Children need frustration education, but what mistakes do parents need to avoid?

Many parents are aware of the importance of frustration education, but there are many misconceptions about frustration education, which makes frustration education counterproductive.

First, the child lacks frustration.

Some people believe that children urgently need to carry out frustration education because the living conditions of children are too superior, lack of frustration training, and their psychological quality is too poor to withstand the blow of frustration. In fact, with the rapid development of modern society and the emergence of various problems, the students who live in it are not lacking in frustrations, and on the contrary, they are the real understanding, support, guidance and help of parents and teachers in the face of setbacks and failures in life.

The reason why children can't cope with setbacks well on their own is that, on the one hand, parents are overly spoiled, take care of their children's affairs, and handle all the affairs of life on their behalf, so that children encounter more difficulties when facing the complex external world. On the other hand, the current examination-oriented education places too much emphasis on academic performance and knowledge education, and the fierce competition for admission to higher education puts students with the threat of failure and setback.

Second, frustration education is corporal punishment.

Some parents and teachers ignore their children's physical and mental health, deliberately set up some ridiculous obstacles on the road of their growth, so that they suffer some psychological damage, and even agree with the suffering of skin and flesh to frustration education.

There are many parents who have hit their children with their hands, and hitting their children often can cause two results. One is to beat him, when he is angry at home, he goes to beat others, and finally beats a little bully; The second is to beat a coward, punch and kick the child, and the biggest harm to the child is not the physical suffering, but the insult to the personality and the mental damage.

3. Frustration education is hardship education.

Because contemporary children are overly spoiled, many people think that frustration education is hardship education, that is, to consciously create some difficulties, teach children to deal with them independently, to overcome, so that children can undergo tempering in difficulties, get rid of difficulties, and cultivate a strong will to face difficulties and the spirit of hardship and hard work.

Under this concept, many people ignore the psychological, physiological, and physical limitations of teenagers when conducting frustration education, so that they are unnecessarily harmed in frustration education. In life, people do not need to deliberately experience loneliness, loneliness, and failure, what people need is to feel love, see the hope of life, and strengthen their determination to overcome difficulties when they feel lonely, lonely, and frustrated.

Fourth, frustration education has nothing to do with appreciation education.

Someone said: "Education should be the eighteen kinds of martial arts, appreciation, encouragement, criticism, punishment, and so on." "That's really insightful.

At present, it is generally reported that the psychological tolerance of students is not strong, and this has a lot to do with the failure to organically combine appreciation education with frustration education. If you don't appreciate when you should appreciate or don't appreciate it properly, don't criticize when you should criticize, or beat and scold your child, of course, you won't get a good educational effect.

The object of education is people, and people's thoughts and emotions are very complex, which requires strong flexibility and mobility in children's education. In such a situation, parents should be more wise and rational when educating their children.

To avoid children being hit by excessive frustration, frustration education children should experience frustration in moderation, which can both feel pressure and motivate. Encourage and support your child when they are frustrated. Don't be a bystander.

Parents should understand that frustration education does not need to be deliberately created, but let children face problems bravely, and parents should play a guiding role at this time.

Children need to be frustrated in order to grow, but it is important to note that the important thing is whether the child can face it bravely and know how to grow after being frustrated. If the child does not blindly add difficulties to the child after he understands, this may have the opposite effect and make him afraid of frustration.

Modern life is getting better and better, and children's growth needs frustration education, and many parents may mistakenly think that frustration education is to make children suffer; frustration education to inflict corporal punishment on children; Frustration education is to let the child go. In fact, these are common misunderstandings that parents often make in the process of frustration education.

When a child encounters setbacks, parents should not criticize the student excessively, which will hurt the child's self-esteem, and parents should encourage the child to help the child regain confidence.

Introduction: If you are educating your child about frustration, you need to know what to pay attention to.

Parents must know how their children should deal with it when they see their children sad. If the child encounters a phenomenon in life that cannot be overcome, parents should help the child in time. Seeing that the child has lost friendship with others, at this time you must learn to enlighten the child and tell the child how to get along with others, the child will also have a lot of gains, and the child will feel your feelings.

Maybe the child will have a dispute with others because of some misunderstandings, then this is also a frustration for the child, parents must accompany the child at this time can not make the child too sad, parents can also know what the child will think if he loses a friend, so you have to let the child feel that you care about them. Parents can't blame all the mistakes on their children because of a momentary emotion, so that the children will also be very uncomfortable.

When children make friends, you should take a look at what kind of qualities your child's friends have, guide your child well, and be sure to care about your child at all times. Many children will tell themselves when they are young, the closest people will not tell their parents, then parents at this time do not know what the child is facing, first of all, you have to adjust the child's attitude, because of their own mistakes and let the child cause a bad effect, you have to know how the child should do to himself. Every family leader wants the child to be intimate with him, so at this time, in addition to telling the child, the child should know how to be satisfied, so that the child will not become very overwhelmed.

Parents know that the most important thing is for their children to share with themselves, so at this time, you don't use a stern tone to tell your children, educating children requires methods, and letting children face setbacks also needs to master skills. Parents can let their children try to do something on their own, and let the children have their own coaching experience.

Be careful not to hurt the child's self-esteem, pay attention to the child's will, pay attention to the child's changes, pay attention to the child's ability to imitate the child's ability to receive the fiber, and also pay attention to let the child learn the method.

At this time, we must pay attention to the correct education methods, and then we should also create a good educational atmosphere for the child, do not hit the child's self-confidence, and pay attention to moderation.

Parents should talk to their children in a calm tone, and parents need to think from the child's point of view as long as they give their children an appropriate amount of frustration education.

For this topic, from the perspective of my boss's growth experience, appropriate frustration education is still necessary, my daughter was well protected by me before, and later found that she was depressed and complained when she faced a little setback, for example, I was sleepy with her to train and play badminton, she was happy to receive my ball, and she would complain if she couldn't receive the ball I sent.

After realizing the psychological problems of children, I also continue to learn and observe, and conclude that frustration education is an art, not the same as our so-called "hardship education", I Wang Chenchang should let them experience some ups and downs that they should have experienced according to their receptivity, age characteristics, etc., rather than for them to settle all the hardships we can predict in the world, so that children can experience the bitterness of the world in hardships, let children have the courage to dare to fight in hardships, and let children have an optimistic attitude to resist setbacks in hardships.

Growth is more important than success, and the experience of failure is also the nutrition of life!

When the child encounters difficulties in the blind faction, parents do not help the child to face the difficulties together, but directly help the child to clear the difficulties and setbacks, so that it is difficult for the child to solve the problem independently.

Sometimes it will be too much, sometimes it will not help the child summarize the reasons for the failure, and the orange will sometimes force the child, and the shirt will be scattered when the same group is lifted, which will cause a lot of oppression to the child.

Parents always think that suppressing and abusing is a kind of motivation for their children, but in fact, children's mental health is more important and more suitable for psychological dredging.

In the process of children's growth, it is inevitable to encounter setbacks and difficulties. For children, they may not have learned how to deal with failures and difficulties. When they encounter setbacks, they feel frustrated and lost, sometimes crying and emotionally out of control.

Parents should give their children the right guidance and support at this time to help them get out of setbacks, rather than letting them overwhelm in the shadow of failure. Therefore, I believe that children should be properly educated about frustration to help them develop the right values and mindset.

First of all, frustration education is not about letting children endure more pain and suffering, but about helping them learn how to face setbacks and difficulties. When children encounter setbacks and difficulties, parents should not simply express sympathy, but should guide their children to find out where the problem lies and find solutions step by step. In this process, parents should strengthen their encouragement and support for their children, so that they can feel the warmth and love of their families.

In this way, the child's confidence and courage will gradually increase, and he will learn to grow and progress in the face of failure and difficulties.

Secondly, frustration education is also to help children establish the right values and mentality. In the process of children's growth, parents should teach their children through words and deeds to make them understand that success and failure are not absolute, but relative. Success and failure are a process, and there is no necessary connection between them.

Therefore, when a child encounters failure, it is important for him to understand that failure is not terrible, and it is important to learn from the failure and dig out the root cause of the problem, so as to avoid similar mistakes.

Finally, frustration education is also to help children establish a healthy psychological state. In the process of growing up, children often encounter setbacks and difficulties, and if they cannot be faced and dealt with correctly, it is easy to trigger a series of negative emotions, such as complete loss of confidence and courage, emotional depression, etc. Therefore, parents should pay attention to the emotional state of their children in their daily life, pay attention to their performance in different environments, and communicate and guide them in a timely manner.

In conclusion, frustration education is an important means to help children grow and mature. When children encounter setbacks, parents should treat them correctly, use the power of education to help them establish the right values and mentality, master the right way to face setbacks, and become a person with confidence and courage.

Today's children have grown up in a pampered family environment since childhood, and their lives are relatively happy, and even the rich second generation has a rich raising method, even if the family conditions are not good, they can't be poor children, and the children are becoming more and more materially rich, and it is very likely that they have caused a situation where they are not grateful for anything.

So this frustration education is really important, this frustration education to grasp a degree, when my child was very young, I told him, you see that you have so many learning tools now, you still have a pen can be used for a while. Through this reading or reading some materials with him, let the child know that others do not have these conditions. Let him cherish things and maximize the value of what he uses.

I would collect his toys from him every once in a while and give them to children in poor places or in more need.

When he went to play, he also noticed that there are many people in the world whose living conditions are not so superior. Let the child's compassion become stronger and stronger, he will be alert to some of his own things, he will cherish it, and he will want to help others, in fact, the inner is also to help the child how to love, how to share, how to assist.

This is a continuous process of helping the child, without shock, or spoiling him, providing him with unlimited material help, and at the same time telling him that he is not good and that he is not right. Another point I want to tell parents is that when a child is young, no matter how good the family conditions are, you have to understand that one is what he needs and the other is what he wants (desire). As parents, it's good that we provide what he needs, and we don't need to satisfy his desires.

If your child has something he wants, let him strive for it in the future. Desire is not something that parents have to satisfy you, what we give you is what you need. It is very helpful for children to be able to distinguish between needs and wants.

Now it is necessary to educate young children about frustration, and it is possible to train them in setting up scenes in actual scenarios. In the future, their ability to resist pressure in thinking has also been improved, no matter how the psychological quality is cultivated. It is necessary for the new generation to face the pressures of the environment, and you know why the suicide rate in junior high school, high school, and college is rising.

Most of them have not experienced setbacks, are fragile and cannot bear the pressure, and choose to commit suicide.

As parents, schools should let children do housework and do manual labor in agriculture from an early age. Let them know that the happy life of adults is not easy to come by, and at the same time, let them endure hardships. If you are hungry or so on, you can't satisfy them with everything, and you won't be able to study well.

Let them learn how to survive on their own in the face of adversity and develop strong willpower. Generally, children in rural areas are stronger than those in urban areas, and their hearts are relatively strong. However, in the telecom fraud case the year before last, those high school students committed suicide in order to lose more than 10,000 yuan in tuition fees is also a lack of education.

Schools should teach them to discern where value is measured and to turn to society when they encounter something.