What is the manifestation of patriarchal parents? 10

The ancients said: There are three kinds of unfilial piety.

No queen is greater. If you have a son, you can marry and have children, and the family will become more and more prosperous. When he gives birth to a daughter and marries another woman, he becomes a member of another family, like water that has been spilled out. Therefore, many traditional old people just like boys and don't like girls.

Therefore, there will be many people around us who will not give up until they have sons. There are also people who, in order to give birth to a son, do not hesitate to hurt the female fetus that has been formed in their wombs.

If you have a son and a daughter, the family property must be inherited by the son, and the daughter should not have the slightest idea.

The world is changing every day, and time is changing the minds of generations. We can't deny that there are many people who can indeed achieve equality between men and women, and they will really like their daughters very much.

However, there is also such a group of people, they all say that they are not patriarchal people, and when their daughter is born, they are not sad and sad, but feel extremely relaxed.

Buying a house for a son and not buying a house for a daughter is not patriarchal, this is handed down by the ancestors, and the real patriarchy is much more beneficial than this.

I love boys more and think about boys in everything. Buy a house and a car for the boy. Tell you to contribute money and efforts.

Patriarchal parents are very good to their sons but very bad to their daughters, and your parents are not patriarchal, because when you grow up and want to get married, the man will buy you a house.

It must be a good care for the boys, what you want, try to obey! Get used to it!

Thinking about his son everywhere, seriously eccentric son, thinking about his son when he eats and uses good food.

He cares for his son very much, but pays less attention to his daughter.

Thinking about his son in everything.

There are too many manifestations of patriarchal preference for parents, so let me talk about a few aspects.

The first is that in the family, the distribution of material materials is always shown to be unfair, giving more to sons and less or not to daughters at all.

Many patriarchal families are like this, there are things for their sons, even if everyone eats together, they also put the delicious food close to the boys, and some are too much to give the girls at all, whether it is food or use, they are particularly biased towards boys, ignoring the needs of girls, and sometimes sacrificing the interests of girls to meet the boys in the family.

Some family girls work for them, so that the companion does not treat her as a messy person at all, but the status of the son is supreme, when the ancestors are favored, this is a typical patriarchal family.

The second manifestation is that when you enjoy the results, there is no girl's share, but when you need to pay for it, the girl must go first.

Many patriarchal families, especially in some rural areas, when the old people are old and need to be supported, the old people are sick and so on, and the boys and girls share them equally, but after the old man dies, all the inheritance and property are all left to the sons and daughters, and the daughters have nothing, which is a typical patriarchal preference, and the girls can only dedicate themselves but do not enjoy the fruits of their labor.

The third point is that if there are some situations in the family that require the sacrifice of the interests of some people, the girl is the first to be sacrificed.

In the past, when the economic conditions were not good, there were often some families for the education of their children, when only one son and daughter could receive education, then it was the girl who was generally sacrificed, because in the concept of parents, the son can inherit his own family business, and the daughter will marry sooner or later and become another family, and the cultural education they receive is of little significance to the parents.

In fact, there are still a lot of family performances from patriarchy, anyway, there are good things to give to the son, and only the daughter has to pay when the money is contributed.

There are two reasons why parents prefer sons over daughters:

1. The old feudal ideology, the son can pass on the ancestry, and the daughter is raised for someone else's family.

In ancient times, it was men who stood up to the door, thinking that if they didn't give birth to a son, they would have no queen, and as for their daughters, they would be spilled with water, and they would have nothing to do with their parents' family after they got married.

Restricted by the social form of the time, it is not incomprehensible that the ancients thought so.

However, even in an open modern society, there are still people who feel that once their daughter marries, it is not their own - the child she gives birth to does not have her own surname, so she despises her daughter very much, but treats her son like a jewel.

Second, I feel that no matter how capable my daughter is, she is grass, and no matter how wasteful my son is, she is also a treasure.

When we say "equality between men and women", we don't just say a slogan. Even in the extremely patriarchal feudal society, Liang Hongyu, who is famous in history, Mu Guiying, who is not allowed to have eyebrows, Li Qingzhao, who is not inferior to men, and so on.

What's more, in this day and age, many women are much more capable than men.

But the parents just can't see it, in their eyes, because their son is a man, even if he can't eat anything at home, he is also their baby; No matter how capable her daughter is, she is an outsider.

As a result, there are significant differences in their attitudes towards their children.

1. Feudal thought.

This is one of the reasons that has been influencing the people of Japan since the past. Since the remnants of this feudal ideology from ancient times to the present cannot be completely eliminated at once, especially the older generation, the concept of patriarchy is more affirmative in their minds. Because of this feudal thinking, some people subconsciously believe that boys are the foundation of passing on the family and continuing the family fireworks.

There are many specific examples, for example, there are still some incomprehensible customs in some parts of our country: men and women are engaged but not married, and they decide to have children before they decide. If the son is lucky, the mother-in-law will take the woman for a wedding in a sedan chair.

If you give birth to a daughter, you will not even get a marriage certificate, and you will continue to give birth to a son.

2 Therefore, I think men are more powerful.

For a long time, under the lifestyle of male farmers and female weavers, people would feel that men were more powerful, so for the sake of the whole family's farming, they would think that having a boy would help the family farming. Because the agrarian society has made the work of men and women"Men's responsibility is to provide for their families, and women's responsibility is to have children"So the value of women is defined in childbearing.

3. The daughter will marry out and lose money.

As the saying goes"The water spilled by the married daughter"In the traditional concept, people think that after their daughters are raised and married, they will become in-laws, and they will not come like water spilled out. Unlike raising a boy, when you grow up, you can inherit the family business and marry a daughter-in-law to continue the incense. Therefore, the idea of raising a daughter to marry is always a loss.

4. Raise a son with peace of mind.

This is because the adopted daughter is good-looking and afraid of being bullied, and she is generally worried that she will not be able to marry in the future. Many people will feel that it is better to raise a son, marry a daughter-in-law when they grow up, and still be by their side until they are old, without having to worry about it all the time like a daughter.

Because the older generation of parents is a bit patriarchal, they think that boys can carry on the family for their offspring. And the labor force and earning power of the family are all boys, accounting for the majority. Boys belong to leadership positions, and girls are not so important, so it leads to patriarchal preference.

Parents prefer sons over daughters, which may be the traditional inherent thinking, thinking that sons can inherit the family and provide for the elderly, so they will pay more attention to their sons, thinking that daughters need to marry out, and they are from other people's families, relatively speaking, they are more neglected, in fact, this idea is wrong, both men and women are the same!.

Because of the surname and bloodline inheritance, the innate physical strength is different. Tradition believes that daughters are eventually married, to give birth to others, daughters have their own family is difficult to take care of the parents' family, and sons in the old era is a labor force, plowing and hunting need men, innate physical strength, and at the same time can be passed on to the family, branches... Now there is no succession to the throne, so many families also like girls, very cute, from an economic point of view, there is no need to buy a car and buy a house, the pressure is relatively small, and there is a reason that has nothing to do with gender, just simply like the well-behaved or lively one, or the young one, just that is a boy and there is pseudo-patriarchy, even if the child of the same gender will appear to be good and bad, it is difficult to be fair.

Many parents are old-fashioned, they think that their daughters will marry into other people's families when they grow up, that is, they are from other people's families, and their sons will marry their daughters-in-law home, so many parents still have the idea of preferring sons over daughters.

Traditional Chinese thought, because there were many rural areas in China in the past, boys were laborers, and the children's surnames were their own families, so they felt that they were passed down from generation to generation. And after the girl gets married, the child takes the man's surname, and feels that it is water that has been spilled.

First, it is greatly influenced by traditional concepts.

Second, boys can inherit their parents' family business.

Third, family inheritance needs to be inherited by men.

In ancient times, it was thought that women would marry in the end. The so-called married daughter spilled water. And men, one is the labor force.

At the same time, according to the ancient view, it is only by relying on the son that the family can be passed on! Women can't. Therefore, some people who only have daughters must have their daughter's son, not their son-in-law's surname, but their daughter's surname.

The grandson came to "pretend" to be a grandson of his own family.

Patriarchy is a worldwide problem. I just look for me, there are many foreign ones. It's not like it's a traditional idea, it's certainly a traditional idea.

Question, but after all, men have more strength than women in this society. Men take on more work than women. Men to the family.

The feeling of supporting this pillar of the pillars, well, the vast majority of them are men. So people will unconsciously favor sons over daughters.

My parents are patriarchal and only like my younger brother, I am a girl, my parents don't like me, I am a money puzzle, why did you put me out in the first place, I am also your own ancient meat, if you don't conceive me, it's good, I'm sorry I went to the wrong place,

Whatever is lacking is fragrant, there are no girls in the family, they all like girls, and those who don't have boys want men, all the same, if it is a rural area, the thoughts of the older generation are all this, because there are boys who are the place of home, the root of home.

The ideology of people in each place is different, especially the Cantonese people are a bit patriarchal, but now it is much better.

1.always endlessly let his daughter make money to supplement his son. 2. I feel that only my son can pass on the lineage, and not having a son is a lifelong regret.

3. When you ask your daughter to pay, say "we are a family", and when you distribute benefits, say "after all, you are an outsider". 4. No matter how much the son is a treasure, no matter how capable the daughter is, she is also grass. 5. When her daughter got married, she asked for a gift money, wanted to sell it for a good price, and gave it to her son.

This is unspeakable, and it is manifested in the fact that the woman works and her son plays, the son who makes mistakes is fine, and the daughter is scolded.

When a mistake is made, the daughter is beaten, the woman raises the man, the younger brother beats the sister, the sister cries, and the father beats the eldest daughter.