What should a Buddhist student do when he or she has an unforgettable emotional past in his heart an

- The fundamental purpose of studying Buddhism is first of all to get rid of the control of emotions (which Buddhism calls "afflictions"), so it is necessary to calm them according to the methods taught by the Buddha, such as the view of white bones, the view of relatives, etc. The so-called "no love, no birth, no desire, no reincarnation", this world is the world of love, and our practice is to see through all this. What is the nature of love?

It is the result of the karma of the past life reaching a certain level.

Have you ever read the story of "Who was the one who buried you in your previous life"? It is said that a girl has been in love for three years, but broke up for no reason, heartbroken, looking for an answer to the monk, the monk temporarily opened her eyes to see her past life, it turned out that the girl was an official lady in her last life, drowned in the sea, the body floated to the beach, met three scholars before and after, and sighed again and again, and the second passed by, took off the gown to cover the girl's body so as not to expose the body on the beach; The third passed by, felt pity, and chose a place to bury him. Therefore, the girl in this life needs to repay the kindness of the previous life in turn, and the one who sighs is the girl's childhood sweetheart who spent a happy teenage time; The clother, the girl has been in love with him for three years, and the person who buried him is the husband of this life, because he must be husband and wife forever in life in order to repay the great kindness of the previous life.

Senior brother, if you look at this story, why aren't you passerby A and passerby B, the woman you buried has not yet appeared, so why are you so persistent?

The essence of love is possession, and what I like wants to take it for myself, so when I like someone, what is the subtext? You have to like me too, otherwise you will feel unpleasant, you will be angry, this is the hatred that cannot be greedy. When you get stuck and can't solve it, you can divert your attention and transfer this love to more people.

Good friends, this requires you to understand it deeply, and you will know how to make trade-offs when you understand it clearly. Tell a story:

During the time of Emperor Wu of Liang, there was a monk who attained enlightenment, named Bao Zhigong. We know that Bao Zhigong is the next person, once, Bao Zhigong was invited to attend the wedding of a wealthy family, and when he arrived at the scene, he couldn't help but sigh, and left after saying a word: "Weird!

Weird and old! grandchildren marry grandmothers; Females eat the flesh of their mothers; The son beats the father's skin drum; Pigs and sheep sit on the pit; Cook in a pot of six pros; Everyone came to congratulate me, and I think it's really bitter. ”

I wish you good luck at six o'clock!

Extinguish it with wisdom, only when people really understand the essence of love, can they let go of attachment. Escaping and diverting attention are just expedient measures. Only wisdom and truth can destroy it. Please experience impermanence and selflessness with your heart.

You've said things that you can't extricate yourself from. It's up to you what you think.

A failed relationship consists in falling in love with someone who doesn't love you.

Either you will suffer it silently, or you will let it go. /

Those who understand know how to give up, those who are true know how to sacrifice, and those who are happy know how to detach. For those who don't love themselves, what they need most is understanding

Waiver and blessing. Too much self-inflicted affection is begging for alms. Loving and being loved are all things that make people happy. Don't let these.

It becomes pain. Live more confidently, be happier, leave the most beautiful smile to the person who hurts you the most, and smart people know that they want to be happy.

Then you must try to get out of this relationship, if your relationship is fruitless, unnecessary, and fruitless, then why do you still fall into it? Then if I were you, I would definitely find a way to get myself out of this relationship, but meet some new people, meet some new friends, meet new boys or girls, you will find that in fact, a relationship is not so difficult, it is easy to get out, as long as there are people around, how can there be no relationship that can't get out, right? People must not fall into it, that kind of fruitless love, this kind of love, in the end, will only hurt themselves, will only make themselves sad.

The best way to deal with this kind of love that is broken and can't be obtained is to cut off the love thread to start a new relationship.

Legend has it that there is a kind of knife that can be broken by blowing, and it hurts people without blood, because it is very fast and sharp, we can deal with such feelings in this way, you use lightning speed to cut off the love thread, maybe you don't even feel the pain and everything is over.

Youth is limited, and waiting is the most expensive cost

In the depths of an inappropriate relationship, we always hope that one day we can achieve positive results, but we know that it is impossible between two people, so an unbridgeable gap is formed between reality and ideals, and this feeling of love but not getting is painful.

However, we might as well be sensible, and we should weigh the costs of everything we do, some costs that we can accept, and some costs that we can't.

People's youth is such a short year, we squander our youth to wait for someone who will not come, is it all worth it? What is the point of paying for this kind of expensive Chengde?

So what you should do now is to let go of your internal friction and go find someone who is really worth your wait for and stop the loss in time.

Have the courage to give up, and the future is still promising

Some people's brains just can't turn a corner, he always feels that loving someone should be unforgettable, and he should grow old together. However, where are there so many perfect things in this world, and sometimes feelings are involuntary.

So when you have realized that a relationship is inappropriate, then you should have the courage to make a choice, you can't pick up anything with your hands clenched into fists all the time, only if you know how to let go can you grasp more things.

To sum up, since it is an inappropriate relationship, then don't waste any more time, you can't live forever, we should cherish our youth!

You're not wrong, he's not wrong, men are not the same as us women after all.

Women are more emotionally rich and delicate, and you can only be happy when he is happy, right?

Doing your best, no good results can be good memories.

There are three manifestations of the indication that you are stuck in feelings.

But it's okay to hand it over to time, it's just that it's more difficult at the moment, and there is no need to resist this feeling.

How should the question come out?

You can think, you can miss, you can cry, but then remember to tell yourself that it's over, and now it's just a temporary discomfort.

A few more times, and that's it.

My personal way of dealing with it is to carry out this relationship to the extreme, so that I don't regret it in the end. Then the result is not acceptable, and he leaves. I am not afraid of letting go in life, but I am afraid of unwillingness and regret after letting go.

Love, if it really exists, doesn't disappear. Even if it's not as hot as it used to be, it can still give us warmth. You don't have to force yourself to cut it off.

Running away will only emphasize, but will not help you solve the problem. When you've done everything you want to do, you'll find that you don't have to run away from anything, even if that person is still there and isn't the same person you used to be. That relationship is not the same relationship that it used to be.

If you don't want to let go, don't force yourself, you can use the time to change yourself as much as possible, change those shortcomings, after a long time, you will not feel regretful, but will feel worthwhile. You can also use your time to do things you wanted to do but never had the opportunity to do.

Time and new love are often said methods. It would be immoral for me to find someone to walk out of the shadow of a broken love. So when you don't meet a new love that you can really like, it takes time to solve it.

But as the lyrics say, time can also be poison. Keep yourself busy every day until you are too busy to think about emotional matters. Time will heal, no matter how deep the feelings are, they will slowly fade away with the passage of time.

All you need to do is accept it honestly and admit the harm it has caused you, rather than avoiding it. When you feel uncomfortable, you cry out loud, and crying is also a way to say goodbye to the past. Confide in your trusting people and let them slowly guide you out.

Throw away everything that has to do with the other person. Even if the emotion comes, I really want to see or want to connect, I have to insist on it, and I will insist on it. And then one moment you'll find that it's nothing more than that. And then you walk out.

Love is a kind of uncontrollable feeling, he doesn't love you, it's as uncontrollable as if you love him, if you don't love, you don't love, you become beautiful, you get better, you become interesting, it's all loveless.

If there is true love between you, then you should go according to the depths of your heart, do not regret and do not oppress the things that you do not want in your heart, otherwise you will also torture more people who love you, but you do not love them.

Try to confide in someone, or go on a trip, time is the best medicine, time will heal all wounds.

It depends on the nature of your feelings, depending on the circumstances.

1. Both parties are single and believe that the other party is the right person. If both men and women love each other, and there is not much difference in their views on things, life, and how to deal with people, then they can boldly move forward, bravely pursue their own love, and pursue happiness.

2. The other party has a family. If the other party has a family, no matter how much you love each other or how much the other person loves you, this situation does not allow you to be deeply emotionally unable to extricate yourself, and it is a nightmare for yourself and the other party, and even for both families. It is recommended to withdraw as soon as possible, cut off the love thread, let go of others, let go of yourself, and find a more wonderful life.

When you find yourself stuck in an emotional quagmire and can't extricate yourself, remember not to pay too much attention to the matter itself, because when you invest a certain amount of emotional value in a relationship, but in the end you find that you are not as happy as you imagined, you will fall into entanglement and loss, and then continue the vicious circle.

This kind of moment should choose to do something very repetitive, such as working out or dancing.

When you devote yourself to doing something very pure, your body and mind will gradually feel comfortable, and you will slowly forget that you are sad for your love. Because after a period of time, when you find that you have changed yourself, and even find other things that you are passionate about, your heart will never be easily shaken.

Then brave love, even if it doesn't work out. At least I won't regret it.

Love is inclusive rather than indulgent, love is caring rather than pampering, love is intermingling rather than unrequited love, love is all kinds of flavors and not all sweetness.

True love doesn't have to be a perfect match in the eyes of others.

It's about the mutual fit of the hearts of people who love each other.

It is to make the other party's life better and silently dedicated.

This love not only warms themselves, but also warms those worldly hearts, and true love is to know how to cherish when you can love.

True love is knowing how to let go when you can't love.

Because, letting go is having everything...

When you cherish it, please love it well.

When you let go, bless well....

True love is a kind of care and care that comes from the heart, there are no flowery words, no grandiose actions, only in every word and deed you can feel it. So plain and so firm. On the contrary, swearing, promising shows its uncertainty, never believe sweet words.

Feel it with your heart.

That's how it is. Unless you feel that you are not worth it and are looking at the wrong person.

What I want to tell you is that for feelings, we must be able to take it at all times, let it go, don't always get entangled with those who don't love us, don't give too much of our sincerity, and then be abandoned by others. There is also that a person should focus on his career, work hard, and study diligently, so that he will not be trapped by love. Set personal goals for yourself, work hard, and the next success will be you, don't put feelings first, make more friends, touch less love and have more hobbies.

Let the past pass, and let the past pass away with the wind! Some of the past is sweet, and some of the past is painful. It's not like to say that it's good, the past is unbearable. People have to look forward and live in the moment.

To come out bravely, it takes time, it needs to be forgotten slowly, you can find a new relationship, and it will be difficult to forget the past. People can't always live in memories.

Start a new life. There's no need for that person to let you be so memorable. Even if you don't have that person, you still have yourself, you have things you love to do, places you want to go, and unfinished goals. You just need to live a positive life and become a better person.

Obsessed with the love of the past and unable to extricate himself, he must make a decision immediately.

Do something else to distract yourself.

Then try not to think about it, and then don't let yourself be alone.

The main reason is to see if the other party cherishes and loves himself.

Then release yourself appropriately.

Time and new love can solve this problem.