Is it good for the child to be too obedient or not?

Let me start with one sentence, which is that "children must not be obedient for the sake of being obedient." Maybe some parents don't understand what I mean, so I still ask parents to read my analysis of ideas for the future of their children.

In fact, being obedient is not necessarily a good student (a good student here does not only refer to a student who studies well), and when it comes to this, I have the most right to speak. When I was in school, I was asked by the head teacher to be a parent because of my poor study, and after listening to the head teacher criticize me, I finally said to my father that this child still has an advantage, that is, he is very honest. Finally, my dad sneered twice and said:

What's the use of being honest (obedient). ”

Since then, I've felt that being too obedient is not a good thing. Because, there is a lot of pressure to be obedient, but not everything will make the people around you agree with it. Therefore, it is still up to the matter to discern and deal with your own behavior.

Since it is said that it is a child, then the identification of this matter should be handed over to the child's parents. A lot of the time, teachers and parents make their children too obedient, it depends on what it is for, of course, this is said, the matter will be subdivided, and adults will feel very troublesome, right? That's for sure, because education itself is not an easy thing to do.

Education is complex, but it determines one's growth mindset and outlook on the world in the future. Children who are too honest think that as long as they do something, it will have no impact on their ability and learning. Actually, that's a mistake.

After graduating from university, we can find that most of the children are very honest (obedient), after these children graduate, it should be said that it is not difficult to find a job, but they are some very grassroots jobs, to put it bluntly, that is, in the unit are some auxiliary positions, if the unit wants to lay off employees, the first one must be them. Why, because the ability to think independently is not taught by parents and teachers. A child who is too obedient is not obedient for the sake of being obedient.

You must understand what this means. Thank you.

If the child is too obedient, the personality will cease to exist.

The last thing that is lacking in this society is talent, and those things that make people remember are often unique.

My colleague's cousin, Xiao Wang, is a student who graduated from Tsinghua University.

Under the strict education of his parents, he went all the way from key primary school, to key junior high school, high school, and was admitted to Tsinghua University.

A colleague said, "When I first went to work, I was often bullied, and I did whatever my colleagues told him to do, and obedience has become a habit!" Terrible! My cousin will do nothing in his life, but he will not lack money, but he will lose his personality. ”

A colleague said that when he was a child, he went to his cousin's house to play, and his cousin had been learning to make rolls in the house, and when he was easy to eat, he chatted with his cousin about the popular cartoon Dragon Ball at that time, but his cousin came with a sentence "What is Dragon Ball".

At the same time, the old aunt came and said, "Don't teach him to watch those cartoons, my children only love to learn, not to watch cartoons, right?"

In that era when there were no boys who didn't know Dragon Ball, my cousin was this form of "eclecticism" that couldn't help but be amazing. He is too obedient to his parents!

Children who lose their individuality because they are too obedient will not be creative at all when they grow up, and in the future society where information and knowledge are rampant, not being creative will be equivalent to losing the future.

In fact, children are not so well-behaved but will bring unexpected surprises to life, the discipline of children should be appropriate, and at the same time, there is no lack of personality at the same time, so that children can distinguish between right and wrong, maintain individuality, and grow up healthily.

If the child is too obedient, his childhood will be blank.

If childhood is going to be a blank slate, what kind of education can give children a future?

The neighbor's child once played too crazy outside, and came home at ten o'clock in the evening, and the neighbor scolded the child because he was in a hurry, and then made a holy decree: You are not allowed to go out to play on weekends in the future!

Since then, the neighbor's children have been hiding at home and playing on the computer every weekend, and the children in the neighborhood have come to his house to ask him to go out to play, but he will not go, saying that his parents will not let him go out.

Over time, no other children came to play with him, he was more inclined to video games, and until now that he is in college, he is still an Internet addict teenager with very few friends...

Children without childhood grow up to be sentimental, and many pessimists stem from an unhappy childhood.

Willfulness is the capital of children, greedy for play is the nature of children, parents do not kill the nature of children, childhood should be happy, is the day of white clouds and fantasies, you can unscrupulously want parents to ask for toys, snacks, every day you can wander in the park of the community with your friends, go out early and return late, carefree.

The same is true for today's children, despite the popularity of electronic products, online games with friends are also a kind of childhood in this era.

It is the nature of children to be understanding when they are playful, but it is necessary to estimate the safety factors. Don't let parents' words control your child's wonderful childhood.

Although it is good for children to be obedient, it is necessary to properly educate children not to listen to everyone and everything, and to cultivate the ability to distinguish between right and wrong.

Asking children to be obedient is good or not.

I feel that it is not a good thing for children to be too obedient, because children who are too obedient must be the result of strict management and education by their parents. In this case, the child only knows how to do things according to the thinking and words of his parents, and has no ideas of his own, which is not conducive to the child's independence. And this type of child will be more dependent than the average child, and they will not be able to deal with some unexpected things at all.

In the minds of most parents, obedient children are considered good children. Because their way of educating their children is completely discipline and restraint, they hope that their children will act according to their own ideas and make them completely obedient to themselves. In this case, it is much easier to manage the child, and there will be no surprises, everything will be within the control of the parents, and they will not have to worry at all that the child will rebel against their wishes.

If the child is too obedient, first of all, it is very easy for parents to discipline them, which is the only benefit. But in addition, there are many disadvantages of children being too obedient. Children who grow up in this environment do not understand what anger and rebuttal are, they often only listen to their parents' opinions, and take their parents' words as completely correct rules, even if there is something wrong with their parents' words, they will not bring it up, but will act according to the original wrong way of thinking, even if they are hurt, they will not say it.

When children are too obedient, they become very dependent. As children grow older, when they encounter many things, they will want to ask their parents and follow their parents' arrangements. It is in this state that children will completely lose their opinions, and they will not know anything other than studying.

They simply cannot survive if they live alone from their parents, and without exception.

In the end, if the child is too obedient, it is easy to become a "mom boy", who has no idea of his own when falling in love and deciding on marriage matters, and will only let his parents make decisions. At this time, boys are easily looked down upon by girls, and girls are also easily wronged. <>

Therefore, it is not a good thing for a child to be too obedient.

Of course, it is not a good thing for children to be too obedient, and many parents like that their children are very obedient, but in fact, this is a wrong idea. Children who are too obedient will generally live a very tired life, and if they are not treated in time, it will affect the child's mental health.

No. If your child is too obedient, he may be timid or lack self-awareness, and he should be allowed to speak more.

It is not a good thing for children to be too obedient, so that they will be especially timid and cowardly later on.

There are two sides to everything, and this is also true when children are too obedient. But overall, the benefits outweigh the disadvantages.

1. Strong self-discipline management ability: This kind of child is usually able to arrange his own time and complete the task on time and in accordance with the amount, without the need for constant supervision and reminders from parents. This is because parents give them the opportunity to manage and make decisions independently from an early age, so that children understand their responsibilities and obligations, and the importance of using their time wisely.

2. Work conscientiously and responsibly

Children who are particularly sensible are very careful and meticulous in everything, whether it is housework, learning or social activities, they can do their best, and there is no perfunctory behavior. This is because parents pay attention to cultivating their children's sense of responsibility and correct understanding, so that they know that they should do their best to be lenient and not take things lightly.

3. Strong problem-solving ability

Sensible children usually deal with problems less easily and are able to analyze and solve problems calmly. This is because parents pay attention to cultivating children's thinking and analytical skills from an early age, and give children some contextualized exercises and education in daily life and interactions, so that children have enough ability to deal with problems.

4. Appropriate words and deeds:

This type of child is more appropriate in words and deeds, will not be rude, and will not verbally bully others. This is because Jia Min Youyuan pays attention to educating children on the principles of being a person and doing things, letting them know that words and deeds should be responsible, and that they should not easily hurt others' self-esteem and emotions, and at the same time, they should also educate children to respect differences and treat others equally.

5. Have the ability to learn by yourself

Sensible children often have strong self-learning ability, can think for themselves and **, and do not need the intervention of the role of parents. This is because parents have given their children a good learning atmosphere and resource support since childhood, cultivated children's self-learning awareness and methods, and let them enjoy the fun of knowledge.

What is it like for a particularly sensible child around me? In my opinion, a particularly sensible child is first and foremost responsible, self-controlled, and good at communicating. They usually don't mess with or break their parents' rules for no reason, but do as much as they can and often take on some of the housework or take care of their younger siblings.

In addition, they also know how to control their emotions, do not lose their temper easily or cry, but are able to think calmly and express their feelings.

So, how are these children educated by their parents to be like this? In my opinion, the key lies in the following aspects:

1.The power of example. Children tend to imitate the behavior of the adults around them. If parents can be a good role model and show responsible, self-disciplined, and communicative behavior, children will have more opportunities to learn these good habits.

2.Clear rules and a system of rewards and punishments. Parents need to set clear rules and give appropriate punishment when children break the rules. At the same time, praise and rewards should be given in a timely manner to encourage children to show better behavior within the prescribed range.

3.Develop your child's self-confidence. Children who are particularly sensible usually have a certain amount of self-confidence and are able to think and make decisions independently.

Parents need to give their children enough support and encouragement to help them build up their self-confidence, and give them appropriate guidance and help when they make mistakes, so that they can learn from their mistakes.

4.Cultivate a sense of responsibility in your child. Parents can gradually cultivate their sense of responsibility by letting their children take on small tasks from an early age, such as cleaning the room and organizing school bags. At the same time, parents should also give affirmation and praise in a timely manner, so that children can understand the importance of responsibility and responsibility.

To sum up, a particularly sensible child is the result of the joint efforts of parents and children. Parents need to be good role models, set clear rules and reward and punishment systems, cultivate children's self-confidence and sense of responsibility, and help children become responsible, self-disciplined and good communicators.

It's true that you can't get used to being too used to children. To be honest, as the living conditions of the whole society are getting better and better, almost every parent wants to give their children the best material comforts.

In the eyes of parents, children are the crystallization of the happiness of the whole family, and they cannot be overly pampered, but they do not know that this kind of thinking is harmful to children.

As the saying goes, "Spoiling a child is like killing a child." "If a child is not disciplined by his parents as a child, he will be disciplined more harshly by society when he grows up. If a child has these behaviors, it means that they are spoiled!

1. Ignoring the feelings of others Because after the birth of the child, the whole family regards the child as the center of the family, revolves around the child every day, and tries their best to meet any conditions put forward by the child, resulting in some children being self-centered and ignoring the feelings of others. No matter how old these children are, they feel that anyone in the world should be of service to them, but they never think about what others think, so they only know what to ask for, but they don't know what to reciprocate.

These self-centered children, once their parents cannot meet his demands, may yell at their parents and love to "command" their parents in their daily lives. When they grow up and enter society, it is difficult for these children, who have been highly praised since childhood, to make friends. Their behavior often makes those around them feel uncomfortable and may be ostracized by those around them.

2.Without independence, some parents always feel that their children are still young and can't withstand the wind and rain, so they have to kiss everything, and they don't even let their children do simple housework. Some children are not able to dress themselves until they are in elementary school.

In the TV show "Metamorphosis", a 16-year-old child needs to be fed by his parents, which is the embodiment of being spoiled by his parents. Children who have lived in this environment for a long time are generally less independent and rely heavily on their parents to do things. When they do anything, their first instinct is to hope that their parents can do it for them, and if they can't do it, they will shift the blame to others.

After entering society, children who grow up in "arranged families" will waver in dealing with problems, have no decision-making ability, and want to ask their parents for help over trivial matters.

3.Impolite.

Everyone probably encounters a "bully" at school when they go to school. These children never greet their elders when they see them. They like to bully other children at school and treat other children's toys as their own.

It is precisely because the parents of these "little overlords" listen to their children for everything at home, and the children do what they say, and do not teach their children how to be polite people, which leads them to lose their temper with their elders and yell at other children casually.

Educating children is not an easy task. Although for many families, the child is the treasure of the whole family, which is "hidden in the mouth", there must be a certain degree of family affection.

Li Meijin, a parenting expert, once said in "Round Table Pie" that in order for children to develop good habits, families must make rules. These rules are best enforced around the age of 3 because the younger the child, the better it is to develop habits. The most important thing about "having a baby" is not just having a baby.

If you only have children and do not educate them, you are not fulfilling your parental responsibilities, which will also hurt your children's lives.