I m not a competitive person, isn t it useless

Just like some people will say, "The meaning of life is to improve oneself through continuous accumulation, and nothing is more meaningful than one's own growth." ”

However, some people will say that "the meaning of life lies in contribution, and everyone's sense of existence is very small compared to a large collective, and only contribution is the embodiment of the value of life." To the collective, to the country, and these contributions are proof of their existence. ”

Some people don't even feel anything after reading this, after all, this kind of thing is too common. In the modern society with the developed Internet, as long as you have the heart, these things can be seen almost at any time. But these things that seem so ordinary and even overflowing, but they are indeed a person's positioning and summary of his life.

If you interpret it from a micro perspective, I think everyone's understanding of the meaning of life is different.

But if we look at the problem from a macro perspective and make a summary in the general direction, I think the meaning of life is probably "to keep oneself, to live in the way that oneself expects and identifys, and to pursue the happiness that one thinks oneself has." ”

When people are young, they tend to go out and get confused, especially those students who have just stepped out of school.

Because after they do not have a karma, they will face a problem, and that is what to do.

Most of course, they look for jobs according to their majors in school, and the rest of them don't plan to ask their parents or others, and the answer is often "".

Of course, do what you like, do what you like while you're young, and you may not have a chance in the future. ”

Two-sided nature of it! They are competitive, so they have the courage to compete, the courage to surpass, they are very promising in their careers, they are competitive, so they are more domineering in character. Therefore, they have very few bosom friends, but it's not that they don't have friends, it's just that bosom friends are hard to find, I have a friend, he is competitive, so he is easy to doubt and jealous of others, he always has his own opinions, likes to make decisions for me, once I deny his decision, he will be very angry, I know that she is for my good, but he makes it difficult for me to like him from the heart, she always likes to comment on people who are better than him behind the backs of others, which makes me feel very tired, even afraid of him.

Therefore, competitive people are not able to comment on their good or bad from one side, but only draw conclusions from different people. It's just that character is character, and it is difficult to change, and such a character will not lead to too much change in life. It's normal.

Everyone has a competitive heart, but to different degrees、。。 Hehe...

See if you can conquer her yourself. Competitive women tend to crave more pampering in their hearts. But if she doesn't convince you in her heart, brother, you have a long way to go......

In fact, I always learn more and more, but there is no good result, not everything you can be higher with others, rather than competing for everything is better to show your ability to be really strong in a certain aspect, I have felt this way before, others are stronger than themselves are uncomfortable, but in turn others think the same, and if you are still friends, make friends may become enemies, why bother? I once read a book and said: The fastest way to make you have no friends is to be stronger than your friends, it is good to be competitive, but you should also take into account the feelings of others, don't lose both, I hope it will help you

Born with intelligence problems, not qualified to fight, really stupid;

Have the ability but don't want to fight, there are many reasons why you don't want to fight: it may be that you are wise to protect yourself, it may be that your own conditions are already very good and disdain to fight, etc. This kind of person is not stupid at all;

The general summary is that you are either really stupid or you are wise.

The Wisdom of Tolerance", "I'm No Longer Angry: Stories That Teach You to Learn to Be Tolerant", Reading books is very useful, you have to absorb and think when you read books, books will change a person's mind!!

The reason why I am competitive is because I want to attract the attention of others.

What is the purpose of their competitiveness, and why do they want to do that? It's their weakness Oh, the goal they achieve, is what will happen to them if they fail.

But people, there is always a little bit of competitiveness, that is to say, the competitive psychology is a virtuous circle, as long as it is within a reasonable range, it is normal.

And everyone is unique, and not all competitive people have one thing in common. Let's treat everyone differently.

Dear, why did you think of this problem?

It's hard to ask questions and get along with them.

I've met people who take on tasks that don't belong to him, and who doesn't do a good job, but the credit is hers.

Is it a colleague with him and a regular contact?

May you be happy, friend

1. Good and bad are relative, and there must be a degree of competitiveness, and if there is no competitiveness at all, it is also very interesting.

2. Competitive people tend to be more successful to a certain extent than those who are not competitive, just as people who have no goals have different results.

You can't tell whether a person is good or bad by being competitive. If you are a leader, you must have a fighting spirit, and if you don't have a fighting spirit, you can't lead a good group of people. And if people who like to be competitive are easy to lose their minds and do things on a rampage, it is not good.

A little competitiveness should be a good thing, indicating that you are motivated, ambitious and pursuing. But if you're too competitive, it's not necessarily a good thing. The mentality of wanting the best in everything is a bit sick and undesirable.

A soldier who does not want to be a general is not a good soldier, and we do not necessarily have to be the first to be the first. The key is that we have to apply what we have learned and enrich ourselves with our shortcomings.

That depends on what you think. Some girls are destined to be unwilling. Maybe she was born with a little bit of domineering and competition. Anyway, no matter what kind of woman she is, as long as she is kind, she is good. .That depends.

Born from the heart, the appearance of a competitive person will also show these four words.

I think it's good to be self-motivated, but being competitive depends on the situation.

It is good to use it in upholding the truth, but if it is used in the wrong things, it is stubborn.

There are pros and cons.

Take control of yourself. Give self-confidence.

It's definitely not good. Hurt others and hurt yourself.

You have to have the capital to be competitive

Competitiveness seems to be a blessing and a blessing on the surface, but in fact it is a loss and a curse; Humility and forbearance seem to be a loss and a curse on the surface, but in fact it is a benefit and a blessing.

The basic principles that should be followed when dealing with interpersonal relationships are: humility and patience, and gentleness. "Good is not cut down, and virtuous is self-detrimental", it is so wonderful.

Those who humble themselves will also be on the way to Mao's advancement. Those who invade the mausoleum will also be in danger of destroying the blockage." This requires that in terms of personal cultivation, "the internal work has been self-helping, and the external humility is respectful".

If a person has good deeds, if he boasts, he will be underestimated, so do not boast and be arrogant. If a person has talents, if he shows himself, he will be disgusted, so don't show off himself.

Zhou Yi said: "People who speak treacherously and behave partially will definitely fight with others; If you are arguing with others, you will inevitably arouse the anger of others. ”

Lao Tzu said: "It is precisely because someone does not fight with others that no one in the world can compete with him." "The gentleman knows that the road of struggle cannot be taken, so he transcends the emotions of ordinary people, advocates high righteousness, and walks alone above the third class.

What is the third class? There are three types of people: superior, middle, and inferior.

Superior: Great merit, but not showing off himself; Meritocracy and the ability to give in modestly; Be strict with the law and be lenient with others.

Medium-class people: meritorious, but will rely on their own talents, self-satisfaction, self-showing; Strict with the law, but also strict with others.

Inferior: Boasting of one's talents without merit; stupid and stupid and likes to fight with others; Be lenient and responsible, and be strict with benefits.

The above three types of people are distinguished from the perspective of humility and victory. The villain is stupid but competitive, boastful of nothingness, and is inferior; Ordinary people are complacent and self-evident when they have talents, and they are middle-class people; A gentleman and a sage can be humble, but his achievements are great but not showy, and he is a superior person.

Advocating "humility" is still the content of Confucianism, and "indisputable" is an authentic Taoist thought. "Lao Tzu" said: "The husband is not fighting, so there is no special (Chapter 8)."

If it is indisputable, the world cannot contend with it" (ch. 66). and "those who make good use of others are indisputable virtues" (Chapter 68). "The way of heaven is to win without fighting" (chap. 73).

"Not fighting" is not showing weakness, "not fighting" is not incompetence, the fundamental purpose of "not fighting" is to achieve a great struggle, this kind of "fighting" is an invisible "struggle", is "victory and fighting for the invisible". Lao Tzu's purpose is still "fighting".

Everything should be measured, and competitiveness must also be measured, and it cannot be generalized and vetoed everything.

Competing in the workplace not only makes you physically and mentally exhausted, but also makes the people around you stay away.

Competitive people, on the one hand, have high requirements for themselves, even if they have everything that others envy, they are still not satisfied and unhappy; On the other hand, competitive people are always accustomed to comparing themselves with their colleagues, always losing no time in expressing themselves, and striving to show superiority, they can only win and not lose, and their strong self-tendency often makes it difficult for the people around them to bear.

People who are too competitive are often easy to drill the horns, not see the advantages of colleagues around them, and can not cooperate with others calmly, it is easy to fall into a state of embattled hostility and broadness, which is extremely unfavorable for their own development and the realization of the goals of the whole team

The first is to often tell others about some problems in their own lives, including health and work, but never care about other people's problems and pretend to answer.

The second is to often repeat some trivial things and some superficial jokes, but lack of unique insights on some key issues, the third is to see the changes in emotions, the mood is invisible, and the people and things are very indifferent, the fourth is too serious, not smiling, and completely principled, the fifth is vulgar language, and the reaction to small things is too intense, the sixth is self-centered, accustomed to imposing one's thoughts and will on others, and is too demanding on others, and the seventh is to please others excessively, trying to win the favor of others, Eighth, if we rarely communicate with others and do not participate in other people's activities, our interpersonal relationships will fall to the freezing point.

Marvel at it! But I hope that parents and children don't care too much about grades. Grades in primary school are simply not reliable.

Children care too much about rankings, parents should pay attention!

Happiness is not comparative, and the happiness obtained by comparison is unreliable, and it will soon turn into pain.

Develop the habit of comparison, be too competitive, like competition, and will live a very hard life in this life, and there will never be a time for satisfaction.

No competition, no comparison, no competition, is a healthy mentality.

If you get the first, you will be happy, but the problem is that you can't be old and be the first. Don't let your child compete for the first place.

People with outstanding strengths will also have outstanding weaknesses, and too perfect will be mediocre.

If you have self-confidence, you must have inferiority. But some people see self-confidence but can't see inferiority, and some people can only see inferiority but can't see self-confidence.

Don't be afraid of low self-esteem, allow yourself to be inferior, and low self-esteem will be transformed into self-confidence.

The more we emphasize, the less readers will pay attention. When you take your essay as insignificant, your writing will enter a relatively high realm.

No matter what you do, newbies are nervous, while veterans are very relaxed. Relaxation is the skill to succeed.

Nervousness is due to too much attention and lack of experience. Deliberate practice is to be cautious through countless repetitions, let the mind rest, let the subconscious mind work, and then you will not be nervous, and you will succeed.

I can't write stories, so I can only write truth. Because it is specialized in writing truth, it is a truth all year round, so it is easy to write thoroughly.

Focus on one area and leave the others to do.

Focus is success, and a road is easy to become a fool's work. If you want to do everything, there are too many paths, and you can't focus. Distracted, of course, it can't be successful.

When I was young, I had a wide range of hobbies, and after studying Buddhism, I gradually let go of many hobbies. Now only writing has not been put down, everything else has been put down.

Writing may seem like writing for someone else, but it's actually enlightening yourself. Ask your own questions, yourself, and the best answer can only be on your own.

Reading may not make you learn to think, but you may be more lazy to think. Many people avoid independent thinking by reading.

Writing can force oneself to think, whether it is to find a question or an answer, it is a thought process, and the process is even more important than the result.

This is a highly subjective question that depends on the individual's values and life experience.

Competitive people usually have a strong sense of competition, they strive to be the best they can be, and they are constantly pushing their limits. This kind of attitude can motivate people to make progress and breakthroughs, but it can also lead to overemphasizing the results and ignoring the process, or losing balance in too much competition, and even bringing stress and anxiety.

People who don't admit defeat are more focused on personal growth and experience, they don't give up easily and learn from their failures. This attitude can make people more resilient and patient, but it can lead to a lack of a sense of competition and a lack of chasing higher goals.

Therefore, there is no absolute answer to which is better to compete or not to admit defeat. Both attitudes have their advantages and disadvantages in different contexts and need to be chosen on a case-by-case basis.