My friend is in a bad mood and doesn t have any hobbies, how can I make her happy

1. Listen to the other person's distress.

Due to differences in life experience, family background, education, etc., each person has a different understanding of distress. Therefore, when trying to comfort a person, it is important to first understand his distress.

To comfort people, listening is more important than speaking.

A depressed heart needs a gentle listening ear, not a logical, well-organized head. Listening is to use our ears and hearts to listen to the other person's voice, not to ask about the cause and effect of things, and not to rush to judgment, but to give the other person space to be able to express his feelings freely.

When listening, empathize with the other person, who will perceive the fluctuations in our hearts.

If we can "grieve his sorrow and rejoice in his happiness" for what happened to him, this is the best help for the comforted person.

2. Accept each other's world.

The biggest obstacle to comforting people is often the inability of the comforter to understand, experience, and agree with the distress that the person perceives. It is easy for people to limit the definition of suffering to the scope of their own understanding, and once they exceed this range, they are "suffering" beyond the scope of unreasonableness. Because they do not take the "suffering" of others seriously, the comforter is prone to resist in the process of listening and is eager to put forward his own opinions.

Therefore, the comforter needs to let go of his own deep-seated beliefs, admit his own biases, and truly put himself in the other person's shoes to see the problems he is facing.

Psychologists say "let go of your own world and accept the world of others".

That's it. The best comforter is to temporarily let go of oneself, go into the other person's inner world, and see what happened to him through his eyes without judgment.

3. Empathy.

When we are so busy trying to help others, it is possible to forget that people perceive the fluctuations in our inner thoughts and feelings that are not spoken.

Although people can't know for sure what we're thinking, they can often detect whether we're panicking, judging them, or feeling sorry for them. Comforting others face-to-face has a lot to do with the true state of our hearts.

Because we empathize with their suffering, we not only share the pain of the other person, but also have to endure our own inner suffering. Regardless of the situation, the presence and comfort of kindness is a gift to the other person.

When your good friend is in a bad mood, you can take your good friend out for a trip to relax, or you can talk to your good friend to open his heart knot, so that his mood can return to normal.

When my friend encounters something unhappy, I will make him want to open up, after all, everything has happened, don't let the unhappy thing affect you.

When a friend is unhappy, I will call ** to chat with him, talk to him about some happy things, and then invite him to travel together, see the outside world more, and forget the unhappy things.

At this time, I will take him to do something that interests him, and the other person will feel very happy.

Dear, if your friend is unhappy, you can do it in this mess: 1. Find out the reason why your friend is unhappy, and find out the problem or difficulty in saving or celebrating the file; 2. Find a friend for a deep conversation, listen patiently to what the friend has to say, help the friend analyze how to deal with or solve the unhappy things, and sincerely counsel and comfort them; 3. Squeeze time, find opportunities to participate in some group activities or travel or visit parks with friends, so that they can divert their attention, face reality, adjust their mentality, lose their unhappiness as soon as possible, and live a satisfying and unhappy life.

1.I don't think I should tell him first: Hey, it's not a big deal, isn't it just a broken love, criticized and failed the test, just work hard.

2.Start by expressing your understanding of the other person's feelings: Trust me, I have been. Yes, I know, it's a really bad feeling.

Then I felt that it would be better to give some examples of how to bring him back on his feet, to quote from the classics. This can tug at people's heartstrings more than simply talking about the big truth, provided that the three views are correct. Secondly, the same reason, expressed in a beautiful and vivid tone, is very different from the effect expressed in ordinary words.

Ah Bao and the turtle master in Kung Fu Panda 3 said: I feel like I'm worthless, I don't have tiger claws, I don't judge Duan You to have crane wings, no snake venom, maybe I should go back and make noodles. The turtle said

Give up, don't give up, you think too much about the past and the future, Brother Ran yesterday is a passing cloud, tomorrow is unfathomable, but today is a gift, that's why it is called present.

If a friend says, "I don't think you will necessarily get a good reward even if you do good deeds." "But a famous person once said that we insist on doing something, not because it will work, but because we believe that it is the right thing to do.

Personally, I have a humble opinion, don't spray if I don't like it; -)