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What kind of psychology does a person who has a strong desire to talk in? I think it's a vomiting mentality.
Confiding is emotional catharsis, in which there may be telling, revealing secrets, and being the first to discover; There may also be whining, whining, and self-criticism. In either case, the confidant is here for a quick, irresponsible emotional catharsis.
The advantage of people who have a strong desire to talk is that they don't have stock in their stomachs, and if they have any news or dissatisfaction, they will immediately find someone to talk to. If you can find a "like-minded" person, that is, there is a feeling of empowering a tiger, and after the catharsis, you will be energetic to do your own thing. However, this kind of person also has a disadvantage, that is, in the process of confiding, he will add oil and vinegar and make subjective assumptions.
Because he is a person who has a strong desire to talk, he is also good at verbal expression. It is possible to distort and scandalize at will. If you are dissatisfied with others, you are very likely to exaggerate the facts and cause damage to the image and reputation of others.
Some people are not right-minded, and they are more likely to take the opportunity to spread the gossip. "Good things don't go out, but bad things spread thousands of miles. "Under the effect of the butterfly effect, an unconfirmed event --- rumor will spread in this way.
People who have a strong desire to talk will actively seek out opportunities and places. The streets and alleys, after tea and dinner, and on the way to and from work, are all good places to talk in words, and they have always done it to leave; There are also people who confide in others, a dozen is more than ten or twenty minutes, sometimes up to an hour or so, the confidant is hearty, and the listener is tired; There is also a type of confider who will look for opportunities in the Internet to have an aimless emotional catharsis. Wanton abuse, gratuitous attacks, cynicism, and relentlessness.
We need to "listen selectively" to people who have a strong desire to talk. Confiding is a kind of emotional catharsis, and what is vented may be emotional garbage, which is a kind of spiritual detoxification. Even "open your mouth to say this", there is no purpose and no motive, just to spit it out.
If that's the case, we can't listen too seriously. Otherwise, you will be deceived, which is called "the speaker has no intention, but the listener has the intention". And those who have a purpose will have a "tyrannical and ugly" mentality, leaving "hidden dangers" everywhere.
At this time, people with high emotional intelligence will also be infected by others and interact with others. The end result is that the others walk away in good shape, leaving the listener alone in the wind.
There is a folk saying called "the two heads who can talk hide it, and the two heads who can't talk it". 
Therefore, we should look at the essence through the phenomena and not be deceived by the illusions of others. If we encounter this kind of gossip "confidant" again, then we must categorically refuse on the grounds that "work is very busy", so that those who specialize in "talking for a living" have no market for the best.
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Everything is good, accept your imperfections.
1. I want to share everything with the people around me, and my body and mind are healthy, because he will not hide it in his heart.
2 The purpose and meaning of sharing is that narcissism in our human nature is at work, always wanting to show (I am good, I am excellent) that human nature dictates.
Regardless of what you say, especially if you don't consider the feelings of others or the disadvantages of yourself, you can just say what you want to say, and let others stay with you and be uncomfortable.
Solution. 1 In the final analysis, there is a strong desire to talk because we have low self-esteem, and we feel that only by constantly confiding can we make others look up to us, so this is virtual narcissism, that is, self-confidence is built on external evaluation.
2. Settle down, keep learning and cultivating, and make your heart stronger. You will believe in yourself instead of looking outside for confidence.
3. Listen more and talk less, communicate with others by yourself, and focus on the needs of the other party, rather than talking about it yourself.
Summary: First accept your imperfections, and then believe that through your own learning and hard work, you can get better and better with the passage of time and space.
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People who have a strong desire to talk about their inner thoughts and grievances want to feel a little better.
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You and the other half will not be as happy and happy in relationship as before, after all, there are cracks, no matter how much you repair them, there are still a little knots in your heart, and one day you will repeat the mistakes of the past.
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A life that has experienced love is beautiful, and love that cannot stand the test is not profound. Beautiful love enriches life, and love that has passed the test is perfect.
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The desire to confide is a mood and attitude to the person to whom you talk to is to represent the moment or treat something with a very strong personal emotion. People who have a strong desire to talk are often insecure and unable to adjust themselves.
Of course, people who have a strong desire to talk are not necessarily insecure, and they may also lack self-awareness and the ability to deal with problems independently.
When you confide in the person you are talking to, you have more than you want the other person to give you advice. Therefore, the purpose of confiding is not to eliminate confusion and solve difficulties, but to be understood, sympathized, and supported, or even affirmed.
In fact, it is also a manifestation of lack of self-confidence or inferiority. Unconfidence in the face of pressure, inferiority in the face of frustration. Uncertainty in the face of difficulties, helplessness in the face of failure. A moderate amount is OK, but if it is excessive, it can only mean that you have a glass heart.
Reverse quotient, that is, the ability to face setbacks. If you are often unable to face failure, or if you are lonely, it can only mean that the person has not fully grown up. In fact, in the final analysis, we need to go through our own life.
Even our parents and lovers can't guarantee that they will be with us for a lifetime.
And in interpersonal interactions, we value each other's emotional intelligence.
The two key words in emotional intelligence are sincerity and proportion, the former means that you need to give real feelings to make the other party feel considerate and understood, and the latter means that you need to handle the relationship between the two correctly, respect everyone's private space, and not be too hidden or too exposed.
People who talk too much are actually not in a good sense of proportion, they will be disliked, others think I am annoying enough, why do you still bother me, I need my own space and energy, do you understand?
In fact, dislike is more frightening than hate.
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Chatting is a kind of self-psychological excretion, an expression of dissatisfaction or joy. And our life or work is to find resonance in chatting, constantly advancing, and improving.
Desire for wrong guidance may lead to mistakes, and appropriate guidance will get twice the result with half the effort. If someone has a strong desire to talk, then it means that there is a certain psychological disorder and needs to be channeled, and the long-term psychological pressure is likely to make him unbearable, and confiding in it will alleviate a lot.
And when there is a strong desire to chat and confide, it means that there is a lot of confusion or confusion in people's hearts, which needs to be solved and channeled.
01.Excessive psychological stress.
When people are in a depressed state or mentality for a long time, it will cause excessive psychological pressure, which will affect the quality of life and quality. Therefore, with the development of society, psychological counselors have also come into being. In order to alleviate all unhealthy factors in people's psychology, guide and improve their quality of life and even spiritual life.
People who have a very strong desire to talk have certain psychological problems, either dissatisfied with the situation they are in, or a sense of powerlessness to look forward to life, or even a manifestation of misanthropy.
02.Words are not speculative for more than half a sentence.
Mountains and rivers meet bosom friends, bosom friends are few, who listens to Xuanjiao? These are some of the descriptions of bosom friends. It tells us that when we meet like-minded interests or bosom friends, there will be endless words and endless things.
And when you encounter these, there will be a strong desire to chat as mentioned in the question.
Will usually no one tell a person to confide, because it is difficult to find the person you want to talk to, and this psychological desire is to get the understanding of the bosom friend, understand what is in his heart, and there is a situation where he does not speculate for more than half a sentence. This way of psychological release also belongs to finding the way to open one's heart, that is, to meet the right person.
03.Dissatisfaction or bad behavior is channeled.
Everywhere there will be a person full of negative energy, or emotions such as dissatisfaction with oneself and dissatisfaction with others. When he finds an opportunity, he will exaggerate his dissatisfaction or cause some attack on others.
Everyone has mood swings, and when they can't control their negative emotions, there will be a strong desire to express it in some way.
People's emotions should be released reasonably, but the expression of negative emotions should focus on the occasion and scale, and never give people a bad impression. If necessary, you can consult a psychologist to adjust the dark side of your heart or the grievances that you can't say.
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People who have a strong desire to talk, lonely and lonely psychology. In order to eliminate loneliness and loneliness, get the comfort of the soul, and hope to be recognized.
There is also a kind of person who does not know the consequences of confiding, and likes to pour out the contents of his stomach when he sees anyone, regardless of whether the other party is willing to listen or not, and no matter what the consequences of saying and expressing are, he will vomit as soon as possible.
People who have a strong desire to talk first hope that their talk will be affirmed, sympathized with or have the same feelings from the other party.
There is also a kind of person who is especially disdainful that others are better off than themselves, and is jealous. For example, if a girlfriend is worse than himself, but he finds a boy who is better than himself, he will subconsciously feel unfair and hope to find an outlet.
Pour out your inner indignation and resentment, so that you can get affirmation and support. The heart feels comfortable.
Confiding in a very strong person is a kind of sick psychology, the inner world cannot be digested by itself, unable to self-adjust emotions, and entangled in the inner world.
In life, we must learn to be good at talking, instead of talking without a bottom line, talking to everyone we see, and showing a strong desire to talk, which will add more troubles, and we will not be able to calm the inner world, nor can we find answers.
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I think it's the psychology of seeking security. It is not easy for everyone in life, and they all suppress their desire to talk in their hearts. A person who keeps talking in front of you, he really treats you as a friend, we often only let down our guard in front of the person who thinks we are moving forward, and we will talk endlessly, because everyone has a bottom line in their hearts, and no one will easily tell someone about their own things.
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Some people are especially fond of confiding in others, especially women.
Sometimes it's not because they're good at talking, but because talking can make a positive difference in people's hearts. Help the person who confides to better cope with stress and get comfort and relief in the conversation.
So there will always be such a person, once she can't stop at the beginning, she won't care if you really listen to it, and she won't care if you like the topic or not, she will talk endlessly.
When people have a certain emotion, they express it in words, and they want to share their emotion, whether it's positive or negative. In the course of conversation, the person's happiness is doubled, and sadness is halved.
Compared with men, women are more talkative and more uncomposed. When they have something on their minds, they especially want to share it with the people around them. Otherwise, they will be overwhelmed by things.
She doesn't mind if the other person can give good advice, as long as they finish what is in their hearts, they will feel much more relaxed. As for whether the problem is solved or not, that's another matter. It is enough for others to listen to them and comfort them with words.
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Confiding is emotional catharsis, in which there may be narration, revelation and initial discovery; There may also be whining, complaining, and self-criticism. In either case, the confidant is all about being able to vent his emotions quickly and irresponsibly. The advantage of people who have a strong desire to talk is that they don't have goods in stock in their stomachs, and if they are a little bit of news and dissatisfaction, they should immediately ask someone to talk to them.
If you can look for people who are "like-minded", you will have a feeling of empowering a tiger, and after venting, you will be refreshed to do your own thing.
This kind of person also has a disadvantage, that is, in the case of confiding, he will tell right and wrong and generalize. Because he is a person who has a strong desire to talk, he is also good at verbal expression. It is quite possible to distort and slander at will.
If you are dissatisfied with others, it is very likely to exaggerate the objective facts, which will lead to damage to the brand image and honor of others. Some people have bad intentions, and they are more likely to spread rumors while they may be confiding. "Good things don't go out, but bad things spread thousands of miles.
> a man who has a strong desire to confide. confirmed that he did not grasp the truth of the matter, and was in a state of confusion about the matter. Eagerness to state or ask for a conclusion.
There are also people who win souls, which is a kind of imperfect thinking, and everything needs to be expressed to others, and it is necessary to talk about it as soon as possible. This kind of person's heart is basically unsupported, his heart is not calm, and his ups and downs are always looking for a breakthrough point. Find relief by talking!
A mature person, a strong heart. They speak and behave calmly, have very weak self-control and judgment skills, and absolutely do not talk to them. There is also the problem of human personality.
Subconsciously vent. I'm really sorry, I need your love, I treat you as a garbage can, and all my feelings can be poured into it (no matter what garbage is sorted) I talked about the entrance, and I felt comfortable, and then I could. In the case of illustrating an angle, a person usually feels isolated, and he has to find one or several targets to confide in his or her opinions, and then it is better to get the other party to agree, so that she feels at ease.
This is normal.
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