Some people say, When you get to the meal, you will call your dinner, unless you are an iron buddy,

Some people say, "When you get to the meal, you will call your dinner, unless you are an iron buddy, don't go", this sentence is very reasonable, because when you get to the meal, I think most of them think of you temporarily, so they will call you over.

Of course, except if the iron buddy calls you, maybe he will miss you, and he just wants to have a meal with you when it's time for dinner.

The reason why you are not allowed to go to such a dinner is because of the following two very important reasons.

1. The other party's hospitality is not sincereFor unfamiliar people, if they want to eat together, they will make an appointment in advance, so as to show their sincerity and respect for each other.

I didn't think to call someone until I got to the meal, and most of this situation was because the number of people was not enough, so I asked you to come to the scene temporarily. Or a friend who was there, who mentioned you and wanted you to come over for dinner.

For such a dinner, we have no need to go, and when facing each other, we can also directly and tactfully refuse, which can be regarded as saving face for each other.

Second, the scene will be very embarrassing No matter what time it is, we need to keep in mind that "pie will not fall from the sky", suddenly good things fall from the sky, and someone invites you to eat at the meal, I think most of it is for a reason.

If it is to make up for the situation, we will only be a companion, not only will we not be taken seriously, but also there is a feeling of uninvited, and the meal will be very awkward.

Of course, there is also a situation where the other party has something to find him, and he doesn't want to really invite himself to dinner. will do such an insincere thing, and let me eat at the point of eating.

Therefore, in the face of this kind of dinner, as long as you are not a friend who knows the roots, my personal suggestion is to politely decline the kindness of your friend and express your apology.

In the social etiquette of modern society, if someone wants to ask you for dinner, they will generally greet you in advance and make a reservation for the time and place. Generally, I don't wait until it's time to eat before I want to come and tell you where I'm eating, so I want you to hurry over. If you really go at this time, it seems that you are very ignorant, and if you don't go, you generally have to find a reason why you really can't leave, so that the other party believes that you are really busy and can't rush to the dinner.

So there is a saying that when you call your dinner when you get to the meal, except for the iron buddy, everyone else will not go, that's the reason. Only people who are really close to themselves will think of themselves when they eat, ask themselves to eat together, and rush to them temporarily, and they will not feel embarrassed, and they will not worry about whether it will affect each other. And I was very familiar with sitting with everyone to eat and drink, very happy, no need but do you need to pay for it.

And if you suddenly meet a very good friend and eat at the same restaurant when you are eating out, you will definitely eat together. But if the relationship is average, or not very familiar, even if they meet, if the other party invites them to eat together, they will not really eat with the other party, the other party is just a politeness in etiquette, how can I not hear it?

Therefore, it is still a very iron relationship, so they will not see each other, be polite, and get along with each other as if they were their own family. In our lives, having such a good relationship with friends is really a very happy thing, when you encounter unhappy things, you can talk to friends, when you encounter happy things, you can share with friends. If you have a few such friends in your life, that's enough.

Because the iron buddy only called you when he got to the meal, it means that he really treats you as his own person, and he thinks you won't mind too much, if other people call you when they get to the meal, they may not call you out of sincerity, but just call you politely, so you don't need to go over.

Because in this case, you are generally called to fill up. Anyway, it's definitely not a good meal, and I went to suffer.

Some people say that it's better not to go to your dinner before you arrive at dinner, why is that? It's not like that, first of all, it depends on what the reason is and who calls you to go, and you must know how to be flexible in dealing with people. I remember one time, a relative of my family also called me to go to dinner, because our two families used to come and go, because they couldn't wipe face, and finally went, of course, this is not just a matter of face, in fact, I think it's nothing, I won't say that I don't respect you or look down on you or anything, it may be that people are busy and forget for a while, everyone should be considerate of each other.

Also, your boss decided to call you to eat at the end of the day, so it's impossible for you not to go, right? In order to leave a good impression in the boss's heart, and in order to get along well in the future, you also have to go, this is not to please who is not who, of course, how do you usually do things, the boss is in the eyes, and the boss is not stupid, right? Maybe it's a good opportunity to go, but if you don't go, you won't even have a chance.

I think even if you're not an iron buddy, you should be there when you are called to dinner. Invite your friends when it's time for dinner, whether you are "old iron" or "new iron", a common background is: I didn't agree with you in advance.

Of course, no matter how iron a buddy is, it is impossible to make an appointment every time. If the iron buddy calls you, naturally there is no burden in your heart, and you don't have to think about it, you must be able to go and go. If the "new iron" buddy calls you when the meal arrives, you may have a burden in your heart and think about it more.

If you can't go, you won't go. If you are narrow-minded and want to save face, you will be suspicious of being invited late, and you will be surprised, and you will not go if you can. Will even complain that the "new iron" looks down on people?

This also shows that the position of new and old friends in their hearts is indeed different.

Let me say a few more digressions, I think that even if the "new iron" calls you at the time of the meal, you should go to the appointment as long as time permits. One shows that you are generous, and the other shows that you attach importance to the "new iron", which can increase friendship! From the "new iron" to the old iron.

Also, you are also likely to get unexpected surprises, such as your "new iron" in the dinner, one of your old iron, knowing your relationship with the "new iron", will clamoring to see you, if you don't go, wouldn't it be a pity? Besides, if your "new iron" is busy with work, I would like to have a drink with you, talk about my heart, and talk about work to enhance friendship. Wouldn't it be a pity if you refused to go to dinner because he wasn't an old iron?

The dinner that calls you when you arrive at the meal is usually because people didn't intend to call you, but because something special happened at the dinner, I remembered to pull you to make up the numbers. It is customary to push off such a meal for the following reasons.

One, you are just a temporary spare tire

Someone will come and ask you to eat when it's time for dinner, and this kind of dinner is basically called a temporary meal. Generally speaking, there are several situations, it may be that a few friends propose to go out for a drink together, but there are too few people on the scene, and eating and drinking together is not lively enough. At this time, they will each call **, and then whether to go or not is actually you.

It may also be that the person who was supposed to go to the dinner didn't go, and everyone remembered you, and you were a temporary spare tire. In such a situation, some people may not care, and some people feel uncomfortable inside, and it is very likely that they will not want to go.

Second, the number of people in the reception bureau was not enough to be temporarily pulled

Or maybe it's a reception bureau, and a box for a few people has already been booked, and the ordered meals have been prepared. But someone suddenly has something to do, and the organizer of the dinner feels that it is very faceless to have fewer people, so he temporarily thinks of you. At this time, it is best not to go, this kind of dinner is socializing, and people who are not used to socializing can directly retire.

If you pay more attention to career development and don't want to offend people, you can also choose to go to the appointment. But from another point of view, I think that you may be more important in the eyes of the dinner organizer. Generally, there will be a lot of roles to play at such dinners, some people have a better amount of alcohol, some people are good at enlivening the atmosphere, and some people are good at art, once such people have an urgent matter.

This dinner is awkward, and you will be called here temporarily, so you can go if you don't mind.

3. Your boss suddenly remembered you while eating

There is also a situation where there is a relatively high position at the dinner, and the leader suddenly mentions someone while eating, and then everyone is curious about who this person is, so they will temporarily call you **. As far as I'm concerned, I don't like this kind of occasion, and I usually excuse myself because I don't have time or have already eaten. The above is the reason why it is best not to go to temporary dinners.

It's because this kind of dinner is definitely asking you to pay, so don't be the boss of this wrong, you must choose to refuse them tactfully.

Because notifying you at the short notice shows that I didn't want to invite you at the beginning, and then calling you again is asking you to make up the numbers.

It's just to make up the number of people and call you to check out. And won't care about you at all. You're like an outsider inside.

There is such a saying in life, "Don't call your own meal until you get to dinner, unless you are an iron buddy, don't go". The reason why such a sentence is circulated is because the other party obviously does not regard himself as a real friend, if he respects himself, then he will make an appointment with himself in advance to see if he has time? But this approach not only gives people a sense of disrespect, but also makes yourself pay.

Young friends will have a lot of dinners, whether with friends or colleagues, they will often have dinners. But friends are also divided into three, six, nine and so on, divided into ordinary friends, more familiar friends and iron buddies. This kind of iron buddy has experienced the destruction of time and the foundation of some things, so the two have formed a deep friendship, so they also regard themselves as very good friends, so they will temporarily make up their minds and ask themselves to eat.

But if it's another colleague, the purpose of doing this is to criticize yourself, or not to think of yourself as your own. <>

In addition, the iron buddies temporarily called for dinner, and most of them were more casual, just to find a time for two people to eat and get together. But other people don't call themselves until they get to dinner, obviously they don't take themselves to heart, so it is very likely that they will think of themselves under the words of others, so they have to go over to eat by themselves, which is very rude. And this kind of question is likely to be polite, not really let yourself go to dinner, so everyone must put themselves in the right position, and at the same time understand the twists and turns.

It is important to understand the main purpose of the dinner, including the background, so that you can help yourself judge the true meaning of the dinner. I think that young friends don't need to participate in every meal, it will waste a lot of money, and it is ostensibly a meal, but it is really a game. There are too many routines hidden in this, so friends who are not smart enough try to refuse, so as to be able to effectively protect themselves.

In addition, if there are more people attending the dinner, then it is impossible to just eat.

The dinner that calls you to go when you arrive at the meal is generally either short of people, or it is generally called to take over a position, and then AA. Most of these meals are temporary uprisings, but in fact, it's the same with you or not. And it also seems very disrespectful.

When you arrive at the meal, you must be asked to pay the bill, this kind of person definitely does not really want you to eat, he treats you as a wronged person.

Because I think under normal circumstances, I will ask you to do something, it may be that I want you to go to the checkout, or it may be improvised.

Friends generally call people to eat in advance is more sincere, so that the other party can arrange the time, iron buddies generally have a good relationship, may want to share with good friends on a whim during dinner, it is okay to go.

Because I called you to go to the meal, there was no need to go to the dinner at all, and this person didn't respect you very much, so he didn't make an appointment in advance.

Because they don't really call you to eat, maybe it's because they call you, and in their hearts, you are dispensable, just a tool for others to call and drink.

I think this sentence is very right, to the meal to call your dinner, unless the relationship with you is particularly iron, otherwise you must not go, maybe many people will find it particularly strange, in fact, let's briefly analyze, you will know why you can't go.

The first possibility is that I didn't want you to go, but when someone mentions you, I ask you to go for the sake of face, everyone knows that whether it is to ask others to eat or go shopping or go out to play, you have to make an appointment in advance, because not everyone has so much free time waiting for you to make an appointment, and this is also the minimum politeness and respect, but sometimes you and your girlfriend want to go out, maybe she suddenly called you when she left, which is also a relatively normal thing, because her plan may also be whimsical, but some people don't have a good relationship with you, or even general, but suddenly shout at you to hurry up and eat at the time of the meal, then it is likely that this dinner should have been attended by you, but some of them or the people who organized this dinner did not have a very good relationship with you, and they didn't want to call you, so they deliberately did not notify you, and when it was almost time to eat, they were asked by others, why didn't they notify you? At this time, in order to show that he didn't have a bad relationship with you, he would suddenly call you over for the sake of his own face, so is it worth going to eat for her with this kind of friend?

There is no one to call, ask you to go to the field and some more utilitarian dinners, suddenly call you to go is likely to be to support the field, after all, the more people on your side, the better, but I didn't expect to find that there are still a few people on my side when I came to the dinner, so I called ** to tell you to go suddenly, for this kind of occasion we can still not go to it, because it may be very embarrassing to go, and it is not interesting.

This is why everyone hates to go to an appointment so much, because normal people will ask someone to do something in a few days in advance, which can not only show a kind of respect, but also so that others can coordinate the time, if you have an hour or two left, suddenly tell others that we go to dinner, this way is actually not polite, and it will make people think that you are very unqualified, so we usually pay attention to this when making an appointment, first ask the other party if they have time on which day, If so, ask him if he can accompany him to go shopping or eat, which is a more appropriate way to invite. So if someone suddenly asks you to go to a place to eat at mealtime, then you have to weigh the relationship between the two of you, if it is a particularly iron friend, then it doesn't matter which is normal, if it is a person who has a general relationship or even little contact, then you can still refuse it.