Why do some couples hate each other when they come to the end?

My personal opinion is that the previous flowers before the moon, the previous romance, are not living together, the beginning of love is more pursuit of form, after falling in love, getting married, especially with children, Xu's shortcomings are a little bit apparent. For example, men's laziness and lack of cleanliness, such as women's nagging, women begin to complain that men are inconsiderate, and men also complain that women are no longer gentle. It's just a little thing, which accumulates over time and accumulates into a big grudge.

If both sides can think big and tolerate and understand each other, these problems can be easily solved, and this is not a problem. ‍‍

Because they once loved each other, if they loved too deeply, the two didn't come together in the end. There must be a reason for the breakup, and the deeper the love, the greater the damage. If it is a peaceful breakup, both of them will let go of the past and will not be so disgusted with each other; But the general breakup is a one-sided breakup, which causes a lot of harm to the other party, and mutual dislike is also a matter of course. ‍‍

Without the nourishment of love, without mutual understanding, mutual tolerance, and mutual respect, he will inevitably become annoying in his eyes. Running a marriage requires working together with each other, and don't worry about who bears more and who pays less in marriage. After all, marriage is not a vegetable market, and it needs to be bargained.

What is needed in a marriage is for two people to give sincerely. Calculating and complaining can only make the marriage hall collapse faster. ‍‍

There are also those who hid their true selves before, but later lived together, or after a long time, their true selves appeared, and their shortcomings were exposed, making it difficult for the other party to tolerate and accept love, and love turned into hate. Life is not so easy, please cherish this life to be able to come together, face life honestly, face your lover sincerely, be tolerant, understand and respect. ‍‍

Because two people with different living habits are together, there will always be some habits that cannot be changed and the other party cannot adapt to them.

There are certain misunderstandings, and neither of you likes to explain, especially the other person. So, your misunderstanding is getting deeper and deeper. So, you hate him so much that you can't get enough of it. ‍‍

In the beginning, you may think that the other person is very good. But as the days go by, you see through this person. It's not what you imagined, so you hate him. ‍‍

I think that this kind of love is not love, but it just stays in the feelings and beautiful fantasies that I gave each other at the beginning, to put it bluntly, I don't like it so much, and I don't have so much tolerance.

If you really like someone or even fall in love with someone, even if you quarrel every day, and even sometimes have the urge to strangle each other, there is a kind of trust in each other's hearts, and you still don't feel that the other party is bored, on the contrary, unconsciously, you have been with each other for so long. (Personal experience).

Or, in other words, the love of "looking at each other and hating each other" is not mature:

didn't think too much about it, just a momentary favor that created this relationship. (Most feelings are like this, but the progress and choices in the process have a variety of results).

The goodwill of the two parties only stays at the first meeting, and then slowly gets along until the original form is revealed, and naturally there will be no much tolerance, otherwise if you blindly write or refer to the words of "life is only as you first met", what will you do to progress?

To put it bluntly, it's still not enough love.

1. Lack of communication.

In marriage, the most indispensable thing is to communicate with each other, and tell your partner about your dissatisfaction and needs! Perhaps many of your conflicts will be resolved in this way.

2. Empathy.

In marriage, you must learn to empathize, think more about each other, and arrange housework such as you cook, I will wash, and don't pile everything on one person.

3. Respect each other.

Learn to respect each other in marriage, magnify each other's strengths, and minimize each other's shortcomings, and the marriage will be happier.

4. The heart of comparison.

Always live in the shadow of other people's homes, how powerful other people's husbands are, how gentle other people's wives are, but I can't see the distress of other people's families, people have mountains and seas, you have lovers to accompany you, contentment and happiness, no need to live in the comparison of others.

In the end, most of the husband and wife don't know how to understand each other, and they always feel that the other half has mistakes; dislike what the other person thinks of you; You keep comparing your partner to other people.

Many people may be thinking about why they and their other half are in love when they get married, many things can be tolerated, and they think that they have found the best other half, but after a long time, two people find that each other has many shortcomings, many things are impatient with the other half, and some ordinary little things will make each other look at each other and hate each other.

We live in a fast-paced environment, and we all have to work hard to earn money to support our families. This is true not only for men, but also for women who sometimes do more work than men and are more tired when they get home. This is the time when your relationship slowly fades, because you always feel that you are the most tired, and you will not understand the tiredness of the other party.

So, you feel that you should do less housework, and you should let your other half serve you. Sometimes, when the other person doesn't do the housework, you will feel that he doesn't love you. That's because neither of you is considerate of each other.

Sometimes the other person may have the wrong opinion of you, and you think that you are doing the right thing, and this is the time when it is more embarrassing. If you find out that the other person is wrong in the end, then the other person may be embarrassed, and if you find out that you are wrong in the end, then it may embarrass you, and no matter who is right or who is wrong, it will affect the relationship between the two of you.

From now on, when you look at each other, you may only have shortcomings. And you should know that since you want to love someone, you must also accept the shortcomings of the other person. Because everyone has strengths and weaknesses, if you want to love, you must accept some wrong things that the other person has done with a great deal of tolerance.

We may meet a lot of people who are better at what we do, so we may be dissatisfied when our partner is not doing things perfectly. But we should understand that the excellent people you see also have a lot of shortcomings in other aspects. We should not make comparisons, these are the reasons that can make the relationship between husband and wife slowly deteriorate.

From the initial love to the last hate, it's actually because we don't have much tolerance and don't use skills in dealing with things. And our own family is our big rear, and we should have more patience and tolerance to deal with things.

Because of the contradictions accumulated in a long life. The accumulation of unresolved contradictions for a long time will eventually lead to qualitative changes, leading to unsolvable situations and making husband and wife look at each other and hate each other.

Because in the end, they all know each other too well, and what shortcomings the other party has, they can understand it with one look, and there is no need to say more. Slowly, you can only see each other's shortcomings, and take your advantages for granted.

Falling in love and killing each other, two people who love each other look at each other's shortcomings and blame each other. The so-called people hurt others and become enemies, and people respect others and become friends. Trying to change the other person is a stupid act. Only by tolerating shortcomings, understanding each other, and respecting and loving each other can we last for a long time.

Because people are a variable, people are always growing and changing, until they can no longer afford to grow old completely. They don't love each other anymore in the change, that's all. Don't easily deny the beginning, and don't be blindly optimistic about the future, after all, marriage needs to be managed, which is a lifelong thing.

Enough days!! There is no money, and the hard life is .........In the end, there are enemies, and some even fight so much that the other party ......... to deathMarriage is really not interesting .........It's not a good deal at all.........

My wife and I have been married for ten years, and the more I look at my wife, the better she looks, in my eyes my wife is the most beautiful, and I am not interested in any woman except my wife.

After getting married, I found that the temper and personality of the two people were inappropriate, and everything else was inappropriate, so they had nothing to say, and they slept in separate rooms.

The man is rich, and it is not pleasing to look at the wife of the chaff. Men have no money, women look at the poor days without heads, and the more they look at men, the more unpleasant they become.

I think there is still no spiritual resonance, different views on things, disagreements, disagreements are not resolved, so we hate each other.

Because he is too familiar, I know all his shortcomings in my heart, so I hate each other.

Because it is originally fake, the staff is not real, it is also fake, the income is also fake, and marriage is also tragic, and it is also deceitful.

Because the more time passes, the less the feeling of being in love with each other is, and there is no feeling of love.

I don't like it so much after a long time, and I get tired of seeing each other every day.

There is no freshness and no deep feelings, and in the end, they will get tired of each other.

Happy marriages are all the same, while unhappy marriages are always of sorts.

When I saw this topic, I felt very sad. The person who should be the closest to him ended up being...

Because in the end, love is exhausted, and there is no affection between them.

The relationship between husband and wife needs to use their brains, otherwise it is easy to ignore the good side of each other.

I have the following views on why couples who have lived for many years are dissatisfied with each other:

First of all, it could be because of a lack of communication with each other. Living together for a long time is prone to a sense of psychological distance, and each other's thoughts and feelings are not naturally conveyed to each other. In this case, misunderstandings and dissatisfaction can gradually accumulate, eventually leading to emotional alienation.

To improve the situation, couples need to work hard to communicate and express their true thoughts and feelings.

Secondly, it may also be due to the lack of understanding and insufficient concessions in life. After living for a long time, it is easy to become accustomed to each other's efforts and contributions, which will unconsciously ignore each other's real contributions in life, only see each other's shortcomings, and produce a certain amount of neglect and dissatisfaction. To correct this mentality, both parties need to be aware of each other's efforts in life and learn to be grateful and understanding.

Ruined the day. Again, it can also be because of the stress and mood of life. The stresses and frustrations in life can easily be vented emotionally, and the people closest to them often become the objects of venting. In fact, the root cause of pressure and frustration is not the other party, it is just a temporary emotional venting, but the imitator will also cause real damage to the delicate feelings in the past.

This requires both parties to learn to look at the problem rationally, distinguish between stressors and true feelings, and avoid excessive emotion.

Finally, it can also be due to disagreements in life's material conditions and pursuits. The improvement of living standards will also increase new pursuits, and the differences in these pursuits will invisibly widen the distance between husband and wife, leading to incomprehension and dissatisfaction in life concepts and future design. In order to resolve this difference, the two sides need to rationally discuss their respective life pursuits on the basis of meeting the material conditions, find a common value direction, and try to avoid the centrifugal force brought about by simple material enjoyment.

The lack of understanding and concessions in life, the venting of stress emotions, and the different pursuit of material life are all important reasons that lead to couples who have lived for many years and eventually become dissatisfied with each other. To correct this situation, both parties must strive to strengthen communication and understanding, be aware of each other's true feelings, avoid excessive venting of negative emotions, and pay attention to the consistency of life values while pursuing material conditions. It will take continuous efforts on both sides, but it will also be the cornerstone of a truly happy life.

Relationships also need to be constantly mended and cared for, especially in the course of long-term life. Understanding, consideration, gratitude, and shared pursuit are the glues that bind the relationship. The happiness of a married life requires the joint creation of both parties.

This is not just a declaration of love, but a manifestation of practical action. In a single thought, it may be the boundary between heaven and hell. This requires us to be aware at all times.

1. Get along for many years and know each other too well.

Husband and wife have lived together for many years from knowing each other to falling in love with each other, and they have long known each other's details and thoughts. However, because he knows the other party too well, the wife or husband knows what the other party is going to do when he makes a move. This kind of understanding is too suffocating, making the other party feel that there is no private space, and they are overwhelmed.

Gradually, the two became dissatisfied with each other, and even quarrels became commonplace.

Second, magnify the shortcomings of the other party and fail to see the advantages.

When a husband and wife have been together for a long time, they will know each other's shortcomings. It's not like the beginning of the love period, where the lover's eyes are shih hsi. Instead, they criticize each other and magnify each other's shortcomings.

Never find a way to work together to change each other's shortcomings. Such repeated amplification and forbearance will sooner or later explode one day, causing the two to fall apart.

3. The cruelty of the reality of life.

Love needs a material foundation. After marriage, the man worked hard in order to answer the orange family, and the woman was miserable in housework. Over time, women complain that men are useless and do not make money.

Men think that their wives don't understand him, and they don't have a sense of gain and happiness. The two have a grudge against each other!