Whoever is not paying for their own life

What kind of person is this who doesn't want to live in a sparsely populated place, doesn't want to have too much contact with anyone, and just wants to live quietly at his own pace?

Lonely people, this kind of people often can't do this, because they have a pure personality, they are not good at refusing, whether it is from family or friends, they often respond to their needs.

As long as someone else sends a signal of help, they will spare no effort, put themselves aside, promise to be as perfect as possible, and when they are done, they will find that they have wasted their lives and contributed to the lives of others.

Life is short, there are a few days that belong to oneself, everyone carefully weighs or thinks about it, and finds that only a few people pay for their own lives, and most of them are for others.

If you really do it for yourself, you should be the pride of people, who knows how to fight for yourself from the beginning, stay away from the world, and pursue your own life, and everything else is the embellishment of his life.

He doesn't need to be lonely, he lives freely on his own platform, and lonely people survive in the cracks, which is also caused by his personality, who cares too much about the approval of others and ignores his personal feelings.

What's even more ridiculous is that because they only do not say anything, or do too many holes, others think that it should be, and they are often not recognized, and even become a bad person in the mouth of others.

Therefore, to be a person and do things, we must leave a glimmer of heaven for others, others have other people's lives, they have to be responsible for their own lives, you also have your own lives, and you have to be responsible for your own lives.

The world of adults is no longer a child, and everyone has to pay for their own choices. Whether it's work, love, or marriage. As long as it is your own choice, even if it is not good, you can't complain, after all, every step is your own way, there is no regret in life, and there is no restart.

There is everything in life, but there is no regret medicine, no matter what kind of life we choose, we may have regrets, and what kind of person we join hands in this life, sometimes it may be the answer we have been looking for all our lives.

It is good to be happy, it is bad, you should find out the reasons yourself, adapt to what you can adapt, change what you can change, you really can't change others, then start by changing yourself, because life still depends on yourself, when you reduce the expectations of others to the minimum, then you will reduce your own disappointment. At all times, remember that pleasing yourself is far more important than pleasing others. Life is a practice of oneself, and if you let go of yourself, you will be reborn.

No matter what choice we make, remember to love ourselves first, do not lose ourselves, happiness will be greater than sorrow, may we all be true to ourselves.

I just called my mother **, after confirming the peace, my mother began to say some troublesome things, and these things she has told me with a sad face for an afternoon, which made my already chaotic heart worse, I have been trying to stop her, but I have no way, until I am powerless to be brought out by her all the emotions, I want to relieve her pressure, while unable to put my emotions, in the end I still used all my strength to persuade her, after seeing her a little relieved, I finally couldn't help but rush her into the car, because I really can't afford it now, and I don't want to say any more about my worries and make our emotions go to extremes, so send her away, I can at least breathe a little more air.

But I just beat the old mother and started to think about it again, I had to say, I don't know, I hung up without anything, and then hurriedly hung up**. I regretted it after hanging up, I felt that I needed to comfort her, but I found that I couldn't comfort her at all, just like I heard her say that in fact, my anger has come up, I don't want to send it to her, so I can only isolate her first, although I have no matter how reluctant and distressed I can't help, if I am sure that I call back less than two sentences, it must be that I am angry and quarrel with her, and then both of them begin to lose sleep all night.

Getting along with them is getting more and more tired, and I've tried my best to influence them to think of something good, realistic, don't always be incompetent and insatiable, but in the end you find that your worn mouth will only make you a person who is full of negative energy and everyone respects it.

All I heard and saw was all complaints, all prayers, and all disappointment. How can you see surprises and hopes if you never take the initiative to think or act, and if you are blindly passively pressed by the gears of life?

It's like a walking person who releases poison gas, is that really good? You can't say whether it hurts others, for yourself, how much damage this life does to the soul and body, you see it with your own eyes, and you say it with your own mouth, but you still say such negative energy words, do negative energy things, I see it in my eyes, I am anxious in my heart and hurt in my heart, but change has always been from the inside out, and I can't do anything. Many times, those sleepless nights are also a portrayal of my powerlessness.

I finally glorified my complaint in the text, but I also understood, but I still tried to write it, this is a torture of my soul, but also my observation and reflection on life.

Try to change what you can change, and let yourself go when you can't.

Please accept that you can't be appeased at the moment and worry, I have done everything I can do, everything is up to you to choose, love yourself or love material, you decide.

After all, people have to pay for their choices. It doesn't matter if it's you or me.

Everyone's whole life is just a prison, and after all, they can't escape the cage of cognitive imprisonment.

Some people may say that these are just bad luck, but carefully look through the bad years we once thought were bad, and look back at the mistakes we have made in the past and the pitfalls we have stepped on. How much is due to luck, so to speak, is very small. And most of it is that we are paying for our own low level of cognition.

Schopenhauer said that the largest prison in the world is the consciousness of the human mind, but 90% of people are not aware of its existence. This kind of cognitive obscuration has become the biggest reason for the gap between people.

The higher the cognition, the more objective it is to look at things, they will follow the law of the development of things, do things in response to the situation, and take the initiative in their own hands.

The lower the cognition, the more subjective the perception of things, they are easily incited and bewitched, like a rabble, often only following the opinion leader.

Our whole life is a constant game with our cognitive limitations.

Once people's cognition can be broken through and their thinking awakens, they can understand the world more clearly and recognize the essence of things. When you encounter some problems, you can discover the key essence in an instant, so that you can live your life as you want to live, so that you can work more easily.

Just like the sentence in "The Godfather", people who see the essence in one second and those who can't see the essence of a thing clearly for half a lifetime naturally have different fates.

So how can we improve our self-awareness and get out of the predicament of slavery?

The key to improving awareness is to learn to think independently and find the right way to make decisions and actions.

Cognitive ability = (effective knowledge reserve + thinking upgrade tool) * practical ability.

Knowledge reserve: including general knowledge, scientific knowledge, skill knowledge, empirical knowledge, ......The more knowledge you have, the more diverse your perspective on things can be.

Thinking upgrade tools: Pyramid Principle, MECE, Logic Tree, ......These tools can quickly unravel events and find the most complex points.

Practical ability: the unity of knowledge and action, so that the cognitive test and proofreading, so as to complete the real improvement of the cognitive level.

In order to better self-growth and improve cognitive level, you can participate in learning experiences or read books to get answers by yourself.