How to alleviate emotional jealousy, how to deal with jealousy

If you can ask this question today, it means that you are already solving it, jealousy itself is the most normal state of mind of human beings, and what really bothers you is actually its severity, and this part requires a lot of effort, and perhaps the most direct and effective way is to experience more characters. Why are you always the one who is alone and jealous when you watch your best friends play with others? How do you feel when you're playing with someone other than your best friend?

Have you ever been a "third party"? The more you experience, the more you can understand whether you really don't care, whether you really hate it, or whether liking it means possession! I wish you happiness, you are an emotional person, and it is great to have friends like you.

I used to be more generous.,Since I liked that person, I've become narrow-minded.,But now I'm adjusted.,It's normal to have this kind of emotion.,But you can't let him feel it.,Learn to distract yourself.,For example, ask friends to eat and go shopping or something.,It's good after a long time.,Don't think about whether he's picking up a girl or not.,It's fun... It's tiring, and it's not pleasing to you.

If I'm not mistaken, you're an introvert, but you're emotional. There is a small possessiveness. Relax your heart, some things that are yours are yours, not yours, no matter how much you force them, they are not yours.

You'll understand this when you understand it. You should still be young, and when you grow up and experience more things, your thoughts will be different from what you have now.

Turn your friend's friend into your own friend, and everyone can get up and hang out in the future, so that your mood will be better.

Remember, friends aren't yours alone, so what's wrong with letting them communicate with other people? I used to do this a lot, but then I thought about it, wouldn't it be nice for his best friend to find a confidant? Wouldn't I be happy when he was happy?

Adjust your mentality, don't always compare yourself with people who are behind you, and think about the people around you who are worse than you.

Don't worry too much, make more friends, and then you don't care about each of them. In fact, it is good to have a few good friends, but you can't be too possessive of others, they also have their own lives.

Find a place where no one is around, shout loudly for ten minutes, and you will feel much more comfortable after venting.

Be friends with friends of friends.

Expand the scope of your friends.

Since the existence of jealousy also has a positive meaning, how do we deal with jealousy from ourselves and others?

1) Deal with your own feelings of jealousy.

The most terrible thing to deal with is to let go and refuse to admit it. When you find yourself feeling jealous, tell yourself that this is a normal human emotion. Then, the emotions are processed.

Talk to jealousy.

We can try to talk to our jealousy and ask it these questions:

What emotions are behind you?

What do you care about?

Is this judgment of yours objective? What are the facts?

What do you want me to do next?

Through these four questions, we can have a clearer picture of the signs of jealousy and know what we can do next. You know, jealousy is inherently "signaling".

Compare yourself to rebuild the right amount of self-confidence.

In addition to "talking to emotions", it is more important for us to "compare ourselves and rebuild proper self-confidence" in our daily life. Because we are not confident, we want to compare ourselves with others everywhere and gain our own self-confidence in comparison.

If you replace the object of comparison with yourself, compare yourself today with yesterday's self, see what progress you have made today compared to yesterday, and self-affirm each progress, and gradually rebuild appropriate self-confidence.

Practice gratitude and compassion.

When we are jealous, we do not seek happiness in what we have, but we seek pain in what others have.

If you find a little luck in yourself every day, and be grateful for a small beauty around you, you will also have the eyes to discover the beauty you already have.

If you practice it for a long time, you will gradually develop your "compassion", and if you have compassion for yourself, you will be full of compassion for others, and you will have less resentment, resentment, hatred, and less jealousy.

In short, in the face of jealousy, talk to jealousy, compare yourself with yourself, be grateful, and let the power of love grow from the bottom of your heart, so as to help you rebuild the right amount of self-confidence, cultivate your "compassion", and the jealousy will gradually disappear.

2) Deal with jealousy from others.

It's okay to be jealous yourself, but what if someone else becomes jealous and targets you?

Check the facts. When dealing with the malicious jealousy of others, the first thing we need to determine is, "Are they really jealous of me?" ”。

Many times, we think that others are not paying attention to us as we expected, and think that it is "jealous", but in fact, this has nothing to do with others, it may be a kind of "narcissism" of our own.

Distinguish between good and malicious jealousy.

Malicious jealousy produces the venting of resentment and hatred, while well-intentioned jealousy produces motivation. Psychologists believe that honest and direct communication is an effective strategy for malicious jealousy.

Go your own way and let others be jealous.

The jealousy of others just shows that you have advantages, and you do not need to give up your strengths or achievements in order to gain a more "harmonious" relationship with the jealous person.

Being yourself and being kind to others can inspire the positive meaning of jealousy and grow together with others.

Jealousy is a psychological imbalance, an abnormal psychological state of success, happiness, and joy for others. Jealousy is a distorted emotion, which will not only make a person lose self-confidence, but also make people go to extremes, and even make some extreme behaviors that hurt others and hurt themselves, so we must correctly understand and treat jealousy and learn the following: 1. Treat the success of others correctly, because everyone has their own strengths and shortcomings, and don't lose their self-confidence because of the success of others.

2. Have a normal heart, be jealous of others while seeing the progress of others, and be more with people who compete with yourself, so that you can continue to improve yourself. 3. Learn to appreciate and learn from others' strengths, and don't compare others' weaknesses, so that you won't lose your self-confidence because of others' successes. 4. Learn to control your emotions, when you are jealous of others, you can divert your attention by doing other things.

5. Learn to self-soothe, when you are jealous of others, you can calm your mood by self-soothing.

Summary. Hello, dear, in fact, everyone will have the psychology of jealousy, and the psychology of jealousy is only different in depth, so how do we overcome the psychology of jealousy in our daily life? First of all, you have to relax your mind, because everyone will have different advantages and disadvantages, and the aspect you are jealous of is what you don't have, so you will be very sad, feel that you can't get it no matter how hard you try, but the other party can easily get it, and innately, at this time you must take a good look at yourself, you also have a lot of advantages, but others don't, in fact, you are jealous of others at the same time others are also jealous of you, but you don't know, many people are also jealous of your advantages.

How to adjust the psychology of jealousy.

Hello, dear, in fact, everyone will have the psychology of jealousy, and the psychology of jealousy is only different in depth, so how do we overcome the psychology of jealousy in our daily life? First of all, you have to relax your mind, because everyone will have different advantages and disadvantages, and the aspect you are jealous of is what you don't have, so you will be very sad, feel that you can't get it no matter how hard you try, but the other party can easily get it, and innately, at this time you must take a good look at yourself, you also have a lot of advantages, but others don't, in fact, you are jealous of others at the same time others are also jealous of you, but you don't know, many people are also jealous of your advantages.

Therefore, you must first build self-confidence in life, see your own advantages, and give full play to them, so that everyone can see them in this way, so that everyone will appreciate your advantages and be impressed by your advantages, so that you will not care too much about the advantages of others, and you will no longer be jealous of others.

The second aspect is to constantly increase their own advantages, avoid their own shortcomings, through continuous study and hard work, through the continuous transformation of personal image and personal interior, through the study of some books, through personal collocation to improve personal temperament. Especially in the face of some things, you should stay calm, think about it before making a decision, instead of blindly following the opinions and suggestions of others, and lack your own attitude and opinion, then you will form a perfect self, and there will be no jealousy.

Wrong. My dear, can you elaborate on what you are jealous of? What level of jealousy have you reached? Take a look at your specific story?

Sauce Zi thinks it's the simplest: 1 I can't get a thing and it's the same as before I won't die or get sick It's good to get it 2 A thing is someone else's is someone else's I will be happy if he gives it to me I won't be good if he doesn't give it to me.

Give yourself more confidence, work hard to improve yourself, find something to do for yourself, give yourself a sense of security, and don't care too much about what others do.

If you encounter such a thing in your relationship, you should give yourself certain psychological hints, maintain a normal state of mind, don't be occupied by your negative emotions, and be sure to control your emotions, so that you can eliminate your jealousy, keep yourself in a normal state of mind, and help your own growth.

You should communicate with each other as an equal in the relationship, and you should also appreciate each other's strengths, learn to understand each other, and tolerate some of each other's shortcomings, so as to eliminate jealousy.

In the relationship, you can communicate more with the other party, and you should warn yourself that the other party also has their own circle of friends, and they should also develop their own hobbies, which can eliminate jealousy.

To ensure your independence, you can gather with friends more, divert your attention, calm your mind, strive to improve yourself, and don't care about what others are doing, etc.

You must correct your attitude, you must be a confident person, don't always suffer from gains and losses, believe that you are the best and the best, and don't always be jealous of others.