I m very introverted, timid, and in my 20s, can I still change? How can I make myself better!?

Updated on psychology 2024-02-09
33 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    Improve your guts, practice smiling and going to other people's problems, saying to yourself, you can do it.

    Communicate more than others.

    Participate in more activities and make more friends.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    Give yourself positive psychological hints, which is conducive to exploring your potential, imagining a better self-image than yourself in your heart, which can motivate your fighting spirit, is conducive to using your potential, and exercises your character in practice from trying to make your own remarks, believing that it is not difficult for yourself to change, telling yourself that you can do it, communicate with others more, participate in more activities, make friends, and communicate with others.

    Hope it helps.

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    Let me tell you the easiest way. Start with the loadout! Pretend to be a big brother, don't smoke, pretend to smoke, can't drink, pretend to know. Pretending to be you, you're used to it.

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    Can change, talk to the people around you more, as for the courage, a day or two is not a big practice, speak more in a crowded situation, after a long time, you will be bold when you have confidence.

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    You have to supplement your knowledge, make yourself good and get used to being good, then you can slowly become outgoing.

  6. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    You should have more contact and communication with the people around you, and slowly motivate yourself to participate in some social activities.

  7. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    Anyway, you have to believe in yourself first, it's not very difficult to change, you can start by trying to make your own statements, and gradually get to the point of making a conversation, and then you can express what you want to do to others, and then dare to do something a little more difficult, such as riding a bike a little faster...Keep doing harder things and believe that one day you can find your brave self.

  8. Anonymous users2024-01-29

    Yes. Go play the game, scold hard, and then the guts will come out.

  9. Anonymous users2024-01-28

    Timidity is not necessarily a disadvantage.

  10. Anonymous users2024-01-27

    Give yourself a little encouragement every morning.

  11. Anonymous users2024-01-26

    If you have trained yourself to be thick-skinned and lost your discipline, you will be lively.

  12. Anonymous users2024-01-25

    Just watch more comedies and laugh and laugh.

  13. Anonymous users2024-01-24

    Exercise yourself more, dare to express yourself, dare to put yourself on the big stage, and cut off your own back road, men have to be cruel to themselves.

  14. Anonymous users2024-01-23

    Carry two knives with you, one for people to show and one for you to put away, preferably closely. Smaller, sharper, and more secure with a knife.

  15. Anonymous users2024-01-22

    You have to have confidence in yourself, don't be afraid to show yourself in front of outsiders, communicate with others a lot, and it will be okay slowly.

  16. Anonymous users2024-01-21

    Timidity is not innate, more contact with people, the mind will be peaceful, and naturally not timid.

  17. Anonymous users2024-01-20

    Make friends and communicate with people!

  18. Anonymous users2024-01-19

    You have to be confident and start talking slowly with people who usually feel better.

  19. Anonymous users2024-01-18

    If you have poetry and books in your belly, you should first improve your comprehensive ability, and then you will naturally have enough aura, and then participate in more activities, do more things in person, and slowly become confident and bold!

  20. Anonymous users2024-01-17

    Exercise slowly, and believe that you can do it.

  21. Anonymous users2024-01-16

    It will change, everyone has potential, as long as it is stimulated, they will present a different self, and there is no need to force too much change.

  22. Anonymous users2024-01-15

    Encourage yourself and be confident.

  23. Anonymous users2024-01-14

    This is something that you need to force yourself to change, and often try something that you didn't dare to do before, just take your time.

  24. Anonymous users2024-01-13

    Yes, participate in more social activities, try to break through yourself, and if you have the first time, you will have no problem in the future.

  25. Anonymous users2024-01-12

    Participate in group social activities often, talk to people a lot, and speak on stage.

  26. Anonymous users2024-01-11

    Participate in the student council, clubs, or whatever, and find opportunities to speak, and that's how I am.

  27. Anonymous users2024-01-10

    In real life, there are many introverted people, in fact, it is not a big deal, in order to better communicate and expand relationships, introverted people should do what to become cheerful and generous, and attract people?

    How to make the personality become cheerful and generous and likable? Transformation method 1: Treat your introverted personality correctly, think more about the opposite of personality, what is a person with a personality that does not have content?

    For example, it is easy to make friends, easy to get along with others, warm and generous, uninhibited, etc. Think about it more and try to do it, then, over time, you will become cheerful and generous and likeable.

    Transformation method 2: Choose a few people who are extroverted, cheerful and generous to attract people to be good friends, let them influence you, motivate you, infect you, and over time, you will become cheerful and generous to attract people.

    Transformation method 3: Get out and about more. See more people outside, experience more different ways of doing things, learn more from other people's experience, and over time, you will become cheerful and generous.

    Transformation method 4: Participate in more physical training exercises in the field, enhance your psychological quality, increase your courage and self-confidence, make yourself stronger and more powerful, and dare to face difficulties and setbacks, so that in the face of the unhappiness caused by introversion, you will have the courage to change all this, and be a cheerful and generous person.

    Change method 5: Participate in more ** art and improve your own rich life activities, life has become colorful, there are topics, when you interact with others, you will be more happy, more willing to interact with others, get along.

    Transformation method 6: Read more jokes, things with a strong sense of humor, such as movies, books, magazines, etc., to increase your sense of humor and laughter, which is more conducive to making your personality cheerful and generous.

    Transformation method 7: Try to fall in love, stimulate your own initiative, change from passive to active, and it will be easier to achieve a cheerful and generous personality.

    In fact, many of our questions can be answered from life, and there are many answers in our knowledge base, but we don't know and don't realize it.

  28. Anonymous users2024-01-09

    Interact with people, communicate with others, talk to others, and participate in social activities. See more how others do it, and learn more about other people's ways and methods. Go outside more.

    Go to places where there are many people. Communicate with people more, participate in group activities more, communicate with people more, and you will gradually improve. Don't be too introverted, introverts are not welcome, talk to people more, participate in group activities more, and make more friends.

    Go outside more, go outside more. Go to more crowded places, go outside more, don't be too introverted, introverts are not welcome, talk to people more, participate in group activities more, and make more friends.

  29. Anonymous users2024-01-08

    The hardest part is to take the first step, try to speak in crowded places, and then you can watch a debate tournament or something to improve your presentation skills.

  30. Anonymous users2024-01-07

    Introverts are inherently timid, they just aren't good at expressing themselves. As long as you spend more time with him, you will have a common language that will lead him to extrovert by being familiar with his preferences. But it has to be friends. Parents should also communicate like friends.

  31. Anonymous users2024-01-06

    Communicate with outsiders and be courageous.

    Communicate with others more, participate in social activities, watch more ghost movies, exercise yourself, and ask questions if you have any questions.

    Give yourself the courage to say 100 times a day in the mirror: I am the best, I am the best, I am omnipotent. After a month, you'll have a change.

    Just think you can do it, believe in yourself, and don't care about others.

    Doing more exercise is only one aspect, nineteen years old is the follow-up strength of physical development, although the peak is halfway through, but there is still development, this time should be more energy, eat more beef, milk, nuts and other foods, these foods are rich in protein will make you stronger and taller.

    Haha, then fight a few more times, and naturally you won't be afraid.

    The best workout for beginners is compound movements, such as pull-ups. Push-up. If you can, you can go to the gym to practice bench press and deadlift. Squat, there is a goal in doing things, there is a plan for action, there is a method for learning, there is a sense of proportion, there is a choice of friends, and there is a pursuit of ideals.

    1 floor, the most important thing in the room is the color tone, the color basically determines the style of your room. In the absence of decoration, and then want to change the style of the room in a large area. The most straightforward way to do this is to start from the ground.

    Do you have a blanket with a warmer color that looks bad? Let's spread the floor! It's better to go to the market to find a piece, the resources at home are too limited.

    If there is a mat, throw it on the ground! And put it neatly and don't mess up. Choose the color you like, and I believe you know what color you want to change.

    You have to be warm enough to wake up. Remember not to use solid colors!

    2. The blank wall is a large area of monotonous place. It is recommended that you use it separately. For example, one side of the bed, one side of the cabinet. Window side, ornaments. Doll. All placed in blocks, don't mess up!

    3 And the most important little potted plant, without it, no matter how you dress up, you will feel like something is missing.

    Let's just do it, in fact, there are many kinds of warm colors. It depends on what kind of warmth you like.

    Warm yellow, light blue, pink, light green,

    Schoolboy? Fight? Speak?

    How do you feel that another person with a tendency to be a troubled boy is born in the bud.

    If you want to fight hard, you must strengthen your physical fitness, start with strength and speed, practice explosiveness and endurance, you can learn Muay Thai, and move to exert strength.

    In terms of speaking, we should often communicate with people with hunger and filial piety, constantly enrich our knowledge, and analyze social life in all aspects.

    But in my opinion, training the body is not to fight, but to prevent fighting.

    Speak enough, not to be strong, but to make your language weighty.

  32. Anonymous users2024-01-05

    First of all, put yourself in perspective. Find your strengths. Then, let your strengths play to your strengths.

    This is the most basic condition for gaining self-confidence. To gain self-confidence, you must first gain a sense of satisfaction and make yourself feel that you are very good. This is the most basic.

    Therefore, you need to make good use of your strengths and try to play to your strengths. Do more, only in this way can you taste the satisfaction of success as much as possible, then you can build self-confidence. If you think you can't do anything, and you don't do anything, you don't dare to do anything.

    The less confident you become, it's a vicious circle. As long as you get the satisfaction of success, you can further gain self-confidence. Of course, maybe take your time.

    You can start with small things and gradually increase them.

    Self-confidence, in fact, is just a state of mind. All you need is to discover it yourself, and you don't need too many complicated processes. As long as you have faith in yourself, then you will definitely be full of strength.

    Don't be overly considerate of others, pay too much attention to what others think of you. Deal with any setbacks with a nonchalant and normal mindset.

    Self-confidence, in fact, is very simple, just believe in yourself. When you have self-confidence, you will be able to do everything. The key lies in yourself, as long as you have confidence in yourself, you can solve anything.

    In addition, the biggest factor of self-confidence is probably the influence of the outside world on you. To know that what others say about us is always what they think, and we don't have to live in someone else's world. Just do your own thing.

    Why don't you care so much about him? It is necessary to have the momentum that the world exists only for itself. Have the courage to go your own way and let others do what they say.

    No one can change themselves, no one can control themselves. When you succeed, it's your own business, but if you are influenced by others and retreat, it's your own business, so why bother to control yourself for irrelevant people.

    In the last sentence, as long as you believe in yourself, you will be full of self-confidence. It's all about the mindset.

  33. Anonymous users2024-01-04

    How introverts can be interpersonal.

    When a person lacks the ability in a certain aspect, the first thing that comes to mind is to learn the skill in this aspect, thinking that with the skill, he can improve his ability in that aspect. In fact, a person's lack of ability in a certain aspect is more mainly a problem of ideology and concepts, because he has not established correct beliefs. If we don't change our thinking and establish correct beliefs, no matter how many skills we learn, it will be useless.

    For example, when someone is too introverted and has a bad relationship, he will find ways to learn interpersonal skills. I learned to smile, listen, compliment, be grateful, remember other people's names, and so on, thinking that with these skills, I could improve my relationships. But it's not that simple.

    The masters of interpersonal communication tell us to be loving. But too much love will make you accommodating and tolerant of the other person. And there is a limit to human patience. When you can't endure anymore, there will be a general outburst that will destroy your relationships with others.

    Good relationships require courage in addition to love. Love makes you care for each other, and courage makes you brave to express yourself. Only a balance of love and courage can produce good interpersonal relationships.

    Many introverts fail to have good relationships not only because of a lack of love, but also because of a lack of courage. Therefore, learning the interpersonal skills of masters like Carnegie did not help them much.

    So where does the courage come from?

    Just as a person needs to trust himself and have self-confidence in order to achieve personal success, a person needs to trust others and trust others to have good interpersonal relationships.

    Some people are often criticized, reprimanded, and even physically punished by parents and teachers when they are young, or bullied and deceived by classmates and partners, so they have not been able to develop a sense of trust in others, and they are reluctant to socialize with others when they grow up. But now that you are an adult, others can't bully you, and you are no longer easy to deceive. If you want to continue to be a lone ranger like before, you don't need to change anything.

    But if you want to integrate into society and have good interpersonal relationships, the first thing you need to do is to establish the belief of trusting others and develop the habit of trusting others.

    You are honest and caring for others in order to win the trust of others. But you also have to have trust in others.

    Trust is the foundation of interpersonal communication. Without trust, there can be no normal interpersonal interactions.

    The most important thing for an introvert to interact with others is to establish the belief of trusting others and develop the courage to express themselves.

    For introverts, I believe that even if you read 100 books on improving your relationship skills, it would be more helpful for you to build a belief in trusting others after reading this post.

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