In the face of low appearance and poor ability, how to improve self confidence?

First of all, I want to tell you that self-confidence is not given to you by others but given to yourself, and self-confidence does not come out of thin air, it is not something that can be obtained by saying a few words of cheering and encouragement to yourself, but by improving yourself in all aspects and involuntarily.

You say that you have "low appearance" and "poor ability", since you have realized your own shortcomings, you should improve yourself, low appearance, there are so many natural beauties and handsome guys in the world, if you are not in good shape, you can squeeze time to exercise and keep your mouth shut**. **If it's not good, stay up less late, and then spend a little more effort on nursing care**, there is no kind of smooth and delicate ** that only washes and washes your face**, you see that 99% of other people's good ** are exchanged for a lot of time, energy and money by others. If you don't look good, learn to put on makeup and find a hairstyle that suits you.

There is also dressing and matching, etc., which require you to put a lot of thought into it. Or is that sentence There are few natural beauties, you are lazy, you don't **, you don't have skin care, you don't wear makeup, you don't have a low appearance, who has a low appearance? Although it is said that people should pay attention to inner beauty, but external beauty is not something that can be thrown away, right, knowing that I have a low appearance, I have no confidence for this, and I don't bother to think about it, I dare not say that it has become particularly beautiful, at least it is much better than my previous self, do you say that self-confidence will arise spontaneously?

Poor ability, I think this is really too much to say, ability is not a dead thing, how do you know that your own ability is poor? Are you pushing yourself? Have you tried?

I used to think that I didn't have much ability, only suitable for being a little transparent, but then I had the opportunity to take a position in the student union, not big but very troublesome, I just had the mentality of forcing myself to do it, it will be difficult at first, because your current ability is really low, you will encounter trouble, and even mess up some things, but if you force yourself, you will find that your ability is not low, but it has not been exercised and developed.

In short, it is a sentence, self-confidence is earned by one's own efforts, not falling out of thin air from the sky, that is not self-confidence, that is arrogance.

Everyone is unique, there is a poem called: "I am born to be useful", this is a poem that I feel deeply, whether you are beautiful or ugly, you must remember that you are unique in this world!

Everyone has advantages and disadvantages, find your own advantages, correct them, and face up to your shortcomings! Self-confidence comes from the depths of the heart, always remember that you are unique in the world, you are different from others, others are different from you, have their own strengths and weaknesses, do not deliberately imitate others, learn from others. Read more books, especially cultural knowledge, especially to exercise your eloquence and self-cultivation, which not only improves your self-confidence, but also improves your temperament!

Dress up decently and generously, boys should not be unkempt, girls should wear light makeup, and do not wear heavy makeup! After all, most people in life prefer "normal" makeup! There is also not pretentiousness, the image is always before the ability, which is often said that the first impression is very important!

When others can't see your ability, the first thing they see is your image, and when they can't see your image, the first thing they feel is the transmission of language, which is why you should read more books!

Temperament and self-cultivation are inseparable, learn more about all aspects of information, current affairs and politics, news reports, if you can, also read more ancient poems, ancient texts and the like, to give others a feeling of elegant Confucianism, which will make people's impression of you change. Don't be too fond of jokes, and don't be too bad for jokes, grasp the degree. Read more books on Chinese culture, health care, psychology, interpersonal communication, etc., Chinese culture is the ancient history of China, now many people do not understand, health care is the foundation of health, it is very important to understand some basic health, if the health of the superior is not very good at work, you can give people a little advice, so that others will remember you!

Psychology, good at pondering other people's minds.

Self-confidence and ability can be improved in reading, but also in other aspects, always pay attention in daily life, and there are many things that you can inadvertently make an appointment!

And you mentioned two points, one is low appearance, and the other is poor ability. Now that you know what your problem is, you should make changes to your problem.

First of all, the face is natural, given by our parents, and we have no way to change it. But we also have a lot of things that can be changed, for example, body management, if you feel that you are not in good shape, then you can consider some fitness, some exercise, and make your body better. If your **darker**, or your complexion, is relatively dull, then you usually pay attention to conditioning**, and pay more attention to health.

As the saying goes, one white covers a hundred ugliness. Don't let your laziness become the reason for your low appearance! And whether it is a boy or a girl, some people will have some freckles on their faces?

In fact, if we have freckles, it will affect our appearance. So you might as well put some thought into lightening the freckles, or rather, girls must wear some light makeup when they go out, don't say, I like to look natural without makeup. Makeup will greatly improve a person's self-confidence, and when you become confident, it will make others feel different!

Then, find a hairstyle that suits your face shape and find a dress that suits you!

Since you know that your ability is poor, then you should enhance your relevant ability. Now that the network is so developed, in fact, we can make good use of the characteristics of the developed network to learn a lot of related knowledge. Since you say that your ability is weak, it must be that your ability in a certain aspect is relatively weak.

Then you can focus on this aspect to enhance your ability first. And then slowly expand. As long as you are willing to learn and understand more, your ability must be improved.

If you give up your efforts, who will be willing to give you a hand.

Self-confidence is important. Especially after going to college and entering the society, if you can't compare to others in terms of appearance and ability, you will feel that you are useless, your life is boring, and you don't know what to do. In fact, what we lack is self-confidence, and it is important to improve self-confidence.

First: we must first recognize ourselves, imagine that we don't recognize ourselves, what reason do we have for others to recognize ourselves and value ourselves? Give yourself a word of encouragement every day, such as:

You're great, and you can do what others can do.

Second; Effort, the appearance is not enough, we can improve our personal taste through dressing, raise our own grade, change some small details, pay attention to collocation, and improve ourselves better, secondly, since we are not capable enough, we should take out more than others, two, or even ten times more to improve our own ability, no one's ability is innate, it all needs to be accumulated bit by bit, even if it is a capable CEO, it is also from the grassroots level, step by step, we can not be afraid of hardship, fear of suffering. Only by experiencing the pain that ordinary people cannot endure can we become the most envied person in the eyes of others. Third:

We can set small goals for ourselves, and when a certain goal is achieved, we can give ourselves some encouragement to boost our self-confidence. Only when a person has self-confidence, life will have motivation, and with motivation, we will work hard towards that lofty goal, and in this process, our ability will be improved, and our appearance will naturally change.

Low appearance? Poor ability? So what? As long as you have an upward heart, you don't have to feel inferior. I'm just me, a different fireworks.

In today's society, it cannot be said that it is completely based on appearance, nor can it be said that it is completely ignorant of ability. Everyone has a love for beauty, no matter how much he values ability, and in front of two people with the same ability, he will still choose the relatively beautiful person. Therefore, it is a very unfavorable situation for those of us who have low appearance.

But while the situation is not in our favor, there is room for salvage. We don't need to be inferior, because our appearance is not low because we don't work hard, as long as from now on, you work hard to improve your ability and be the strongest in terms of ability, you will not be inferior.

What our parents gave us about our appearance, we don't need to go for plastic surgery because our appearance is not high. As long as we are neat and generous, we can win the respect of others, and in the end, even if we are eliminated because of our low appearance, we will not regret it.

In normal times, you can smile in the mirror every day and say to yourself, you are awesome! Slowly you will form a habit in your heart. Remind you all the time that you are great! This also improves self-confidence.

Now you have low appearance and poor ability. It's nothing, but you have to work hard to improve your ability, because you can tolerate low appearance, but you can't bear it if you have poor ability.

You have no good looks and no ability, so what else do you have? So, do your best, young man. I believe that if you have the ability, you will definitely add points to your appearance, and it will also make you a confident person.

Your current problem is divided into two sides, outward and inward. I don't know your gender, if you are a girl, I suggest that you start with your appearance, learn makeup, learn to match clothes, girls are easy to improve their image through these external means; And if you are a boy, I suggest you start with ability, after all, it is not realistic to teach boys to make up to improve their image.

Let's talk about girls first, the level of girls' inner beauty and ability is important, but it is undeniable that this society's treatment of beauties is much better than that of girls with low appearance, and learning to dress up is the easiest way to improve yourself. And makeup is really a very simple thing. Even if you're a novice now, if you can't tell the difference between foundation lotion and anything, don't worry, build yourself from scratch, pay more attention to the beauty aspect of things, start by figuring out how each makeup is used, and slowly sculpt yourself.

Just like Andy in "The Queen Wears Prada", the image of the village girl who wore her grandmother's skirt at the beginning has successfully transformed into a graceful elf. <>

And if you are a boy, the most important thing is to improve your abilities. I think you can learn this from Yu Minhong, the founder of New Oriental, or Ma Yun's father, who are also unattractive in appearance, but under the cover of appearance, they have excellent abilities and an incomparably strong heart. Learn to improve yourself, don't easily fall into the inferiority complex of appearance ability, know the reality but don't fall into the quagmire of reality, exercise a strong heart, improve your ability is more important than anything else, you must read more books.

Finally, when you make up for your shortcomings, don't forget to develop in a balanced way. Girls should pay attention to their image while improving their inner beauty, and boys should also learn to clean themselves up.

Since he is not good-looking, he should improve his bright talent, and only by making himself good enough can he become more temperamental and self-confident.

I think that the cherry pin is like fighting in addition to the appearance, we should really pay more attention to our own inside, and only in this way can we make ourselves more temperamental, and make ourselves more confident.

You should master unique skills to make yourself better. Since you can't be an idol, then be a powerful faction. There are many people in life who are not good-looking, but they can still mix very well.

A good example of this is Song Xiaobao, who is the most famous comedian in the film and television industry. Song Xiaobao is only forty years old, but he has an eighty-year-old face, but he can still be successful.

As the saying goes, "there is no harm without comparison", you should not constantly compare yourself with good people, so that you will become more inferior. You have to believe that you are unique in the world, that no one can replace you, that you may not be as good as those who are good now, but that one day you will be as successful as they are.

You should become more courageous and take the initiative to chat with others. Since you can't attract people, you can be the one to be attracted. You will be able to continuously improve your confidence in your interactions with others. When you come into contact with a lot of people, you will also become confident.

In fact, I don't think this is an era of looking at appearance, this is an era of looking at strength. If you only have good looks, you can't do anything if you don't have the strength to be a vase. And now there are too many people with high appearance, the problem is that these high-value people are very similar, in fact, in this way, people with relatively mediocre appearance have the advantage, and they all say that good-looking skins are the same, and interesting souls are one in a thousand.

I think it's the same way, although they are good-looking, but you go to interesting people will always be better than them, isn't it?

To improve your self-confidence, sometimes you need to rely on the confidence you exude from the inside out. And this confidence is based on your own ability and the achievements you have achieved. And the ability needs to be cultivated, and it needs to be improved slowly.

Achievements need to be created by yourself, so in the final analysis, you still need to work hard to make yourself better, and when you are more excellent, your appearance, whether it is high or low, in fact, no one cares, they only care about whether you are excellent. So if you want to improve your self-confidence, you have to improve your own ability, and work hard to live from now on, but make yourself better.