Can t we be together if the door is not the same?

Now, they have been married for 20 years, their children are in college, and Aunt Li has become the CEO of a large state-owned enterprise, often flying around. I asked Aunt Li, how is my uncle's ** speculation, Aunt Li said that she has stopped speculating for a long time, and she lost all her money in the bull market in 07. Now there is no shortage of money at home anyway, so he still goes back to his old business and plays cards!

I asked Aunt Li, do you still love your husband? Aunt Li said: "Between us, there has been no love for a long time, when I was young, I thought that love could break through all worldly visions and overcome all difficulties, but love is not a day, when you get married, you will find that if the family background, education, vision, and knowledge of two people are different, you will be farther and farther away, and you will feel that you are not from a world."

I used to be an opponent of the Door-to-Door Pair, and now, I am a supporter of the Door-to-Door Match! Marriage is a search for a soul mate, and only with a similar life environment or educational background can it be easier to blend in with each other. Really, my aunt is not happy in this life!

Do you know why my aunt likes flowers, because I still look forward to romance, longing for the most beautiful things in life, and flowers are my spiritual sustenance! ”

Aunt Li's words made me ponder for a long time, all along, I thought that society was opening up, progressing, and being a feudal legacy, but Aunt Li's words made me understand.

Life is not love, there is no beauty in your likeness, and the cultural gap will become an insurmountable gap when integrated into the day!

There is an option to continue to persevere, but it needs to be carefully considered.

The right match is one of the important factors for the happiness and stability of marriage, but it is not the decisive factor for everything. On the basis of the right door, if you really love the other person, and you love you equally deeply for the Chinese side of the mask, then the wrong door may only be a small problem, and it should not prevent you from going on.

However, if family background and cultural differences lead to too many disagreements and conflicts, even if the relationship is strong, it is necessary to seriously consider whether to continue to persevere. The final decision needs to be made carefully based on the specific situation.

Marriage requires the joint efforts of both parties, and on the basis of mutual understanding, respect and trust, it is necessary to overcome difficulties and achieve happiness together across cultural differences, family backgrounds and other differences.

Love and marriage focus on feelings. However, the personal and family conditions of both parties are also very critical, and the factors have a very important impact on the outcome of love and marriage. Specifically, it includes that people who love each other deeply can be together if they don't have the right household.

The state of not having the right door affects the interaction between each other, and there is no need to insist on such feelings, and the differences between the two parties are difficult to bridge because the door is not right, and such feelings cannot continue to adhere to these three situations.

One. Love each other deeply, even if the door is not right, two people can be together.

The core factor to maintain a relationship is love, two people fall in love and even get married, and the most important factor is love, so as long as two people love each other deeply, they can be together, even if the door is not right, it will not affect the love and marriage between them. Such a relationship is worth holding on to, and it will reap a happy outcome.

Two. The door is not in the right state, which affects the interaction between each other, and there is no need to insist on such a relationship.

The family environment in which each person lives has a very big impact on themselves, because different families have different environmental states, so there are very big differences between people, and there will be very big differences between two people, which will directly affect each other.

Three. The differences between the two sides are difficult to bridge because they are not in the right place, and such feelings continue to be insisted on.

In the process of love and marriage, it is inevitable that there will be differences between two people, and in the case of effective bridged differences, the feelings between two people will not be affected, but in the case of the wrong door, due to the difference in each other's concepts, the differences between the two people's judgments and respects may be difficult to bridge, in this case, the relationship between the two people is difficult to maintain, and it is difficult to continue to insist on such feelings.

One of the parties in the marriage has been in a state of mental backwardness and can only be kicked. Whether a relationship can last and be strong is, to a large extent, a game between the two people, and only those who are evenly matched can go to the end. The parity is not only reflected in the net worth and background, but also in the talents, personalities, abilities, interests and preferences of the two.

The most perfect combination is that they are the right people, with similar interests and complementary personalities.

There was once a girl from a good family who married a boy who was born in a rural area, but they broke up in less than half a year. When they broke up, the girl said: "What makes me sad is not that he took me to eat at a roadside stall, but that when I took him to a better restaurant, he said that I worship money."

What really hinders marriage is never the difference in family background, but the asymmetry in concept. If the collection is not equal, it can be improved through hard work; But if the concepts are not equal, only those who respect each other's way of life can gain the respect of the other party in marriage.

As Charlotte Brontë said in Jane Eyre: "Love is a wrestling, and only by always being equal and evenly matched with each other can we stay together for a long time." An opponent that is too strong is tired, and an opponent that is too weak is tired.

Only when the difference between the two people's family backgrounds is not too great, their cultivation is equal, and their growth is evenly matched, can they go further on the road in the future and their marriage can be perfect.

The real right person is the equality of ideology and spirit, knowledge and academic qualifications, and three views. What maintains the relationship between husband and wife is not children or money, but the ideological and spiritual co-cultivation and growth. What really hinders the road to marriage is never the difference in family background, but the asymmetry in concepts.

Remember: The spiritual right is more important than the material situation.

The relationship between the two people in the wrong household refers to the obvious gap between the family background, social status, and education level of the two people, which may lead to many difficulties and contradictions in life and communication between the two parties, thus affecting the development of the relationship. So, when we encounter this situation, should we stick to the relationship? This is a question that requires serious consideration.

First of all, we need to make it clear that the wrong door is not the only criterion for judging whether a relationship can last. While this gap can cause a lot of problems, it doesn't mean that this kind of relationship is not unlikely. In real life, there are also many relationships that are not in the right place and eventually come together and become a happy couple.

Therefore, we cannot generalize, but analyze specific problems on a case-by-case basis.

Secondly, we need to take into account the difficulties and contradictions caused by the feelings of the wrong household. In fact, this kind of relationship often brings a lot of problems, such as there may be great obstacles in the communication and getting along between the two parties, and the families of both parties may also oppose this relationship, and may even cause social pressure and criticism. If both parties do not have enough confidence and courage to face these difficulties, then it is difficult for the relationship to last long.

Finally, we need to take into account our actual situation and mentality. If you are confident in the relationship, willing to put in the effort, and able to face the problems and challenges that come with this gap, then you can try to continue the relationship. But if you don't have enough confidence in the relationship, or feel that you can't face the problems and challenges that come with this gap, then consider the possibility of giving up on the relationship.

To sum up, the feeling of not being in the right place is not absolutely impossible, but it does have great difficulties and contradictions. If you have enough confidence and courage in the relationship to face these difficulties, then you can try to continue the relationship; But if you feel that you can't face these difficulties, then consider the possibility of giving up the relationship. In short, we need to make decisions based on our actual situation and mentality in order to make the right choice.

Conclusion: If there are more serious problems in the relationship between the wrong door and the wrong household, such as differences in values, lifestyle, etc., or have developed to the point where they cannot be coordinated, it is recommended not to continue to insist. If it's just a slight difference, you can try to solve the problem through trenches and compromises, but in any case, you need to stand firm and don't abandon your principles in order to cater to the other side.

Why: A good match means that the parties to the marriage are comparable in terms of family background, educational background, social status, etc., which helps to maintain a stable marital relationship. There are often many differences and contradictions in the relationship that is not in the right household, and these differences and contradictions can gradually accumulate in daily life, and eventually lead to the breakdown of the relationship.

In addition, the relationship of the wrong person is often accompanied by external pressure and doubt, which can have a detrimental effect on the relationship. First change.

However, feelings are not everything, everyone has their own values and pursuits, and if two people are quite different in these aspects, then they may not be able to move forward together. In such a situation, even continuing to persevere will only bring more pain and dissension. Therefore, if there is a more serious problem in the relationship that is not in the right household, it is recommended to let go in a timely manner, so that both parties can find a lifestyle and partner that is more suitable for them.

Love and marriage focus on feelings, but the personal and family conditions of both parties are also very critical factors, which have a very important impact on the outcome of love and marriage. ......In real love and marriage, there are some feelings that are not in the right household, and whether it is necessary to continue to persist in such feelings requires a comprehensive analysis of this issue. Specifically, it includes the fact that it is not necessary to insist on the relationship between the people who love each other deeply, the relationship between them, and the fact that the differences between the two parties are difficult to bridge because of the wrong household.

1. As long as they love each other deeply, even if the door is not right, two people can be together.

The core factor that maintains a relationship is love. When two people fall in love or even get married, the most important factor is love. ......Therefore, as long as two people love each other deeply, they can be together, even if the door is not right, it will not affect their love and marriage.

Such a relationship is worth holding on to, and it will reap a happy outcome.

2. The state of not being in the right place affects the interaction between each other, and there is no need to insist on such feelings.

The family environment in which each person lives can have a very big impact on themselves. Since different families have different environmental states, there are very big differences between people. ......In the state of not having the right door, there will be a very big difference between two people, which will directly affect the interaction between each other, so that the two people cannot get along closely.

There is no need to insist on such feelings.

3. The differences between the two sides are difficult to bridge because the door is not right, and such feelings cannot be continued.

In the process of love and marriage, it is inevitable that there will be disagreements between two people. In the case of differences that are effectively bridged, the feelings between two people will not be affected. ......However, in the case of the wrong door, due to the difference in each other's concepts, it may be difficult to bridge the differences between the two nobeis, and the relationship between the two people is difficult to maintain under the hidden situation of this kind of love rock ridge, and it is difficult to continue to persist in such feelings.

The wrong door refers to the large gap between the social background and living environment of the two people, and the huge difference in education level and family economic conditions. In this case, if two people fall in love, they may face many difficulties that are difficult to overcome with each other, such as inability to adapt to each other's living habits, poor communication, and unleaded acceptance by both families.

Although the wrong door does not necessarily mean that there is no future, the relationship built on huge differences can easily face many challenges, and if it is not handled well, many problems will arise. Therefore, in this case, you need to be cautious and need to consider whether your feelings are really strong enough to support you in overcoming difficulties and solving problems.

If you have no problems with each other, and the two people are relatively similar in terms of attitudes, life concepts, preferences, etc., then the wrong door may not be a completely insurmountable problem. But this requires a genuine commitment to each other and a commitment to maintaining the relationship, and requires both parties to work equally hard to reach mutual understanding and compromise.

In short, the relationship between the door and the other party is not necessarily that you can't stick to it, the key is to determine whether the relationship between yourself and the other party is real and firm, and have the courage to face difficulties and challenges.