I feel like when I face some people I think I hate, my attention is gone, how can this be?

First of all, congratulations on how sensible you can be about learning! It's not just about learning according to your own preferences.

As for your confusion, I think you should also insist on not denying yourself because of other people's eyes or other people's actions. Your sister is your sister, you are you, and the two of you are two completely different individuals, so don't worry about being like her (if you see her and you're powerless, just ignore her and imply that she's not with you).

Reading in public is a great thing (if it's efficient), you don't have to care about what people do, maybe they see you reading and take a copy with them the next time they go out, and then you're setting a new trend!

As for those who don't like it, just ignore ......Silently say in your heart: I am studying attentively, I am studying ,...... concentrationIt will work if you read it a few more times, and over time, it will be much better when you see someone you don't like!

From your words, I feel that you may have some obsessive-compulsive symptoms, it is recommended to see a psychiatrist, first of all, you must believe in your own ability, believe that you have enough concentration to cope with all kinds of interference in the environment, to achieve a state of calm and natural coolness, instead of being upset and forcing yourself to do something.

Because you see that they are not pleasing to the eye, and you want to take revenge on him.

Summary. It looks like you're describing a possible psychological phenomenon of emotional inhibition or repression. In this case, you may have become so accustomed to hating someone or something that your brain has learned to suppress the associated emotions and abilities because they can lead to unpleasant experiences.

In this case, it is advisable to try to reconnect with these emotions and abilities. Consider seeking help from a counsellor who can help you better understand your emotions and behavior patterns and provide specific advice and tips to help you reconnect with your emotions.

When you think of things that you hated people you hated before, you don't feel it, and the abilities you used to have seem to be suppressed.

It looks like you're describing a possible psychological phenomenon of emotional inhibition or repression. In this case, you may have become so accustomed to disliking someone or something that your brain has learned to suppress the associated emotions and abilities because they can lead to unpleasant experiences. In this case, it is advisable to try to reconnect with these emotions and abilities.

Consider seeking help from a counsellor who can help you better understand your emotions and behavior patterns, and provide specific advice and tips to help you reconnect with your emotional sensitivity.

If I used to hate certain things, but when I think of someone I hate, it feels like I'm blocked, and I always come up with things that others often say or I didn't like before.

Good. This may be a psychological ripple effect. When you think of someone you hate, your negative emotions can cause similar thoughts and emotions.

This phenomenon is known in psychology as emotional sublimation. There are a few things you can try to reduce this happening, such as focusing on positive thoughts and emotions, learning relaxation and stress reduction techniques, talking to people who support you, and seeking professional help.

1. HostileWhen talking to you when you get along, it is always aimed at you, and it is more obvious, at this time, pay attention to think about the relationship between each other, if the task is not completed, the reason will be all on your head, everyone chats together, and the key topics you bring up will be strongly justified by you, not to let everyone think that you are wrong, this is mostly because of dissatisfaction with you.

2. Don't care about your feelingsWhen getting along with others, if they are self-centered, do not consider your feelings, or often satisfy themselves at the expense of your interests, will not greet you when they use anything from you, borrow money from you and deliberately do not pay you back, ask him for help when they are in difficulty but are very perfunctory or directly refuse, it means that he does not care about your feelings and does not take you to heart, and can even be said to hate you very much.

3. Deliberately stay away from youSome people are naturally outgoing and talk eloquently when confronted with others, but are silent when confronted with you, or often walk away under the pretext that something is going on. When we get together, we don't talk much, we keep our distance, or if we invite him to dinner, we will be refused.

If you really hate a person in your heart, then you really can't even look at you lazy, even if you talk to him, he will treat it as invisible and ignore you directly. So I hope you don't become someone who is hated by others.

Because of the disgust of this person, at this time, you can only see his (her) shortcomings and mistakes, and can only see the negative parts, prejudice replaces normal, and the part covers up the comprehensive.

There is a saying called love house and black, if you love someone, even the crow on his house likes, on the contrary, if you hate a person, even his shadow is hated!

There are a number of reasons for this, and a few of them are slightly more significant.

The first one is that your magnetic fields don't match. Everyone has their own magnetic field, and when our magnetic field collides with the magnetic field of the environment, we will feel dizzy and feel unwell.

When you don't match his magnetic field, you will reject him at the first time.

The second possibility is that when you were growing up with this type of person you did something that you hated and then your subconscious mind wrote him down. When he appears, your subconscious mind will have this reaction mechanism.

The third is the first impression. His dress, his words and deeds are contradictory to yours, and he doesn't know it, you are very disgusted.

The fourth is that if you come into contact with more people, you will meet people who are similar to him, and if they are very rude, you will be disgusted with him. The moment he appears, you will feel that he must be the kind of impolite person, and define him as impolite, and you will reject him as soon as you see him.

These are more typical, and of course, there are others, which can be considered and seen.

There's a name for it in psychology called the mirror effect. People think that the attitude of others towards them is like a mirror that can reflect their own image, and thus form the impression of self-concept, this phenomenon is called the mirror effect.

Why don't you have confidence in the face of the people you hate, is it through them that you see your own shortcomings, you have many things that are not as good as your friends, and thus hate.

Why not try to put yourself in the other person's shoes and see their good qualities, why just hate it. On the other hand, it can be said that you also hate yourself.

Be confident in yourself and bring out the best in yourself in front of people you hate.

Why do you hate them? Are they better than you, or are there some of their practices that you don't like to use?

You can try not to hate him, you know that hating someone is far more painful than accepting someone, and you don't need to waste time and energy for someone you hate!

Others hate you, that's someone else's business, don't be unhappy and uncomfortable for others.

Look at the problem from two sides.

From the subject's point of view, the subjective feeling is that the other party is very annoying to the "person", in most cases, the "person" here refers to the "person", and in a few cases, it includes the "part of the person" that the "person" can come into contact with. At the same time, there is a judgment that "she" herself does not know, and it seems that we take our conjectures that we may be right or wrong as the basis for our conclusions.

Next, from "her's" point of view, whether "she" is aware of the subject, and the possible attitudes and opinions of "some people" towards her, will lead to completely different attitudes and thoughts behind this matter. Whether you really don't pay attention and don't know, or you know, feel uncomfortable, and don't know how to deal with it, or you know and feel that it doesn't matter, or you know and estimate that it is possible to continue to do this.

The self-perspective and the perspective of others need to be integrated in order to help people complete self-awareness in a real sense, and ultimately continue to grow and improve.

She won't know, it's like you don't know what you are annoying.

You hate others because their behavior is not in line with your way of doing things and the code of conduct, so it will annoy you. But this kind of behavior is very comfortable for others, so how can he know it himself?

In the TV series "Mansion Gate", there is a sentence that I love to listen to. The gist is: If you do something, others are happy but I am not happy, and I don't do it by myself. But if no one else is happy, I'm the only one who is happy to do it.

Hehe, that's normal.

1。First of all, we must understand ourselves correctly. I will not be a perfect person, and there are many shortcomings and shortcomings, even naïve. Since you are not perfect, you can't ask others to be perfect, and you won't be too harsh when you look at others with such a mentality.

2。The world itself is imperfect. All people have shortcomings and shortcomings.

There are also good guys and bad guys. The bottom line for evaluating others is that if he is not a bad person, but a regular ordinary person, when interacting with him (her), look at the strengths of others as much as possible and seek common ground while reserving differences.

3。If you really hate a person, there are two situations, one is that he (she) really hates it, and everyone hates him (her), then it means that this person does have relatively big problems or shortcomings, which means that your dislike is normal and belongs to human nature. If he (she) only annoys you, and other people don't hate him (her), then you have to analyze whether there is a problem with your judgment or the reason for his or her speediness.

In short, when you hate someone in your heart, you have to ask a few more whys? Analyze the reasons for this, and you will become more and more aware of how to identify and deal with people.

4。Learn to deal with different people. This is the premise for your work, life and study to be successful and skillful.

You can play with your temperament at home, and your parents can let you be, but once you become a social person, you can't let your temperament come. In modern society, it is impossible to survive in society without the help of others.

I wish you all the best.

It's useless to always hate it, he won't know, you only scold in your heart, so instead of hating it yourself, it's better to try to accept it.