Will parents born in the 80s and 90s care a lot about the gender of their children?

Post-80s, post-90s parents, in fact, don't care so much about the gender of their children, at least I think so, I am a post-90s mother, but I think it's the same to give birth to boys and girls, and I think it's better to have a girl than a boy, because of the current social climate, it's better to have a boy than a girl, because girls are careful, and when they get old, girls will serve, if they give birth to a boy, they will marry a powerful wife when they grow up, and the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not good, and the son will listen to his daughter-in-law when the time comes, regardless of the life or death of his parents, At that time, how pitiful. And now there are a lot of old people, no one to serve, most of these old people who have no one to serve, do not have daughters, so I personally think it is better to have daughters.

Even if you don't consider these, give birth to a son, after you get married, you have to prepare a house for him, and buy him a car, which is different from before, in the past, the child got married and built a house, or lived with his parents after marriage, it didn't cost any money at all, but now the housing prices are so high, a house will require a lifetime of hard work from the parents, and even more, I feel too tired, I used to have a son to work in the field, there is labor at home, and the old idea of being able to pass on the lineage is different, So it's the same for both boys and girls.

Of course, there are also people who are still very concerned about the gender of the child, I have several friends who want a son, because they have no brothers and sisters in the family, even if they have brothers and sisters, they also have a sister or sister, and there are no brothers, so they all want to have a son. Even if parents don't care about the gender of their children, their parents-in-law will care about them, but now that the two-child policy has been liberalized, there are now more people who have a son and a daughter.

I think the post-80s and post-90s parents don't care about the gender of their children.

Nowadays, the society is developing better and better, and the difference between men and women is getting smaller and smaller. The 21st century is no longer the so-called old society, where there is no male superiority and inferiority of women, and there will be no so-called obedience to the father at home, marriage to the husband, and the death of the husband to the son to form a kind of shackle on women. Now that society is changing more and more, women can also set half the sky.

And now the thinking of the post-80s and post-90s parents is also changing subtly with the times. Their ideas are becoming more and more in line with the development of the times. Because the parents of the post-80s and post-90s generations are the products of the new era, they understand the changes of the times better.

Therefore, the parents of the post-80s and post-90s generations will not care about the gender of their children, they think that it is the same to have a boy and a girl. In the new era, there is no difference between having a boy and a girl.

In today's era, many parents do not advocate having boys as they used to, believing that boys are the pillars of the family. And many parents of the post-80s and post-90s, they all hope that they can give birth to a girl. Because girls are not only the little padded jackets of their parents, but also more obedient, well-behaved and trouble-free than boys.

Times are changing, and according to scientists, the ratio of men and women in China is now very unbalanced. Over the next decade, there will be a significant imbalance between men and women. So now the state seriously prohibits doctors in hospitals from revealing the sex of the mother and child in advance.

is afraid of some patriarchal families, knowing that the child they are pregnant with is a girl, they will be killed. And for the parents of the post-80s and post-90s, this will not happen at all, because their thinking is changing with the times, and their thinking is no longer the old patriarchy.

I feel that as a father born in the 90s, I won't care, because I feel that both boys and girls are my flesh and blood, and my wife was born from such a big offense, and it is a gift from God.

I feel that having a boy is really too tired, let's take it myself, since I was a child, how many times did my mother make me cry, how many times did my father quarrel with me and almost have high blood pressure, although I know now that I am wrong, but in adolescence I am a donkey and can't listen to anything, I feel that I am right, I don't listen to anything, I know that I am right, so from this aspect I am afraid that I am so tough now, what will my son be like in the future, I can hardly imagine that I can hold back and not beat him, On the contrary, I feel that my daughter's words can be a little more obedient, not so rebellious as boys, and besides, I am not a person who can educate children much, and it is better for girls to think right.

And now I see that my parents are almost 50 years old, still in order to give me a better house and car, still running, still doing business, I feel really hard, girls are different, find a good family, get married, my wife and I can live our own old age, my wife and I don't have to save money every day to praise our son's car and house, let alone deal with the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, how good.

So I feel that even if I have children in the future, I like both boys and girls, but in the face of many people's patriarchal thinking, I feel that it is still good to have a daughter.

According to my observation, parents born in the 80s and 90s do not care as much about the gender of their children as their previous parents. The actual situation is that when the first child is pregnant, more parents in the 80s and 90s will hope that the first child can have a son. There are also parents who want to have a girl for the first time, but there are a few of them.

Cantonese people generally want to have sons. Outside of Guangdong, like Hunan and Hubei, I feel that they prefer more girls. Like a good friend of mine, she is from Hunan, her husband is from Hubei, she doesn't care about boys and girls, but his husband wants to have a daughter, not a son at all.

When I took the B ultrasound, it was my daughter, and they kept buying pink clothes and bedding or something, and his husband was very happy, touching his stomach all day long and calling his daughter. I didn't expect to be born as a son! At that time, when he told his family the good news, he was quite unhappy and muttered that it was a boy.

But it didn't take long after that to let go, and I hurt my son very much.

And another friend, her husband very much hopes that the baby in her belly is a son, and she has been called a son's son before she was born, she said that if it is a girl, his husband will be angry, saying that it must be a son, but God is like this, she gave birth to a daughter, and when he didn't expect it, his husband was like a spoiled woman.

Her husband also said that it is enough to give birth to one, and to give this daughter the best life, not to give birth to two treasures. Very few post-80s and post-90s generations have to give birth to a son. Many people who have a son in their first child want to have a daughter in their second child, but they will be happy if it is a son.

The elderly will hope that the more sons they have, the better, and the parents of the post-80s and post-90s generations hope to have children and daughters.

Some of the more traditional post-80s and post-90s parents, who gave birth to a daughter in the first child, also want to have a son in the second child, if they do not give birth to a son, they may be under some pressure and will chase the third child.

Most of the parents of the post-80s and post-90s generations are people in the sixties and seventies, and some parents may be influenced by traditional concepts, and some parents still care about the gender of their children, and there is an obvious phenomenon of preference for sons, especially parents from rural areas. A friend of mine and her boyfriend are a typical example.

My friend and her boyfriend are both from a small place, and both of their families are patriarchal, probably influenced by local customs, and this concept is more important. Let's talk about the woman first, the woman has 2 brothers and 2 sisters, she is the oldest, her parents run a factory in the village, and the family is still relatively wealthy, but her parents don't pay attention to the three sisters, thinking that her daughter is spilled out of the water sooner or later, and she is raised by others, and she is reluctant to go to college. Both older brothers are married and have children, and her parents are now willing to provide for their family and provide for the best school for their grandchildren to go to.

Now my colleagues want to talk about marriage, but their parents don't give any dowry.

The man's family is even more ridiculous, there is a sister and a sister in the family, the sister is married and the sister is unmarried, the man and my friend did not have enough money when they bought the wedding house, the man's parents directly asked the man's sister for 100,000, saying that the school that this sister went to at that time was better and spent more money, so she should help her younger brother, although the brother-in-law was very unhappy, but in the end he obediently gave the money to the younger brother to buy a house, this money is not borrowed. When the house was being renovated, the family had no money, and the man's parents began to ask his sister for 20,000 yuan. In the preparation stage for their marriage, the man's parents also asked his sister and sister to buy new clothes for my friend, buy watches, etc., for various reasons, without thinking about their daughters at all, and everything was focused on their sons.

In addition, the man's mother takes care of the children for the man's sister, and she has to pay living expenses every month, etc. This is the weirdest parent I've ever seen.

In fact, I think that no matter which age or two stages of parents, there will be people who care about the gender of their children, not because of the problems of the life era, but because of family education, or different personal preferences.

Before the opening of the two-child policy, people were only children, so they would be very concerned about the gender of the child, some people felt that boys and girls didn't matter, as long as it was their own child, gender was not important, but some people just liked girls, looking forward to having a caring little padded jacket, <>

And some people, especially men, are influenced by family concepts and feel that in order to pass on the family lineage, they must have a boy in order to meet the wishes of their families. Therefore, giving birth to a boy and a girl is not a problem of the times, but the influence of family concepts.

But now that the two-child policy has been opened, many people don't care much about this problem, thinking that two children are good, of course, if you can make up a good word for both children, it would be better, but giving birth to a boy and a girl is fate, no matter what the gender is, they are their own children, there is no need to care too much, and there is no need to force it too much, just let it be.

After a series of family planning, as well as the second child plan, coupled with the so-called future more men and fewer women, there will be a bunch of singles and the increase in the standards of various dowries, in fact, many people no longer have such a strong boy's mind, and especially the young couples born in the 80s and 90s should be even less.

First of all, it is the same for boys and girls, such a slogan may run through the entire childhood of the post-80s and post-90s, they have grown up listening to such words since childhood, so they themselves may have their own ideas about this kind of thing, and most of them should have changed, becoming a person who does not care about the gender of the child, at least will not kill the unformed child for the sake of gender.

Then there is the issue of filial piety to parents, perhaps for the older generation, they are still more stubborn in believing that having more children and more boys is conducive to the comfort of their old age, and that they will be taken care of and sacrificed after their deaths, so that no one will care about them after death or the horse leather shroud will be buried in a hurry, and there will not even be a ceremony.

However, under the series of mandatory laws initiated by the state after the 80s and 90s, many only children have to take care of the two elderly alone, and in this kind of mutual coordination, the two families take care of the environment, the 80s and 90s should also find their own way to take care of their parents, although this has also caused a lot of empty nesters, but in the case that women can hold up half the sky, girls are not unable to support the elderly is also a fact, so since girls can also, And at present, the second child is open, so most of them should not have so many scruples.

Of course, it can't be completely ruled out that there is a phenomenon of preference for sons, because after all, they are educated by their parents, and they are still controlled by their parents after marriage, so it is inevitable that there will be, plus they like boys or girls such hobbies, so some phenomena are unavoidable, but I think most of them are fine.

The older generation likes boys and thinks that boys can continue the incense. Especially in rural areas, it feels great for the elderly to have an eldest grandson in their home, and they always look down on those families who have granddaughters. The phenomenon of preference for sons over daughters still exists.

But now, relatively speaking, the situation will be better, people have removed these feudal ideas, and only some backward places still pay more attention to the gender of children.

Nowadays, young people generally have received higher education, and they should not be very concerned about the gender of their children, and many young parents feel that their children are just the continuation of their own lives, whether they are boys or girls, as long as they are their own children, they are very happy.

In addition to the happiness of having a boy, I am worried about marrying a daughter-in-law in the future, asking for a house and a car, which is a big expense. Those who gave birth to girls are also worried about whether their daughters will be able to find a good in-law and a good husband in the future. In fact, boys and girls are the same, they are their own intimate little padded jackets, instead of worrying about the gender of the child, it is better to think about how to educate the child in the future.