How does it feel to find out that you didn t play well after a fight?

Quarrels are something that each of us has experienced, and it is something that we may have to go through later. Every time I quarrel, I think most people basically want to give full play to their best to "argue" with each other. In fact, a fight is like a gamble, and if you lose this one, it will undoubtedly make you lose a lot of things, especially your face.

Actually, I'm the kind of person who often finds that I didn't play well after a fight. When I was in junior high school, I hated swearing, and of course I hated people who could swear words. At that time, my tablemate once just joked with me and said the word "", and then I didn't talk to him all morning, and it wasn't until the afternoon that he apologized to me himself, and I started to talk to him again.

So, I'm not a very good scolding person, of course, every time I quarrel with someone, I will have the upper hand, even if every time I feel that I have done my best, in the end I will not play well, I will feel that I am simply embarrassed, how can I be so stupid.

After a quarrel, I found that I didn't play well, and this feeling is really worse than death. Because if you quarrel, it will definitely be loud, and then many people will hear and see it. If you don't play well when you quarrel, in fact, you can't feel it at the time, after all, you are "the authorities are confused, and the bystanders are clear", then the people watching next to you will feel that you are really useless, and you can't even quarrel, which is really embarrassing.

And afterwards, I will be very annoyed, and even every time I see that person, I will "grit my teeth", which will have a certain impact on my psychology.

After the quarrel, I found that I didn't play well, first, I felt very aggrieved, and second, I felt very depressed. Why are you aggrieved and depressed? Because I'm one of those people who don't quarrel very well, but I'm also very hot-tempered, and it's easy to get into a fight.

And sometimes when I quarrel with others, I can't pick up some of his words, but after arguing with him, I think about it myself, and then those words that can scold him go out.

At this time, I was very depressed, you said that if I had so many words during a quarrel, why would I be chased like that? I beat him to death during a fight. They still want me to quarrel and lose the quarrel, that's impossible.

And I'm quite a strong person, and I'm also very good-looking, but as a result, people will pick me up, and I will pile up books with just one mouth, and I will definitely be unwilling at this time. And it will feel very aggrieved.

Once I quarreled with others, in fact, it wasn't really anxious to quarrel and play, that is, to talk about it, just talk about it, and then everyone has their own point of view, arguing, and people can say it very well, and they have been losing what I said, and I haven't said anything about people, and then after I finished speaking, I went back by myself, so I pondered, and suddenly found that he said a word, and I could give him back, but, the main thing has been quarreled, and you don't go with him to find someone to quarrel again, so I feel quite aggrieved, It's also quite depressing.

So sometimes when I quarrel with him, I may think about what I want to say first, and think of a strategy to deal with it before I go back, and really quarrel with others, otherwise I will really coax! Because my mouth is really not good.

After the quarrel, I feel more and more that what I say is not ruthless enough hahaha, what I say is not technical enough, and what I say is not angry enough to the other party, maybe this is a kind of human psychology. Just like some people always regret the beginning, people always think about why they don't do a good job after doing something, and always meditate in their hearts, "I knew this and knew that earlier".

Because when you quarrel, your mind is not as clear as when you calm down, and when you quarrel, you don't think about what the other party's next sentence is, you are busy dealing with the sentence just now, first talk about it, and after the quarrel, you will think about what he said. I would also think about what the other party might do after hearing me say this, and then think about how to scare him until he was speechless. So you feel that if you start again, you will play better and win more "exquisitely".

When you quarrel, your anger is dominant, and you can't think rationally about words, and after a quarrel, you will think about what you said in the quarrel, and you will feel that you haven't played well.

Doing anything, you basically feel like you didn't play well at the time afterwards, and that's human nature. Theoretically, arguing is also a craft, and since it is a craft, like swimming, playing guitar, etc., the more you "practice", the more proficient you will become.

What's more, quarrels are the same as playing the guitar and the like, they are all immediate, unlike writing and doing thinking questions, which can also make you think slowly, consider and revise the whole picture, and the task of immediacy cannot be thought about slowly.

So don't dwell on this issue, if you quarrel for a living, you have to have such professionalism, not to mention, the quarrel you "didn't play well" was not recorded, and after many years, who remembers?

So, fight less and exercise more. In addition, life is like this, it will never be perfect, because it can always be better, and the key is that even if it is not perfect, it is necessary to fully accept this imperfection, enjoy the current state, and pursue a better state, which is the only way to happiness in life.

This is because when quarreling, I often don't speak sincerely, and I always don't have the right words, and I don't have any coherence when I speak, and my emotions at that time are also very impulsive, so I am very irrational, and I always feel that I haven't said all my things after a quarrel, and I haven't expressed all my opinions.

Because after a quarrel, you may feel that you didn't say what you wanted to say, and you didn't find your emotions, so you think that you didn't play well, and it was also because you loved yourself too much.

Because every time I quarrel, I am very angry, and those contradictions are getting deeper and deeper, and I feel that I have not expressed them clearly.