sensible people are, the easier it is to wronged themselves?

This is a typical people-pleasing personality.

When we were young, we were all not afraid of heaven and earth, and we had the courage to speak out when we were wronged. But as we grow older, we gradually hide our edge, learn to read words and colors, and begin to become cautious.

But in life, the more sensible people are, the more aggrieved they are. You always think about other people's feelings and care about other people's eyes, but gradually you become the least valued person; You always choose to give in again and again in order to fulfill others, but over time you are taken for granted.

Whenever this happens, you will also feel lost and sad. But no one knows, in fact, you also hope in your heart that someone can understand your helplessness, feel sorry for your grievances, and know how to consider you.

Because life is like this, those who never cry out in pain, no one cares if she is hurt or not; Those who bear everything alone, others think that she is truly invincible.

In fact, in this world, everyone is unique, and no one should be wronged for the sake of others. So you really don't have to think about others in everything. Life is too short, and making yourself happy and comfortable is the real top priority.

What's more, the person who truly loves you never needs you to please in every possible way; People who really feel sorry for you are reluctant to let you suffer the slightest grievance.

For the rest of your life, remember to think more about yourself in everything. Only those who love themselves will be loved by others.

Because he is too sensible, he always thinks about others when he encounters things, and he is unwilling to hurt others, so he always wrongs himself, and there is a creed in his heart that is not to hurt others and to be a good person

There is a saying in our lives: a crying child has milk. There is indeed a reason for this, when these people are dissatisfied with the status quo.

Showing some emotional practices, individual societies or parts of the group, choose to compromise to meet the demands of this part of the people, and in the end they profit. And then the behavior of these people is called ignorant people, so is it that sensible people can't enjoy the same treatment? There must be a lot of grievances?

Let's analyze it together.

Do the more sensible people are wronged?

Relatively speaking, people who are more sensible will indeed suffer a lot of grievances, mainly in different stages of life. For example, in family life, when there are more children, if the child is more sensible, then the parents' need for his care or giving is relatively not very much, because in the eyes of the parents, he is a more well-behaved child and does not need additional material encouragement. But when they go to society in the future, sensible people often don't suffer a lot of grievances, because they know how to control their emotions to get more opportunities for development, which will be a wealth in life.

What grievances have you suffered because you are sensible?

In fact, there are many grievances similar to these aspects. For example, during the school period, the class teacher elects the class leader or class representative. Many people want to strive for such opportunities, but they do have the ability and academic performance in this area, but they want to leave these opportunities to others.

In the eyes of others, this may be the sensible way, but in the end, I failed to win the opportunity, so I can't bear the grievances in this regard. On the other hand, it's a good quality performance.

Is it necessary to understand in life?

Personally, I think it is very necessary, which is conducive to cultivating a person's calm character and temperament, not fighting, not grabbing, not arrogant and impatient. Even if it is a short-term grievance and an exception, it doesn't matter. When you increase your abilities, you will naturally have a lot of opportunities.

If you only rely on scheming or crying to get attention and love, such care will not last long, and will even create a bad impression on people.

Possibly. Sensible people are more delicate, think more, and think more about others, and often wronged themselves for the feelings of others. For example, I often take on things that I don't want to do in order not to embarrass my friends.

The more sensible the person is, she will not take the initiative to refuse others, and she will be wronged a little more, because I am sensible, I often do a little more housework, and my sister will help her cover up when she makes mistakes.

Yes. When I was young, because I was the eldest in the family, no matter what delicious food and drink or clothing, I would give it to my younger brothers and sisters in advance.

Sensible children have one common trait:

Pay attention to the feelings of others too early, give up the right to appeal to oneself, dare not be willful, and be cautious.

It's also low self-esteem in the heart.,Always feel that your needs don't matter.,And adults have a higher evaluation of themselves than a bright one.。

As long as the bear child occasionally does a heart-warming thing, he can be praised by everyone, but once the sensible child does something out of the ordinary with Jing Mingbi, he will disappoint people all over the world.

Because it is too hard to be sensible, it is bitter in the heart.

One of my male visitors had a large debt when he was a child because of the average conditions of his family's business.

Parents often quarrel over this, and he becomes the more sensible child in the family.

When you see something you like, you can only look at it, and you don't dare to express your true thoughts to your home.

From childhood to adulthood, he was the "child of someone else's family" in the eyes of his neighbors.

Not only does he not let his family worry about his studies, but he also begins to take on some housework at home after the age of 7.

There is no poor child who is in charge of the house early, but at the expense of childhood.

In fact, there is no need for parents to say that children can also perceive that their families are not wealthy.

Because they will always find that other people's children always have a car to pick them up and drop off from school, and they are the squeaky electric car no matter the wind or shine.

My sister's second child was not at home since she was a child, because of family planning, when I first met her, she was 7 years old and ready to go to primary school.

I didn't like her very much when I was a child, and it may be because I was very uncomfortable with her sudden arrival, I was very slow to do things, slow, and always cried. Later, the younger brother and cousin all lived together, and life was noisy.

Now think about it, she has been living with her mother, and it is very uncomfortable to come home suddenly, grandma is anxious, her temper is a little short, and her sister is a little afraid of her, she may also be very sad! But she is sullen, she can't say anything, she works well, she studies well, and she has never been pressured, but she is still afraid that her parents will be disappointed, and she has always been silent, very sensible. It is not easy for the family, and many things are digested by themselves.

She is also very patient in doing things, and I admire her resilience and patience. But when I went home this year, I found that she was sometimes very irritable, didn't like to laugh anymore, and was always busy. Because only her grandmother was at home when she built a house, she didn't go out to accompany her grandmother during the summer vacation, she did a lot of work, she was very tanned, and she usually had to take care of her younger brother's homework in class, so she had almost no time and opportunities to play.

It's time to go to college, this year's exam is very good, my parents said that they want to entertain relatives to get together, grandma doesn't agree very much, so she has been noisy, unhappy, and good things are very annoying in the end. The main thing is that my sister also said that she didn't need to, so as to save adults from worrying, but from time to time she would say, once or twice, many times it would be annoying.

I fought with her yesterday, and I didn't say anything in my heart, I said that my parents didn't say it, so you have to tell me about it. After saying that, I cried, I just felt that I was very wronged, and I had always been so sensible, but I felt very uncomfortable in my heart, and my emotions were very broken. At that moment, I really felt so distressed.

School is about to start, and my parents are about to go to Beijing for the first time in college, and no one will send her, I'm worried, my parents are worried, I'm worried, but she just said that she hasn't been far away, and she said over there Have you let me go out? All the time, she was very well-behaved, in case grandma was worried, her parents always told her not to go out, and it was rare to go out with friends.

I'm just afraid that she will be too sensible, even if she goes to college later, makes friends, has a boyfriend, and doesn't say anything if she is wronged, or thinks about it from the position of others, and doesn't want to think about herself It's easy to get hurt. I hope she doesn't think so much, for a long time, it has been the family that says you have to be sensible, you have to be well-behaved, you can't let your parents worry about being in the field, you have to go to school hard, how do you want to be like this.

I hope she grows up and slowly gets rid of the so-called shackles! Be free and be yourself.