Why are you nice to your friends but not valued by them?

Summary. Therefore, if you are nice to the other person but the other person does not value you, it may be the reason why the other person feels that you are not worth enough.

There are three things we can know from this sentence.

The first point is that you are very good to your friends.

The second point is that you want to be valued by your friends.

The third point is that you don't get the attention of your friends.

In fact, from a psychological point of view, whether the other party values you or not, in addition to whether you are good to the other party, there is also an important criterion, which is your own value.

When you are worth a lot, even if you treat the other person badly, the other party will value you.

On the other hand, when you are not valuable enough, even if you are good to the other person, the other person will not value you.

Therefore, if you are nice to the other person but the other person does not value you, it may be the reason why the other person feels that you are not worth enough.

The feeling of not being cared about by friends is probably that you will be tired, uncomfortable, feel worthless, and feel that your previous behavior is very stupid. No matter what state you are, she is not ruining the situation, even if she is wrong, she will never reconcile with you, I thought I couldn't pull my face before, I was embarrassed, but afterwards I knew from her mouth that she didn't care, and it had no effect on her emotions. I feel that without you, she doesn't care, there is a feeling that she has fed the dog with all her enthusiasm and sincerity.

I don't know if your friend here refers to friends of the opposite sex or friends of the same sex, so the solution to the problem is different for friends of these two genders.

I guess you must be talking about a friend of the opposite sex, I think you must be deeply in love with this friend, if not, you will not say that you value her very much, if it is really the same as I said, this friend of the opposite sex of yours does not value you, it means that you may be unrequited, unilaterally in love with a friend who does not love you very much. Or that people have never loved you, and in this case, your first task is to let him know that you love her, and don't give so much to others without them knowing. If he knows that you love him, but he is still like that, it means that people are not in love with you.

Then it's up to you how to go next, you can choose some small things he likes to give him, or find a chance to talk to him alone, and slowly let him feel how much you love him, and after a long time, he will slowly like you.

Some people don't like to make friends, so when you meet this kind of person, even if you are enthusiastic about him, no matter how good it is, it is useless, he will be lukewarm to you, because this kind of person doesn't like to make friends at all, even if it is Ma Yun, this kind of person has no desire to get acquainted, don't believe it, there really is such a person. Therefore, not being valued by friends does not necessarily mean that there is something wrong with you, but I am talking about too few such people, and it is generally difficult to meet, under normal circumstances, not being valued by friends is because he is dissatisfied with you, if he is a person who has friends.

In fact, I have had a similar experience before, which can only mean that you are not particularly close friends, this kind of friend should actually let go and let go, and can only be a passerby.

When you encounter such a thing, you should find the reason in yourself.

3. All the friends you value do not value yourself, if you want to keep it, it means that you are a person who values love and righteousness, but you are likely to be hurt. I have encountered a similar situation with this problem, and I would like to share some of my thoughts with you, hoping to help you.

I used to value the friendship between friends, that is, to be responsive, not stingy with my help, and always to share some good things with them. I think friends are the ones who talk about everything and can share weal and blue. However, they often find that their efforts are not treated equally by the other party, and they can't help but have a lot of thoughts and feelings.

At one point, I doubted my way of dealing with the world, or secretly blamed the other person for treating me unfairly. In the end, I realized that this was useless, until I heard a certain sentence: who you think you are, but in fact you don't matter in his eyes.

It's not a question of who's right and who's wrong, it's just that everyone's value orientation is different. I gradually understood this truth, do not complain, do not be discouraged, let go of my hands, and look down.

Each of us has our own social circle and our own friends, but not the friends you value will value you. In the world, we can't make everyone appreciate themselves. When he doesn't appreciate you, it doesn't hurt you, it's just that you don't fit in.

When you find that you are no longer suitable for each other, there is no need to entangle and struggle anymore, and there is no need to redeem this unfair relationship. The only thing you can do is not to complain, not to fantasize, and to let go, although it will be a little sad and reluctant, but it is better than being a stranger.

Along the way, we forget and miss at the same time, and the good memories should always be in our hearts, so let the painful memories go with him. This world is not without who can't live, some people just accompany us on a short journey in our lives, and in the future we will encounter precious people and things in life.

Sometimes, friends are just passing by and blowing away. or the mutual use of each other in the workplace, or the deceit between people, it is a flattery when it is useful, and it is a fall into the well when it is useless. We often know people and faces, but we don't know our hearts, so we are vulnerable.

Therefore, at all times, we must have a clear eye to recognize people, listen with our ears, and experience with our hearts.

Friendship is the embellishment of our lives, and we are lucky when we can have it, and if we can't get what we want, then we should also look down on it. Friends are supporting roles, and you are really the protagonist, don't lose your self-esteem in front of others for the sake of so-called friends. It's better to spend time on improving yourself, often those who are soft-spoken are not taken seriously, so as long as you work hard and you are valuable, others will naturally value you.

We should cherish those who help us when we are in trouble, and stay away from those who are hypocritical. Life is so beautiful, embrace it with a warm heart every day!

In fact, I have also experienced such a thing, I care about a friend very much, but she doesn't care about herself, that feeling, is really her own pig has grown up, but don't listen to your own words, listen to other people's words, that feeling is really stuffed, I can't wait to be friends with such a person in the future, but when she calls you, you will still crawl over, go with others, what to do, alas, this feeling is really impossible to say!

You can not care so much about your friend, that is, don't let this person be the whole of your life, don't rely on her for everything, it is precisely because you rely on this person for everything, so you pay special attention to others, but the people who people value are not you, but those people who can be valued, so you don't rely too much on your friends, use your free time to choose a thing that you are good at, do it very well, when your free time, no longer think about that time to think about this, Naturally, I won't feel that I don't care about myself, anyway, no one can always let you rely on the road of life in the future, and I can always accompany you!

There are a lot of people around everyone, and everyone has different personality traits. Some people value themselves, and they will value themselves; Some people don't value themselves, and of course they don't value him; But sometimes we have a situation where we value him and he doesn't. This makes many people very entangled and don't know what to do.

First of all, I think there is a big problem with this mentality. There is no such thing as perfect equality in the world, why should you value others, and others must value yourself. Respecting oneself is one's own willingness, and demanding that others must also pay attention to oneself is a compulsive behavior.

I feel that people who value others and want others to value themselves are actually selfish people. Because the purpose of valuing others is to make others value themselves, and the final goal and result is for themselves, and valuing others is only a means to achieve this one end. Although it is true that it is paid on the surface, in fact, it is still desired in the heart.

While there's nothing wrong with getting paid off, not every effort is rewarded.

And if you feel that you value him, it may just be self-righteous and not felt by others. When he did something for others, he thought he had helped him, but in fact it may not have caused any impact, or even helped him. When others encounter hardships and you go to the snow to send charcoal, then others will naturally remember your help.

But if you go to the icing on the cake when others are successful, how many people will care.

In fact, you don't need to care so much, as long as you feel that you should do it and it is worth doing, as for the attitude of others, you can't control it yourself. But as long as you give enough, the other party will be able to notice sooner or later. Sooner or later, the two of them will be able to become good friends and brothers.

Because it is impossible for people to live without friends in this life, because friends can comfort us when we are helpless and give us a helping hand when we need help, so there are many people who value friends.

This is related to personal habits, education level and family background, I have a friend too, he usually rarely has contact with others, I take him out to play, he doesn't like me to bring other friends to play with, this is a personal character, I don't like people and lively, nothing.

Why do some people value their friends so much? It shows that this person attaches great importance to love and righteousness.

These people may be lacking in communication. There is a lack of friends. That's going to happen. If these friends are gone. or turn against each other ... I really don't know what to do with these things.

Hope it helps.

Because he is sincere and treats his friends with righteousness, he attaches more importance to the friendship of his friends. I hope that the friendship of friends will last a long time.

Because everyone's personality is different. Just be yourself, if you like someone, then be alone, and do what you want to be happy.

Some people place a special emphasis on camaraderie. They are very righteous and always play with their friends——— and with friends, people's hearts are no longer lonely.