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Since I don't like Ah !!, who will definitely get out of the marriage Why get engaged if you don't like it? Can you accept people you don't like to stay with you?
If you don't get divorced now, do you have to wait until the time of divorce to get a divorce? Although it is often said that getting married now is to live together, but that's just the way it goes. I think that married life can only be meaningful if there is affection.
If there is no emotion in the marriage, it is a very painful thing, such a family life is actually meaningless, it is not as good as a person to be chic and comfortable, since you feel that you want to be with him, at least there should be an emotional foundation, if you don't like it, often facing it may make you very painful, if he knows that you don't like it, maybe he will also be very painful, in a married life without an emotional foundation, it may make you have more contradictions. You don't like it, I don't like you, I look at you too, look for this stubble today, find that stubble tomorrow, think about such a day, is this the life you want? In case you have another child, letting the baby grow up in a family without love will also have a great impact on the child's physical and mental health.
So while you can still choose, you must think clearly about your choice, if you really don't like it, you can refuse, you can choose when you can choose now, this thing will affect your life. Don't wait until the time when the damage is greater, then you may be more sad than now!
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We are three months away from getting married, but I don't want to get married anymore.
My fiancé and I met on a blind date and officially dated in October last year. But I never liked him, I didn't have feelings for him. Because of his indecisiveness, he thought about who to marry or not, and considering his parents, so he agreed.
After knowing each other for so long, we have only a handful of dates, basically once a week, sometimes more than a week, ** and very little, usually he never texts, does not chat Q or WeChat. I've said this many times in the beginning, but he's always been like that. He never took me out to play or anything, and the date was just to eat, and there were many times when I ate at his house or at my house.
He was not what I wanted, both in appearance and in character. At the time, I thought it would be okay, but now I find that I really can't make do. He doesn't understand all aspects of dealing with people, and he still needs me to teach, and sometimes he feels very tired.
My biggest concern now is my parents, they are old, almost 60 years old, my relatives and friends know about my marriage, and my parents will definitely not be able to bear the words of my parents after I get married, and the consequences will be very serious.
I'm very depressed about this now, I really want to get out of the marriage, I also tried it with my sister, but from her tone, I know that she also thinks about her parents, if I withdraw from the marriage, the family will definitely make a fuss, and my parents will definitely scold me. It's so tiring to think about, I don't understand what this man thinks, we talked about the fact that now the wedding photos have been taken, and they haven't kissed yet, sometimes I really wonder if there is something wrong with him. Thinking about the future days, I am desperate, I really don't want to marry him, how can I live in the future without any emotional foundation?
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Faced with such a straightforward question, the only right thing you can do is to refuse, and refuse without hesitation.
First of all, the blind date man chosen by the family is not your choice, two people together need the recognition of both parties, you have a sense of identity with her in the process of dating, in order to persuade yourself to make a choice for her, and such a choice is based on the fact that both of you like to attract each other, and you now have a clear attitude towards your own family, you have no emotional foundation for your family arrangement, there is no need to choose him.
You must be firm in your choice to decisively refuse such a request for marriage, because there is no emotional basis between you and her, your understanding is based on the arrangement of your parents, such an arrangement has not been approved by you, and on this basis, you already have a sense of rejection of such an arrangement, under the effect of these rejections, you may often not have enough good feelings for this person, which is also an inevitable change.
The choice of the family is not taking into account your emotional foundation, they did not take your feelings as a selection evaluation criterion for them, and made such a decision hastily, such a decision is also your irresponsibility, if you choose to passively accept such an irresponsible decision, then you are also irresponsible for your future.
You should be clear about your refusal and tell your family and the other person's family that you don't want to do it, and this kind of reluctance will have an extremely bad impact on your future life as a couple, because there is no emotion between two people, and on this basis, you will not be able to live in harmony with each other enough. And this kind of getting along is not interesting, because two people living together without feelings is more of an inner torment.
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I think the relationship is a thing that can't be compromised, since I don't like the other party, why did I agree to the engagement at the beginning, but before I got married, I think the girl still has room to regret it.
I know a person, I heard him say that his brother has a similar situation, because the family is no longer old, because he is no longer old, began to worry about his marriage, after arranging for his brother to go on a blind date with a girl they liked, very decisively let his brother and the girl get engaged.
At that time, his brother felt that if he couldn't find a girl he liked very much, the girl on a blind date was not unacceptable, so he was very confused and engaged to that girl, but because the contact time was not long, after the two got along, the boy felt more and more that the girl was the type he couldn't accept in terms of personality.
When setting the wedding date, the boy hesitated, feeling that such a relationship was not what he wanted, he proposed to the family at that time to withdraw from the marriage, at that time the family must not agree, coincidentally, at that time, his brother met a girl who made him particularly excited, under his brother's tough attitude, the two finally quit the marriage, because it was the man's repentance, and gave the girl a certain compensation.
Although I don't agree with the man's hasty engagement on the premise that he doesn't like girls, I think that choosing to withdraw from the marriage at this time is actually a good thing for both parties, because two people who have no feelings get married, and their life after marriage will definitely not be better than before they got married.
For girls, marrying marriage and marrying love are really two completely different states, so I think if you don't like each other, even if you are engaged, you shouldn't make a hasty compromise on the rest of your life because of this.
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A few years ago, I also had such an experience, I was pampered since I was a child, my temper was not very good, my father's friend introduced me to a family with a good temper and an honest man, it just so happened that our two parents also knew each other, my parents felt that they knew the roots, and the family was also good, and the man also liked me very much, so let me be with him.
But I don't feel anything about him, I get along for a while but I hate her more and more, in my opinion, he is a bit of a mother, a nest, and it is not good, I feel with him that I am a man and he is a woman, I am resolutely unwilling to deal with it, my parents were very angry at the time, almost every day to give me a cold face, I spent a while in such a shadow, it was really more and more annoying him, and when he went out together, he pulled my arm and I felt disgusting. I couldn't take it anymore, so I kicked him completely. Later, for a long time, my parents had a cold war with me and ignored me, which was so sad at the time, but after a long time, I slowly forgot about it.
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When there is an intention to dissolve the marriage, it is best for the woman to mention it to the man himself, and then the other party will tell her parents. In general, it is better to dissolve the marriage peacefully. However, if the other party does not cooperate, and the attitude of disagreement, you can first coordinate with the intermediary agency such as the matchmaker, and if it is really not possible, seek legal assistance.
No matter how much he likes him in his heart, he won't give him a chance.
<> release information When the above process is completed, in fact, the entire divorce is nearing the end. At this time, it is best for both parties to announce the news to relatives and friends so that they can witness it. Precautions for DivorceProposing to Dissolve the Marriage ContractWhen there is an intention to dissolve the marriage contract, it is best for the woman to mention it to the man himself, and then the other party will tell her parents.
In general, it is better to dissolve the marriage peacefully. However, if the other party does not cooperate, and the attitude of disagreement, you can first coordinate with the intermediary agency such as the matchmaker, and if it is really not possible, seek legal assistance. It shows that he knows that you have deep feelings for him, his heart is too soft, he is sure that you will not reject him, and from the time you come here to ask questions, you know that you are very entangled and an indecisive person.
Disposition of propertyAt the time of engagement, the man may have given something akin to a dowry. Since the wife plans to dissolve the marriage contract, it is best to return the property such as three gold, hardware, and bride price to the man. The bride price itself is based on marriage, and since there is no marriage, it is better to have a clear relationship with money.
<> release information When the above process is completed, in fact, the entire divorce is nearing the end. At this time, it is best for both parties to announce the news to relatives and friends so that they can witness.
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If you find that the engaged partner doesn't like it, you can withdraw from the marriage, but you must return the bride price and various things to the other party, and then communicate well with the other party, otherwise, both people will be very hurt.
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Of course, if you don't like each other, you should make it clear to the other party, and you should also make it clear to the other party's family, and you should withdraw from the marriage immediately, marriage is not child's play.
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If there is no big problem, it is a character problem, and it is easy to make yourself stink and affect your future partner, so you should be cautious about getting out of the marriage.
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The boy's family is particularly bad, but the two are already engaged, and if they love each other enough, they don't choose to get out of the marriage, but work together to create a better future.
The two have come to the point of engagement, which shows that the relationship between the two people is relatively stable, and the divorce at this time is too cold-blooded and cruel. If you really love someone, you won't care about the other person's family, even if your boyfriend's family conditions are very bad, but as long as you love each other, you will win everything, don't make love vulnerable and look down on people.
I believe that a person's background is not a very important thing, as long as they work hard for each other, they will change their poor life, and my boyfriend's family is particularly bad is innate and will not be set in stone. If two people can be down-to-earth, diligent and hard-working together, I believe that they will create a better life and bring happiness to themselves. In other words, the current life has been much better than the old society, the family is particularly bad, at least it will not affect the problem of food and clothing, as long as the other party loves themselves enough is the most important, after all, life can have love to join to make yourself satisfied.
Emotionally, two people should manage each other's feelings well if they are already engaged, but it is very unbearable to choose to withdraw from the marriage at the last step, which will affect their evaluation. The most important thing for two people to be together is feelings, as long as there is enough affection, it will create miracles, and it will bring you different happiness, rather than only seeing the bad side.
In my opinion, as long as your boyfriend is honest and loves himself enough more than anything else, he will bring happiness to himself. Many times happiness can be changed, as long as two people work hard enough, they will change their living conditions, and they will make themselves more happy.
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You can choose, it depends on the emotional development of the two people, and the goals that the two people will strive for in the future, if the two people have confidence, there is no need to withdraw from the marriage.
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I don't think you should choose to withdraw from the marriage, since you have come this far, it shows that you really love each other, even if the family is not good, you can slowly improve through your own efforts.
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It all depends on what you value more. If you value the harmony and capital of the target family, you can choose to withdraw from the marriage. If you pay more attention to the personal charm of the partner, you can choose to live as a couple when you get married in the future.
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Summary. If you don't be resolute now, what will you do in the future, is it better to say that divorce is not good.
You can first think clearly about the reason for reluctance, just a simple sentence of "I feel bad" is definitely not convincing, and then try to find a family member who can communicate with you, such as a mother, to clarify the stakes, whether it is the importance of face or the happiness of a lifetime. If you really can't do it, you can find a reason to leave the local area, such as going out to study or working, even if you threaten to break your leg. The key is to be resolute, your own happiness is earned by yourself, and since the previous engagement has been wrong, you can't continue to be wrong.
I can't do anything for myself. No one can help you
I agreed to get engaged, but I didn't like the man, and I wanted to get out of the marriage, but my family was forced to die and cut off the relationship.
If you don't be resolute now, what will you do in the future, is it better to say that divorce is not good. You can first think clearly about the reason for reluctance, just a simple sentence of "I feel bad" is definitely not convincing, and then try to find a family member who can communicate with you, such as a mother, to clarify the stakes, whether it is the importance of face or the happiness of a lifetime. If you really can't do it, you can find a reason to leave the local area, such as going out to study or working, even if you threaten to break your leg.
The key is to be resolute, your own happiness is earned by yourself, and since the previous engagement has been wrong, you can't continue to be wrong. I can't do anything for myself. No one can help you
Since I don't like how he agreed to the engagement in the first place, this is also a certain mistake. If you really don't have feelings for that boy, it's better to break up as soon as possible, which is good for both parties. If you are reluctantly married now and don't feel it after marriage, you won't be divorced in the end.
Of course, now that the breakup is proposed, the other party's bride price must be refunded. At the same time, it is okay to compensate the other party accordingly. However, the man's double compensation for the bride price is an unreasonable demand, and it is not supported by the law, and you can completely refuse.
Even if you are your own family, you still need to communicate with them well and get their understanding and support.
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