My boyfriend has always been mindful of the child I had with my ex husband, is such a man worth entr

Friend, it doesn't matter if you pick it or not, but I am very angry when I see this kind of thing. I want you to hear what I have to say.

Men should be generous and broad-minded. To love one person is to love all of one. Since it is good with the purpose of getting married, both parties must be calm and agreeable.

You can talk to him, you have to understand why he cares about your child, so that you can try to convince him. If the reason why he minds this child is only because it is not his own, then I think such a man is not responsible and irresponsible. Friend, I have been divorced once, I need to be cautious when choosing a mate, I hope you will consider it carefully.

Wishing you happiness.

First of all, you need to understand why your boyfriend would mind the child you had with your ex-husband. This may be because of his own security issues, or it may be because he is worried that your relationship with your child will affect your relationship.

If you feel that your boyfriend's mind is based on his security issues, you can try to communicate with him to let him know that you value him and care about his children, so that he can feel your sincerity and effort in the relationship.

If you feel that your boyfriend's mind is because you are worried that your relationship will be affected, you can try to work with him on how to deal with the relationship between you and the child and how to make sure that the connection between you and the child does not affect the relationship between you.

In any case, whether a man is worth entrusting for life requires a comprehensive consideration of many aspects, not just his attitude towards your relationship with your children. You need to consider aspects such as his character, character, sense of responsibility, plans and commitment to the future. If he excels in all of these areas, then you can consider entrusting him for life.

But if his mind makes you uncomfortable or affects the relationship between you, then you need to seriously consider whether the relationship is suitable to continue.

Summary. Yes, basically men will mind, because it means raising children for others, and it is also a question of whether they will still be around when they grow up.

Yes, basically men will mind, because it means raising children for others, and it is also a question of whether they will still be around when they grow up.

Therefore, it is generally difficult for a woman with children to marry, even if marrying a woman is not good for Ziling Yinji, but whether she is good for the child, such a marriage will still not be happy.

But the child is simple, especially if the child is still very young, it is a pity for the child.

Yes, Mimaga, from this point of view, the child is innocent, but who knows who is innocent when the mold oak grows up? After raising a child for someone else's town, he will not be filial to himself when he is old, and even corrupt himself, why bother, there is no way for his own children, other people's children, hey? , I'm the second marriage with the child, the second marriage is not for myself at all, it is certain that the man of the second marriage cannot be good to the child, but I just think that I can not abuse the child, at least there is a mother by my side, I can protect him from empty, but really living together, there are indeed countless fights and games that have collapsed.

If you want to live a good life and not collapse, you have to have a child with this man instead, but this result will cause more damage to the nuclear spine of your ex-husband's child, because of the separation of love, the adoptive father will change a little but not like the biological father.

In fact, it can be seen that you are eager for beauty, it is everyone's right to strive for happiness, there is no best of both worlds in the world, to be honest, people need to be a little selfish, dare to say that there is no selfish side, then it is not human! It's just that people, especially women, will hesitate in front of many so-called moral kidnapping, or worry about being blamed by others, or worry about remarrying badly, and worry about the children not doing well, etc., to break off, but it is not good for both parties, for the two families, and for the growth of children, you might as well remarry, isn't it? Just ask your relatives around you, can you stop your brothers from getting old, sick and dying?

When the child is less than one year old, he will be raised by his mother, and when he is two or three years old, he will be raised by the man, and he will not come and go at all. If the man really does not want to take care of the children, he can foster them to distant relatives without children, or the elderly who have no children and widows, and I believe they will also be regarded as treasures. In this way, you can avoid causing more secondary harm to your future family, such as child support, ex-husband (ex-wife), ex-mother-in-law on the grounds of children, and a vicious circle of multiple families.

At present, the law does not deal with the problem of two clearances after divorce very well, and the general co-parenting makes people head big, and many ex-husbands (ex-wives) in order to prevent their ex-wives, the children have become absolutely unclear chess pieces, rather than better solutions and blessings. If it is a personal problem, it is more of a hypocritical moral love and selfish greed, because if you really love your child, you should not break it in his memory, leaving more bad memories and embarrassment. It's also a kind of responsibility for your new partner.,But people are always half-hearted.,It's also very fair to your new partner.,Everyone wants to have a good one.。

However, like many people, they hope that another companion will have a car and a house, and they hope that the other companion will be as beautiful as a fairy.

First, it depends on who you pay more attention to your boyfriend and children. Literally, it can be read as paying more attention to the child, but it does not mean giving up on one's own happiness. Happiness is in your own hands.

What can slip away is not where it belongs or does not suit itself. You can be a wonderful version of yourself and raise your children to be cute and sensible. When the time comes, you will be sure to find someone to spend your happiness with.

Hello, you need to understand why you don't accept it, if it's just because of selfishness, then you can't get along with your children again in the future, and such selfish people won't bring you happiness.

Questions. Hello teacher, what should I do now.

Am I too selfish to abandon my own children.

If it is indeed selfish to abandon the child because of this, and you have the obligation to raise the child, it is also illegal to ignore the child.

Questions. Teacher, I understand, in fact, this man doesn't really love me, and if he really likes me, he will accept everything about me.

Yes, if you really love, he will not trap you in unkindness.

Questions. Thank you for the guidance of the teacher, I understand.

I wish you happiness soon.

This question is a relatively large question, and the scope of involvement is also relatively wide.

First, the issue of family acceptance on both sides.

Second, the issue of raising children in the future (although you make money to raise your children and don't let the man spend a dime, the man still has to pay to support you, so in the man's heart, it is still an expense that he feels is unnecessary, if he doesn't pay to support you, it will be meaningless for you to be together).

Third, will there be any disconnection with the ex-husband, including the ex-husband's family, so jealousy is inevitable.

Fourthly, if you are going to have a child in the future, if he is a little nicer to his child, you will feel indifferent to your child, because your sensitivity to the reorganization of the family and how to see your child will increase invisibly, and you will not know it.

There are many problems that may be unknown based on ordinary life, but with the reorganization of the family, sensitive issues will expand indefinitely, leading to many examples of separation. At the same time, it will also bring psychological pressure to your future married life, causing you to be unable to love anymore, which is possible.

The solution is to directly talk about the things you will face in the future when you get married, and also, think about yourself, whether you can really start a new life by yourself, you should be more accommodating to each other in the future, tolerant, and avoid not being sensitive. I'll talk about this for the time being, think about it, and I wish you happiness.

Of course! Children are your children all their lives, but men are not necessarily, and how can a man who can't even accept your child be worthy of saying that he really loves you. If you really love you, you should accept everything you have.

How old is your child? The vast majority of people can't accept it, and it's impossible to say that they don't mind. Look what you said to your boyfriend... If you don't know how to say it, then you can put yourself in the shoes of your boyfriend and ex-wife who have a child, would you still be willing to marry him?

Would you not mind? Can you really accept this child? You ask yourself about your heart, and if you can really accept it, then you enlighten your current boyfriend in the way you enlighten yourself.

If you can't accept it, there will be a lot of contradictions in the future, such as speaking loudly and thinking that you are scolding.

One, judging from the narrative, you love your boyfriend very much and hope that your boyfriend is the only one in his heart. Be able to understand your mood and feelings.

Two, but you have to understand one thing as soon as possible, as long as there are children between your boyfriend and his ex-wife, it is impossible to prevent them from having contact with each other.

Third, as a qualified father, no matter who the child follows after the divorce, his love for the child will not change, and he will try his best to make up for the harm caused by the failure of his marriage, and will try his best to meet the various requirements of the child and be more pampered to the child.

Fourth, in the matter of children, with the child's own mother, you are definitely an outsider and have no right to speak.

Fifth, if you mind, give up your boyfriend as soon as possible and find a man with a simple background to marry. Because there's nothing you can do to change reality when it comes to children!

Cool office! One, your boyfriend and his family go to see the child every month, that's right, the others are father and son, which is beyond reproach!

Second, it shows that your boyfriend is a responsible person! An irresponsible person, you won't like it either!

Third, it doesn't make sense for you to eat your boyfriend's child's vinegar, you should also learn to accept your boyfriend's child, so that your boyfriend will not be in a dilemma!

In fact, if you marry him, you should take this issue into consideration, because the child is their bond, and it is impossible for you to intervene so that people can leave everything behind, if you love him, love him everything, and if you can't bear it, then divorce, the long pain is better than the short pain.

If you mind whether you should consider whether you should be together, otherwise there will be conflicts over this matter after marriage, your boyfriend should see that his son should show that he is responsible, empathize with him, give up if he can't accept it, and you must understand when you are together.

Because it is normal for the child's boyfriend and his family to interact with his ex-wife, as long as they ensure that their relationship is purely for the good of the child, and there is no intention of continuing the relationship, you should understand and support, after all, the child is innocent, the child needs the love of the parents, you should also love his child with your husband, have a good relationship with his ex-wife, and it is best to introduce her to the object, so that the worries are completely relieved.

If you mind it, break up with him.,Since it's a boyfriend and girlfriend relationship now.,There shouldn't be anything left.。 If you really can't get by, break up, there is no other way.

If you mind being a stepmother, then it's better to end this relationship as soon as possible. His children are related to him by blood, and he can't ignore it, and you can't marry an indifferent man.

The question you said is very realistic, after all, the child is his own flesh and blood, and it is a bit unreasonable not to let them come into contact, you are just friends, and you can break up if you can't accept it, but if you really love him, you have to accept it.

The problem you said is very realistic, and it is unavoidable, because after all, there are children, although your husband and his ex-wife have divorced, but because of the problem of children, they must meet, and they must be contacted in life, then, as you are concerned, the mood must be resistant, the mood is very bad, I understand this very well, but this is not a problem, because you will also have children in the future, when you have children, this problem will gradually be ignored.

It doesn't seem to be a big deal, but it's mainly you, if you don't feel good about his reaction after you say how you feel, you can break up.

You have to adjust your mentality about this problem, and you should accept it if you find one, it is impossible for him and his family not to look at the child.

If you really mind if you choose to break up. First marriage to first marriage will not have these things that you mind.

If you mind, you will break up, if you love him, you have to accept everything from him, from this point of view, you still don't love him very much, so you don't have to force yourself to accept it, and there will be constant quarrels, how to talk about happiness.

It's nothing, people's biological flesh and blood, just break up if you mind.

This underlying psychological worry is understandable, but if excessive worry can affect the current emotional communication and exchange between the two of you, including trust in each other, the price must outweigh the cost. Advice: Your boyfriend will choose to divorce, it must be deliberate, and if he chooses to be with you, it must be that you have many advantages that his ex-wife does not have.

Therefore, only when you are more confident in facing the children of your boyfriend and his ex-wife, will you be more independent in grasping the direction of your existing emotions. Trust must be the cornerstone of the most precious love, and choosing trust is also a true respect for each other, when the two of you are more emotional, his ex-wife herself will choose to stay away from your happy life. If you love him, take all of him!

You love a divorced man, everything about him is already a fact! Unless you find a first marriage, the unmarried one has his past! How many people don't have their own past?

If you can't accept his past, don't be with him, because it's a fact that can't be changed! Since they are divorced, there will be nothing to do with it in the future, as long as you really want to love, everything is not a problem! As long as he loves you well and loves you, what else can't you do!

Marriage is not child's play, and children are innocent, if you can't accept the child and his past, please think about it! That's not going to get together!