What was it like to finally live the life you hated the most?

I end with a quote from someone I particularly like, and with my little social experience and understanding, I would like to give this sentence to those who are in the world and want to break down barriers and live their own lives:

Freedom is not the freewheeling of behavior, but the unfettered of the mind. ”

I hope we can all grow the way we like and live the way we want.

I can't ask for it, and I can't bear to have a fantasy."

I want to completely erase my current self.

But I fantasize that there will be hope for tomorrow's differences.

Unwilling to leave empty and pass away with the wind, with sorrow, no one hates the past, etc., and the promise is not substantial.

Waking up in the middle of the night, I stretched out my hand to find it, and was surprised to find that there was no one to accompany him.

Joy and anger, crying, often tears and laughter, only the expression is stiff and numb.

I want to end myself more and loop again and again.

Do you go with the flow, or do you?

In the big dye vat of society, if you are careless, you will inevitably become the person you hated the most. Be cautious at every step.

Easier said than done!

Everyone seems to be using their own experience to confirm the true fragrance theorem.

Gradually, we found that we live more and more unlike ourselves, the words of the past are in vain, the bottom line of the past has no benchmark, and the original hated look is allowed to run wild. But people will always change, and many times we may change just to find a foothold in this society.

Let's start with the look I hate the most so far, one word, "mourning".

At that time, I even hated myself, and I didn't have hope for all kinds of confusion in the future, and occasionally I cried uncontrollably, and I didn't feel much better when I cried. And who would want to play with someone who is accompanied by negative energy every day, so at that time, it was more withdrawn, and there were no friends, so they fought against the overwhelming sadness by themselves.

Watching the current self drift away from the self we once wanted to be the most, we are anxious, unwilling, but helpless. So, this unwillingness and helplessness were naturally transformed into hate by us. But that's growth, and your growth never goes away because you hate it.

It is like a chasm that appears in front of you, and if you cross it, you will gain it; Retreat, and you will stand still.

When people reach middle age, no one is older or younger, whether male or female, and no one has lighter burdens on their shoulders than others. However, is it not easy for you to enter middle age? We who once said that we should be brave and be ourselves and never bow to fate, we have not been smoothed out by life and lived the way we hate the most.

Gradually, the edges and corners of our bodies have been smoothed out a lot in the wall again and again. We who used to hate the most flattery, we also had to learn to smile and bow our heads when facing customers; used to be a drop of wine, but now it has become a sacrifice of life at the dinner table. We began to get used to boring dinners, skillfully drawing fists, persuading each other, complimenting each other, and also learned to pat the leader's ass, and the shooting was natural and in one go.

Start to get bored with yourself.

When we really live as "what we hate", it can be understood as,We have begun to face our shadows and try to make them a part of ourselves. This is not a bad thing, and in a way, it is the only way to integrate your personality and become your true self.

Psychologist Zeng Qifeng believes that "you hate a person because he has something in him; You often criticize someone in front of others, but subconsciously you want to be close to them. In psychoanalytic terms, it can be explained in terms of "projection" and "reverse formation".

When you list the traits that you hate, you will find that these traits are actually more or less possessed by yourself, but at the level of consciousness, it is difficult for you to admit and face them, because most of these traits are not allowed in morality or reality.

Those parts of us that are not accepted by ourselves, we often "project" them. Just like many people will hate people who love to be showy and show off, and always think that such people are too narcissistic. In fact, the "narcissism" they hate is exactly the part of them that they also have, but cannot be accepted by themselves.

Because of the difference in thought, the track of life has deviated, but it can still be driven back, you will hate yourself, and you will definitely like yourself. Life is a game where death is the end, and most people have the opportunity to live as they like. There is also the appearance that you hate, others may not hate it, it may be that there is something wrong with your self-identity.

When I was a child, I always felt that I could become an atmosphere, better than the people around me, I felt that I was smart, capable, and full of hope for the future. When I grew up, I realized that I should stop being self-righteous, stop being willful, and stop being naïve.

I used to hate people who have no ambition and don't seek to be motivated, but now I feel that being ambitious is a kind of happiness, I have this simple ambition but I don't have the ability to match it, what is the use of wanting this ambition?

I used to hate pessimistic and negative people the most, but now I prefer mourning culture, negative energy, which allows me to see reality clearly, recognize myself, and not have to live in blind illusions.

I thought I could settle myself, I could take care of my parents, I could win for the people I loved, I could have a good future, everything was just what I thought, hahahahahaha! It's ridiculous to say, and I feel like I'm God, and I can live as I imagined, which is ridiculous, ridiculous.

I finally understood the sentence: From now on, you must not have the slightest nostalgia for this world.

I used to think that as long as I worked hard, I could have a better life, but now I still don't have a good time, I always feel that I still don't work hard enough, and I still need to work hard, but how hard should I work and how hard I work. I felt tired, but I didn't dare to slack off. I'm afraid that I'm not as good as others, and if I don't work hard, I'm even worse than others.

In my 20s, I feel that my life has been ruined, hopefully, I can't see a little outline in the future, how can there be any life to talk about, I don't expect anyone to feel sorry for me, it doesn't matter, I will carry it myself when the sky falls, if one day I can't bear it, I will say goodbye to the world.

I'm used to being alone, and suddenly one day there is a person who intrudes into my life, and I don't dare to take that step, I will only retreat and retreat, I think that I am not worthy of love, nor worthy of sympathy, so slowly wither!

I hated myself more and more, I looked in the mirror and asked myself, you didn't live the way your parents liked, you didn't live the way you liked, you lived more beautifully and lived like others, what happened to you? How can it be so embarrassed, so worthless.

What the hell is wrong with me?

Sometimes I think, one day I left, maybe on the bridge of Naihe, Meng Po asked me: She said that you have any regrets in this life, maybe my only regret is that I really shouldn't have come to this world, I have no meaning to the world, but I have suffered in this life.

I lived my life as I hated the most, how ironic!

Summary. Question 1: Why do some people end up living the way they hate?

Answer: First, not everyone is so good, they will become a master, and there is a certain distance between their ability and reality, so when something happens, they can't deal with the results at least expected, and they gradually become numb and disappointed. Second, life is compelled.

When people reach middle age, they have to support their families, and the pressure is very high.

In the end, he lived the life he hated the most.

Question 1: Why do some people end up living the way they hate? A:

1. Not everyone is so good, they will become a master, and their ability is at a certain distance from reality, so when something happens, they can't deal with it at least the expected results, and they gradually become numb and disappointed. Second, life is compelled. When people reach middle age, they have to support their families, and the pressure is very high.

Fellow, I really didn't understand, I can be more specific.

Question 1: Why do some people end up living the way they hate? A:

1. Not everyone is so good, they will become a master, and their ability is at a certain distance from reality, so when something happens, they can't deal with it at least the expected results, and they gradually become numb and disappointed. Second, life is compelled. When people reach middle age, they have to support their families, and the pressure is very high.